If her ex can't provide any sort of child support, they probably weren't in a financial position to raise six children even when they were married.
That's a stretch, don't you think? I mean, it's not like there are plenty of stories of fathers who bail, or marriages that end, where the parent flat out refuses to pay child support. Rich ones even. Middle class ones even. I have a story...friend middle class engineer, husband a business owner. He had plenty o' money but was in arrears in child support. So whatever, she stretched and made it work. He took her to small claims court for something and judge said "hey, is he in arrears in child support?" Yup. That's when he learned the court can seize his pre-paid business taxes to give to his ex for child support. Dummy.
In any event, they had six kids, and I'm thinking that maybe the state would not have allowed them to adopt if they weren't in a position to raise them, but what do I know eh? Too late, they've got the six kids. I fucking don't understand why people want to go back and analyze ancient history...who gives a fuck.
While I think the lack of affordable housing in big cities is a real problem, I don't think this lady is a great illustration of this issue. I mean, she has four biological children and two adopted ones. The two adopted kids were abandoned at birth. I can't help feeling like she should've just let them go into the system and be adopted by families who can actually afford to raise them. Plenty of families looking to adopt babies.
Imagine how many more options she would have if she only had one or two kids to support. I realize you can't turn back time, but what does that say to people who are actually trying to make responsible family planning decisions? "Just have all the kids you want, some government agency is going to help you support them"?
Do you really? Sounds like maybe not.
I mean, I've got other stories, like narcissistic abusive exes who cheat and leave and refuse to pay child support to the disabled wife and mother of 3. I mean, that's after the entire family lost a bunch of weight from not having enough income and SNAP not being enough. What do you do? Give back the 3 teenaged daughters? I'd like to point out that abusive ex spouse was career military (until he wasn't anymore), and they had an old farmhouse with a garden and chickens. As long as he was employed, they were just fine. When he was no longer employed, there was no job, no money, and not enough food. This was a good 16 years of "being enough", until it wasn't.
It's like people have never met someone who has hit hard times...ever. I mean, I have met my share of people who are lazy, don't work, and make a host of bad decisions. They are outnumbered by people who have been downsized, outsourced, injured, widowed, abandoned.
This is an anecdote, that is one way of explaining the DATA that there's not enough affordable housing in this country. People see the data and say "I don't believe it, it makes so sense!" Then you describe the anecdotes and say "well we can't help EVERYONE". Like, meh, I've got mine, who cares they are just dumb.