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« Reply #2100 on: December 19, 2017, 03:35:36 PM »
So, I have an amusing story from when I was a kid.  It's not based on FU money, but it bears telling because it's about having the power to walk.

At the time I'm 17, and I'm working as a dishwasher/busboy at a busy restaurant in my home town.  I'm toiling along, one with the dishwashing machine, when I remember to schedule myself off for a week the next month. 

On the schedule I black out my time as unavailable, because I was going to the beach for a week with friends.  I didn't think anything else of it because it was pretty far away and others would want the shifts anyway.

So the night before the trip I'm halfway through the dinner shift and talking with my manager.  He mentions something about tomorrow and I say "Oh, I'm out of town.  I'll be at the beach all week."  He says: "Oh, I'm sorry, I can't give you off, I need you next week."  I say:  "You are misunderstanding me, I won't be here next week, no matter what."  He says: "You are working next week or you're fired."

No more talking, just walked out the door.  I'm outside getting into my car when I see the other dishwasher dude coming out.  He says "If you quit, I quit."  LMAO so now they are in a dinner rush and have no one working the machine.  I can't even imagine the firestorm back there all night.

Moral of the story:  17 year old kids who still live at home and have plans to go to the beach don't need your dumb minimum wage job.  :)

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« Reply #2101 on: December 19, 2017, 07:27:52 PM »
I manage a crew of teenagers on our farm all summer.  Usually we have hard working kids who enjoy that our job would totally be cool with you missing time for vacations, dentist appointments, camps, etc.  Last summer one kid had a mom who let him do a little too much of whatever he wanted.  He would slack at work, and I would point out that working and money is better than working and no money, and what would your parents say? (because my parents would have kicked my butt for this type of thing, and grounded me, and shamed me, and taught me why it's good to have a work ethic by giving me a dozen chores every day for the rest of the summer....context)  He was like "my mom would be mad, but she'd get over it, and I'd get to sleep in".  Um, wow.  So your story reminded me of the teenager without strong enough parenting at home who was about to walk off the job because it was hot, and I was making him actually work while at work.  Also, he had to stay until 5 even though that would make him late to his random get together volleyball game.  Some teenagers have so much power.

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« Reply #2102 on: December 20, 2017, 02:07:02 AM »
I manage a crew of teenagers on our farm all summer.  Usually we have hard working kids who enjoy that our job would totally be cool with you missing time for vacations, dentist appointments, camps, etc.  Last summer one kid had a mom who let him do a little too much of whatever he wanted.  He would slack at work, and I would point out that working and money is better than working and no money, and what would your parents say? (because my parents would have kicked my butt for this type of thing, and grounded me, and shamed me, and taught me why it's good to have a work ethic by giving me a dozen chores every day for the rest of the summer....context)  He was like "my mom would be mad, but she'd get over it, and I'd get to sleep in".  Um, wow.  So your story reminded me of the teenager without strong enough parenting at home who was about to walk off the job because it was hot, and I was making him actually work while at work.  Also, he had to stay until 5 even though that would make him late to his random get together volleyball game.  Some teenagers have so much power.

Yeah.  Except rementis was a responsible teenager and blocked off his time off a calendar month in advance.  And his boss' response when he mentioned it a day prior was an ultimatum.  Rementis' story reminds me of a lot of bosses who are too lazy to do their due diligence as adults and plan ahead when confronted with information. He instead defaulted to childish bullying in lieu of accepting responsibility for his error and finding a legit solution.  And thereby caused an employee to take a knee jerk response to walk off the job along with a co-worker.

Can teenagers be lazy motherfuckers?  Absolutely!  But part of a manager's job is to know their employees.  Part of that is knowing what decisions a teenager is likely to make.  And surprise!  It's not necessarily going to be whatever values the manager's parents inculcated in them. 
« Last Edit: December 20, 2017, 04:37:06 AM by EricL »

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« Reply #2103 on: December 20, 2017, 06:20:57 AM »
I was thinking the same thing as EricL - those two situations sound vastly different! I likely would have done the same thing had I done the responsible thing and blocked my time a month in advance!

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« Reply #2104 on: December 20, 2017, 07:50:27 AM »
That story reminds me of a story of my ex. When he was going to community college he worked as a prep cook at a very busy restaurant. He busted his butt, but noticed because he was cheerful and joking while he did his work, management felt like he wasn't working as hard as the main cook (who scowled and bitched all the time) and rode him. But the people who worked in the kitchen knew who was doing the work because they saw it (sous chef, diswashers, busers). I can't remember the exact reason why this happened, but he was given an ultimatum or that he would be fired. He thought for a few seconds and instead took off his apron and gave it to the manager and said, no I quit. He rides his bike home, wondering how he is going to tell his parents that he no longer has a job. The doorbell rings, and 3 other people from the kitchen are at the door, saying what he did was awesome, and that they all quit too! It was during the dinner rush.

I guess the morale of the story, is if you are going to be an *sshole manager, you need to accept the consequences when you push people too far. 

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« Reply #2105 on: December 20, 2017, 01:15:18 PM »
That story reminds me of a story of my ex. When he was going to community college he worked as a prep cook at a very busy restaurant. He busted his butt, but noticed because he was cheerful and joking while he did his work, management felt like he wasn't working as hard as the main cook (who scowled and bitched all the time) and rode him. But the people who worked in the kitchen knew who was doing the work because they saw it (sous chef, diswashers, busers). I can't remember the exact reason why this happened, but he was given an ultimatum or that he would be fired. He thought for a few seconds and instead took off his apron and gave it to the manager and said, no I quit. He rides his bike home, wondering how he is going to tell his parents that he no longer has a job. The doorbell rings, and 3 other people from the kitchen are at the door, saying what he did was awesome, and that they all quit too! It was during the dinner rush.

I guess the morale of the story, is if you are going to be an *sshole manager, you need to accept the consequences when you push people too far.
Yep!

I admit, that I can be rather surly at times.  This was true as a teen.

When I was in college, I was on work-study the first year or two, working the campus pizza joint.  First making pizza, then moved to the cashier position, because I was dating another pizza maker. Whatever.  Then I started dating another cashier.  Ha.  Showed that manager.

Anyway, the problem with being the cashier is that I didn't really like to take any crap.  And at an expensive private college, a lot of silver spoon kids gave me crap.  So I gave them crap right back.  (Things like just being snotty, or asking for something on the menu.  The man in charge of the kitchen would not make something if it wasn't on the menu.  He was not a college student, this was his FT job.  Or asking for the Monday special on Weds.  Again, it's not going to happen.)

My manager would lecture me on my attitude.  I just shrugged and said "sorry, but they are jerks, and I'm going to be jerks right back".

So here's the thing:
1.  I was one of the few cashiers whose drawer always balanced out at the end of the shift.
2.  I always picked up extra shifts.  Every. Single. Sunday., I would get a phone call at 2pm to come in early, when my shift started at 4 pm.  Because the woman (also not a student, this was her job) who was on shift at 2 pm never showed up until around 5 pm.  I was reliable, if reliably cranky.  The only time I said no was during finals when the manager actually called around to the various computer clusters to find me.
3.  I had to deal with a lot of sexual harassment from students at that job.  Customers.  Screw that.

In the end, I worked there 1.5 years to 2 years (can't remember which). Eventually, sophomore/ junior year I was on ROTC scholarship and my engineering load was hard enough I couldn't swing a PT job anymore.

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« Reply #2106 on: December 20, 2017, 08:40:45 PM »
And the amazing thing is that, teenagers being who they are, even if they have something at stake like car payments, romantic involvement or disciplinarian parents to worry about, there's a chance they'll say fuck it anyway.  In America we treat teens as guilty until proven 21.  So even teens that are trustworthy would just as soon be hung for being a wolf as for being a sheep. 

That's all I got on that.  Amazingly, I may have an FU story of my own in a week or so.  Certain things need to pan out first though.

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« Reply #2107 on: December 21, 2017, 01:32:07 PM »
My experience from jobs as a teenager is that managers think they can get away with everything when it's them vs. a 16 year old. Some really enjoy that power trip. I know I pushed back a few times against that kind of shit and I would definitely support my (hypothetical) kid if they stood up for themselves. My parents never cared much about what I did either way, but my s/o worked in a grocery store where he was treated very badly and his parents really tried to get him to submit to that abuse.

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« Reply #2108 on: December 21, 2017, 03:12:51 PM »
Well, MMM community, yesterday was my last day, which makes today my first day officially off!  YES! It feels great!   I woke up happy for the first time in a months.  My spouse was happy because I am already moving back to the old me and the kids are happy knowing that their parent is going to have more time for them.

A toxic, really super shitty coworker (and her just as awful family) was enough to get me to use FU money and walk away from a job that I used to love and that I'm genuinely good at.  It was affecting my stress levels and mood while at work and those feelings had even moved outside of normal work hours.  And yet, I stayed.  However, once my kids were being picked on at school by her kid and it wasn't resolving itself within a reasonable amount of time, that was the end of that!  I put my family's health and well-being first!

Interestingly, there were so many complaints from clientele about her (and really some laughable insane stories of her behavior) and yet nothing appeared to be done about it. I thought for sure the people in charge would see the toxicity and let her go, but so far she's only had meetings and been talked to.  I wondered why in the hell am I bothering with this insanity?  Why am I forcing myself to have to interact with someone so damn unhealthy and genuinely cruel to others?  And once that clicked in, I gave notice.  People close to me know that my resignation is a form of meaningful protest.  I don't have to stand idly by and be a part of a community that allows her to hurt others and so starting today, I DIDN'T. 
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« Reply #2109 on: December 21, 2017, 03:16:51 PM »
@Secretly Saving - hallelujah and congratulations! This is great to read.

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« Reply #2110 on: December 21, 2017, 03:58:48 PM »
@Secretly Saving - Fantastic!!!!!

You need to post some of those stories over in the Overheard at Work thread (when you are ready) so that it can be shared and laughed about.  I'm sure some of its pretty funny in a sad way.  The Ask A Manager forum is full of stories of the crazies and that helped me through my last shitty job / job transition.

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« Reply #2111 on: December 22, 2017, 11:20:33 AM »
Well, MMM community, yesterday was my last day, which makes today my first day officially off!  YES! It feels great!   I woke up happy for the first time in a months.  My spouse was happy because I am already moving back to the old me and the kids are happy knowing that their parent is going to have more time for them.

A toxic, really super shitty coworker (and her just as awful family) was enough to get me to use FU money and walk away from a job that I used to love and that I'm genuinely good at.  It was affecting my stress levels and mood while at work and those feelings had even moved outside of normal work hours.  And yet, I stayed.  However, once my kids were being picked on at school by her kid and it wasn't resolving itself within a reasonable amount of time, that was the end of that!  I put my family's health and well-being first!

Interestingly, there were so many complaints from clientele about her (and really some laughable insane stories of her behavior) and yet nothing appeared to be done about it. I thought for sure the people in charge would see the toxicity and let her go, but so far she's only had meetings and been talked to.  I wondered why in the hell am I bothering with this insanity?  Why am I forcing myself to have to interact with someone so damn unhealthy and genuinely cruel to others?  And once that clicked in, I gave notice.  People close to me know that my resignation is a form of meaningful protest.  I don't have to stand idly by and be a part of a community that allows her to hurt others and so starting today, I DIDN'T.

Good for you, Secretly Saving! I swear I could have written parts of this word for word myself, except that I don't have kids. It is maddening when a toxic coworker's behavior is not effectively addressed -- or even acknowledged -- in the workplace, especially when it's affecting more than one person. I am glad for you that you had FU money to get yourself out of there.

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« Reply #2112 on: December 22, 2017, 11:34:57 AM »

OT hours...  I repeatedly get the spiel that we can't get more resources and must not be overloaded if we are only working 45 - 50 hours (I average 42).  Strange, but we don't get a dime for anything past 40.


I always zone out when I hear it.  I'm pretty blunt in my response to it though.  'Well, I guess we probably won't be getting a lot of things done then...' or 'Looks like we'll get further behind...'

Not really caring if you lose your job right then and there is a fantastic feeling.

I don't doubt I've frustrated the heck out of my managers.   But I'm still here....42 hours a week.

Others can only take advantage of you if you first give them your permission.  Its been a few years since I've done that.


Lol sound very familiar ; )

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« Reply #2113 on: December 23, 2017, 06:38:54 PM »
I got a private message that my original post at times, didn't make sense. I wish I could use alcohol as an excuse but can't. I rewrote it, this is the best I can do:


From all indications, son is a very good worker. Kind of like his Dad, can do it all, except Dad cannot work on computers.

Let me see if I can put this in order:
1. Son worked in IT at a hospital. Over the last 10 years, this particular Ďhospital groupí started springing up all over town, they seemed to be really growing.
2. There seem to be a lot of hospitals in this area that now have the colors of this group.
3. Son got a new boss. I could tell it was not a good match right from the beginning.
4. Several of the vendors of the IT dept wanted to hire son but whenever they talked to sonís boss about it, they were told if they did, they would never be a vendor of this hospital group again. So of course, they did not. I canít remember the exact words, but sonís boss told him he wouldnít work anywhere else (he must really be good at what he does!)
5. In the meantime, this hospital group bought an independent hospital, proceeding with plans to change it, partly in its IT dept, so son worked over there a lot. So son was in their computer as an employee of the same company that purchased them.
6. I donít know who brought it to the FTCís attention, but the hospital group went all the way to the Supreme Court on appeal (who declined to hear the takeover case) and then started making plans to divest the hospital. The FTC said the takeover would give the hospital group too much power, mostly in raising prices.  FTC  appointed a third-party monitor to oversee the divestiture.
7. Like I said, son was in the system as the hospital groupís employee, so he went over to work at the hospital that was once again gaining its independence. Seems like there were several people in the IT dept that son used to work with so he got all the references he needed.
8. I know quite a few nurses who work at that hospital and they all love it there. They have been there 25 Ė 35 years!
Bye Bye, old boss!
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« Reply #2114 on: December 24, 2017, 02:16:16 PM »
I'm not exactly sure if this fits here, but his stash would have been used if necessary (he gave me permission to add this, because he said it's public knowledge)
My son worked in the IT department of a hospital, part of a company that owns a lot of hospitals and medical stuff around here and keeps buying more. He knows his networking stuff, and I know he's an excellent worker, so is valuable, especially with all the buildings they're buying that need to be 'networked.'

He got a new boss and he came to the realization that he did not care to work for him. A couple of the vendors that came in were interested in hiring son, but he 'heard' that they were told if they take him, the company would no longer be needing them. So he stayed.

A few years ago (maybe 6-7-8?) that company bought an independent hospital and they were working on bringing it up to their level of computer/networking/ some other computer word.

The beginning of 2017 the FTA  said nope, it will give them too much power to raise prices, and the Supreme Court agreed, the process was started to make that lone hospital independent again. It was supposedly the first hospital that they had 'broken up.'

The files they had still had old files, so my son was still in the system. There were a lot of people over there that had left too, gave him glowing reports, so he now works for the newly independent hospital, as their network guy.

We've taught our kids, you play by the rules, but if there's a problem, find ways to work within them to get what you need.

I know people who have worked at that hospital for 15-20-25 years and love their jobs.

Good for your son!  Sounds like he had to weather the storm, but is now sailing with clear skies.  When you love your job, it really shows in the work you do.  I'm guessing he is a SWAMI =)

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« Reply #2115 on: December 24, 2017, 05:07:25 PM »
I was thinking the same thing as EricL - those two situations sound vastly different! I likely would have done the same thing had I done the responsible thing and blocked my time a month in advance!

Same - and actually my son has had something similar happen to him. He works for the same company in his university town and our hometown, and the university manager has accidentally scheduled him several times when he's in hometown for holidays. The manager has called him at shift start and apologizes right away, but it's still awkward. Today (in town for the holiday), my son was debating whether he should somehow remind his away manager he's not available. He decided it's ultimately not his responsibility once he's submitted his hours and the schedule has been posted, and that a reminder may be interpreted negatively by his manager.


I don't have any FU money stories but I love this thread. I've had more than a few I Will Hold To What I Think Is Right situations at work, though. The most recent was arguing a policy about on call shifts. The upshot is that call shifts started at 3pm and we were expected to call in by 1pm to see if we were needed at 3pm. In my mind this meant we really were on call by 2:15pm as we're required to be within 45 minutes of the workplace. This seemed obvious to me, especially from an hourly employee perspective, but it was quite a dramatic reaction from my supervisor and management and hadn't been questioned in 20+ years. I won.

I've had other situations like that over the years, some more dramatic and led to the firing of people above me in the management chain. It helps that, even though I don't make a lot of money, I know my skill set and personality are valuable in my local job market. Or maybe because I don't make a lot of money I know I can always get another $15/hr job. Professionally-licensed staff don't have quite the same flexibility ;)

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« Reply #2116 on: December 25, 2017, 02:19:59 PM »
I am asking for a sabbatical in the end of february with start in August. About a year ago I had pretty much enough of my manager that gave me a shit rise of salary. The manager that hired me quit after four months and one of my coworkers becomes the manager after a six months hiring process and delat with it a way tha I didnít like.. I was pissed off for 2 weeks after that but had bought a new apartment and lived in it for 2 weeks so I was not prepared to relocate to another city. After being pissed off I decided to save money for a sabbatical and let him deal with finding a replacement. He lost me there and have continued doing it with the next discussion about salaries and recent micromanaging. I absolutely hate micromanaging. Thereafter I have been doing my job but in relation to him nothing extra.

 Here the company have to allow you to take a sabbatical for studying. They can postpone it for 6 months hence the 6 months notice. And I dont want to live my clients or colleagues in a lurch as I like most of them. I will probably take some online courses at university or at least sign up for them to keep my social security. I am planning to come back in june next year which will make him jump of joy because I work in consulting with a fixed salary. Summertime can be really slow in the job especially if you havenít set up work for summer. When I get back from the sabbatical I am planning to start looking for a new job so I am not planning to stay there longterm. I actually applied for two other positions before Christmas because they sounded interesting and was for an interview for the other. As I havenít heard back I guess I didnít get it so I am back to plan for a sabbatical.

Funny thing is that I am heading one of Three development groups within the company and the two other  leaders have left the position for different reasons. I let it slip to one of the members that I was the only original left and WHO know when he needed to replace me. It got totally silent in the phone and he said that it sounded worrisome and hope that I didnít have something planned. I had to lie that I didnít. Interesting enough in a meeting with the groups he had made a comment about how he had the confidence in my ability to head to group etc..

So fuck you money is nice to have. If my company doesnít approve of the leave I am starting to look for something else immediately.

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« Reply #2117 on: December 27, 2017, 01:32:11 AM »
I had a truck delivery to France, they called that it was very very extremely urgent, I should not stop because the entire factory was waiting for it and they needed it today! I said I expect to be there at 18:00, We will be waiting for you after closing hours 17:00 because we really need it before tomorrow

So I drive immidiatly to them, and when I arrived at the gate, it was closed.  I called the office, and this france lady said every one was at home and I could unload it the next day. Bud you told us it was very urgent I asked, and I stayed polite. You can unload it tomorrow at 08:30 when the company is open.

I had to sleep in my truck at the gate from 18:00 to next day 08:30.

They next morning they unloaded it and there was no urgentsy.

And a couple weeks later, they also called they needed it very urgent. Really urgent this time it's real! We really need it today!, it can't wait until tomorrow. We will defitnly wait for you until you arive after closing hours. Other frights get reschudeled that is a lot of work/phone calls and other drivers have to do more loads and drive extra.
So I drive to them with a lot of haste. And when I arrive it's closed again, and the same lady tells me I can sleep here and unload tomorrow at 08:30.
This happened a third time.

And after the third time, my boss was really pissed off, because he had to priorize this fright before others and make a lot of calls. And I had to sleep in my truck again. So I backed my truck up to the front gate , and activated my tipper and unloaded it all at there front gate.

I wish I could see there faces when they arrived at there work the next morning. My boss did not do business with them afterwards and he supported what I did:P.

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« Reply #2118 on: December 27, 2017, 08:34:38 AM »
And after the third time, my boss was really pissed off, because he had to priorize this fright before others and make a lot of calls. And I had to sleep in my truck again. So I backed my truck up to the front gate , and activated my tipper and unloaded it all at there front gate.

I wish I could see there faces when they arrived at there work the next morning. My boss did not do business with them afterwards and he supported what I did:P.

This is one of the best stories in this thread. I really hate customers that pretend their order is very urgent, so we make all kinds of special arrangements, only to find out it wasn't urgent after all.

To expect someone to sleep in their truck 3(!) times, is just so rude, they deserve this kind of delivery. Luckily your boss felt the same.

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« Reply #2119 on: December 27, 2017, 08:40:46 AM »
And after the third time, my boss was really pissed off, because he had to priorize this fright before others and make a lot of calls. And I had to sleep in my truck again. So I backed my truck up to the front gate , and activated my tipper and unloaded it all at there front gate.

I wish I could see there faces when they arrived at there work the next morning. My boss did not do business with them afterwards and he supported what I did:P.

This is one of the best stories in this thread. I really hate customers that pretend their order is very urgent, so we make all kinds of special arrangements, only to find out it wasn't urgent after all.

To expect someone to sleep in their truck 3(!) times, is just so rude, they deserve this kind of delivery. Luckily your boss felt the same.

Yes! 3 times, that is nuts.

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« Reply #2120 on: December 27, 2017, 10:07:38 AM »
Based on my experience with Indian companies, you should be able to buy lots of beer with your consulting fees.

Tata for now.

Hahaha ... good one!

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« Reply #2121 on: December 27, 2017, 10:22:08 AM »
My DH was offered a job once and before he accepted, he negotiated leave without pay for a dream vacation we had already scheduled and booked for a couple of months after his start date. This trip took a lot of planning time and also involved some nonrefundable costs.

As the time got closer, his new boss said there was no way he would be able to go on the trip. DH remained calm, replied something noncommittal, and talked to me about it that night. We decided that he was going to tell his boss the next day, you gave your word before I started and there is no negotiation here. I'm taking this trip. (We had a 6 month emergency fund in addition to our trip fund, so decided we didn't care if DH got fired.)

DH delivered the line, boss was shocked, we took the trip, and nobody got fired or quit.

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« Reply #2122 on: December 28, 2017, 10:19:33 AM »
My DH was offered a job once and before he accepted, he negotiated leave without pay for a dream vacation we had already scheduled and booked for a couple of months after his start date. This trip took a lot of planning time and also involved some nonrefundable costs.

As the time got closer, his new boss said there was no way he would be able to go on the trip. DH remained calm, replied something noncommittal, and talked to me about it that night. We decided that he was going to tell his boss the next day, you gave your word before I started and there is no negotiation here. I'm taking this trip. (We had a 6 month emergency fund in addition to our trip fund, so decided we didn't care if DH got fired.)

DH delivered the line, boss was shocked, we took the trip, and nobody got fired or quit.

It's so important to hold employers & managers accountable for their promises. Good for you.

I'd also recommend getting things like this in writing before you sign that job offer on the dotted line. Even an email exchange creates a paper trail.

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« Reply #2123 on: December 28, 2017, 10:55:34 AM »
My DH was offered a job once and before he accepted, he negotiated leave without pay for a dream vacation we had already scheduled and booked for a couple of months after his start date. This trip took a lot of planning time and also involved some nonrefundable costs.

As the time got closer, his new boss said there was no way he would be able to go on the trip. DH remained calm, replied something noncommittal, and talked to me about it that night. We decided that he was going to tell his boss the next day, you gave your word before I started and there is no negotiation here. I'm taking this trip. (We had a 6 month emergency fund in addition to our trip fund, so decided we didn't care if DH got fired.)

DH delivered the line, boss was shocked, we took the trip, and nobody got fired or quit.
Wow, that is fantastic.  My girlfriend did something similar a few years ago when she needed to get time off for an event she needed to go to for her side gig, and the boss said the policy was no time off for that month (November in what was basically retail, so I get it).  After they said no, she basically said fine, the day before that will be my last day.  And that's what led to her side gig becoming her only gig (and it's since grown nicely).

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« Reply #2124 on: December 28, 2017, 01:14:01 PM »
My DH was offered a job once and before he accepted, he negotiated leave without pay for a dream vacation we had already scheduled and booked for a couple of months after his start date. This trip took a lot of planning time and also involved some nonrefundable costs.

As the time got closer, his new boss said there was no way he would be able to go on the trip. DH remained calm, replied something noncommittal, and talked to me about it that night. We decided that he was going to tell his boss the next day, you gave your word before I started and there is no negotiation here. I'm taking this trip. (We had a 6 month emergency fund in addition to our trip fund, so decided we didn't care if DH got fired.)

DH delivered the line, boss was shocked, we took the trip, and nobody got fired or quit.

I'm curious if the manager turned out to be psycho or just oblivious?

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« Reply #2125 on: December 28, 2017, 01:30:30 PM »
My DH was offered a job once and before he accepted, he negotiated leave without pay for a dream vacation we had already scheduled and booked for a couple of months after his start date. This trip took a lot of planning time and also involved some nonrefundable costs.

As the time got closer, his new boss said there was no way he would be able to go on the trip. DH remained calm, replied something noncommittal, and talked to me about it that night. We decided that he was going to tell his boss the next day, you gave your word before I started and there is no negotiation here. I'm taking this trip. (We had a 6 month emergency fund in addition to our trip fund, so decided we didn't care if DH got fired.)

DH delivered the line, boss was shocked, we took the trip, and nobody got fired or quit.

I'm curious if the manager turned out to be psycho or just oblivious?

He was a bit of a psycho, but also a good guy who was new to managing and just hadn't quite figured out boundaries yet. He was actually pretty fun (see also psycho, lol) and we ended up becoming friends with him.

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« Reply #2126 on: December 28, 2017, 02:35:16 PM »
My DH was offered a job once and before he accepted, he negotiated leave without pay for a dream vacation we had already scheduled and booked for a couple of months after his start date. This trip took a lot of planning time and also involved some nonrefundable costs.

As the time got closer, his new boss said there was no way he would be able to go on the trip. DH remained calm, replied something noncommittal, and talked to me about it that night. We decided that he was going to tell his boss the next day, you gave your word before I started and there is no negotiation here. I'm taking this trip. (We had a 6 month emergency fund in addition to our trip fund, so decided we didn't care if DH got fired.)

DH delivered the line, boss was shocked, we took the trip, and nobody got fired or quit.

I'm curious if the manager turned out to be psycho or just oblivious?

He was a bit of a psycho, but also a good guy who was new to managing and just hadn't quite figured out boundaries yet. He was actually pretty fun (see also psycho, lol) and we ended up becoming friends with him.
In my experience, most "emergencies" at work are purely in the mind of some manager. I can't count the number of times I've heard "This has to be done today" and then it wasn't actally needed until weeks later.

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« Reply #2127 on: December 28, 2017, 03:31:53 PM »
He was a bit of a psycho, but also a good guy who was new to managing and just hadn't quite figured out boundaries yet. He was actually pretty fun (see also psycho, lol) and we ended up becoming friends with him.

Definitely not a psycho in the sense I meant, then.  Sounds like he was a bit out of his depth and finding his feet --but ultimately educable.  Great outcome for everyone.

Thanks for replying back.

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« Reply #2128 on: December 28, 2017, 03:46:41 PM »
I had a truck delivery to France, they called that it was very very extremely urgent, I should not stop because the entire factory was waiting for it and they needed it today! I said I expect to be there at 18:00, We will be waiting for you after closing hours 17:00 because we really need it before tomorrow

So I drive immidiatly to them, and when I arrived at the gate, it was closed.  I called the office, and this france lady said every one was at home and I could unload it the next day. Bud you told us it was very urgent I asked, and I stayed polite. You can unload it tomorrow at 08:30 when the company is open.

I had to sleep in my truck at the gate from 18:00 to next day 08:30.

They next morning they unloaded it and there was no urgentsy.

And a couple weeks later, they also called they needed it very urgent. Really urgent this time it's real! We really need it today!, it can't wait until tomorrow. We will defitnly wait for you until you arive after closing hours. Other frights get reschudeled that is a lot of work/phone calls and other drivers have to do more loads and drive extra.
So I drive to them with a lot of haste. And when I arrive it's closed again, and the same lady tells me I can sleep here and unload tomorrow at 08:30.
This happened a third time.

And after the third time, my boss was really pissed off, because he had to priorize this fright before others and make a lot of calls. And I had to sleep in my truck again. So I backed my truck up to the front gate , and activated my tipper and unloaded it all at there front gate.

I wish I could see there faces when they arrived at there work the next morning. My boss did not do business with them afterwards and he supported what I did:P.

That is an awesome story. Well done! and good on your boss.

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« Reply #2129 on: December 28, 2017, 04:50:35 PM »
My DH was offered a job once and before he accepted, he negotiated leave without pay for a dream vacation we had already scheduled and booked for a couple of months after his start date. This trip took a lot of planning time and also involved some nonrefundable costs.

As the time got closer, his new boss said there was no way he would be able to go on the trip. DH remained calm, replied something noncommittal, and talked to me about it that night. We decided that he was going to tell his boss the next day, you gave your word before I started and there is no negotiation here. I'm taking this trip. (We had a 6 month emergency fund in addition to our trip fund, so decided we didn't care if DH got fired.)

DH delivered the line, boss was shocked, we took the trip, and nobody got fired or quit.

I'm curious if the manager turned out to be psycho or just oblivious?

He was a bit of a psycho, but also a good guy who was new to managing and just hadn't quite figured out boundaries yet. He was actually pretty fun (see also psycho, lol) and we ended up becoming friends with him.
In my experience, most "emergencies" at work are purely in the mind of some manager. I can't count the number of times I've heard "This has to be done today" and then it wasn't actally needed until weeks later.

Or not needed or used at all. That happened to me so many times (office job, writing reports and pulling data because god forbid theyíd figure out what they need, plan and prepare for the meeting, or look it up themselves)

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« Reply #2130 on: December 29, 2017, 03:37:40 PM »
Wow.  I just finished (re)reading the entire thread, and there are some amazing, inspirational stories here.

It's really helped me come to terms with my own situation, and make a big decision.

I've been working in my field for nearly 30 years, and 21 years with my current employer.  I am good at what I do, work with some great people, and am respected.  I have a good pay and benefits package.  So far, so good.

My company has changed culturally over the years to the point where the only thing that matters is the bottom line.  I understand we need to make money, but there used to be a caring attitude towards employees that paid them back in spades.

The changes have happened gradually over several years, but have suddenly added up to become a huge deal for me.

I am currently working for my 7th line manager in 6 years.  In the last 2 years, I have dealt with my Mother's breast cancer (she's fine now), my Father's rapid decline and death, my Grandmother's gradual decline and death, my own diagnosis with adult onset diabetes, and planned my wedding (the good bit!).

Funnily enough, I ended up in a very fragile mental state , and I was prescribed medication for stress and depression.  These have been slowly reducing over the summer, with a view to coming off them altogether very soon.

Being respected in my role is wonderful, but it has meant I've become the "go-to girl" for everything.  I took on as much as I could over and above my primary role, but I'm aware most of my colleagues are only doing the primary role.  I am not paid any extra for doing the extra work.  I realised I was not coping, went to my manager (promoted into the role 3 months ago), explained my concerns about my health, and asked for my workload to be temporarily reduced for a couple of months while a particular large project was delivered.  Once that was done, I was very happy to take on the extra stuff again.

My manager said no.  No discussion.  My colleagues would be upset, and she wouldn't like that.  So no.

Cue lots of tears (in private!), and a text to my husband asking him if we could afford for me to quit.  He said we could afford for me to do whatever I needed to do.

My doctor has put my medications back up to the maximum dose.  I did not take any time off sick.

I did, however, start looking at our savings in a different way.  We crunched some numbers and realised we were in a pretty good place.  Not FI, but well on our way.  A line from way back in this thread came back to me.  I may need A job, but I don't need THIS job.

I do love my primary role, so I've come up with a plan of action, and I've put in application to go part time.  The company has 3 months to give me an answer, but I think I have a good chance.  If they say no, I will ask to be demoted to a level where there is no expectation of accepting extra tasks.  If they reject that, I'll quit.

So a HUGE thank you to everyone who has posted here.  Some good decisions early in my working life, living within my means, and a nudge (facepunch) from here has made me realise I actually have FU money, and I've had the nerve to use it.

Sorry for the long post!!

UPDATE:

Today my employer has APPROVED my part time request!!!!!

I don't have words to describe the relief, but I'm also really proud of myself for doing the right thing for ME.

FU money rocks!

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« Reply #2131 on: December 29, 2017, 04:02:12 PM »
Congrats! So now its time to practice saying NO to requests and prevent the part time job becoming full time with half pay.
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« Reply #2132 on: December 29, 2017, 04:37:18 PM »
Jesus, your manager said no to you reducing your workload because it would upset your coworkers, while you were CRYING to her about your excessive workload?!  What about YOU being upset?  Sincere congrats on getting your part time request approved, but that manager deserves the biggest 'fuck.  you.' possible.  If I were that manager's manager they would be fired.

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« Reply #2133 on: December 29, 2017, 10:17:30 PM »
Wow.  I just finished (re)reading the entire thread, and there are some amazing, inspirational stories here.

It's really helped me come to terms with my own situation, and make a big decision.

I've been working in my field for nearly 30 years, and 21 years with my current employer.  I am good at what I do, work with some great people, and am respected.  I have a good pay and benefits package.  So far, so good.

My company has changed culturally over the years to the point where the only thing that matters is the bottom line.  I understand we need to make money, but there used to be a caring attitude towards employees that paid them back in spades.

The changes have happened gradually over several years, but have suddenly added up to become a huge deal for me.

I am currently working for my 7th line manager in 6 years.  In the last 2 years, I have dealt with my Mother's breast cancer (she's fine now), my Father's rapid decline and death, my Grandmother's gradual decline and death, my own diagnosis with adult onset diabetes, and planned my wedding (the good bit!).

Funnily enough, I ended up in a very fragile mental state , and I was prescribed medication for stress and depression.  These have been slowly reducing over the summer, with a view to coming off them altogether very soon.

Being respected in my role is wonderful, but it has meant I've become the "go-to girl" for everything.  I took on as much as I could over and above my primary role, but I'm aware most of my colleagues are only doing the primary role.  I am not paid any extra for doing the extra work.  I realised I was not coping, went to my manager (promoted into the role 3 months ago), explained my concerns about my health, and asked for my workload to be temporarily reduced for a couple of months while a particular large project was delivered.  Once that was done, I was very happy to take on the extra stuff again.

My manager said no.  No discussion.  My colleagues would be upset, and she wouldn't like that.  So no.

Cue lots of tears (in private!), and a text to my husband asking him if we could afford for me to quit.  He said we could afford for me to do whatever I needed to do.

My doctor has put my medications back up to the maximum dose.  I did not take any time off sick.

I did, however, start looking at our savings in a different way.  We crunched some numbers and realised we were in a pretty good place.  Not FI, but well on our way.  A line from way back in this thread came back to me.  I may need A job, but I don't need THIS job.

I do love my primary role, so I've come up with a plan of action, and I've put in application to go part time.  The company has 3 months to give me an answer, but I think I have a good chance.  If they say no, I will ask to be demoted to a level where there is no expectation of accepting extra tasks.  If they reject that, I'll quit.

So a HUGE thank you to everyone who has posted here.  Some good decisions early in my working life, living within my means, and a nudge (facepunch) from here has made me realise I actually have FU money, and I've had the nerve to use it.

Sorry for the long post!!

UPDATE:

Today my employer has APPROVED my part time request!!!!!

I don't have words to describe the relief, but I'm also really proud of myself for doing the right thing for ME.

FU money rocks!

Congratulations!!!  That's outstanding.

No job is worth having to be medicated all the time.

Hopefully they respect these new boundaries and don't try to run you down anyway - and if they do, you sound ready to hop away with your health intact now. I am very happy for you.

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« Reply #2134 on: December 30, 2017, 01:32:43 AM »
Good for you, MrsHen!  Best wishes for a peaceful and healthy new year.

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« Reply #2135 on: January 01, 2018, 04:46:10 PM »
That's the biggest downside for me of working at a small company. Only one person can take a vacation at the time and in those type of companies there's often a strong hierarchy. Which means if you're the new person (and you can be the new person for 10 years) you're basically screwed. I'm lucky that my coworkers don't care about christmas, so I get to take the week between christmas and NYE off, but I didn't have a summer holiday. Coworkers have kids, so they want to spend that time with their kids (understandably) and I'm stuck in the office working overtime for the entire summer.
Imma, the fall is a lovely time to travel. Could you plan something for then so you have something to look forward to in the dog days of summer? I used to go to DC a lot. The best time was in early September. Lovely weather, no lines, and shoulder season rates. The kids were back in school and hadn't had time to plan their rampages field trips yet. It was heavenly.

One of the great joys of FIREing is that we have discovered that the worker bees have a very fixed window to enjoy a whole lot of opportunities when it comes to recreation and tourism, and since you are post-unemployed, you get to enjoy the best places during the times when the masses have to stay chained to their desks.  We relocated to the heart of the Amish country in PA, earlier this year. We had been visiting the area for two decades, and had a huge concern about moving to a place that sees eight million tourists a year. We had spend many Saturdays in years past, crawling in tourist traffic, and didn't want to turn that into a lifestyle. After a few months of being here, and unwinding a bit, we finally figured out that the ONLY time our neighborhood sucks is from about 10AM to 6PM on Saturdays, from mid-spring to Christmas. That is less than 10% of the time, and we now have a very good handle of every farm road, and back alley in the land, and how to use them to get around the lines of out of state cars that stack up on those days. We just smile when people from out of town say, "you live in a beautiful place, but oh, God, that traffic".

We have also used this concept as we spent a few years roaming around the states in our motorhome, and rarely did anything the would potentially involve crowds on a weekend, or peak times. We made darn sure to find quiet places to hide on the big summer holidays. The wonderful world of RVing can really turn to shit on holidays like the 4th of July, when the campgrounds are 110% full. Occasionally full of families with a litter of screaming little brats and a $300 pop-up camper that blew two tires on the way there. Due to awesome parenting and social skills, they then decide that the way to address the sugared up, screaming little spawn, at 11pm, is to make the bonfire bigger, kick up the drinking a notch, and turn up the sorry-assed country music they and half the county are "enjoying". The amazing part is that, by the last week of August, chucklenuts like this are long gone, and great places are very lightly attended. If you really want your experience to be wonderful and uncrowded, push the limits and get there a week or two before the places are about to roll up the sidewalks for the winter.  Places like the Black Hills, SD, or the coast of Maine, absolutely kick ass in the second half of September, and 80% or more of the crowds are gone. Yellowstone is another great example. They have been setting attendance records every year, and by noon on a typical mid-summer day, the place looks like a street in Manhattan. Get there the week after labor day, and it's like another planet. Without kids to accommodate, being able to take time off in fall and spring is a gift.

Yes.  This is the reason why I only take vacations in the fall.  Beautiful weather and no crowds!

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« Reply #2136 on: January 01, 2018, 07:11:51 PM »
Yes.  This is the reason why I only take vacations in the fall.  Beautiful weather and no crowds!
Homeschooling your kids has similar advantages. Tour DC in mid October? No problem. Disney world in January, with almost no lines? Yup!

(DW is looking at photos of the parks today. Some rides had a wait time of over five hours. The line of cars waiting to park at Magic Kingdom stretched all the way to Hollywood Studios. )
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« Reply #2137 on: January 02, 2018, 01:14:26 AM »
Yes.  This is the reason why I only take vacations in the fall.  Beautiful weather and no crowds!
Homeschooling your kids has similar advantages. Tour DC in mid October? No problem. Disney world in January, with almost no lines? Yup!

(DW is looking at photos of the parks today. Some rides had a wait time of over five hours. The line of cars waiting to park at Magic Kingdom stretched all the way to Hollywood Studios. )

Who seriously waits in line for over 5 hours????

I do remember the signs Disneyworld and Universal Studios... signs of the "You have 6 hours wait from here" variety. My brother and I schemed a way of being this.

When we were there* the first thing we did was tell mum and dad to go to the coffee shop at the entrance. My brother raced around the park one way and I went the other way to every single ride and we picked up the express line passes - the ones where you can take a card and come back at a designated time of day and jump to the front of the queue. We picked up 8 for every ride - just in case we wanted a second ride :)

They're big parks obviously, but after half an hour we had cards for every ride. We then went round the park backwards... because the majority of people enter the gate, turn left and go around clockwise. Beat the queues and have a much better time all round.

*December 1999, things may have changed since then :)

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« Reply #2138 on: January 02, 2018, 07:09:54 AM »
I went to Disneyland Paris once when I was about 11 (October 2001 maybe?) and I remember having to pay extra for those skip-to-the-front passes. My parents bought them for exactly one ride for me and one for my brother at the end of the day after we had deemed them the best rides we had been on all day by far and one parent went on with each of us. Mine was called something like Thunder Mountain and my brother's was a haunted house thing. A Friday in October outside the usual UK half term, though, so waits were not insane.

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« Reply #2139 on: January 02, 2018, 08:00:02 AM »
*December 1999, things may have changed since then :)
Yeah, unfortunately Disney caught on to that, and clamped down on it--you could only get fast passes every X minutes.  And then a couple years ago at Disneyworld, they revamped the whole system so you can only have 3 fast passes total at the beginning of the day, and you can't get any more until you use all three, and then you can only have one at a time.  For people like you and me that understand the system, it was a significant downgrade :(

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« Reply #2140 on: January 03, 2018, 08:31:13 AM »
And after the third time, my boss was really pissed off, because he had to priorize this fright before others and make a lot of calls. And I had to sleep in my truck again. So I backed my truck up to the front gate , and activated my tipper and unloaded it all at there front gate.

I wish I could see there faces when they arrived at there work the next morning. My boss did not do business with them afterwards and he supported what I did:P.

I LOVE THIS STORY!  Hurray for your boss, too.

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« Reply #2141 on: January 03, 2018, 03:49:31 PM »
This story 100% reminded me of Office Space. If you haven't seen it, rent it tonight!

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« Reply #2142 on: January 04, 2018, 12:47:07 AM »

And after the third time, my boss was really pissed off, because he had to priorize this fright before others and make a lot of calls. And I had to sleep in my truck again. So I backed my truck up to the front gate , and activated my tipper and unloaded it all at there front gate.

Curious, if you can share, what is the material that you dumped in the front gate? I would love to see their faces when they come in the morning :)

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« Reply #2143 on: January 11, 2018, 10:11:37 AM »
Jesus, your manager said no to you reducing your workload because it would upset your coworkers, while you were CRYING to her about your excessive workload?!  What about YOU being upset?  Sincere congrats on getting your part time request approved, but that manager deserves the biggest 'fuck.  you.' possible.  If I were that manager's manager they would be fired.
I kept it together enough to only cry in private, but yes, that's about the size of it.
Congrats! So now its time to practice saying NO to requests and prevent the part time job becoming full time with half pay.
The part time shifts start in July, but they've already come to me with another project.  I've said no, and pointed out I wouldn't be there so much.  This appeared to take them by surprise. 

I'm not entirely sure this battle is over, but for the moment I feel as though the weight of the world has been lifted.

Happy new year everyone.

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« Reply #2144 on: January 11, 2018, 10:36:19 AM »
Jesus, your manager said no to you reducing your workload because it would upset your coworkers, while you were CRYING to her about your excessive workload?!  What about YOU being upset?  Sincere congrats on getting your part time request approved, but that manager deserves the biggest 'fuck.  you.' possible.  If I were that manager's manager they would be fired.
I kept it together enough to only cry in private, but yes, that's about the size of it.
Congrats! So now its time to practice saying NO to requests and prevent the part time job becoming full time with half pay.
The part time shifts start in July, but they've already come to me with another project.  I've said no, and pointed out I wouldn't be there so much.  This appeared to take them by surprise. 

I'm not entirely sure this battle is over, but for the moment I feel as though the weight of the world has been lifted.

Happy new year everyone.
I've worked PT a couple of different phases in life, and here is what I found:

1.  It took work to regularly walk out the door on time.  But when I had kid pick-up, and a deadline to do so, that made it easier.  It took a month or two to train my coworkers that if they needed data from me for Friday morning, you have to ask by 1 pm on Thu, because I'm out the door at 3:30 pm.  Or I can get it to you by 8 am (because I started early).

2.  In some positions, where there were late meetings and such and no kid pickup issues, it was easier to just come in late and maybe combine that with a long lunch (like take a walk AND eat lunch AND go grocery shopping, or to the pharmacy).

In both cases I was working shorter days, not fewer days. YMMV.

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« Reply #2145 on: January 22, 2018, 11:31:59 AM »
This isn't very epic or epic FU money but it did take a lot of courage to go through with it.  We have some savings but not FU savings and we really need to maintain insurance coverage right now.

My company was purchased this past summer and it seemed like it would be a really great thing.  I loved the values that the new company publishes, my very worthless boss was quickly removed from his position, they promised to put a lot of money into this place to upgrade things, all great stuff.  While although the published values are great they are not really at the top of the priority list and we were given a new facility manager that does not "practice what he preaches" when it comes to these values, he also appears to think women should be at home not at work (but I don't have concrete examples of this).  They replaced my worthless boss with somebody that has zero experience in my field, without even opening interviews for the role (I was never considered), several upgrades were made but not in the areas that they were actually needed.  And best of all we all have a lot more paperwork busy work that they like to get all pissed off about if you don't do it but they don't want to tell you what they expect from you beforehand.  We were all given new titles (mine was originally an entry level title that I refused to except), new (more expensive) health insurance, no raises, and it appears that they will not be giving out bonuses.  On top of all of these changes we found out we were pregnant (had been trying for about 6 months) about 2 weeks after the new company took over.  In general everyone recommends you do not try to find a new job while you are pregnant because benefits, FMLA, and specifically short-term disability/maternity leave.  So when I first started getting kicked around I decided that I would just grin a bare it until after the baby came then look for something new. 

It kept getting worse and around Nov I decided that I am good at what I do and maybe I can find another job that will accept my pregnancy.  First I went to my old job to see if they had anything open, they were going through a re-organization and couldn't offer me a position but if I was willing to wait until the re-organization was over they would love to have me back.  Then I saw a posting that looked like something I would be really interested in but it had been open for forever and was technically out of my reach.  I applied but didn't hear anything very quickly so I reached out to my old job again to see if they knew anybody at this new place, what kind of environment it was and if they would put my name in the hiring managers ear.  I got a call back from my old job saying they had just talked to the hiring manager and was forwarding my resume to him.  Fast forward about a month and I got an offer that was very flexible around my pregnancy and was a 30+% raise from what I am currently making. 

I start Monday, insurance will kick in before baby is due, maternity leave is not paid but I will make so much more through 2018 that it doesn't matter.  Savings allowed me to say FU now and not worry about paying for COBRA and taking unpaid leave vs waiting until baby got here, taking maternity leave, coming back to this toxic place before turning in 2 week notice, and then going to the new job.  Again, not very epic but I am really excited to be leaving this environment and to get a huge (to me) raise to do it. 


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Re: Epic FU money stories
« Reply #2146 on: January 22, 2018, 12:02:29 PM »
This isn't very epic or epic FU money but it did take a lot of courage to go through with it.  We have some savings but not FU savings and we really need to maintain insurance coverage right now.

My company was purchased this past summer and it seemed like it would be a really great thing.  I loved the values that the new company publishes, my very worthless boss was quickly removed from his position, they promised to put a lot of money into this place to upgrade things, all great stuff.  While although the published values are great they are not really at the top of the priority list and we were given a new facility manager that does not "practice what he preaches" when it comes to these values, he also appears to think women should be at home not at work (but I don't have concrete examples of this).  They replaced my worthless boss with somebody that has zero experience in my field, without even opening interviews for the role (I was never considered), several upgrades were made but not in the areas that they were actually needed.  And best of all we all have a lot more paperwork busy work that they like to get all pissed off about if you don't do it but they don't want to tell you what they expect from you beforehand.  We were all given new titles (mine was originally an entry level title that I refused to except), new (more expensive) health insurance, no raises, and it appears that they will not be giving out bonuses.  On top of all of these changes we found out we were pregnant (had been trying for about 6 months) about 2 weeks after the new company took over.  In general everyone recommends you do not try to find a new job while you are pregnant because benefits, FMLA, and specifically short-term disability/maternity leave.  So when I first started getting kicked around I decided that I would just grin a bare it until after the baby came then look for something new. 

It kept getting worse and around Nov I decided that I am good at what I do and maybe I can find another job that will accept my pregnancy.  First I went to my old job to see if they had anything open, they were going through a re-organization and couldn't offer me a position but if I was willing to wait until the re-organization was over they would love to have me back.  Then I saw a posting that looked like something I would be really interested in but it had been open for forever and was technically out of my reach.  I applied but didn't hear anything very quickly so I reached out to my old job again to see if they knew anybody at this new place, what kind of environment it was and if they would put my name in the hiring managers ear.  I got a call back from my old job saying they had just talked to the hiring manager and was forwarding my resume to him.  Fast forward about a month and I got an offer that was very flexible around my pregnancy and was a 30+% raise from what I am currently making. 

I start Monday, insurance will kick in before baby is due, maternity leave is not paid but I will make so much more through 2018 that it doesn't matter.  Savings allowed me to say FU now and not worry about paying for COBRA and taking unpaid leave vs waiting until baby got here, taking maternity leave, coming back to this toxic place before turning in 2 week notice, and then going to the new job.  Again, not very epic but I am really excited to be leaving this environment and to get a huge (to me) raise to do it.

That is ENORMOUSLY epic!!!! Looking for a new job while pregnant takes some serious ovaries, woman. I bow before you. Don't downplay this - this is one of the best stories on the thread, from my point of view.

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Re: Epic FU money stories
« Reply #2147 on: January 22, 2018, 12:38:45 PM »
This isn't very epic or epic FU money but it did take a lot of courage to go through with it.  We have some savings but not FU savings and we really need to maintain insurance coverage right now.

I love new FU money stories. OK, maybe it wasn't technically EPIC, but it was an awesome story using your FU money status to improve your working conditions. I think that is one of the best uses of FU money - improve your circumstances from a position of strength, because you can!

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Re: Epic FU money stories
« Reply #2148 on: January 22, 2018, 12:44:54 PM »
I don't know if this qualifies for epic but it happened none the less. The DW is a doc that decided to come back to where we grew up to practice medicine. We were pregnant with our first child when she took her job. We negotiated maternity leave and all started well. As time went on she got busier and busier. We asked that they hire another doc but that was not an option. We continued to work and got pregnant with #2. Her partner that owned the practice offered her a contract making significantly less and deleted the maternity portion of the contract. We nicely declined and he greeted her with a copy box for her belongings and escorted her off the property. Nice guy right? We took a job with the hospital because we wanted to be close to grandparents and loved where we lived. Her practice literally exploded over night. Soon she was 70-80 hours a week and miserable. We once again begged for more partners, but the hospital was un able to find anyone... for 18 months. Finally we drew a line in the dirt and gave them a deadline to make changes. They drug their feet and got very angry when she resigned. AMAZINGLY four weeks later they found another doc.
Had it not been for MMM we would never have made the changes to allow the switch. After the first doc escorted my wife from the property, we started to pay off debt and save $$$ like a fiend. We have gotten 3 "offers" to come back and we still laugh hysterically. We took a 35% cut in pay, but the DW works 3 days a week and quality of life has gone up tremendously. We can't save 60% of the pay anymore, but I can still keep 30% if we stick to the plans. Having a wife and mother back in our home is priceless!

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Re: Epic FU money stories
« Reply #2149 on: January 22, 2018, 01:45:46 PM »
I don't know if this qualifies for epic but it happened none the less. The DW is a doc that decided to come back to where we grew up to practice medicine. We were pregnant with our first child when she took her job. We negotiated maternity leave and all started well. As time went on she got busier and busier. We asked that they hire another doc but that was not an option. We continued to work and got pregnant with #2. Her partner that owned the practice offered her a contract making significantly less and deleted the maternity portion of the contract. We nicely declined and he greeted her with a copy box for her belongings and escorted her off the property. Nice guy right? We took a job with the hospital because we wanted to be close to grandparents and loved where we lived. Her practice literally exploded over night. Soon she was 70-80 hours a week and miserable. We once again begged for more partners, but the hospital was un able to find anyone... for 18 months. Finally we drew a line in the dirt and gave them a deadline to make changes. They drug their feet and got very angry when she resigned. AMAZINGLY four weeks later they found another doc.
Had it not been for MMM we would never have made the changes to allow the switch. After the first doc escorted my wife from the property, we started to pay off debt and save $$$ like a fiend. We have gotten 3 "offers" to come back and we still laugh hysterically. We took a 35% cut in pay, but the DW works 3 days a week and quality of life has gone up tremendously. We can't save 60% of the pay anymore, but I can still keep 30% if we stick to the plans. Having a wife and mother back in our home is priceless!

Family time is what life is all about!  Awesome!