Check out "Passivhaus" construction standards.
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Passive_house
This, or a variation of the concept, is probably the best, well researched and proven method to achieve your goals. Oddly enough, by the time you have constructed such a dwelling, electric heating is often the best solution for several reasons, including the lowest initial installed cost, and the fact that in your climate it would be used little, if at all.
Some of the best info. out there can be found at Joe Lstibukek's buildingscience.com website. Joe is one of the grand ole' wizards of extreme energy efficiency, and is an expert when it comes to the truth of what works in the real world.
The flip side of this whole idea is the question/issue I always bump up against. I built a new place a couple of years ago. It's located in the northeast, and it's 1200 sq. ft. It runs me less than $100 a month for all my utilities. It cost me roughly $90/sq.ft to build, and it's build to slightly higher standards than typical. A net-zero place would drive the cost up by roughly $60K, according to my designer, who does design and engineering on net-zero dwellings. At that price, I would never see any type of intelligent ROI, unless energy costs skyrocketed. Given my usually short attention span, the fact that I never stay in any place I build for too long, and ridiculously low values on existing home resales, there is simply no way I could justify a dwelling that came with virtually no utility bill, but cost 50% more to build.
Good luck with whatever you decide, it is a fascinating topic.