My boyfriend and I do stuff mostly just together. Maybe a couple times a month we'll get together with others for a meal or drinks on the deck or something. I have a couple female friends, but I don't contact them often mainly because they're women I met at work who no longer work there but we stayed in touch because we live near each other, and all we really have in common is that we worked at the same place. But I think I should keep in touch so I don't get too reclusive.
I get into this weird cycle regarding social engagements. I'm fine without them for a long time, then I start thinking, man, I need to get some outside influence here, so I commit to a social thing, or maybe my boyfriend has something set up. That feels good, knowing there's a social gig coming up, but as the time approaches I start feeling annoyed and a little anxious and wishing I didn't have the obligation. So I sort of have to force myself to go, but then usually enjoy myself and feel good afterwards. Then it's back to my happy-2b-alone self for awhile.
There are other women at work and at the gym whom I talk to frequently, and have some common interests with, but I'm not very motivated to engage them outside those places. I probably should though, and work on being more social. I'm hoping to retire in a few years and realize it might be bad for my mental health to be too isolated.