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Having fun raising a family. Thoughts/ suggestions?
« on: June 16, 2020, 01:36:50 AM »
We're FIREd and we have two kids, a 1 year old and a 3 year old.

We'd like to do all sorts of fun/interesting/rewarding things with the kids as they grow up.
I imagine some things are best done at certain ages, and given how quickly time can slip by (even when RE'd), I can see it will be easy to look back some day and think -

"Why didn't I think to do that - with the kids - when they were that age?"
....and "because I was very busy working" won't cut it as an acceptable reply ;-)

So I thought I'd start a thread to gather suggestions of some things y'all think we shouldn't miss doing along the way.

Many of these things can be done by working parents too, of course, but being FIREd gives us the luxury of being able to do SO MANY different things because we have much more free time.

For example, going on lots of camping trips seems an obvious one to me, as I enjoy camping myself and I know most kids love it.
Another idea - something I know little about, but which occurred to me might be rewarding in a number of ways - volunteering to be a sports coach after school or something like that.

Any and all thoughts and suggestions welcome!

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« Reply #1 on: June 16, 2020, 02:54:12 AM »
Fun thread!  Where are you located?

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« Reply #2 on: June 16, 2020, 02:59:12 AM »
Definitely get a kite (ideally just a cheap light one you can stick in your bag to have with you on random outdoor adventures).

Get or make one of those big bubble string things (actually would be a great skill to learn and probably not that hard to learn to do the big bubble nets etc. aswell ... would make you very popular at picnics and parties!) 

Chalks are always fun.   Very cheap if you buy in bulk and with the age of your kids you will definitely get through them!

A very lightweight sheet (a beach-sheet is perfect - or they are sometimes sold as very thin picnic blankets/ground sheets - fit in the palm of your hand when folded up into their bag) and a few clothes pegs makes a great den very quickly (indoors or out).

Mine are only 6 and 3 and still love all that stuff.  Hoping to retire next year and to have more time for this stuff too, so watching the thread with interest!

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« Reply #3 on: June 16, 2020, 03:15:10 AM »
I think its true that in today's world many people actually have a paucity of hobbies, as opposed to interests.

I like to think back what I used to absolutely love as a kid: I was big into Lego and R/C cars. The Tamiya catalogue was like kid p0rn to me. I don't have much hope that I'll ever get my daughter very heavily into those things, but it's about finding out what your kids really love to do and then getting into yourself.


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« Reply #4 on: June 16, 2020, 03:20:07 AM »
When your kids are a bit bigger, a little pocket microscope (~$15-20) is also AMAZING for looking at leaves and dead bugs and fluff and stuff.  DD(6) loves it.  DS(3) can't quite get his eye lined up yet, so probably one to put on your list for a couple of years' time.

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« Reply #5 on: June 16, 2020, 05:16:47 AM »
As a kid I thought this was silly but now looking back I really cherished the traditions my family had. Things like Easter egg hunts, even after I was way too old or cheap valentines cards in my backpack or lunch or mirror on valentines day.
Lately fun things have included just taking the time to be in nature. Throwing rocks in a creek is such a fun activity for a toddler.

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« Reply #6 on: June 16, 2020, 05:28:14 AM »
Indoor forts made with blankets/sheets...our kids just loved them.  Or also a small tent which you can set up inside--great in the winter time.

A way for kids to slide down the stairs.  Ours just took it upon themselves to use pillows and blankets and figure it out on their own.

A butterfly net.

A sled.  Even if you don't have a hill somewhere close to sled down, you can pull them around on it.

Jars with lids to catch fireflies.  You can also catch all kinds of things and put in the jar with lid.  Put small holes in the lid.

Make snowmen and snow angels.

Get them involved with preparing family meals now.  Watch "Kobe Eats" on Youtube.  Oh, how I wish I had gotten my children more involved with cooking earlier.  My husband also likes to cook outside using Dutch ovens and charcoal.  One of our sons, now grown, still likes to help with that when he's home.

Get them involved with cleaning the family home now.

Start a garden, have them help with seeding, weeding, and watering.

Spend as much time outdoors as you possibly can.

Let them play outside in the rain and jump around in the puddles.  It helps if the puddles are in your driveway and not out in the street. 

Pick a holiday and really do it up.  We love July 4th.  We've always loved it.  We grill, are able to watch town fireworks from our home, use a fire pit for making s'mores, light some fireworks--it's one of the best holidays.  It started when they were young.

I would skip the volunteering as a sports coach.  Probably not worth the headache or time it will take.

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« Reply #7 on: June 16, 2020, 05:41:24 AM »
make art, song, food or useful objects

change your garden from lawn to wildlife habitat with native plants or food producing for humans.

give time - we did lots sports coaching with our kids and it is nice to have a lot of kids you know in your community. community tree planting acquainted us with other folks, art camps introduced us to still another constituency

fix things

go to all the events at the library



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« Reply #8 on: June 16, 2020, 05:51:07 AM »
Fun topic! Here are some ideas I have kicking around in my head that are broader and larger than the day-to-day stuff like playing Candyland and visiting the beach. Mine are 4.5, 1.5 and one (last one) on the way. I'm at home full time now with them now, and probably won't return to FT work, and my spouse retires (golden handcuffs) when our oldest is a senior in high school.

-Food production at home - We have plans next year to plant blueberry and strawberry patches, a decent sized orchard, and chickens, plus probably some raised beds for vegetables on our half acre lot. Our oldest is old enough to help with a lot garden stuff, and the younger ones will follow along.

-Holiday traditions - This is something I'm trying to ferret out - what we traditions we enjoy continuing and what new ones we want to start. We do a pretty big Christmas/holiday season and New Years Day brunch. Halloween is a big deal in our house. We never do much of anything for Independence Day, not sure if we want to change that or just go with the flow each year. Valentine's Day is becoming a bigger day now that the oldest is in preschool, and this year we sent cards to everyone in our life that we care about, not just classmates. Our area is very VERY festive and so there's a lot of traditions we can adopt throughout the year. Almost too many, December here is craaaaazy with the amount of activities we COULD do so we're trying to find a nice balance.

-Riding bikes - Our oldest is now pedaling on two wheels which opens up a lot of possibilities for family bike rides and interesting adventures, either locally or while traveling.

-Kayaking - My spouse and I love kayaking and had taken several big trips before kids so we're looking forward to when our kids our old enough to join in for both day trips and overnights. The area we live is great for kayaking. So much potential!

-Traveling (everywhere!) - We travel a lot, even since having kids. It changes each time our family grows, but we still enjoy it a lot (even though it is A LOT harder. And more expensive.) Once we move beyond naps and tired legs that need strollers we hope to move onto some pretty big adventures like National Parks out west, maybe an RV trip, some backpacking adventures, and more nature-focused trips like Costa Rica or Iceland, and a zillion others. Really the list is endless and I know we'll run out of time for all that we want to do once they're on a school schedule.


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« Reply #9 on: June 16, 2020, 06:12:01 AM »
Volunteer with your kids. Teach them to see the world behind their own backyard and to look beyond their own comforts. We took DD at age 4 to a rural mountain village in China. DH taught at a day camp and DD and I helped with lunch. DD helped wipe tables before and after lunch, “helped” sweep the floor, and spent time with another little village boy while his mom taught at the camp.

It was fun and a valuable lesson in kindness, empathy, and compassion.

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« Reply #10 on: June 16, 2020, 06:54:29 AM »
The camping trips are great !    Some of mine and my siblings best childhood memories were of the times we went on family camping trips or rented lake cabins for summer weekends.

We took our own kids and rented lake cabins in northern Wisconsin on a lake for quite a few summers in a row with several other families.  We parents now are all in our 60's, everyone has become lifelong friends and the grown kids still talk about those trips.   I encourage them to now do the same with their kids and friends.

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« Reply #11 on: June 16, 2020, 08:04:00 AM »
Definitely will echo the people talking about family traditions and time outdoors.  I was lucky in that my dad loved to get outdoors, and cart us along.  After he passed, I realized that the outdoor time was what I really remembered and cherished about our time together.  It's part of what is driving me toward FIRE and and a renewed focus upon outdoor activities for myself and my kids, rather than being stuck in this semi-urban lifestyle I've come to loathe.

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« Reply #12 on: June 16, 2020, 08:49:36 AM »
When they are around elementary school age, look around your region and think about famous historical/tourist attractions.  And go as a family to see them. (Tourist in your own hometown/area) We happen to live in an area that has cool old buildings and museums that folks from around the world come to see (when there aren’t nasty pandemics.) We sort of take them for granted.  And when our kids were in high school and getting busier, it dawned on us that we hadn’t got around to take them to see all the sights.  So we started but a bit too late.  And then poof, off to college and now they’re both working out of state. Our family likes history so it’s a fun thing to do.

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« Reply #13 on: June 16, 2020, 09:25:46 AM »
Teach your kids how to use their hands and basic tools. Help them oil their bike chain and why its important. ParkTools among others has some excellent bicycle maintenance videos on YouTube.

Use their help washing the family dog and family car. Mowing the grass. Why its important. Help them have a better relationship with "work". Take pride in your tasks and your things. They'll last longer.

Perhaps build a few "projects". A scale model car or airplane - and paint it. Hobby Lobby has rotating sales on stuff like that. 

Build a treehouse or teeter-totter. I had a Radio-Shack 180-in-1 electronics kit. Elenco made them. They are still available occasionally used on eBay for ~$20). I credit that toy for kicking off some of my STEM interests.

Another thing would be access to a digital camera (an old phone camera is fine). Help them start a photo album of whatever interests them - nature, toys, action shots of riding their skateboard. Help them build a photo album of family trips. Digikam is a free open-source album software project. It presents, it shares, it edits and it archives digital pictures. Consider how you will archive your pictures b/c if your family is like mine - there will be alot of pictures taken over the next decade or two. We use an NAS. Its older but its been reliable. Two drives for redundancy. Actually now I have two NAS b/c they are cheap used.

Legos. We bought a tub of used Legos locally for $25 once. Washed them in the kitchen sink. Added a few kits over a period of several years. Our kids had a ball with them. It really sparks their imagination.

We traveled some to places but our kids don't remember much before 2nd or 3rd grade. However all those pictures we took are a big deal to them.

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« Reply #14 on: June 16, 2020, 09:28:37 AM »
We've saved the trips to Europe to "soon" so our kids will be old enough to remember them and learn from them. Then the virus came along and I don't know when we'll travel again. So far its been trips to the beach, Chicago, NYC, national parks, national recreation areas and state parks. They'll remember NYC but don't remember Chicago.

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« Reply #15 on: June 16, 2020, 09:45:50 AM »
Find hobbies you can enjoy as a family. Several that we engage in have been suggested, cycling, cooking, gardening, crafting, sewing, woodworking, hiking. These are all things I have done with my child and he likes them. I would say don't get too invested in the idea that the kids are going to stay on task. They may or may not. Mine often wanders off in the middle of a task. That's why it's important that you enjoy the activity as well. And just know that by exposing them to these things you are laying the groundwork for the future. When I was a kid we always had a vegetable garden and my parents would make us help. We complained a lot and probably didn't get much done but now that we are adults 2 out of 3 of us garden pretty much every summer. All of us benefited from helping our parents do projects around the house and having a positive example of self sufficiency.

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« Reply #16 on: June 16, 2020, 10:41:47 AM »
There are three I haven't seen mentioned yet.

1. Season passes. Kiddo and I have a lot of good memories and traditions. The places changed based on the age. When younger we did an arts and crafts type of place. For older kids the zoo, mini golf, go karts, or local amusement parks have been fun. I usually gave these as larger gifts like Christmas or Birthday since there is a cost associated to them.

2. Pets. Kiddo loves animals so anything where we can hang out with animals or pets of our own have created great memories.

3. Businesses. Things like lemonade stands for younger kids. Older kids might like dabbling in pet sitting for neighbors, YouTube channels, Ebay, etc. They probably won't make much but it's been fun doing it together and kiddo loves having some money to put away even if it's just a few bucks.

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« Reply #17 on: June 16, 2020, 11:36:05 AM »
Read aloud! Not just when they are too young to read themselves, but all their lives. A tradition of family read-alouds creates a store of common memories, shared references,  and in-jokes that help build a strong family culture. It's one of the best ways to bring up your kids to become people you enjoy spending time with when they are 12, 16, 20, and beyond. Plus, the choosing of books is an exercise in consideration, compromise, and taking turns.

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« Reply #18 on: June 17, 2020, 03:59:35 PM »
Awesome! I’ve been loving these suggestions! Thank you all for taking the time to post! 🙂

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« Reply #19 on: June 17, 2020, 04:16:57 PM »
I really love the memories of things I did one-on-one with either of my parents! That went a long way towards building relationships that are still strong and positive as individual adults, rather than just Parent and Kid. This even included a small weekend trip a couple times, which was really special. The age gap with my siblings is pretty large, so it meant I could do things like (age 9) nerd out at the history museum reading every sign for three hours when normally my little brothers would only have the patience to be there for 15 minutes. Think about building those separate relationships and memories with each of your kids and leaning into their own interests.

I would also say leaning in to ways to give them responsibility that's a little bit bigger than they've done before. In 5th grade, my cousin and I went to stay with my grandma for a few days and she took us to the grocery store when she picked us up and told us to get all the food we'd need. It was the first time I had to think and plan like that, and we were SO proud when we made frozen pizza and had bought a bagged salad to go with it. We ate more junk food than she would have fed us, but because she had trusted us we stepped up a little bit. Similarly, in high school at one point my mom asked me to plan a day or two of our family vacation. That's not so much a specific thing, but the memories of those times when I did things I didn't know I could really stand out as good parenting.

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« Reply #20 on: June 17, 2020, 04:29:37 PM »
Love that parenting advice @lindy_zag ... hope this thread stays live so I get regular reminders to actually do it.
Thanks for the topic idea @mymatenate !

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« Reply #21 on: June 17, 2020, 04:51:23 PM »
Another thing DD has enjoyed and I think will be memorable just occurred to me.  If you find a few caterpillars in the garden (and can identify the leaf they are on/find more of it) you can raise them to moths/butterflies in a jar with a cloth lid.  Really fun. 

Best to do with multiple caterpillars though.  Last year we found 4 cabbage whites and 3 of them made it to butterflies, DD wasn't too upset about the one that didn't make it.  This year DD just collected one (furry - probably a moth I think).  It lived a couple of weeks (long enough for DD to get quite personally attached, build it a house, a library, various other accessories) but then suddenly died without pupating (possibly too much handling/excitement) ... cue full funeral, much sadness, etc.

I mean, maybe this is a good thing, like having a pet so they learn about loss in a slightly less devastating way ... but even if you decide to go down that road it's worth being prepared for the possible less happy outcomes!  Badger's Parting Gifts, Paper Dolls, Rabittyness and Always & Forever are great books for talking to young children about loss, if it comes to it...

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« Reply #22 on: June 17, 2020, 04:58:44 PM »
Indoor forts made with blankets/sheets...our kids just loved them.  Or also a small tent which you can set up inside--great in the winter time.

A way for kids to slide down the stairs.  Ours just took it upon themselves to use pillows and blankets and figure it out on their own.

A butterfly net.

A sled.  Even if you don't have a hill somewhere close to sled down, you can pull them around on it.

Jars with lids to catch fireflies.  You can also catch all kinds of things and put in the jar with lid.  Put small holes in the lid.

Make snowmen and snow angels.

Get them involved with preparing family meals now.  Watch "Kobe Eats" on Youtube.  Oh, how I wish I had gotten my children more involved with cooking earlier.  My husband also likes to cook outside using Dutch ovens and charcoal.  One of our sons, now grown, still likes to help with that when he's home.

Get them involved with cleaning the family home now.

Start a garden, have them help with seeding, weeding, and watering.

Spend as much time outdoors as you possibly can.

Let them play outside in the rain and jump around in the puddles.  It helps if the puddles are in your driveway and not out in the street. 

Pick a holiday and really do it up.  We love July 4th.  We've always loved it.  We grill, are able to watch town fireworks from our home, use a fire pit for making s'mores, light some fireworks--it's one of the best holidays.  It started when they were young.

I would skip the volunteering as a sports coach.  Probably not worth the headache or time it will take.

Cook with your kids - even at a year old you can stir together. If you don't want their nasty selves in something you're going to eat then make salt dough ornaments or homemade playdough or dog treats. All are edible but not exactly tasty. It's a skill that they'll carry. There's a book called How to Make an Apple Pie and See the World that lends itself to all kinds of activities your 3 year old would enjoy, apple picking, dough making, pie baking. I'm sure there's other books like it out there.

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« Reply #23 on: June 17, 2020, 05:07:21 PM »
I cherish memories from when my kids were about 1 and 3. Their little faces and voices, the way they played. Between sleep issues and the work to care for little kids it was exhausting. But oh so rewarding. At your phase it's more about the little things, well, little to adults, but in reality the most important things: reading together, playing, chasing, tickling, cuddling, making up silly games. In other words, just living life together. Enjoy the moment because before you know it, it will be gone. And consider how blessed you are to be FIRE and have this time together. Take photos, but also get your phone out and take some videos. You'll thank me later when they get older (happens so fast!) and you can watch those videos and hear their voices. Short and simple camping trips are great at this age, so are short nature walks, and playing in pools, and so on.

When my kids were a little older (5-7ish) we did a couple of longer road trips that were hard, but worth it. FIRE means you can go for longer, like 1-2 months. We would mostly camp, which is cheap, and cook food at the campsite like we normally do at home. We strategically mixed in cheap hotel/motel stays, or stays with family, to break up the camping, take showers, do laundry, etc. With a little bit of planning you can cover a large area divided up into shorter drives, with plenty of time to explore each place. We can do a month long trip for about $1000, mostly gas and campground fees. We took lots of pictures/videos that we still look at 3 years later.


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« Reply #24 on: June 17, 2020, 05:10:28 PM »
Once a kid is strong enough (I say around 9 to 10) give them large projects (in both substance and actual size).  My youngest researched and then built a pretty impressive chicken coop (the run was 9 ft by 7ft and 5ft tall).  Letting them plan, swing and hammer and actually build something that significant with their own hands is something many adults don't even experience anymore.  I gave advice and of course had to be the driver to Lowes, but otherwise it was really him.

And then we ended up with chickens of course that he takes care of now...that'll really keep them busy and structured...  I think its pretty critical to have stuff like this that they can do around the house without your help as well, esp. in the Summer when there is way too much free time.
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« Reply #25 on: June 17, 2020, 06:55:50 PM »
As they get older spend time with them individually. You’ll quickly get a sense for their likes and dislikes so you can shape that time.

It’s important to be together as a family and you will be together more often than your not but that one on one time just doing whatever it is - that’s gold.

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« Reply #26 on: June 17, 2020, 08:09:04 PM »
One thing that I think is critical is not to limit their exposure based on things that you like/dislike or things you're good/bad at or things you'd like to do with them. 

My son, now 15, is incredibly capable with his hands.  He loves building things.  I, on the other hand, am completely useless.  But I persevered in helping him explore this capability even though it took me far, far, far out of my own comfort zone. 

My daughter, now 13, is an amazing artist.  I can't draw/paint within the lines/sculpt to save myself.  I find it frustrating and a complete waste of time.  She finds it relaxing and rewarding.  Again, I spent time helping her explore this and it's something that will be a part of her life forever.

Mrs Gremlin and I both hate camping.  Hate it, hate it, hate it.  But we wanted the kids to choose their own passions so we explored that with them.  Turns out they both hate camping too!  So that's a win!!!

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« Reply #27 on: June 17, 2020, 08:40:29 PM »
Sled+snow-tube+figure out where the publicly accessible slope is. Every town has one (else move!).

We have a school with a big slope. Heavy snow = "snow day" = all nearby kids have a huge amount of fun on the slope.

3 is about perfect for that. 1 is a little too small - but he should be ready (under close supervision) by next winter.

Kids growing up without snow-tubing and snow-sledding are missing out on one of the most fun activities possible. Going to the beach is a distant second, IMO.


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« Reply #28 on: June 17, 2020, 09:22:31 PM »
Posting to follow! I have an 8 month old. I work part time so I can be there for the everyday stuff like putting her down for naps, changing her diaper, feeding her, helping her sit and stand for the first time, etc. Everyday stuff but the best stuff.

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« Reply #29 on: June 17, 2020, 09:57:54 PM »
Family traditions are really important, I think. They don't have to be major effort things, just maybe a homemade pinata for every birthday, or a birthday kid's choice of dinners. That sort of thing. Pancakes on a Sunday morning, one present opened on xmas eve, valentines day cards for the kids, Wed night family dinner NO EXCUSES, special outings with each parent like a daddy/daughter day every few months, winter beach picnics with hot chocolate. Those are the things kids remember. What about family meetings? My friend has a big family and they call family meetings about issues. The youngest family member (5) called a family meeting about something that worried her, and everyone in the extended family came when called. She was extremely worried because her older sister was moving away to university and she wanted to know how she was going to call her and stay in touch. The outcome was a phonecard for the wee kid just for calling her sister, and a commitment for a weekly call on a certain evening from big sister. Very cute. You can bet that wee girl feels like she's heard and that her family respects her.

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« Reply #30 on: June 18, 2020, 07:01:36 AM »
One of our unique things is that we enjoy celebrating unusual holidays.  The kids absolutely love it.  For example we celebrate Pi Day every year.  We might have pizza, pot pie, etc., for dinner and always a fun dessert pie.  We also have our own made up holidays and celebrations.  We have a huge fall themed family celebration every October.  It is a lot of work, but it is important to all of us.  The kids have informed me that their kids will also be celebrating this 'holiday'.  This makes me smile.

We go on family adventures to do things that we all like, but I also make sure that we sometimes take individual kids out to a) let them have us to themselves and b) let them do/see things their siblings are less interested in.

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Re: Having fun raising a family. Thoughts/ suggestions?
« Reply #31 on: June 18, 2020, 07:40:34 AM »
Get the kids a refrigerator box. It's a fort. It's a rocket ship. It's a sled.

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Re: Having fun raising a family. Thoughts/ suggestions?
« Reply #32 on: June 18, 2020, 08:52:15 AM »
These ideas may be a bit on the "extreme" end of the spectrum, but nonetheless on my radar:

1) Long-term cruising on a sailboat.  Google "Sailing Totem" for an example.

2) Slow Travel abroad.  Google "Family Adventure Podcast" for a variety of examples.  He hasn't posted a new podcast in about 2 years but lots of food for thought in there.

3) Living abroad for a year.  I really want to do this one since I spent a couple years living in France in high school and college...would give my kids the international experience but also allow me and my wife to live abroad again.  Rural France is what I was thinking before COVID...

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Re: Having fun raising a family. Thoughts/ suggestions?
« Reply #33 on: June 18, 2020, 10:44:25 AM »
Living abroad for a year.  I really want to do this one since I spent a couple years living in France in high school and college...would give my kids the international experience but also allow me and my wife to live abroad again.  Rural France is what I was thinking before COVID...

My family did this twice when I was a kid and my husband and I have done it three times with our kids. (One of the perks of a career in academia: sabbaticals!) Both from the kid side and from the parent side, this is a marvelous experience.

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Re: Having fun raising a family. Thoughts/ suggestions?
« Reply #34 on: June 18, 2020, 11:32:22 AM »
Living abroad for a year.  I really want to do this one since I spent a couple years living in France in high school and college...would give my kids the international experience but also allow me and my wife to live abroad again.  Rural France is what I was thinking before COVID...

My family did this twice when I was a kid and my husband and I have done it three times with our kids. (One of the perks of a career in academia: sabbaticals!) Both from the kid side and from the parent side, this is a marvelous experience.

That's wonderful!  Where did you live when you went abroad?

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Re: Having fun raising a family. Thoughts/ suggestions?
« Reply #35 on: June 18, 2020, 12:17:28 PM »
I agree about camping/time outdoors. Even picnics by the lake or the park is great. Maybe go somewhere in the spring where there are known to be a display of wildflowers. Also water activities like learning how to swim, dive, scuba, snorkel, etc. are fun and safety in the water is a great skill to have in life. Also would suggest building in a routine of short morning/evening walks so they have this ingrained sense that physical activity is normal and even a little bit can be done every day.

Living abroad is a great idea, you could even do it just for a summer and it'd still be a very valuable experience.

Language and exposure to different arts like painting, etc. is always great.

When I have a kid I'd love to involve them in a lot of cooking and baking and different cuisines, whether that's at home or abroad, and some small-scale gardening of edibles. I think too many people think it's sad that kids "don't know where their food comes from" or think food just comes from the grocery store, but they are also the same people who literally do zero things to help kids understand anything differently or much less give them a basic understanding of how cooking works.

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Re: Having fun raising a family. Thoughts/ suggestions?
« Reply #36 on: June 18, 2020, 06:07:39 PM »
Living abroad for a year.  I really want to do this one since I spent a couple years living in France in high school and college...would give my kids the international experience but also allow me and my wife to live abroad again.  Rural France is what I was thinking before COVID...

My family did this twice when I was a kid and my husband and I have done it three times with our kids. (One of the perks of a career in academia: sabbaticals!) Both from the kid side and from the parent side, this is a marvelous experience.

I'm the child of an academic who 'lived abroad' several times. I don't have fond memories of attending six different primary schools, thanks very much.

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Re: Having fun raising a family. Thoughts/ suggestions?
« Reply #37 on: June 19, 2020, 12:26:48 AM »
Make things, fix things, grow things.

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Re: Having fun raising a family. Thoughts/ suggestions?
« Reply #38 on: June 19, 2020, 08:45:30 AM »
Things I remember from my childhood enjoying...boogie boarding,surfing, windsurfing, fishing, homemade play dough. Huge family garden, going to U pick farms, sitting in apple tree eating apples, build a big playhouse with dad outside then have neighbor kids over to play in it, softball team , swim team, swim lessons, tennis lessons (cheap thru community activities at the junior college, Then you can go play tennis there for free too) weekly eat out at Chinese restaurant, visit cousins, card games with grandma   I WISH I would have paid attention to learning how to work on cars. Pets. Catching lizards and keeping for a while in an aquarium and reading about how to take care of them. Going to the zoo. Finding tadpoles and raising frogs. Building a coop and raising chickens for eggs. Wow my childhood sounds fun! It was. Ha ha

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Re: Having fun raising a family. Thoughts/ suggestions?
« Reply #39 on: June 19, 2020, 08:46:58 AM »
I forgot to add walking with my  sister to community college pool in the summer seeing friends there And  swimming

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Re: Having fun raising a family. Thoughts/ suggestions?
« Reply #40 on: June 19, 2020, 02:03:18 PM »
@nancy33 love your list! You did have a great childhood! Do you have kids now?

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Re: Having fun raising a family. Thoughts/ suggestions?
« Reply #41 on: June 20, 2020, 02:37:48 AM »
Also, lie to your kids as often as possible. I told my son that his ears turned green inside if he was naughty. For years, he'd cover his ears if he'd done something particularly bad. I also told him you could change your hair colour by eating vegetables and that cats could actually teleport but they were trying to keep it a secret - this was so he'd leave the cat alone and be really quiet in the hope of busting it teleporting.

 

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