People are hard wired to get a rush from accomplishment. That is why you're playing video games. Shelve the artificial achievement and use those brain chemicals to get some REAL goals met.
I have studied about that subject before. Real life accomplishments require real skills. Video games require real skills too, but they are much easier to acquire.
Troll question, and I doubt you really want help. I think you are bored and looking for attention.
If you had actually READ the rest of my post, that was answered in it.
Sorry if it came off that way. I was asking about your feelings now that you have passed that rather depressing period in your lives.
That is the most dumbest thing I have ever heard. I am seriously wondering if you are a troll. You priotize way too much on what girls think.
More like a logistical obstacle in the dating life, rather than worrying about what some random girl thinks. No house, no fun.
And i do have a plan. Here it is:
1- Complete my CIW course and get the complete certificate.
2- Get an IT job to cover the normal daily expenses and have something to say in my resume [work experience]
2- Hitting the gym
3- Move out
4- Find a related job after finishing the course.
5- Study architecture in my free time
My friends are not a problem, it's our relatives who have a negative influence on my life (gossiping, not minding their own business, talking shit about me etc).
You still don't get it. Your relatives beliefs and feelings about you have ZERO influence on you. Who says you have to care about what they think? How you feel about yourself is 100% within your control. So if you feel like a loser, it's because you've decided that you are loser. This has nothing to do with your relatives. Take responsibility for your own mindset: If you DECIDE to feel like a loser, that's fine. But don't blame other people for that decision; it's 100% yours.
It does influence your self image. True, their opinions don't mean shit. But when the gossiping reinforces and confirms the reality, it has a negative effect on your self image.
Sounds like a guy who has never had an adult relationship, and still thinks about sex like it's the most important aspect of romantic involvement. He's overly generalizing about women because he's never really gotten to know any; all of his attempts at relationships have been cut short (by him) before any real personal knowledge or intimacy could develop.
Intimacy is pointless at this point, especially when you know you don't have the means to sustain a serious relationship. If you don't bail out soon enough, you will have to deal with the eventual heartaches and headaches. Do I enjoy this style? No. I want a stable, intimate relationship too, but now it is not possible.
And he's had everything handed to him all his life, so his only real motivation to get out of mom's basement is the one primal need that isn't being satisfied: sex. For now, at least, loftier goals like independence and self-sufficiency are merely means to that end.
The primal instinct, yeah.
Just be glad that he has *some* motivation to leave the nest. Otherwise, he might stay until that nest is destroyed (mom passes away, or loses her job, or a new step-dad kicks him out). At which point he'd have a very rude awakening, and would probably be in a much worse starting position.
The guy does not live with us, I even called him once to ask what kind of relationship they have, and he was afraid of answering the call. It's not an official affair, they are kinda "seeing each other". My mother does not have total ownership of the house. She has partial ownership.
You responded to a lot of people's posts but ignored this one:
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- See girls as people
- See hot girls as people
- See other people as people, and not just NPCs in your video game
- Talk to people
Yes, I will be ignoring such posts.
No you don't. One of he first steps to making progress in this situation is being honest to yourself and others about your situation. To first fix a problem you must acknowledge the problem, not deny its existence.
I'm honest with myself, but I don't feel it is necessesary to expose my weaknesses to others.
You have no right to judge your mother on how she grieves when she is the one that has been providing for you while you've been a bum.
As I said i pay for the food and bills (from my monthly insurance money). I didn't judge, I just said no worries, the absence of my father is not giving her nightmares as she replaced him after a month.
I hope for his sake he does have the motivation, but words and actions are two different things. He can "wish" to have his own place and there is nothing wrong about it, but he needs to learn first and foremost that in order to do that, he has to start handing his resumé NOW, not maybe tomorrow. It has to be any job at this point or he can go back to school using the 40K$ inheritance to get him started if he wants to...anything but staying at home and playing videogames all day long. I was also pointing out how his views about living with his mom feels like the worst thing in life which in my mind is wrong, he has to realize that by staying at home, it will save him alot of money and with work, he can accumulate income faster meaning that his wish of living on his own would be easily achievable down the road. But he can't do that right now, he is in the worst possible situation financially. If he uses up his 40K$ to move out with no job, the end result will be the same as the beginning, he will go back to living with his mom in a couple of years.
Yes, giving up on that one. Your worst case scenario could come true If I move out without working on my general perspective about my life and attitude first.