My second ex-wife was from NJ, which probably accounts for my negative attitude. I haven't been there in years, do they let you pump your own gas now?
You still cannot pump your own gas.
I grew up in New Jersey, and like a toad in a pot of gradually heated water didn't realize any of the more... unique aspects because I was accustomed to that environment, and didn't have to pay for housing or property taxes. But to add on to what others have said, a few things to note that aren't New Jersey-specific, but also might help to paint a picture of living there:
I have found people are usually much more to-the-point in New Jersey. A small example would be if you were to walk into a business, let's say a Starbucks (which aren't plentiful, instead you have Dunkin' Donuts), instead of a "Hi, How are you?" You may be greeted with a more "What do you want/what can I get you?"
When driving you have to be MUCH more aggressive, so if you/your husband aren't experienced drivers that will be an adjustment. Two examples (once again, not specific to NJ, but may be helpful):
- If you do not start moving the split second the light turns green, you will be honked at.
- If you need to change lanes, be sure to put your blinker on AS you are making the lane change. If you put it on beforehand, whoever is in the next lane over will speed up to pass you.
Depending on your local area, NJ is not super walk-able or bike-able. We lived in a few nice area, and I biked as a teen, but after having lived somewhere else for a while now when I go back I am always amazed at how necessary a car is to get around compared to where I live now.
One last thing: I don't know where you are moving from, but OH MY GOD THE HUMIDITY IN THE SUMMER! Once again, that is just compared to where I am now, so that might not be a big deal for you.
This was a taste of my experience for Jersey (closer to Philly than NYC) tempered with comparison now that I have moved away. But one last thing I will say, and this may be simple nostalgia talking, but I do recall that were I lived was a pretty great place in regards to raising a family. Lots of other families and kids around to play with, roving groups of kids when it came time to trick or treat, neighborhood parks were great, schools seemed ok, water ice & swim clubs in the summer.. hope all that is still the same!