Hey,
DW and I are both frugal by nature (but both have our indulgences too) and are pretty much on the same page, money-wise. We are actually past our FIRE number, but both work still. Our stache continues to rocket upwards, and I keep getting the itch to indulge a bit more than she is interested in, which is not only a slight conflict, but guilt inducing for me (although...come to think of it, she does just spend money on a number of things without any consultation, while I struggle with and try to negotiate a couple larger purchases (mostly outdoor gear and such that I will use regularly and which will contribute to my mental and physical health)).
We also each have of our own personal accounts, which were designed to cover little things that we don't want to have to justify to the other...if its personal money...do whatever you want. But the current couple of purchases are a bit bigger than the personal account will cover, although our stache and regular budget can do so easily.
I'm not looking for a solution so much as commiseration...I still identify as mustachian, but struggling with the potential label of spendypants.
Others???