Can you share more details about how your Executive Director reacted when she found out you gave notice? The story doesn't need it...I'm just a nosy Nellie!
I'd like to know as well.
Great job.
Thanks y’all!
She wasn’t used to people telling her no, so when I refused her kind offer of doing two jobs for the pay of one, she threatened me and left to go to a meeting with the other top brass in the organization. I emailed the other top brass my two weeks notice, so they got it while in that meeting (and I know HR was checking email) so the whole meeting got my message and my explanation of why I was leaving. This meant she had 100% turnover in a year. She came back and slammed her office door. She spent the next two weeks not speaking to me, and leaving me out of office activities. I kid you not, she called her administration assistant and my outgoing supervisor into an office and slammed the door in my face. I heard them giggling behind the door.
I documented everything, the anti-Catholic bigotry, the bullying, name-calling, vulgarity (she called other women cooters), the retaliation, and the overall office environment she created and encouraged (my supervisor was fond of screaming about Goddamn straight white men and there Goddamn penisis, but she was another nightmare altogether. Screaming at me in front of colleagues, public tantrums, insulting project manager’s projects, slamming things on her desk, and lying). Everyone on campus had a story about this woman and everyone knew how she got her first admin assistant fired (and then laughed when she heard the woman was driving Uber to make ends meet. I really can’t get over that). While I was documenting stuff, I also told all my fellow Catholics, and all the other religious minority colleagues, about her comments. Her job strongly relies on having good relationships with colleagues and the community. Several people stopped volunteering at her events. Partly because she was fond of screaming fits, partly because who wants to work with a bigot?
I have it on good authority that HR and the College President were not happy about her behavior and some disciplinary action was taken. She’s still working there. She said she hated it multiple times, but whenever she came into the deli where I worked she made a point to wear brand new Lily Pulitzer. And to be rude to other customers. Who are often very wealthy and influential people in the community.
And that’s why I left before I found a full time job.
Just an update on how things turned out.
I am now working full time at the library and have been since March of 2020. The pay isn't much, but my coworkers are kind and respectful, and I genuinely like them as people. My leadership is the same, and has taken every opportunity to be supportive. I produced a series of video recordings featuring leaders of different religions that was one of our most popular programs during 2020. I consider it a highlight of my career. I've since produced several book talks, my most recent one being on books about the Holy Land. I partnered with a Jewish coworker who had visited the Holy Land and could offer a second perspective. That turned out really well and I'm pretty proud of that project.
Like I said, the pay isn't much, so I got a housemate. This saved me more than $500 a month, which I tossed in my Roth IRA. I fully funded that last year. My housemate is a lovely human, and I'm really glad I got to know her better. She's getting married in Feb. and I'm invited to the wedding.
I started a side hustle offering writing/editing services. I love it, and it brings in some extra money. I'm hoping that when I am ready to move on, I'll be able to use that to segue into a higher paying job, perhaps in technical writing.
My savings/investments total over $120,000. I'm proud of that.
The ED I used to work for was recently managed out. I have to admit, it is cathartic to know someone realized her behavior was inappropriate and disgusting. I've spent years trying to forgive both of those women. It's an uphill battle.
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