Thanks for the feedback, everybody. I am very tempted by the next trim level up, with the leather seats, and the sunroof and bluetooth and backup camera, the newer models are quieter. These are small things really.
But it is true it is a ton of money and the car we have functions fine. Mechanically it should be great, we have had it since new. Cosmetically it is rough, and it is loud.
So really I am only looking at upgrading the minivan to a newer van with fewer miles and fancy amenities, like the sunroof and leather seats. And if I get a newer van the plan would be to hold onto it for 10 years more or longer.
I am getting the new van urge almost every month! Used Odysseys are $$$ and so I am trying to hold off as long as possible, one more year, one more year. My kids are messy so keeping the old beaten in van is not a bad plan.
Thanks again. I appreciate the reinforcement to keep away from the newer cars.