Oh my goodness! I am literally crying as I read this post. So much to share, please forgive me as I hope it all makes sense. I literally found MMM this weekend while bed-ridden after my 4th cycle of chemotherapy. I am 39 years old and was diagnosed with breast cancer over Christmas. I am a stay at home mom, who had just start my own business in the just a few months before I received the news. My husband supports a family of 4 on his small salary, and although we incorporate the MMM lifestyle habits, we live in California and so live paycheck to paycheck even with 1 used car, 4 bikes, no tv/cable, don't eat out, don't consume, no iPhones, etc. Paychecks are for rent, food, credit card, phone. A cancer diagnosis was the furthest thing from our minds, and I am literally crying as CopperTex posted above " I don't care how much paleo, vegan, crossfit, smoothies, voodoo, whatever you do, no one is immune to cancer." I am an otherwise completely healthy woman, vegetarian, green smoothie, yoga, woo woo, spiritual, etc. I am a Life Coach for goodness sakes! We were just starting to recover financially from the 2008-10 madness, and then this happened. I have terrible health insurance and there are so many associated costs. Also, when my husband has to take off work to care for me, he doesn't get paid, so we lose the money we need to live on, in addition to increased costs that we didn't have before like childcare, or outside meals during treatment. This all happened so fast and these things were mandatory so we started using the credit card again. (We only used the credit card before for basic living expenses like food, etc during 2008 which we are still paying off now). A friend suggested that I should set up an online donation fund to allow people donate money and share the link with others (
https://life.indiegogo.com/fundraisers/danette-s-healing-fund). I had never heard of it before, but am really thankful that I did because otherwise, I would be trying to pay for all of this on my credit card (about $36k for the year of treatment). So far I haven't raised much money, so I still need to consider other options. My father in law died suddenly of a heart attack 3 weeks ago, and now, with my own survival in question, I feel 'emotionally' I will do ANYTHING I can to survive, including financial ruin. But then while lying in bed this week I realized something. I was so sick from the chemo I couldn't even move, but then, after a week, it passed and now I am up again. The same will happen for my entire treatment this year if I survive. It will be a hard year while I am down, but then I will get up again. And I realized when I get up, I don't want to have $36k more in debt. That is when I started searching for other options. And I came across MMM and this community. I am very new here, and haven't even introduced myself, but saw this post and it immediately hit home for me. I don't want to hijack this topic, so I will post another topic in the forum, but if you can help me with this, please feel free to message me or reply to my new post. I am looking for help with the following:
What is any advice to help me avoid dire financial consequences for next year? Like, should I take out a personal loan, or just keep asking for help with the donation page. For example, are there any institutions that offer low-interest loans for medical reasons?
This situation has made me more determined than ever to become financially independent, where is the best way to start? If it is to pay down credit card debt, then I should be avoiding debt as much as I can this year?
-- This year is all about surviving. I know nothing is guaranteed, but the fact that my husband just lost his father, I am not about to let him lose his wife and raise our two boys alone. I will do everything on my end to prevent that, but try to avoid a financial disaster. I'm just trying to get ahead of it, but not sure if I can. This group seems pretty great and I am so happy I found you. I can't wait to get to know all of you and next year celebrate with you as I am cancer free, and the years after that when I am debt free, and making investments and a home owner.