I'm a physician.
Careful doc. .... and you make a good bit more than they do....
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totally just my personal viewpoint - but this attitude is prevalent in my own workplace and it really, really bothers me. I actually don't attend our department's holiday party because the harassment of our physicians to donate is not okay with me. And they're hit up in every department in which they work. It shouldn't be about the dollar amount you make. One of the docs I work with comes to a lot of our staff happy hours, and almost always pays the bill. This has turned into people showing up for happy hour if they know he's going and not otherwise. To me, that's wrong. I currently make 1/8 the salary that he does, but we budget in exactly the same way. Expecting my coworkers to donate because they hold a title that commands a higher salary than mine just doesn't sit right. On the flip side these same docs collectively have spent tens of thousands of their own dollars to house patients from other countries, or help bring their families here, or to our fundraising arm where the proceeds all go back to our foundation. Generosity and giving should be up to us as individuals, based on our own priorities, not on office pressure.
But then, I am on the side of not donating at all to the routine office-type things. I don't offer a reason, I just decline. I do reach out to staff members on leave and will donate PTO behind the scenes. I came to this current job from a former management high-earning position so I've been on both sides of the proverbial salary coin. And I've never donated to random fundraisers.
When it comes to the cultural aspect of a physician showing appreciation for staff -- I will never remember who donated to the holiday party, or bought pizza on a gloomy winter day, but I sure do remember every time my surgeon shook my hand at the end of a difficult case where we worked seamlessly together. One of the best gifts I've received was from a doc that moved to another state- a text and a .gif. That message means more to me than any bonus check I've received. We're a team, not a hierarchy, and to expect equality during a case but then expect outside the room that Oh Hey You Make More Money just feels weird. It's the expectation piece that doesn't sit right, not the donating itself.
----none of that is meant to discount other opinions in this thread. I just wanted to offer my view, as someone who works in an environment that historically was segregated by financial and academic status.