You can tell a lot about someone's financial future by their actions today. Tonight my wife and I were discussing the probable fates of our family members if things continue the way they have been.
First, there's me and my wife:
we save all we can, we are both investing in our IRAs/HSAs, we both invest in our businesses and go to personal growth workshops,
I read self-help and business books all the time, and we are getting richer. We plan our grocery spending, mostly eat at home (and love it!), and We are gradually moving our savings higher and higher into mustachian territory.
Then take my brother:
he has a lucrative six figure career currently working for someone else but he has his own business which has also brought in six figures in the past. He
makes good money, has not shown a lot of interest in investing or Mustachianism, but he does max out his IRA and is really smart about a lot of thing, and prospects are high for him continuing to earn great money for his entire career.
Then there's my mom:
She has a $176k mortgage and a $22k business loan and very little to no income outside of Social security and renting out a room in her house (which doesn't quite cover the mortgage). She got an inheritance from my grandmother's passing and is slowly using that up (has about $50k in it remaining). Has maybe $20k (?) in annuities as well. She has said that she is having to dip into these to cover the property taxes. She lives frugally and cheaply. Meanwhile, she has resisted working her entire life, and her chances of making a substantial income are dwindling by the day because of her age and lifestyle choices. She seems to think things will magically work out. If she has a practical head on her shoulders, it doesn't show up that much when it comes to money.
Then there's my sister:
She is in between jobs, has 2 kids, husband who makes modest (but not great) income, and they have at least $40k in debt (including $25k in student loans), live in subsidized low-income housing (though in a community they really like),
chronically use credit cards because they aren't in control of their spending, the last I heard they spend $800+ per month in food because they go to Whole Foods all the time,
and as far as I know, the only savings they have is about $90k from his last job (which is not bad), but they do very little in the way of saving. They know next to nothing about
investing, that I can tell, and while she is interested in MMM, and has visited the site and told me she likes it, she seems perpetually distracted by daily life, and doesn't really show a full-time commitment to getting their finances in order. Meanwhile, he loves to spend, knows next to nothing about investing, and doesn't really seem that interested in learning, nor has he been that open to Mustachian type choices.
The writing on the walls for each of us:
It's not hard to see where we each are headed. My wife and I are going to grow richer and richer, build up our networth while we grow our business income, and have a beautiful life of financial prosperity and joy. My brother is also going to do very well, because of his high earning ability, and hopefully he will become more and more interested in investing his earnings.
My mom, meanwhile, will need help to get by. Fortunately, we love her and will do whatever we need to do. Which will be good, because it will probably come down to my brother and
I taking care of her financially.
My sister, meanwhile, will continue to struggle, and unless she gets REALLY serious about turning things around, they will continue to have high debt and low savings/retirement.
The writing is on the walls! It is sobering to realize, but empowering, because at least I can plan accordingly.