Okay, here's the laughably low-tech solution that worked for me: Post-It Notes.
I had a set of large-ish, lined, brightly colored Post-It Notes. They were left over from some convention or other. (Mustachian tip: Be the person who procures/sets up/breaks down things and often the leftovers are yours for the effort. Plus your boss becomes dependent on you, which doesn't hurt. Another trick to subtly become indispensable.)
Each month, I'd fill in the totals of all my accounts, then I'd add them up. I posted it on the wall of my home office. Yep, right on the wall where I couldn't miss it. Every day, I'd see that stack of brightly colored notes on the wall, silently reminding me of my goals. Keep the spending low and the savings high. The following month, when I did it again, I would always see progress. Even if it was small, it was a tiny drip, drip, drip reminder. At the end of the year, I would transfer the figures to a spreadsheet and start a new sticky on the wall. I did this for years and years. Why? Because it
worked.
Fun future fact: I met a guy when he painted my house. Many years later, he became my husband (Surprise! Life is crazy.). One day he remarked that he had noticed my Post-It system when we first met and been impressed as hell. Who'da thunk?
@deek, I never had to climb out of a mountain of debt, but I was always a single, not-high wage earner in a HCOLA. Baby steps will absolutely get you there. The trick is to keep taking them and trust that they absolutely will make a difference. This shit really works.