I guess it wasn't clearly articulated. What bearing does this poll have on our ongoing discussion of whether or not it is appropriate to leave any inheritance at all, of any size, to any of your kids? Because most of this thread has been people saying you shouldn't leave anything, but the poll asks where you will leave most.
We've spent several pages discussing whether it is more moral to leave your kids exactly nothing than it is to leave them something. That's a question this poll doesn't address. Is my question clearer now?
Yup, the results of the poll are only relevant for answering the question originally posed in this thread ("what
will we do with our stashes when we're dead?"), but not for purposes of answering the related question that we've actually been primarily discussing ("what
should we do with our stashes when we're dead?").
I think the intent of the person requesting the poll was to help determine if his suspicions are correct that people without kids are more likely to suggest leaving nothing to kids. Once you become a parent, your perspective on this whole us vs them charity debate changes. Your kids suddenly become the most important thing in the world to you, more important than other kids even if those kids are worse off.
All of this discussion about how you should always support the least fortunate seems counter to basic human nature. Do you not root for anyone to win the superbowl (or world cup or whatever) just because we're all one big happy human family and no one should have to lose? Or do you pick a team to support, knowing full well that other people will suffer if your team is victorious? My kids are like my team, and I root for them to succeed.
I don't think anyone here doubts the fact that parents have a natural impulse to favor their own children over others. As the parent of two young children myself, I certainly don't.
But we haven't been discussing the
naturalness, or the
understandability, or even the
acceptability, of indulging that impulse in the context of deciding how to bequeath your estate--we've been discussing the
morality of doing so. And I find it impossible to believe than anyone can seriously dispute the relative immorality of leaving one's stash to one's own descendants, irrespective of their own station in life, versus using it for a self-evidently greater good (which leads me to believe that we must have been talking past each other).
I'll once again invoke the variation of the
trolley problem I referenced earlier:
There is a runaway trolley filled with passengers barreling down the railway tracks. Ahead, on the tracks, there is a person tied up and unable to move. The trolley is headed straight for him. You are standing some distance off in the train yard, next to a lever. If you pull this lever, the trolley will switch to a different set of tracks. However, you notice that this set of tracks leads to an unfinished bridge over a gaping canyon. You have two options: (1) Do nothing, and the trolley kills the person tied up on the main track. (2) Pull the lever, diverting the trolley over the cliff where it will kill the dozens of people on the trolley. Which is the correct choice?
It seems that the answer is unquestionably to do nothing. If we introduce a new fact into the scenario--that the person tied up on the tracks is your child--does that change the answer? In my view, doing nothing is still the morally correct choice. Mind you, it's probably not what I would actually choose to do in that scenario, but that's because my love for my children overrides my moral integrity,
not because sending dozens of innocent people to their deaths in order to save the life of one of my own children is the morally correct decision.
And if I can recognize that
allowing my own child to die in order to save the lives of a few dozen random strangers is the more moral decision in that situation, then I sure as hell can recognize that allowing my own child to simply forgo an unneeded monetary inheritance in order to save the lives of countless random strangers (or insert your other societal good of choice) is the more moral decision when it comes to bequeathing my estate.