I wonder if it depends on what part of NY and what industry you're in. I lived in Ithaca for awhile, and while housing was reasonable (compared to NYC where I also lived) the salaries were very low. We live in a high cost of living area (Bay Area)with high taxes (almost 16,000 for property tax), but we make close to three times the amount we'd make elsewhere in our chosen industries. In fact, I had a job offer in Portland, Oregon two years ago, but it just didn't make financial sense to take it given the low salary and high housing costs (we have a house we hack, so that has helped us substantially here in the bay). So I guess I would say don't automatically dismiss a hcol area--it can work and you can make and save a lot.frugalwoods has a nice article on how to be a high saver in an expensive city. The key is to take the money and run when you retire.