I'm coaching another military veteran through a six-month leave of absence (unpaid) from their job, and after only a month they're already experiencing two effects:
1. Their boss is tactfully yet persistently inquiring whether they'd like to come back to work now, and
2. They're feeling guilty about how much they're enjoying their time off. Even without the boss's e-mails & phone calls. They were already more interested in quitting than in unpaid leave, and this time off is making them even more confident in their FI lifestyle.
Not @clifp but I took what ended up being a 2 year work break and my old government agency asked me to come back. I did go back after those 2 years off to keep my security clearance active as well as my various job-related licenses and certificates, as well as for personal reasons. It was suppose to be a part time/on call gig but kept morphing into full time. I REALLY wanted out to go back to my FIRE life badly but made a commitment that I felt obligated to ride out - as well as was going thru a divorce after seperating. Eventually I took what I thought was going to be another long work break but never went back - to any job.
So my experience with my first work break/FIREbattical was that I didn't spend anywhere near what I planned to spend (which was pretty eye opening) and that even though my former boss wanted me back, and if I wanted to keep my clearances and licenses I would have to go back within 2 years, and I was lean FIRE (divorce does that too you ;-)), I wish I had not gone back to work. I really learned I loved the FIRE life and learned not worry so much about finances. I got to normal/slightly chubby FIRE by selling my house and moving to a better location and I still, a couple of decades after my first work break, have no regrets about FIREing - and no need to go back to work financially or emotionally.
Coincidentally this friend is in the civil service too.
He’s aware that he is not identified by his job, and he’s built a successful side hustle during his full-time employment. We’re talking through any possible feelings of survivor guilt & Stockholm Syndrome.
We met at a CampFI, so he already understands the concepts. I think he’s doing fine, and he seems to enjoy checking in every 3-4 weeks.
hey nords, great to see a forum legend checking in. A lot of your posts are referenced to frequently, and as someone who never knew you back in the day, I can attest your influence is still alive.
And although I am on the side of - maybe lean towards a little more security in this environment - the siren song of FI is pulling me very strongly, and your example - and photo op! - is a lot of food for thought.
Thank you! I log in every weekend to search for my name and the military keyword, so if someone tags me then I usually catch it within a week.
I won’t go all 4% Safe Withdrawal Rate on your feeling for security, but if it’s any consolation you’re dealing with a very common emotion. Several members of the Millionaire Money Mentors forum are pushing the high seven figures of net worth and they’re still not confident they can afford health insurance or have enough in their travel & entertainment budgets. These people can already do math... yet they’re still dealing with behavioral financial psychology.
As the leave was ending, April 2000, I had serious discussion with my girlfriend should I go back. I estimated because of stock options, working another 3 years would increase my stache by $1 million, roughly 30% increase, but a big decrease to my happiness. So I quit instead. As turns out the dot.com bust started just months latter. None of my stock options would have been worth a dime. I would have spent the next three year, either being laid off or laying off staff.
When I think about it, my severance would have been pretty big, and my attitude pretty shitty. When you are FI, you tolerance of bad working conditions is quite low. So maybe even my second sabbatical was good for the company.
Holy cow. I never appreciated your timing!
I’m glad that Intel has rebuilt the Grove culture. I heard a lot of people were leaving after their sabbaticals, while the ones who were staying were either tied to their options (and were miserable) or were never going to quit working in the first place.
I wonder if the average American would take a 1/12 pay cut in order to have 6 weeks of truly usable vacation time. (Not a rhetorical question. I genuinely wonder.) I certainly would have when I had professional level job.
As you know, during relatively peaceful times the U.S. military allows servicemembers to carry over their leave of 30 days/year until their balance exceeds 60 days.
For those who don’t know, at the end of the fiscal year it’s cut back to 60 days and resumes rising at 30 days/year. You don’t get paid for unused leave, either, except under very specific re-enlistment or separation circumstances. The excess leave balance is just whacked off of the statement.
In most of my commands, if you took more than a (grudging) two weeks of leave per year then you were a wimp. (Well, that’s the family-friendly term.) Even then you’d get phone calls for “just one question” or “just to touch base on this project.”
In the back half of my career, I had an executive officer who bucked the trend. They said that if you didn’t take your 30 days of leave every year while you were on shore duty, then you sucked at time & career management and would be graded accordingly.
That message got through loud and clear to me, and I did my best to push the XO’s policy down the ranks. I think the culture shift made a huge morale difference.