For the record, I am mustachian-lite at best, but I do prefer to live and spend conservatively. I must be spending too much time on this forum because, apparently, I have lost touch with how other people live. I got a reality check this weekend when a friend came to visit.
Case in point, the thermostat. My friend was shocked, open mouth shocked, that I kept my house thermostat on 65. I bumped it up to 69, but she was still cold while I was sweating in my sweater.
Then came the TV. She thought my converter box was a Roku, and couldn't quite grasp the concept of an antenna and free TV. I gave up explaining after the third try.
Then we went out to dinner. She asked me if I liked her brand new car, which is the same model she bought new 2 years ago. She was worried it would break down after she put 50,000 miles on it, so she traded it in on a 2014. She was very excited at the lower interest rate and a shortened 60 month loan.
With her fear of unexpected repair payments, I suspected she didn't have an emergency fund. Sure enough, she mentioned having to cash out part of 401K just in case she needed to stay home to care for her ailing mother.
During the weekend there was lots of Christmas shopping, mostly with her buying and me watching. She looked at me funny when I mentioned something not being in the budget this month.
The best/worst part is that several times she wondered out loud how I could afford certain things. I thought this was blatantly obvious, but I guess not.
I'm afraid that 5 years from now, she'll be under the same financial stress she is now. Meanwhile, I should be 100% debt free with a big chunk of retirement already saved. I am so, so glad I found this site!