ThriftyD, you'd think that, but many of my friends share personal struggles on Facebook, so it's not all 'good news' in my feed, and I often find myself offering support via social networking. One friend is currently unemployed, two recently had traumatic miscarriages, another struggles with dating in her late 30s, etc. so while some people only post 'happy' news, that's not been my experience with my friends. And I guess these people are more acquaintances, but still, I am nosy. :)
Katy Stache, that's exactly the kind of thing that I mean! I find it very weird that both your aunts would do that, and it makes it awkward for people who don't know what happened, and maybe even more awkward for the aunts themselves. What if you sent your Christmas cards to "Aunt and Uncle" and then just got one back from "Aunt." I think this is more of a courtesy thing so that people don't make social faux pas in asking about the ex-spouse!
And Thegoblinchief, I acknowledged that it may be at the direction of a lawyer in my original post. I mean people who never even mention that they're divorced, and the divorce has already happened, like maybe 6 months ago.
I don't know that I'm explaining myself well, but I just find it strange. I guess if DH and I got divorced, I'd probably message my friends and tell them what's going on, and maybe make a brief announcement about where to send mail to him. I should look up what Miss Manners says about all of this...