I lived in the resort town of Lake Arrowhead California for most of my life, but moved to Georgia about 8 years ago due to the high cost of living in California. I still have many family members and friends that live in the beautiful San Bernardino Mountains. Truth is every year hundreds of retired folk would move to the mountains with plans of living out their golden years in the splended wilderness. Most would only last 1 or 2 winters in the area before they decided it wasn't going to work. A bad, bad winter would mean losing a considerable amount of the population. After major forest fires, even more people would move. Now, the downside of moving to a resort mountain town like Lake Arrowhead: the snow, horrible driving conditions, lack of services, lack of resources, ect... I love the snow and miss it dearly, however shoveling snow (inch after inch after foot) is not all it's cracked up to be. And it's not just your stairs, it's the whole driveway, walkways, sometimes roof. Over an over again all winter long. Seriously hard on older people, even with snow blowers. Snow, means ice. Icy walkways and roads. Driving on twisty-turny mountain roads is hard in the snow, really hard in the ice, and downright scary in foggy, icy, and snowy conditions.
With that said, I would look for resort mountain areas that have lots of resources, services, and where the snow is limited. After my teens are both in college, my husband and I plan on moving out West again. We just miss our family too much. I keep looking at Bend Oregon because it has all the stuff that we loved about Lake Arrowhead and also the things we thought it lacked (Costco, TJ's, College, Flatter, Many Restaurants, Less Snow). Bend looks like a great resort town, with tons of activities. They even have a great movie theater. Looks like the snow is limited, giving you the opportunity to enjoy the snow, but not so much that it becomes difficult to deal with.
Another great option is Asheville, NC. We visit every year for a week. They get some snow, but it's not too much. The restaurants are fantastic. Seriously awesome food in Asheville. There is tons of hiking and waterfalls galore. The Blueridge Parkway stretches right through the city of Asheville. It is very beautiful! There is also a great art scene. They just built a Trader Joe's a couple of years ago. Housing is reasonable. There are some ranger stations and parkway information centers located in Asheville. Might be a good option for your wife to work. There is also the Biltmore Estate whos lands back to Mt. Pisgah National Forest. Lots of options for those who work in the forest service.