I realize now what a piece of work my first post is to read. I wrote it on my phone and didn't realize how bad it was until after it was posted. My apologies.
Thank you all for replying and especially drunkenNoodles for making me feel more calm than I have in days. The accident happened last year and I spent a week in an African hospital and was later taken care of in Scandinavia where I live. I didn't have a concussion of some sort and what I experienced was post traumatic stress which I still experience to this day.
Entering my new job with these new experiences of anxiety caused moderate stress triggers to be those of extreme. I did function very well but burned out. I now feel like I have almost reached the "top", but wonder if it's the job I have to let go or if I can work on myself and get through it while working, and eventually start to love my work again.
I have seen a psychologist with little improvement and my doctor at several occasions.
I would definitely find a new psychologist in the new city where I start my job, as I heard the first one might not be the winner!
I have though over the year made great improvements on the accident-related anxiety. I used to think about the accident at least every half hour for almost a year straight. I also got rid of daily panick attacks and a lot of social anxiety that surfaced after the accident. All this time while working I was, and still am, unsure if it was my accident or also my job, or both that have caused me anxiety.
Revisiting and driving through the accident intersection as well as the hospital as well as exposing myself to other things that made me death scared really helped!
My doctor and I agreed that medication was not the solution, thus far, and that these things pass with time. I have seen friends being numbed and gotten "stuck" with anxiety medications and antidepressants which has made me apprehensive. I believe these medications have their place, but I think and hope I can move through this towards my normal self without them.
The new job is good. It's around 20-25 set hours at the job, and then whatever comes up.. (And there's always something coming up) I have had this job for a year and can do it effectively if I can get myself straight.
- I invest 20000 dollars into the business + loans of 25000(which is paid monthly by the business)
- The set pay is around 45000 USD per year before taxes, I also as the manager get 15% of the yearly result in bonus. Despite being a mustachian, I realize it's not smart to pick a job based solely on income.
- As a 60% owner I would also get 60% of the yearly results. It's hard to say definitely what these will be, we think anything from 10k to 100k the first years, but as with any business there is still a risk.
- I hope that a new environment, new challenges will do me good. I now know this is a marathon and not a sprint.
- I have worked for this opportunity for a long time, but as the startup got closer I got more tired and burned out by working as well as going back and forth and back and forth with this decision. Not taking it would make me feel like I have "wasted" years of work.
- As the business gets solid I would be able to hire a new manager and follow up this young man or woman, reducing my work load.
- I love this work, or at least I used to. The question is if I will again
BUT:
- It doesn't feel good.
- I'm worrying for my mental health.
- I'm afraid I have spoiled this line of work by working too hard and attaching bad emotions to it. My tolerance for "rushes" in the store has gone way way way down, and this is the part where any hope and positivity get smashed. I used to have 60 great work days in a row and now they are seldom. Has anyone gotten over this by working less over time or taking a time out? I want to find out if I really have grown to dislike my job or if I'm burned out.
- I'm also worrying that doing anything else will have me feeling just the same, or worse. I won't know for sure if it's "me or my job", until I quit.
- I'm obviously a privileged cry baby.
I also wonder if this is how one feels when contemplating divorce. Haha.
The store opening is set to September, and I wonder if I quit my current job as soon as possible and take it easy until then if it will do the trick. From there try not to go "extreme mode" as I tend to do with projects. Has anyone gone through with similar decisions? At this point I might flip a coin! Sorry for all the nagging and I hope this was easier on the eyes.
Sincerely, Young&ConfusedStache