My spouse and I are in our 40s but learned a couple months ago that he is seriously ill and not expected to have a 'normal' lifespan. We are hoping for the best, but, toured two cemeteries today as I can't fathom doing it alone. We are stuck between two options and knowing Mustachians are an intelligent bunch I'm hoping for some words of wisdom:
1) one option is to purchase a space big enough to hold two urns as we both intend to be cremated. I significantly prefer the aesthetics and location of this option, but, it's only big enough for two, there is no extra room.
2) another option is to purchase a space big enough to hold one casket, but, put our two urns in it instead. The cemetery allows up to four urns in the space one casket takes up, and we have two children, currently teenagers. Should, God forbid, one of our children die young, or not marry at all and want to be interred with us, having "extra" space makes that possible.
In short, if I could see the future, and our kids are lucky enough to grow up and marry and want to be buried elsewhere, I would rather we have the space for two. Since that is hopefully the statistically most likely outcome, I hate to "forego" the preferred aesthetic and location if they won't be joining us. But, should the unthinkable happen, having "extra" space with us could be a significant comfort in a moment of need.
Obviously this is all pretty emotional, and we're not talking to anyone about it IRL. Also, in very un-Mustachian fashion, we don't have price info yet, and can't get it before Monday at the earliest, but that is not our foremost consideration.
So, would you value the spot you like, or, 'extra' space just in case, and why?