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Re: What things did you do outside your comfort zone today?
« Reply #50 on: January 29, 2019, 01:07:29 PM »
Signed the contract and wrote the whopping check that will allow work to begin on replacing our heating system.  The cost is staggering and I regret that we can't afford the $15K extra that would get us a geothermal system, but we need to do this. Our house and yard are a disaster and I need to get the ball rolling so we can start attacking other aspects of our lives; I've allowed anxiety over the expense to paralyze me over the last two months

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Re: What things did you do outside your comfort zone today?
« Reply #51 on: January 29, 2019, 01:30:07 PM »
@Poundwise - I can relate. It sounds like you are on the right track. Positive steps building towards more momentum on other projects, and not letting perfect be the enemy of good.

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Re: What things did you do outside your comfort zone today?
« Reply #52 on: January 29, 2019, 01:49:03 PM »
i had the plumber in to fix something. 
and held my nose when i paid him

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Re: What things did you do outside your comfort zone today?
« Reply #53 on: January 29, 2019, 05:23:38 PM »
@MaybeBabyMustache Thank you for the encouraging words! I am sometimes very brave and sometimes completely chicken$hit about the strangest things.

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Re: What things did you do outside your comfort zone today?
« Reply #54 on: January 29, 2019, 06:21:20 PM »
I participated more than usual in a very high level meeting yesterday and today. I’m in an upper management position but have nearly crippling anxiety speaking in groups, especially unfamiliar ones. Last winter I was “supposed” to speak in front of a group of nearly 1,000 but I chickened our and had a coworker do it. I’ll have many opportunities in this next year to speak to groups of 200-300 likely, we’ll see if I can muster up the courage. I have been asked to many times in my career and haven’t yet. I was in speech therapy for about 6-7 years growing up and that most certainly doesn’t help the cause.

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Re: What things did you do outside your comfort zone today?
« Reply #55 on: January 29, 2019, 08:31:27 PM »
@Poundwise - it's strange what stresses us out vs emboldens us, right? There are things I *should* be afraid of, and for whatever reason, dive right into. And then, there are things I know I need to do, and they stress/freak me out. Good work moving past & focusing on forward progress!

@use2betrix - great work! I too am not a fan of presenting in front of large groups. I've done it before. I've also engaged in extremely controversial topics where I'm the lone voice of dissent in big meetings. It can be really tough. Keep in mind that if you are being asked, many people think you are qualified and capable of talking & engaging audiences of that size. The way I've been successful in the past is to practice. I don't mean a handful of times. But, practicing until I can do it cold, in my sleep, three weeks later. Probably 50 run throughs of the content, to the point that i'm wavering on boredom instead of anxiety. Of course, that's not feasible all of the time, but once you get used to presenting in front of audience (I hear) it becomes easier.

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Re: What things did you do outside your comfort zone today?
« Reply #56 on: January 30, 2019, 12:34:38 AM »
Signed the contract and wrote the whopping check that will allow work to begin on replacing our heating system.  The cost is staggering and I regret that we can't afford the $15K extra that would get us a geothermal system, but we need to do this. Our house and yard are a disaster and I need to get the ball rolling so we can start attacking other aspects of our lives; I've allowed anxiety over the expense to paralyze me over the last two months

This is not a waste of money, but an investment in your home. When you will ever sell your home, it would have been worth less with an outdated heating system. Modernizing is a good investment. And you will probably save money each year on having a more effective system.

Maybe you should also look at modernizing your home in other ways, like the colours and a new front door. Maybe you could do some of those issues yourself, which would make the investment more profitable.

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Re: What things did you do outside your comfort zone today?
« Reply #57 on: January 30, 2019, 12:42:02 AM »
I participated more than usual in a very high level meeting yesterday and today. I’m in an upper management position but have nearly crippling anxiety speaking in groups, especially unfamiliar ones. Last winter I was “supposed” to speak in front of a group of nearly 1,000 but I chickened our and had a coworker do it. I’ll have many opportunities in this next year to speak to groups of 200-300 likely, we’ll see if I can muster up the courage. I have been asked to many times in my career and haven’t yet. I was in speech therapy for about 6-7 years growing up and that most certainly doesn’t help the cause.

You are supposed to be able to speak to a large group if you are in upper management. Although I have only spoken in smaller groups (up to 65 or so) I have noticed that preparing really well gives confidence. Make sure you have your text written, maybe a powerpoint presentation with hints and the rest of your text in the presenter notes or on a piece of paper.

I have noticed that if I leave too much text to improvisation (having only hints in powerpoint and improvising the rest of the text), then I start telling stuff from the later slides too early. So even though I have the ability to improvise, it might get messy later in the presentation. Preparing in more detail and sticking to the script works better for me.

You should also consider doing a presentation course. And have someone help you to make really nice and powerful powerpoint slides, because most powerpoint presentations suck.  (this could be a separate subject)

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Re: What things did you do outside your comfort zone today?
« Reply #58 on: January 30, 2019, 07:02:27 AM »
In August, I got a barely-above minimum wage part-time job (starts after my full-time job each day) with the intent of stepping way outside my comfort zone.  ...
You’d think it’s no big deal.  But it’s a huge deal to me and I am so proud every night when I come home that I made the effort through another day.

Cezilous, I want to give you a round of applause. This is a great action step--new people, new setting AND money, it's a trifecta!

I work more than one job but they are closely related and use largely the same set of skills. I am thinking of getting another part-time position doing something totally different over the summer just to get me out of that headspace and into another one. One summer when I was much younger I got a job cutting grass--about as far from my regular job as it's possible to get, which is what I was looking for.

It was hilarious how bad I was at it, but I still remember the experience fondly because it really did feel like 'surviving' each day. Added bonus, it was like working in a sauna; by the end of the summer I was about fifteen pounds lighter and super clear skin.


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Re: What things did you do outside your comfort zone today?
« Reply #59 on: January 30, 2019, 08:54:34 PM »
Booked a spontaneous vacation without clearing it at work first.

I am by nature a planner, like to have everything in my calendar scheduled to a certain level--but my SO surprised me with a very unique opportunity so we jumped on it (and even got the flights with points). I've been able to get it mostly all sorted at work relatively smoothly (and everyone understands and supports the plan) and I learned that sometimes you can just act & hope that it will work out.

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Re: What things did you do outside your comfort zone today?
« Reply #60 on: January 31, 2019, 07:54:34 AM »
Accepted a 2nd interview for a job in a completely different industry than mine. I've been wanting to make a change for a while, but the reality of it being a possibility is suddenly terrifying to me! I'm not sure I'm ready for the change, but going to the interview will be good experience, even if the job doesn't end up being the right fit.

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Re: What things did you do outside your comfort zone today?
« Reply #61 on: January 31, 2019, 09:48:25 AM »
Signed the contract and wrote the whopping check that will allow work to begin on replacing our heating system.  The cost is staggering and I regret that we can't afford the $15K extra that would get us a geothermal system, but we need to do this. Our house and yard are a disaster and I need to get the ball rolling so we can start attacking other aspects of our lives; I've allowed anxiety over the expense to paralyze me over the last two months

This is not a waste of money, but an investment in your home. When you will ever sell your home, it would have been worth less with an outdated heating system. Modernizing is a good investment. And you will probably save money each year on having a more effective system.

Maybe you should also look at modernizing your home in other ways, like the colours and a new front door. Maybe you could do some of those issues yourself, which would make the investment more profitable.

Unfortunately we were forced to make this investment by a disaster (catastrophic failure of above-ground oil tank, was not foreseeable), but you are right, it will probably increase the value of our home to some extent.  I also called to get some estimates on "fun" upgrades to our yard which will have to happen as a part of the cascade of events set in motion by the disaster.  It's going to take most of our liquid savings but of course we are fortunate to have the cash on hand. It's also out of my comfort zone to have cosmetic-type work on the house done by professionals... we're DIY people but I'm recognizing that the work needs to be done soon and well.

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Re: What things did you do outside your comfort zone today?
« Reply #62 on: February 06, 2019, 04:26:30 AM »
Interviewed for a Fire'd side gig. Been almost 4 years and I was always self employed but I found the process pretty simple and actually kinda more of a hassle so not sure what that means the work if I did it would feel like.

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Re: What things did you do outside your comfort zone today?
« Reply #63 on: February 09, 2019, 09:02:23 PM »
I cannot emphasize enough how important it is for a person to go outside their comfort zone. Trying new things, going new places, gathering more information -- all of that helps a person grow & avoid stagnation. (Imo, stagnation is like death.)

I walked down an unfamiliar hiking trail, near my apartment. The path hugged a steep incline, and each step was made more treacherous by recent rainfall. About halfway down the path, I saw through the trees some kind of concrete edifice -- I started wondering if it lead to an abandoned facility (there's one not too far from here, so the expectation wasn't entirely out of line.) But the closer I got, catching my balance on trees and hopping over disintegrating grit, the clearer the picture: they were concrete columns, holding up three apartments! I've been on that end of the street, before, and had no idea that most of these apartments were hanging 90% off the hill.

I learned several new things, following that trail. The first is that the trail loops around, connecting to my street. It also branches off at one point, providing a short cut to my favorite grocery store! I also learned a bit about how to balance & move when the mud underneath you is very slippery.

Most of my ventures into 'try/do new things & leave the comfort zone' aren't nearly so exciting. But exploring my environment and seeking new information leads to interesting results often enough that I've become fond of the practice. I've found abandoned buildings half-swallowed by foliage, secret retreats, good friends, and have even learned a few skills.

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Re: What things did you do outside your comfort zone today?
« Reply #64 on: February 10, 2019, 05:24:14 PM »
I cannot emphasize enough how important it is for a person to go outside their comfort zone. Trying new things, going new places, gathering more information -- all of that helps a person grow & avoid stagnation. (Imo, stagnation is like death.)

I walked down an unfamiliar hiking trail, near my apartment....

I learned several new things, following that trail. The first is that the trail loops around, connecting to my street. It also branches off at one point, providing a short cut to my favorite grocery store! I also learned a bit about how to balance & move when the mud underneath you is very slippery.

Most of my ventures into 'try/do new things & leave the comfort zone' aren't nearly so exciting. But exploring my environment and seeking new information leads to interesting results often enough that I've become fond of the practice. I've found abandoned buildings half-swallowed by foliage, secret retreats, good friends, and have even learned a few skills.

I live across from a large park. When I take my dogs for a walk in the park, we always stay on the maintained trails. Many times I have thought about how when I was a kid, I'd have taken my dog all over the place--into the wooded parts, into the creek, under the bridge, etc. We'd know where the best places to look for crawdads were, or where it was deep enough to swim. The last time I roamed off the beaten trails (at another very wooded park in my same city) I was afraid of serial killers the whole time, lol. Glad I had my childhood before I knew about them!  Good for you, being brave!

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Re: What things did you do outside your comfort zone today?
« Reply #65 on: February 11, 2019, 07:50:19 AM »
taking my son out all the time.  we're at the park  for 3 hours at a time.  many families stay 20 minutes and pack up ..

and they say 'dont touch the mud! no in the mud!'  maybe they're going to church afterward

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Re: What things did you do outside your comfort zone today?
« Reply #66 on: February 11, 2019, 10:58:46 AM »
I'm a "don't touch the mud!" mom. Sadly, we don't have the margin in our lives to wash the sneakers a lot.  My kids have three pairs of shoes: sneakers (for school), a good pair (for church), and a pair of boots.  If they happen to be wearing the boots, then sure, the mud is fine.

Yesterday I went to the Indian superstore for the first time. Almost all of the items and brands were unfamiliar to me, but it was a lot of fun... felt like I was on a trip to another country! I bought several foods that looked interesting. We tried a couple of them and they were both well priced and pretty good!
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Re: What things did you do outside your comfort zone today?
« Reply #67 on: February 13, 2019, 12:32:45 PM »
Today blindly I took a leaf of faith from what I could find out and walked into a LesMills CX Workout at our Y. Been looking to do more group stuff as I am getting sick of the Elliptical, treadmill etc.. but also cant do alot of jumping cuz my knees are trash. Anyhow it was humbling to say the least. Thought I was in shape ...ha! And fortunately my bigger fear was at least there were 3 other men in the class. I didnt want to be that guy! Now I gotta get the guts to try another one thats called Body Pump. I'm beat but was worth it and that was after an hour of MOI spin class. (Mounting climbing)

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Re: What things did you do outside your comfort zone today?
« Reply #68 on: February 14, 2019, 09:28:52 AM »
found new mechanic closer to job.
 
so worth it

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« Reply #69 on: February 19, 2019, 11:46:41 AM »
Today blindly I took a leaf of faith from what I could find out and walked into a LesMills CX Workout at our Y. Been looking to do more group stuff as I am getting sick of the Elliptical, treadmill etc.. but also cant do alot of jumping cuz my knees are trash. Anyhow it was humbling to say the least. Thought I was in shape ...ha! And fortunately my bigger fear was at least there were 3 other men in the class. I didnt want to be that guy! Now I gotta get the guts to try another one thats called Body Pump. I'm beat but was worth it and that was after an hour of MOI spin class. (Mounting climbing)

You'll like Body Pump!

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Re: What things did you do outside your comfort zone today?
« Reply #70 on: February 19, 2019, 10:26:11 PM »
On saturday I told 3 cute girls I liked that I loved the courdination of their pink and blue hair since pastels are in and contrasts between primary and secondary pigments are very aesthetic. They took it well. Also my friends pulled me to not run away from them for 5 minutes but i started making weird sounds so they stopped and I bolted.

Um yeah. That was a thing that happened.