Thanks for the replies all!
I have looked for car pooling yes, but it's not an option. Changing my shedule isn't too as I work as production support, and have to be there when the technicians are working, so from 6 to 14 or 14-22. Biking isn't an option, as it's 68kms. If it would be under 20 I'd bike straight away. I've been thinking about a cheap motorcycle too, buy one for €1500, insurance 200 if i go to the same insurance of my parents car and so on. Would be much much cheaper than a car.
I also build in a reserve for when the trains are late. But still then, If I finish at 22 in the evening my train is at 22.56, not earlier, even though I'm in the train station 22.21.
Going it's the same problem: always taking a train half an hour earlier in case there are delays (which i had EACH day this week). I'm all pro trains, and would easily do this if they wer reliable. But it's frustrating you can't predict when you will arrive at work or can't count on the trains to be on time.
15th of december the train schedule changes and it should become more on time, and it would save me (in theory) 32 minuts of commuting. I'll check for rooms close to work and maybe see, but even then a room can be almost expensive as a small studio because of all the students. A friend of mine is looking for work in the same city, and we would look to hire something together, but he first has to find a job.
We'll see, i'm going to do a test ride on a motorbike in a few weeks and try that out, if not an option i'll have to look further.