I will be as upfront with you as I can.
We have a son in a private college in what would be considered the middle of nowhere. He's in his junior year.
Here are my suggestions:
1. Do not take on that much debt! When our son wanted to go to the private college we are sending him to, we gave him our blessing, and then I told my husband--sheesh, I wonder how we are going to pay for it. We have managed, and we have two in college, but I won't say it's necessarily been easy.
2. See what scholarships you can get through the school. That is the only way our son is going to private college. It has basically taken the $40k year tuition, room, and board down to $20k. What is your status on scholarships?
3. Understand that it's going to be difficult to get an RA position being you are in your first, going into your second year of college. I do believe it pays for room and board, though?
4. Our son has had some difficulty in finding a decent internship that pays, and he has a STEM major. That, and I don't believe he's looking that hard. During his senior year of high school, he/we looked at two colleges--one of those colleges had a 94% placement rate for the major he is in, which I thought was great! That is not the college he is attending.
This is how we have managed keeping college debt low:
1. He had to chip in summer earnings during his senior year of high school. Some summers he made next to nothing. We really didn't have him chip in then because he needed some money to live.
2. He has a nice scholarship from an organization, in addition to university scholarship, which has helped tremendously and is renewable while in college.
3. We didn't have much saved when he graduated high school. About $24,000 total. We split that money over 4 years, so we used/are using around $6,000 per year toward education. However, that money has grown in a mutual fund, but we have been spending it down.
4. Every two weeks when my husband gets paid, I put aside $250 (so basically $500 per month) toward his education.
5. Portions of tax refunds go toward education.
6. Part of husband's bonus go toward education.
7. He will have a little over $6,000 or so in student loan debt when he graduates--we did have him take out one loan his freshman year, that was the $5,500 federal student loan, as we didn't know exactly how everything was going to flow. Once we had a system in place as to how we would pay for it, then starting his sophomore year, we said no more debt.
8. Your parents are going to have to help you more in order to keep your debt level down. That's just how it is. If they are not able or cannot, then I suggest going to a state school. You will get just as good of an education.
9. Our son does work part-time, but doesn't make much. He uses that money for living expenses.