I get so tired of the more-Mustachian-than-thou attitude on here sometimes. Can we all just recognize that everybody is an a different context and quit judging/comparing? Most people starting on the FIRE journey today cannot buy a house for as little as people did 15 years ago. Some people value living near family in areas that happen to be expensive. Also, it can sometimes be easier for people to find a high paying job and live on a “high” budget than it is for them to find cheap housing. We all have different life goals and financial constraints. Let’s just assume everyone is thoughtfully trying their best.
Disagree. Pretty much the entire rest of the internet + real life people will coddle you as much as you like. A reality check once in awhile is a good thing.
I agree with Zikoris and others on this.
This is a pretty fascinating thread. I'm surprised I didn't read it earlier.
I used to be pretty hardcore, even prior to reading MMM, before kids. Even kept it up for awhile after kid #1.
We've definitely loosened the purse strings as we've made more money and gotten busier ($ is a good exchange for time).
I *LIKE* that this place makes you think about your choices. There are definitely areas where I have learned and changed. There are places where I could do better. I also like the differing opinions and methods. Like: yes, for a long time I kept a really tight grocery budget and had a price book and shopped around and now...I don't do that. I went on to just mostly finding cheap healthy meals and rotating them. Then I loosened up even further to where I am now...which is about $900 a month, pretty close to MMM's "Killing your $1000 grocery budget."
I come here to be reminded that my 2BR house is JUST FINE and my 2006 Matrix is JUST FINE and I don't need new clothing thankyouverymuch - I have enough that fits.
I come here for the focus on the environment.
I come here for the focus on society - like, on one hand, face punch me for my cleaning lady. On the other hand, for an entire year we cleaned our own house and taught the kids to clean windows and stuff AND we still paid the cleaning lady because we could afford it, and they need to earn a living too!!
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$25k a year will not happen if we are still living in California when we retire, because our property taxes are currently $10k and probably will be $12k by then.
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Also, bubbles: My local bubble is very liberal, and a lot of my coworkers and neighbors are very high earners. However, several of my neighbors in my regular potluck group are low earners, close to retirement, self employed, some are renters...so my bubble isn't homogeneous. I like it.
Likewise, my relatives are very rural, very conservative and religious (a fair number of anti-vaxxers and anti-maskers in the mix). Where I grew up, you CAN retire on $25k a year and the biggest concern is still health insurance. It's an area where people still help each other out a lot, and are very independent. They also die pretty young.
I like to think that growing up poor and maintaining relationships with my family members, who are mostly middle class now, but lower middle, helps to keep me grounded. Also, living in a VHCOL area where MOST of the students who are in school with my kids are really poor - well, this helps too.