Is your frugality rooted only in a sense of emotionless optimization?
Once in a while someone here says something that sticks with me and this is one of those times.
Thank you eyesonthehorizon. It’s out of context but it doesn’t matter because it works well as a standalone inquiry.
As the saying goes, I wish I had a nickel for every time the word “frugal” is used around here.
I doubt everyone attaches the same meaning to it.
If you think of yourself as frugal, what is that rooted in?
My faith. I know, politics and faith. I have no desire to preach at anyone here, not trying to start a debate. This is just the theological underpinnings of my frugality and something I think about a lot.
It starts with my conviction that everything is a gift. And I mean everything: the universe, our planet, nature, my relationships, my possessions, my very life. Reality itself emanating from an eternal community of outgoing love.
This means nothing is really "mine" to begin with. I didn't earn my life, or the brain I was given, or my family, or the society I was born into. More than anything, I'm a caretaker of what I've been gifted. And it's not only about me, I'm part of a much larger story. What I do with my body, mind, community, money, the environment... it all matters and has meaning.
It's why we are fanatical about ad blockers and limiting exposure to our consumeristic culture. We know that buying stuff, while fun for a while, is ultimately empty. Same with just storing up wealth for the sake of having more wealth. These things distract (and can even separate) us from truly important things like people and relationships. And they affect others around us and long after us.
So my frugality isn't rooted in an arbitrary command or drudgery. Limiting our consumption is a form of defiance against mindless consumerism. It keeps us centered on things that produce contentment. When we do spend money it's more meaningful and brings us a lot more joy compared to when we were just spending impulsively.
We're far from perfect in these areas. It's a journey and we continue to learn and change as we go.