1. Yes, but since that won’t happen, don’t waste your mental energy on it. You focus on you.
2. It’s not about being frugal. It’s about what you value. You should live your best life at all times. What I learned is, my best life doesn’t mean I’m eating out all the time, driving a fancy car or living in a mansion with a pool. I can afford all of that, but I don’t need any of that. What I do value now is travel, so that’s where I put my energy, experiences, not things. I don’t try to be frugal with my expenses, I try to be smart and strategic. If I can have the same experience but stretch my money, then I can have more experiences. Just makes sense. Also, if I’m smart and strategic about how I structure my money and investments now, I give myself the opportunity to live without formal work and can experience more while I’m healthy and able. That’s legitimately exciting and I’m more than willing to shift energy from things that don’t give me as much joy as what I’m working towards.
So, reframe your thinking from frugality and sacrifice to strategy and opportunity. That will help guide you without you feeling like you’re losing something now. You’re actually gaining more power, choice and freedom with your present and your future.