I have googled and can't find it. If someone wants to link it I will delete this and move it.
My question is about dementia/Alzheimer's symptoms. I have googled the generic lists and he doesn't line up with the classic symptoms. BUT, 1. We don't see him much so we might miss things, and 2. We have noticed a few concerning things. They might just be aging in general though.
Concerns:
- doesn't clean, like at all. He used to keep his house normal levels of tidy. Now he literally hasn't cleaned the bathroom or swept in a year. And it is disgusting, and very noticeable.his eyes are fine. It is strange because it was a pretty sudden change.
- seems to be losing his interest or ability to manage his IRA. Instead of taking regular RMD's, he took out a whole bunch because he didn't want to be bothered.
- clutter has taken over the house. His hobby and also general paperwork and mail is covering surfaces in every room, scattered on the floor, etc. This is atypical. He used to have a messy workroom but the guest room,living room, etc were completely clear. He has never just had weeks of mail spread out on every table in sight.
- apparently forgot we were visiting, despite telling him 6 months ago and sending him an email with flights. Now to be fair he might just be lying about this, because he didn't want to see us much. That would be typical for him.
He is 74 I think and generally in good health, retired but working a hobby job 30 hours a week. He doesn't talk to us about details of his life and is 100% not interested in any help from us. Thus I am mostly asking so we understand and know what might be going on, not so we can take some kind of action. We won't be able to take action unless it gets bad enough that we have to take over completely, and it could involve ugly legal battles, etc.
Most likely scenario is he lives in filth/spends all his money, never telling anyone or accepting help. He has a pension and at least 100k in an IRA, so he is fine for cash flow but not wealthy.