So been married about 5 years. Started fairly frugal, but have been going less and less frugal as life got complicated.
"Oh work is now a higher profile job, time to start paying for fancier clothes"
"Oh we would be happier if we had a dog"
"Oh we would be happier if we had another dog"
"Oh we are getting old, time to have a baby"
Now overall - These changes are great. Would not trade the dogs or the kid for the world. But, overall monthly expenses have gone up every month. Despite making double what I made when I was first married, savings rate is now lower (in absolute numbers, not even %). So clearly we have failed.
Past the point of incremental fixes, and DW agrees. So thinking of a flashfire reboot. Has anyone done something like this or have a plan?
Complication - Unlike many people here I love my field, just not my job. So my goal is to be able to work for myself. I do not need to save 70% of my income and retire in 3 years or anything like most MMM crowd. But I do need to get spending under control so I can quit my dayjob and work fulltime for myself. Basically I feel my spending is making me unable to pursue my dreams.
Here is my current idea for a reboot:
* Pick an amount of monthly spending we are comfortable with. Maybe current spending * .6. If spending were at that level, I would be much closer to being able to quit the day job.
* DW and I each make a list of our priorities in life, and their monthly cost. For example: * My 2 dogs, $300.
* We merge our lists together into one unified list of priorities.
* We start at the top and go down. When we reach our cost cap, that is it. If a house didn't make the cut, we are homeless. If clothes didn't make it, we are naked. Due to naked not being good, I could see some items appearing multiple times.. i.e. *Basic Clothes - $10 a month* high on list, but *fancy designer clothes - $100 a month* far lower.
Will this work? Or is there a better template for a reboot? Open to anything from selling house to car to bikes, need to get this under control. Or do I give up and just wait a few more years till DW can work fulltime again? Or I guess that needs to be an option too, we don't NEED DW to stay at home with the kid, we could do something else.
Don't hold any punches, face punches accepted!
Rough Current Budget
Income (me): $11, 600 per month (gross)
Expenses:
Fed/state/local Taxes: $2,946
Medical/Dental: $340
Mortgage P&I: $750
Property Tax: $200
Child Support (prev marriage) $600
Food: $800 (organic food is killing us, think we stop)
Eating out: $250 (dead, can go to 0)
Life Insurance (Term): $33
Homeowners Insurance: $42
Car Insurance: $66
Fancy Bicycles: $200 (very seasonal and swingy)
Entering running races and triathlons (main hobby): $40
2 Dogs - $300 (1 is has bad allergies, spend about $150 a month on food for them but looking for cheaper :( Rest is vets, medicine, maybe board once or twice a year for a few days)
2 Fancy Pants Cellphones - $120
Gas - $100
Baby Classes - $120 (on chop block already)
Baby Supplies - $300
Clothes - $200
Random Stupid things we don't need - $500
Gifts - Birthdays, Holidays, weddings - $150
Household supplies - $120
House care (plants, mulch, whatever) - $70
Student Loan payments - $500 (owe 40k, min payment aprox $500, average APR ~ 5%)
Car Payments - $0
Furniture - $400
Internet + HBO - $90
Utilities - $200
Not adding up so whatever else I missed - $200
Savings:
401k - $450
Refilling Savings- $1500
Clearly we have fat dropping all over the place. What is super annoying is we did all the big things RIGHT.
1) Live in low COLA area (no more Chicago)
2) No car payments
3) Very low mortgage
4) Relatively high income for 1 worker
My GOAL is to be able to add another 1200 a month to retirement accounts, and 500 extra per month to paying down student loans.