No it was not a joke. I guess my wife and I planned our kids and their schedules and life changes to a more precise degree then most. If you can not take and pick up your kids to their activity then don't sign them up for the activity. School times really do not change that much. Plan your careers and commute around the need to supervise your kids. Honestly, we put off kids for a couple of years because we were not in a position for one of us (me) to have a flexible job. Your children deserve all the time they can get from their parents. Plan accordingly if at all possible.
To all the people who bashed on the above comment, I hope you kept your mind open enough to get the good part of what was said. Here on MMM, it often said that people must take control of their lives and stop blaming circumstances (or other people) for their problems. While it is true that there are many families where both parents reasonably need to work (or single parent families), it is also true that many people make decisions about their life independently from other decisions (e.g. highest paid job but with no time for family).
For example, why is it unreasonable to expect somebody to consider transport to/from the children's school when they are choosing a house? There are loads of places where children can walk or cycle to school from a young age due to the distance and safety. Other communities have good bus systems and before/after school programs. The same goes for any number of other decisions like applying for jobs.
I chose my career at 18.
I chose my husband at 26.
I bought my house at 34, unsure if we would even have children.
I had children at 36 and 42.
I was well ensconced in my jobs when my children were born. I was, in fact, allowed to go part time with both of them, for awhile. For my first, at one point, I got a new boss: go full time or else.
So I quit - I called up a former boss at a new company, and got a part time job.
But then the company grew and I had to go full time. No biggie, one kid, preschool close to our house, worked it out no problem.
Then the second kid. Went part time again. New boss: go full time
I don't want to quit.
There are no part time jobs in this town anymore. There aren't many 40 hour a week jobs either, they all want 45 or 50. IN my experience, it's easier to get flexibility where you ARE.
Got a new boss. "What can I do for you?" "Let me go part time". "No, next?"
Luckily, I have another new boss (my 8th in 7 years at this company) who has two kids, both near my older son's age. So, he gets it. I have flexibility. I can work from home. I can come in late or leave early. He does every day (one or the other). But I am not allowed to work part time.
(Working from home is great, but good luck "working" with a 3 year old).
As far as "taking control of your own life" - I mean, I get it. I've pretty much gotten whatever I wanted. School, work, family. I say "I want this" and I got it, because I'm good at my job. I wanted part time work, I got it. I wanted a promotion, I got it. I'm where I am because I've worked for it.
But at some point, when I hit my 40's, that all ended. It's a struggle. I'm learning, now in my mid-40s, that I can't control everything. What's that quote about changing what I can, accepting what I can't, the wisdom to know the difference? I've spent quite a few years fighting against the tide, and it kind of makes me tired. I can't do it anymore. I'm happier when I accept what I cannot change. I try to change it, doesn't happen, I try again, doesn't happen, then I move on.
My choices, right now, are: work full time, or not work. It's not a cop out, it's the honest truth. So I work. And making statements about how you can "design your own life" is great and all, but the VAST majority of workers in this country are at the mercy, so to speak, of the employers. Especially if you have no desire to be an entrepreneur. At some point you may hit a brick wall.
If it didn't happen to you, great. If it didn't happen to the person who originally made the comment, great.
It's like saying "well, why don't you bike to work, and why didn't you buy a house where you could??" Um, maybe because people buy houses when they have one job, and then they change jobs?? Circumstances change all the time.