Yeah, I've gotten this before. And the thing is, we are kind of lucky to have gotten where we are, but we do also make choices when unlucky things happen. I was 23 years old when I figured out that the job I was doing wasn't going to make me enough money to live comfortably, so I figured I should get a graduate degree to earn more, and I did the math to see if spending the money on grad school would then earn me an appropriate amount of money to afford the loan plus the lifestyle, and it did. I didn't realize at the time that this made me a freakin' financial genius compared to most people my age, but man, most 23 year olds don't think like this. And then I got lucky and got a slightly better paying job than I anticipated after grad school. But we've had bumps in the road, too, like more school debt than we should have taken (so we aggressively paid it off), and DH had some school failures that were rough (so he got a job and decided on a different path for grad school), and both of our cars needed replacing within a couple years (so we paid cash for used cars), and my salary was frozen last year (so we look for other ways to save more/earn more), and other unlucky things. I think this goes to back to the MMM philosophy of optimism. We could have chosen to let those unlucky things completely derail us and ruin our lives, but instead, we took them as opportunities and moved onward and upward. It's kind of like attitudes about dieting: some people eat one piece of chocolate while on their diet and think "I've ruined it all! I might as well eat a whole pizza now!" and then do, but some people build in the chocolate and think "This is one small piece, and I'll have a salad for dinner and work out later" and then move on. It's really attitudinal.