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Re: Christmas 2019 - gifts not clutter
« Reply #50 on: November 13, 2019, 09:44:10 AM »
You can talk with your family about pluralistic ignorance and christmas:

 https://www.vacounseling.com/pluralistic-ignorance-christmas/

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Re: Christmas 2019 - gifts not clutter
« Reply #51 on: November 16, 2019, 07:21:28 PM »
Some home made favorites in our family: 

*Beef jerky
*Candied Pecans
*Poinsettias or Paper Whites
*Stovetop potpourri (orange slices, cranberries, cinnamon sticks, cloves, allspice, cardamom in a mason jar.  Add H20 and simmer for amazing holiday fragrance.)   

Making these items always 'feels like Christmas' and is enjoyable without adding stress to the season.  The kids say my beef jerky is the best and I tell them it is due to a secret ingredient called love. 

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Re: Christmas 2019 - gifts not clutter
« Reply #52 on: November 20, 2019, 04:13:06 PM »
Amaryllis. 
I once had a boss who brought them into the office after Christmas and it was nice to have something blooming in January when all the holiday decor was down.  There are other options for things that bloom in winter, too.  But amaryllis are striking.  And frugal.  I see them for around $6. 
Can be composted or kept for rebloom the next year.   

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Re: Christmas 2019 - gifts not clutter
« Reply #53 on: November 29, 2019, 01:43:32 PM »
We are relatively less well off than parents and siblings, so most appreciated gifts are favors instead of items. Most appreciated items have been: taking a sibling to the airport at 3:30AM so dad didnt have to, free legal advice to BILs business, overnight babysitting when niece was young and sis was bonkers from postpartum/lack of sleep. More repeatable gifts have been bringing a big healthy dinner and groceries to my parents (snow birds) when they come back to town so they don't have to go grocery shopping immediately after a flight; planning group activities (but only reserving them after approval).

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Re: Christmas 2019 - gifts not clutter
« Reply #54 on: November 29, 2019, 01:57:31 PM »
At our age we don’t want anymore clutter. I enjoy consumables or flowers. Mostly I just want to spend time with people I care about.

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Re: Christmas 2019 - gifts not clutter
« Reply #55 on: November 30, 2019, 02:47:44 PM »
Last year I gave gifts designed to reduce waste and I'm doing that again this year.

Last year's gift were lightweight mesh produce bags to take to the grocery store. My family all uses reusable shopping bags but didn't have produce bags so I figured they would be used. This year I'm going to make laminated cotton zippered snack bags.

I love these ideas!

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Re: Christmas 2019 - gifts not clutter
« Reply #56 on: November 30, 2019, 05:50:40 PM »

I always ask our kids to give something consumable.  They typically get me booze, usually Bourbon.

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Re: Christmas 2019 - gifts not clutter
« Reply #57 on: November 30, 2019, 11:04:08 PM »
I think the absolute best gifts to give are something you make yourself. For example, a knit scarf, or a framed photograph, or a piece of woodworking.

While I (and I'm sure a few others) would be thrilled to receive something like this, others would see it as you (the giver) being 'cheap'.  A number of years ago I made a Dr. Who blanket for a close friend who is a big fan.  I spent a couple months crocheting it and used nice yarn...it truly was a labor of love.  While she didn't say anything to me, her husband said she was highly disappointed in 'something so cheap and she expected better'.  We were never friends after that and I only make things if they are truly wanted.

That sounds absolutely fabulous! I’m sorry she didn’t appreciate it.

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Re: Christmas 2019 - gifts not clutter
« Reply #58 on: December 04, 2019, 08:11:53 PM »
I think the absolute best gifts to give are something you make yourself. For example, a knit scarf, or a framed photograph, or a piece of woodworking.

While I (and I'm sure a few others) would be thrilled to receive something like this, others would see it as you (the giver) being 'cheap'.  A number of years ago I made a Dr. Who blanket for a close friend who is a big fan.  I spent a couple months crocheting it and used nice yarn...it truly was a labor of love.  While she didn't say anything to me, her husband said she was highly disappointed in 'something so cheap and she expected better'.  We were never friends after that and I only make things if they are truly wanted.

That sounds absolutely fabulous! I’m sorry she didn’t appreciate it.

@Khaetra , your gift sounds really thoughtful & lovely. She doesn't sound like a friend at all, or someone I would want in my life. Is she under 10? I can't imagine an adult responding like that.

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Re: Christmas 2019 - gifts not clutter
« Reply #59 on: December 06, 2019, 01:47:21 PM »
I need some suggestions for simple (and lightweight) consumables I can send to the family I won't be seeing this Christmas.

I usually send a big container of almond biscotti to my bro and family. However, he has a chronic illness and has recently started a very specific anti-inflammatory diet, and I want him to be included.

I tried to make some home-spiced almonds last year, but the results were uninspiring.

I like the idea of amaryllis, but I hate to ship dirt.

Home-roasted coffee? (DH is a bit of an expert)



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Re: Christmas 2019 - gifts not clutter
« Reply #60 on: December 06, 2019, 02:07:54 PM »
I need some suggestions for simple (and lightweight) consumables I can send to the family I won't be seeing this Christmas.

I usually send a big container of almond biscotti to my bro and family. However, he has a chronic illness and has recently started a very specific anti-inflammatory diet, and I want him to be included.

I tried to make some home-spiced almonds last year, but the results were uninspiring.

I like the idea of amaryllis, but I hate to ship dirt.

Home-roasted coffee? (DH is a bit of an expert)

If you have a dehydrator (or an oven, in a dry climate), you could put that to use, depending on what he's able to eat. Apple rings with cinnamon are delicious. Tomatoes can be used in recipes just like expensive store-bought sun-dried tomatoes. I like to make hummus, dehydrate it, blend it to a powder in the blender, and then save it for traveling or unexpected bouts of laziness -- then just add water. You can do the same with black bean dip.

Otherwise, maybe containers of pretty layers of ingredients to make a bean soup or a batch of cookies?

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Re: Christmas 2019 - gifts not clutter
« Reply #61 on: December 06, 2019, 04:42:42 PM »
I need some suggestions for simple (and lightweight) consumables I can send to the family I won't be seeing this Christmas.

I usually send a big container of almond biscotti to my bro and family. However, he has a chronic illness and has recently started a very specific anti-inflammatory diet, and I want him to be included.

I tried to make some home-spiced almonds last year, but the results were uninspiring.

I like the idea of amaryllis, but I hate to ship dirt.

Home-roasted coffee? (DH is a bit of an expert)

What about something like soap or other toiletry type products instead of food?  With a special diet like that, unless you are familiar with all the details, it would be easy to get it wrong. 

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Re: Christmas 2019 - gifts not clutter
« Reply #62 on: December 09, 2019, 10:36:09 PM »
Paperwhites are a GREAT consumable for anyone who likes flowers or gets the winter doldrums.  They don't even need dirt, just water. I made a set of "homemade" paperwhites once by ordering the bulbs, buying a cool china dish from the thrift store, and buying a baggy of gravel ($1 from the dollar store) for them to root in. All the giftee needs is to add water.

Other consumables: no one here yet has mentioned the magazine subscription?  Can be cool, esp if they're into a niche topic (like Strings magazine, or Classical Guitar).

Heirloom seeds: tomato, zucchini, or herbs are always a win for someone with a garden.  Maybe flower seeds? (echincea, daisy, bee balm, and onion chives have great flowers too). Can package these with some gardening gloves and/or hand trowel for more impact.

Supplies for their hobby/craft: snoop (and by that I mean ask a family member) for their fave brand of guitar strings, rosin, wood polish, string cleaner, reed thread (can you tell we are musicians around here, lol). I usually google "gift ideas for _______" to find ideas like this. A lot of the search results are useless ("I love this dog mug that says "I'm imPAWSible without coffee!") but some of them are good, like a sack of less common/more expensive birdseed for my backyard-birder dad.

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Re: Christmas 2019 - gifts not clutter
« Reply #63 on: December 10, 2019, 07:49:32 AM »
Other than my kids whom I research and have my lists for and buy from their lists, I've gotten pretty streamlined in my gift giving.

For the nieces and nephews they are all pretty much past the time of giving them toys. So it's been either a group game, or this year cash. I know some would say cash is not thoughtful but I remember I was always excited to get cash in a card.

My Dad is hard. He lives simply and doesn't need/want a lot. So I wait for him to give me a cue what he would like. In past years it has been: bottle of whiskey, particular books on tape, pistachios (always a good go-to for him) cutting board, and this year Italian biscotti.

My mother is also easy. She likes Kohls gift cards or cash. Some years she has a specific item she wants/need (new mattress, new winter coat) and I either chip in or fund those items (she is on a limited budget).

My older niece is vegetarian and anti consumer. So both last year and this year giving her cash (she is a poor student) and a donation to one of the charities of her choice (Rainforest Trust).

My sister is hard to shop for, because she is very specific in what she wants. So she gets cash as well.

In addition I include foods that are favorites of them: my brother and I have agreed not to exchange gifts but he likes whoppers and chocolate either plain or with nuts or caramel so I include that in the package. My mother likes truffles or chocolate creams. My sister likes any kind of chocolate as well as certain types of cookies. My adult nephew is officially an adult so I don't buy him an auntie type gift but I do include a stocking stuffer in there for him and his wife. This year it was a box of fancy chocolates and some products from burts bee.

The other thing that has streamlined things for me, is if I see a particularly good deal that is nice quality (like cotton or rag wool socks, polarfleece throws) I buy multiples and give that as the stocking stuffer in addition to the cash.

And for my family even though this year it will be more a new years gift, to send some recent photos of me and the kids.