For those of us who got perseverance in our lesser strengths: https://tilde.town/~dozens/sofa/
Wow. OMG. My immediate response to this is to think that it is a dangerous pandering to my lack of perseverance. Which suggests I have been brainwashed why what the writer calls the "societal pressure to stick to things until the bitter end."
Food for thought. Now I want to quit everything.
And you probably should.
That's what I said above. Nobody needs to take pride in sticking with things if they don't have a problem sticking with things.
I've been talking about this a lot lately, this particularly American presupposition that failure is some kind of default and everyone has to protect, viciously against it in order to "succeed."
We were talking in a few threads about this obsessive need to push kids towards success, because the default assumption is abject failure if they don't. I then posted some info about a suicide course I was doing and how this kind of thinking is actually pretty high risk for suicidality.
But what if we actually presume success and trust our own judgement?
What if we don't operate from the assumption that if left to our own devices and without extreme pressure that we'll somehow "fail?"
I personally found myself much more successful at the things that
really mattered to me when I starting trusting my own judgement more and following through only on the things I really wanted to do.
I actually became rather ruthless about paring out work that didn't appeal to me or didn't feel truly important and I very quickly abandon things now when they don't feel like an extremely valuable use of my time.
In short, I became very frugal about my time and effort, really optimizing for what makes me happiest and matters most to me. I leaned
heavily into trusting my own judgement and presuming success.
And what happened was that I got a lot more successful *and* successes came a lot easier because I wasn't wasting precious resources on working my ass off for the sake of working my ass off.
When you fundamentally trust yourself and your capacity to succeed at what matters, the stress pressure virtually disappears along with any sense of obligation to follow through on anything.
The drive to see things through then comes from an internal, intrinsic drive for the sake of the important outcome, not from a sense of obligation to continue. It ends up taking very minimal will power to do, well anything really.
