I'm not sure I'd call mine a fail, but some might think it is.
I'd been striving for ER since my 20's and after getting laid off in Feb. 2015, after 11 years with the same company, I realized I was FI and could RE at 43. I travelled for 5 months in the Rockies which was amazing. Fly fishing, hiking, partying, National Parks and lots of decompressing.
But, to be honest, it just hasn't lived up to my dreams. I'm single and all my friends are buried in their careers, so it can be lonely at times. When I'm not travelling, my days are filled with running, lifting, hiking, motorcycling, reading, fishing, managing my finances, etc. As bad as work could be at times, it gave me a sense of purpose and a network of friends as well. I guess having people "need" me, was more important to me than I thought. In addition, I've always been someone who has pushed myself in life: sports, education, work, etc. It just feels unnatural not to be pursuing a career. Full disclosure: I have 1.25M invested, expenses of $32k or so, no debt. Have a small pension, SS and a small inheritance waiting for me in 20-25 years or so.
Anyway, it just feels like something is missing I guess. It's funny, you finally reach your dreams and then realize the reality doesn't live up to the dream. I just don't feel like a success, even though I reached my goal after lots of sacrifice and dedication. I'm not one to be outspoken about being FI so I get the sense that many people think I'm a deadbeat or a failure. And that bothers me (as petty as that is). I think they assume I'm "living off of handouts" lol. My step dad made a crack while I was home for the holidays about getting a damn job - I wanted to blurt out that my NW was probably higher than his......but I didn't...I just swallowed it. I've always told myself that I don't give a damn what anyone else thinks....only what I think. Turns out that wasn't quite accurate.
So, with that being said, I'm starting to look for work again. I feel blessed I'm in the financial position I'm in and please don't take any of this as complaining. I just think 43 is a little to young...at least for me. I've learned a lot about myself over the past year - much of it I was unaware of. I think this experience will prepare me for another run at RE in another 5 years or so. Until then, onward and upward.