Grieving is probably more urgent because you can only assess your situation with clear head after you surrender to grief and let it cleanse your body/spirit.
You are comparing the worst part of your current job (i.e. lack of balance) to the best part of your previous job.
Hope you feel better and find YOUR path!
Thank you for this...you are absolutely correct, my comparison is terribly skewed.
None of us knows how long we have. Happily, most everyone here knows exactly how much money they have. Use it to buy the time of your life.
so true...this reads almost to "weaponize" my modest wealth in to FU terriroty
I'm sorry to hear about your friend. Don't make any major life changes in the next six months.
thank you and you are probably correct...a little holiday away from a desk is certainly due and re-focus on what it is I'm trying to do.
It sounds like you are having a (very understandably) hard time with the loss of a close friend and you should talk to a professional about this.
I think it is very easy to see from the outside this is grief...and something I'm fortunately not at all familiar with (
or even considered); good advice, thank you.
One of my favorite songs is https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_9TShlMkQnc
I think it's really important/insightful to realize we aren't guaranteed tomorrow at all and it's something I wish I had realized earlier in my life.
I hate to use the term wake up call...but for lack of a better term that is what it has been. I am trying to be more present and grateful for the day.
*Hugs* Condolences on the loss of your friend.
I'm glad you are taking the time to think about these things instead of just pulling your hat down over your eyes and plowing forward like life can't teach you lessons. You don't need to make any snap decisions, grief is real, but lessons abound.
You are trading your one truly limited resource for one that is far less limited and much more negotiable in it's usefulness once you have the needs covered. That's always been true, the shock and clarity are just a little more vivid right now. Or as we say in these parts, security is an expensive illusion.
My dad passed away at 54 (young!) and pretty healthy (freak rare heart issue got him). What he did have was 14 years of healthy early retirement under his belt before he went.
Proverbs 27:1 Do not boast about tomorrow, for you do not know what a day may bring.
Loren
much appreciated and I'm sorry to hear about your father. My dad is 69 this year and it destroys me to see him not the superman he has been my entire life. I will be allocating more budget to travel and spending time with him before I regret not doing it; stressful job does not fit in with this choice.
Many condolences for your loss.
This is one reason I often comment that FIRE should not be about being miserable for a few years to attain FI, then start living. Even for friends who just complain that they aren't "living." Bills need to be paid, children need to be fed, but you also need to make an effort to find the joy where you are. Watch the sunset and just be present with it. Take your kids to the park and play with them. Start a gratitude journal. These small nudges can make an enormous difference in life satisfaction; one doesn't necessarily need to pursue a big dream of the road less traveled.
Thank you, and I agree building tiny habits will pay dividends for the remaining lifetime...START NOW. I have always been in the camp of not being miserable during the journey, as those aren't the habits of a happy individual.
I'm so sorry. I think about it from time to time: What would happen to our stash if something happened to us? Would I regret amassing it and not being able to enjoy it myself? I am consoled by the thought that my siblings would inherit a fat chunk of retirement funds that their obligations and careers didn't allow for, among other things.
I have also been guilty of working more hours than I need for the cash, and not taking or even having enough time for vacations. My husband is disabled, which has also reduced many of our recreational opportunities. Still, I'm hoping to take more leave this year for ME (instead of only for everyone else's needs and crises), and hopefully cross a thing or two off the bucket list. The pandemic and several family emergencies put my life on hold for so long. I want to get out and visit beautiful places again, relax on the beach, de-stress. I have spent the last two years or so exploring beautiful places locally on day trips, but I look forward to traveling again.
Thank you and I wish you the best in losing the feeling your life is on hold.
I really appreciate all the responses, sometimes it takes putting yourself out there to really see what is going on. I'm thankful for this community as I don't have many people around that understand financial freedom or outlets to help me sort out my brain dump.