Now the question is, who has dated a woman (or man) born in the 1980s or more recent? Who has dated someone from the facebook/tinder/instagram generation? I have found that millennials are less focused, much less honor or integrity, less personal responsibility, and more entitled that any other generation. If you have, then you would see what we have to work with these days :) I am a millennial, so I get to criticize my own subset of people.
I'm thinking of all the times I've defended Millennials against this kind of generalization, except it was from Boomers or the odd Gen-X Philistine. I got Forrest Whitaker eye while reading yours because I don't often see M's trashing-talking M's... but I get it. Hope you don't mind an overlong response, since I mean it in the best way possible.
People have been saying stuff like this for as long as we've had the
concept of a "generation", and they've always been mistaken... but for understandable reasons.
The main one is that you're comparing Millennials in their 20s to X'ers in their 30s and 40s, Boomers in their 60s, and so on,
in their current phase of life, instead of doing it on an equal footing. Guess what? We were
ALL unfocused, emotional, irrational, silly, and irresponsible to a degree, when we were up-and-coming. Shit, I almost flunked out of college in Seattle in the 1990s (woo grunge music!) through a combination of untreated depression and garden-variety laziness. I was the smart kid who infuriated most of his teachers and professors throughout his school career by failing to live up to his potential, always off dreaming or sketching or writing poetry or cranking up the music instead of studying - and Gen X as a whole was commonly dismissed for those things.
Today, I'm a key member of an Army general's civil service staff, a reasonably successful reserve officer probably making Lt Col soon, a managing partner in one investment startup and a got-dam CEO of another, about to (once again) report market-beating quarterly returns to my shareholders while announcing another acquisition.
And yet, I could name countless peers who exceeded the Boomers' dismal expectations of our generation so wildly that I don't think the above are impressive. This is just what happens when time passes, you live a little, and you realize it's worth working harder to do/have/experience the things you care about.
The ages-old fallacy is that too many of us forget what we were like in our youth, what our faults were, and how we were dismissed by our elders for what ultimately turned out to be transient foibles. We compare our generation or the one before it to the one after it in real time and we handwave away the very real differences wrought by age and experience.
Millennials are still working through that stuff just like my friends and I did in the mid-2000s, and yet... they're
already popping up in C-suite jobs, on boards of corporations and global nonprofits, bringing new vision and badly needed paradigm shifts to the economy, to social services, and to our culture. Don't sell your team short. For better or worse, you'll be running stuff someday... may as well start preparing now.
Personally, my net worth took off once I dramatically slowed the going clubbing, bars, high end restaurants, driving a sports car, etc.
As did the net worth of past generations, when they grew up enough to make more responsible choices. I was a broke dumbass at 31 but I'll hit 40 with half a million invested and my last full-time job in the rearview. Maybe then I'll dig up my flannel shirts and guitars again ;)