Okits: Did your business class flight mean two extra weeks of your life spent in a cubicle?
Economy flight $1000, business $3000; includes discounts. So 3 days of work compared to 8 days of work. Ouch.
Okits: Is that Glenfiddich a month's worth of groceries for your family (or a month's worth of food for a whole village in an impoverished country)?
Well aware the scotch is stupid. No idea why I want it; I saw it in the case and my brain got happy. I think it comes down to “what if it is better [than what I currently have?].” I had bought the Glennfiddich 21 ($260) last year as my birthday treat (Justifying a bad purchase) and I loved it. I do have a bottle of Glenmorangie Quinta Ruban I’ve been thoroughly enjoying which was $90. Scotch is a 1 bottle a year thing for me. I’m not a big drinker.
Now I read below about changing my buying habits. Someone said instead of buying material goods buy stocks. It’s funny because I had this exact thought before reading this thread. For my birthday I could buy some stock in a company I value. (It was AnEDO)
Fishindude: You need to find some new friends that aren't so materialistic.
I’m the only one of my friends that spends like this so I’d say it’s the household I grew up in. My sister is the same way but has not recognized how we spend is idiotic.
Ooeei: This is something I see happen in dieting/exercise as well. We all know someone who works really hard at the gym, then goes and eats a large pizza as a "reward" because of all the calories they burned. The problem is, they never lose any weight because the "reward" undoes all of their hard work and keeps them at the same weight as when they didn't work out and didn't eat the pizza. Their "reward" should be losing weight! Unfortunately most people don't consider long term things good enough rewards, and therefore go for the short term stuff that hurts their long term goals.
This is spot on. You’d think I’d recognize since I’m constantly telling my sister she won’t see any progress if she gorges after every work out.
Ooeei: Another problem is thinking of money you didn't spend as "savings." I can "not spend" $50,000 this month by not buying all sorts of stuff, that's not the same as saving $50,000. Only the money you actually transfer to savings counts as being saved, don't forget that. I can "save" $50,000 this month by not buying a new car, but if I spend all of my salary on small stuff I still didn't save anything even though it feels like I saved a lot. Don't fall into the trap of thinking of yourself as doing good just because of what you don't buy. Feel good about what you invest!
I’ll have to disagree with this. Pre-investment reading and YNAB these purchases would have been bought without any thought. I started a list last summer and constantly added wants. In 6 months I had added $20,000 worth of goods. What did I buy off that list? A bottle of scotch and a new mattress. I no longer remember what else was on that list. It’s been a boon for me.
Ooeei: As for the $500 scotch. I would be absolutely shocked if you could pick it out in a blind taste test.
Could I pick out the Glennfiddich 26 in a taste test? No. Not at all. I really want to go to a blind tasting. It’d really help me find cheaper bottles I’d enjoy with no price bias.
Mamagoose: I like to think of the price of something compared to how much preschool time the same $$ would get me. For example, preschool costs us about $250/month (part-time) and it is a HUGE benefit for our family, so when my friend mentions a new $500 designer purse, I think "well that would be 2 months of preschool, and I already have a purse that holds my things, so no." Comparing it to my hourly rate doesn't have the same affect since I'm a high earner (and other high earners in my range would "justify" a much higher COL and spending level).
I will have to figure out something to equate costs to differently. It’s like the phone I was looking at. $600 shipped to my door so 1.5 days of work. It doesn’t sound that bad. It’s so easy to justify this way; at least with my current mindset.
R62:
Read "Your Money or Your Life".
And then: read it again.
I will add it to my list and find a copy to read.
Iron Mike Sharpe: Cut out advertising.
I’ve personally never had cable.
I can’t stand commercial radio.
I don’t have any magazine subscriptions and never read the newspaper.
I’ve had ad blocker for ages.
And yet I’m still such a consumer. Weird eh?
AnEDO: My advice is to go shopping. For assets. You will feel an endorphin rush every time you buy shares. Every dividend you receive will be met with delight. Having others toil away at the companies you own shares in for your benefit is a true luxury.
Funny you said this because I had this exact thought waking up today. Instead of buying a bottle of scotch for my birthday I’ll buy some shares in a company I value.
Dollar Slice: Is your remaining debt credit card debt? How much interest are you paying?
This was the main problem and why the debt has been hovering over me for so long.
It’s not CC debt. It’s a LOC @ 3.75% so it’s “only” $700 (2 days work) a year if I ignore it. (I’m no longer ignoring it or adding to it; well technically I’m adding to it since I buy things I don’t need instead of paying it down.)
If I take a year to pay it all off it’s around $400 in interest costs so about a days work.
And none of my friends encourage me to buy anything. I do this all on my own. It’s not my group at all. My best friend works two jobs to afford to live.
Tyort1: I will also say this - getting out of debt and getting a bit of a cash cushion is an enormous psychological difference. I went from perpetually saying "f!ck it I'm so behind I might as well just enjoy life" to "Oh, I have cash now, I don't really want to part with it...." and my need to buy things dropped massively after that.
This was my problem for the longest time. “I might die tomorrow so why not buy x and y now!” It snowballed from there.
Frankies Girl:
I am tiny brained hamster running on a gold plated wheel until I die.
Erica:
I just recently took up running. (1.5 months in; 7m21s pace [3 kilometers]). I love the feeling after a run and I’m looking forward to running longer distances. My legs (calves) are not used to it and tire long before I’m out of breath.
I have mountain bike that hasn’t been used in 2 years and I just learned about nearby trails I want to hit.
Cshcx: Second the person who suggested taking your next vacation in an area with a low "standard of living
Backing packing and living with locals is a life goal of mine. I wish I had spent more time traveling when I was younger instead of partying. I’ll be visiting Cape Town, South Africa next year. It is my understanding that the city has a large income disparity.
Cshcx: Practice not buying things
I ogle at buying many things and my control has been getting better. I accumulated a $20,000 list of wants last year and only bought two items; a mattress and a bottle of scotch.
Seppia: The best solution for me is the automatic investing.
I auto invest into the companies RRSP; 6% with 3% match at the moment. It’s not a lot compared to what I could and should be doing if I want to be serious about FIRE.
Basenji: And if you aren't already a real expert and scotch isn't your absolute passion, then don't buy the most expensive bottle. Instead, learn more, talk to experts about value products, go to tastings.
I’m no expert. Scotch is a recent hobby and I’m in the process of finding what I like. I listed this above but I’ve become quite fond of Glenmorangie Quinta Ruban.
Forumname123: If you think that's true then you're not trying hard enough, because this just isn't true. It's very easy to get fast food meals for $5-6 in Canada (nearly all of them have value menus/coupons/etc), and there are an abundance of sit-down restaurants where you can easily spend under $15-20 with tax and tip.
Forumname123: If you want to improve you have to stop making excuses like these (I know you already know that, just pointing it out again)
Ah. The fast food I grew up eating was A&W and I remember more sit down restaurants as a child than fast food stops. My parents have been treating my sister and I to birthday dinners for the last decade and the meal for the four of us would run $200 - $700 (appetizers, drinks, meals, desert, tip) depending on the restaurant.
My mindset needs to change.
Zombiehunter:
I really enjoyed your post.
Dollar Slice:
So I ran the numbers for myself.
Tesla Model S: $30 per hour driven
Tesla Model 3: $21 per hour driven
Subaru WRX: $24 per hour driven.
Assume new tires for each car every 3 years; winter+summer = $3000 x 3 = $9000.
Assume $1000 year maintenance for each car.
Now, buying a Tesla Model 3 in cash $65,000. Opportunity costs over 10 years at average stock market gains put it at $130,000. Now without having to pay gas I free up $250 month (inflated to cover inflation and gas price increases) to invest as well coming out to $75,000. Total cost is then $55,000 and you can pat yourself on the back for no longer burning fossil fuels. (Hopefully the math is right). It's still an excessive cost.
Galliver: But what *else* do you like? What do you like that doesn't cost (as) much money? A cup of coffee? Reading a book on a sunny day? Picnics? Long walks? Volleyball with friends? What makes you go "ahh, this is the life!" and yet doesn't break the bank?
It doesn’t affect me now but in 20 years the big thing will be my parents. Do I want to be stuck working for the last few years of their life or be able to spend it with them? If I really truly embraced FIRE I could retire in 16 years. My parents would be 74. My mother’s parents both died in their late 70’s.
Typing this made me really sad.