Going to join this cohort , non us based so some of the things you worry about , I don’t have , I do have other worries to keep me up at night , I’ll do my best but apologies upfront for any bad English , first post and I am already tilting , picked my user name to be 2027 for the cohort I wanted to join but couldn’t find the thread , looks like 2027 is a barren year , so some story time mainly to put it out there , will start being active here as it seems fun to have so many ppl with the same goal but different paths !
Turned 40 , married plus 2 , love them all , this year my father retired and he can’t do it , he says it’s Covid and what not , but he is back working , not for money but for his ‘sanity’ , it’s clear to me he is scared because he has nothing to do but watching soccer and Netflix , which is how he pass his time with the excuse he is tired from work , I fear ending up the same ,I work a very very high stress tech job where I work non stop including weekends when needed , which happens every third weekend or so ,evening meetings are the norm , this was my choice in life so no one to blame but me , but the realization I can keep on trucking until the end if I just do nothing worries me , because I am starting to ask the best question of all - WHY , that is keeping me up at night a lot , and I can’t focus on anything else , on the one end , I can’t imagine staying at home and taking care of the household , I love cooking , but no way I will clean and organize the house every day while my SO goes to world , I feel staying home with the kids is much much harder then our daily jobs , so the next step is to tell the SO the plan , which includes me stop working AND not doing all the chores , those will still be split between us as today , I fear the backlash here , but she will have a choice to quit her job with me , the other thing she won’t like is the fact we will both be unemployed, I fear she will look at it as a failure on our part or won’t understand how it’s possible to do , all the ppl in our life retired on retirement age , let’s see how that first talk will go ……. anxious but excited !!
By the way , when you did your first talk , did you sell the dream first or went to the details of the math of it.