Author Topic: Is it okay if your ‘true personality type’ means you want to do... nothing?  (Read 24257 times)

Dollarbill49

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Personally I think simply existing and living life is quite enough really. Very underrated. You're not the only one.

I remember in high school a friend asked what I wanted to do as a grown up and I replied that I wanted to wake up every day and do what I want, even if what I want is to do nothing in particular. That's still what I want, and I see it as perfectly legitimate.

That's what my Mom's approach to retirement was.  Then a few years into it, she rekindled a realtionship with her highschool sweetheart and then had some more things to do!

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My 2 cents,  even if you want to do nothing, at least get out for a walk.  If you ain't got your health, you ain't got anything.

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I tend to "should" on myself.

I know this is upthread a bit, but did anyone else find this to be beautiful phrasing?

Well done lizzzi...I'm totally stealing that

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I have finally found my people! This is the thread that has resonated with me the most. I can't wait to do nothing, too.

My mom was retired for over 15 years before her health deteriorated. During that time, she did take on some projects and do some volunteer work... on occasion. For the most part, she did very little, though her routine did include going to the swimming pool multiple times a week for years on end. She also played Tetris/Dr Mario on the Super Nintendo daily for years on end.

I think I take after her in that regard: I, too, want to have a long retirement in which I do as little or as much as I want. And I am likely to want to do little.

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I'm only 24 and I'm more than ready to give it up too. It's kind of funny what we consider work though, isn't it? I'm a programmer and I want to retire ASAP so I can stop getting paid to develop other people's projects for money in an office, and start developing my own for free at home. Half the stuff you talk about doing after retirement is stuff other people regularly get paid to do as their job. So are we really lazy, or do we just have a low tolerance for the BS that permeates most workplaces?

Plus, not sure about other places, but in North America we have a huge culture of overwork. The 40-hour work week was originally supported by the idea that we should split our days into 8 hours for work, 8 for sleep and 8 for play. But when you add in your commute time, house and yard work, familial responsibilities, etc., most people spend far more than 8 hours per day working. This was much less of an issue when the 40-hour work week was first implemented because families tended to be single-income, so it was easier for paid workers to live very close to their jobs, and the other partner could take care of most of the unpaid work that needed to be done. Not that those were the "good old days" by any stretch, but I feel like people today work too much, so wanting to work less than that doesn't seem lazy at all to me.

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My people, my people! I have been this way all of my life and always felt guilty about it. Thank you for starting this thread.

Sadly, I have to go to a meeting (voluntarily) right now, but I will be back. Thank you, Cheddar Stacker, for pointing out this thread. You have changed my life.

P.S. Can I just say I have always groaned internally when people go on and on about how busy they are? Bullshit, I say!

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I fall into this camp also.  When I have free time, I prefer to tinker with my cars, or go for a drive, or surf the web for stuff relating to cars.  While the idea of doing something with cars to make money would seem to make sense for me, it seems like most jobs relating to the automotive field are lousy and stressful.  That said, if I fell into something, that would be fine, otherwise, I would be perfectly content to do 'nothing'.

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Me too! Me too!

Wow.. I'm surprised how many people are posting that. Pretty cool.

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If you haven't already, you should check out www.lackingambition.com, he talks about this a lot. I like his blog because he just gets it. Mike seems like a pretty chill dude, we think a lot alike, and it sounds like you do too.

absolutely brilliant, apparently he lacks the ambition to keep the blog going!

OT: I once took a 2Y sabbatical, and I must admit that doing nothing at all felt very natural to me... 

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The past two days I have no will or energy to do anything.  I normally look forward to my bike commute in the morning but I barely got out of bed the past few days.  I also workout at work but the past day I got dressed warmed up and just couldn't get a full workout in.  Got absolutely nothing done at work as I couldn't stand to look at my monitor for more than 10 minutes.  I've been going to bed right after the I put the kids down as well.  It's like a lazy rainy Sunday afternoon, which in California we don't get anymore, but one that lasts a few days.

I get like this from time to time but it seems that they are happening more frequently nowadays.  I used to feel very 'guilty' about being so lethargic and not being productive.  But now I think that my body or my subconscious is trying to tell me something and that I should start listening.

This thread has really inspired me to do some reflection on my need to be productive.


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I'm in this camp, as well.  Yay to finding like minds!   

I once took a year off, with the late hubbies huge approval, after super stressful job situation was affecting my health.  Only child in her teens so she didn't require much in the way of care.  I kept up the house, but pretty much did what I wanted, and absolutely LOVED IT!!   I wound up going kinda nuts about paying off debt, so we just called that my 'job'.    Paid off 56k in 18 months, 1 year of that without me working, and had a blast!  That was what I wanted to do.  And the hubby came home to a happy wife.

Still wish I could be doing that, and how I imagine RE will be.  To spend the day reading if I wanted, cooking, or just playing on spreadsheets for whatever is interesting to me at the time.   Bliss!

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I think my first few months will be doing nothing to kind of decompress from working.  Plus, getting to practice more frugality skills - using the library, gardening, more DIY.  I'll probably be watching my money like a hawk.  More exercise too because I would have more time. 

PS I love this thread too.

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I think this is appropriate (song was actually playing while reading this thread):

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Bg1di8sGxWc

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Since we're posting songs, this one seems appropriate too.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fLexgOxsZu0

I'm one of these people too, and lately I've been doing pretty much nothing.  Just yesterday I was talking to my mom, and she gave me some flack after asking what I've been up to.  She said something to the effect of, "that sounds like a pretty terrible existence."

I'd have to say I'm probably happier now than I've ever been. I wake up whenever. I walk the dog. I eat breakfast. Then I just veg out for a while and maybe read on the Internet.  Most days I'll mix in some P90x too (at least I'm not lazy and fat...just lazy). Within the next year or 2, I'd like to move down by the beach and do some beach sitting as well.

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I wonder how many of us are too lazy to reply to this thread and just clicked the 'notify' button instead.

Hvillian

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I wonder how many of us are too lazy to reply to this thread and just clicked the 'notify' button instead.

Yep.  Or aren't ready to out themselves as "lazy."

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This is a great post and topic!  I am so burned out from the stress of my job/career (and I work for myself!) that my brain can barely comprehend doing much of anything when I get time off now or in the future.  I am glad to see I am not alone in this feeling.

Daisy

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Since we're posting songs, this one seems appropriate too.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fLexgOxsZu0


We can go back a little further in time to the classic John Lennon song:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XM2Oh4pS304

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We can go back a little further in time to the classic John Lennon song:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XM2Oh4pS304
Nice song.  I hadn't heard it.  Funny that the top youtube comment missed the point of the song.

I would also like to put my name in the hat as somebody that can be perfectly content without doing anything that anyone else would classify as productive.  I don't have passions or things that I yearn to do tugging at me to quit my job and pursue them.  Only just that I want to have nothing I HAVE to do asap.  Many days will include not doing much, if all goes according to plan.

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LMAO bo_knows, others!  Anyone who has ever worked in a big company and hasn't seen Office Space needs to go rent it.  Today!  Hysterical!  Not too long ago I was in my boss's staff meeting.  She was droning on about the latest HR job rebanding initiative...totally an Office Space moment.  She paused several minutes into it, at which point I abruptly stood up said "I'm sorry, I have to leave.  I've got a meeting with the Bob's in a few minutes".  About half the room (including my boss, fortunately) was rolling in the floor laughing.  The other half were all asking each other who Bob was! 

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LMAO bo_knows, others!  Anyone who has ever worked in a big company and hasn't seen Office Space needs to go rent it.  Today!  Hysterical!  Not too long ago I was in my boss's staff meeting.  She was droning on about the latest HR job rebanding initiative...totally an Office Space moment.  She paused several minutes into it, at which point I abruptly stood up said "I'm sorry, I have to leave.  I've got a meeting with the Bob's in a few minutes".  About half the room (including my boss, fortunately) was rolling in the floor laughing.  The other half were all asking each other who Bob was!

you are my hero :)

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Got enough ambition together to say that I totally want to join this camp.

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Got enough ambition together to say that I totally want to join this camp.
LOL!  I can't decide if I am incredibly lazy or incredibly ambitious.  I work hard, long hours, pour myself into some non profit volunteer work, and just want to vegetate and do nothing if a free evening.  I have no idea how I will respond to retirement, but can't wait to find out!

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Got enough ambition together to say that I totally want to join this camp.
LOL!  I can't decide if I am incredibly lazy or incredibly ambitious.  I work hard, long hours, pour myself into some non profit volunteer work, and just want to vegetate and do nothing if a free evening.  I have no idea how I will respond to retirement, but can't wait to find out!

Heh, i've decided I'm ambitious because I'm lazy. I'm working harder and harder to reach FIRE sooner so I don't have to do anything if I don't want to. I'll admit that spending FIRE reading books, playing games, and watching anime doesn't sound half bad.

But I'll probably still end up doing some part-time or volunteer work.

 

Wow, a phone plan for fifteen bucks!