As far as I know, my mother will leave equal inheritances to myself and my two brothers. That is if she doesn't spend it all first! She is a spender and I have cautioned her for years to make sure she has enough to get into a nursing home for at least 6 months on patient pay before Medicaid kicks in so she can be in a good nursing home!
When my grandmother was widowed, we all moved in with her and my mother "took care" of her in her mind! Actually, my grandmother did most of the cooking and half of the housework and this allowed my mother to go back to work when my youngest brother was in 1st grade. My dad hated my grandmother and vice versa, so it made for some dysfunctional home life!
I think my mother thinks I should take care of her if she gets feeble, but I don't feel like my kids should have to take care of me, I want them to live their lives and have fun. I do take her on vacation with me and she is going to spend 3 months with us next year in Florida for the winter. But, I draw the line if she needs a lot of care. My mother-in-law spent 10 years going from independent living to assisted to memory care and then nursing home care and never lived with any of her kids. That is my goal for myself also.
Anyway, I digress. I am better off financially than either of my brothers as far as savings go as they were spenders also. So if my mother decided to leave me out and leave everything to my brothers, I would not mind one bit. As a matter of fact, I am thinking about donating my 1/3 to them as I don't really need it. I know my mother wants to be fair, but seriously, I wouldn't mind and I wouldn't hold it against my brothers either or think my mom loves me less than my brothers. She just knows all of our circumstances.