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albireo13

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Reducing drinking!
« on: October 04, 2017, 04:57:59 AM »
I have to admit that drinking has become my worst enemy.  It robs me of motivation, too many calories, lost free time.
Most days after work I deal with de-stressing by drinking wine in the evening, usually 3+ glasses.  Weekends too.

I've gone cold turkey before but that hasn't lasted.

Now is the time to regain my old self.

My goal now:  weekends plus 1 day a week,  2 glasses of wine max, or 2 beers.

Anyone else have success stories doing such?





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Re: Reducing drinking!
« Reply #1 on: October 04, 2017, 05:20:14 AM »
I hear you. After that first glass i have zero motivation to get anything productive done. I'm a few days into the Whole30 which for me one of the primary motivators was to give myself a set boundary around drinking.  I've tried the only x number of y per week and just got nowhere.  I'm essentially going cold turkey for the 30 days but the sell for me was this diet is intended to reset your relationship with the what you put in your body. Good luck to us both!

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Re: Reducing drinking!
« Reply #2 on: October 04, 2017, 09:10:44 AM »
I am toying with something like this. I don't every day but most days have a glass of wine (or 2) with dinner. While enjoyable and relaxing (my life is really busy!) it lowers my motivation to almost 0 to do anything the rest of the evening. Plus I like to eat, munch on snacks while drinking which = more calories than I need.

I haven't decided on whether cold turkey for 30 days, or more likely drinking either one or 2 times a week (I have a girlfriend and it's pretty customary to share a bottle of wine while watching our guilty pleasure tv show (GOT currently) which is 1/week, plus can give myself one other "pass" to drink.

As far as going cold turkey, both times I was pregnant I didn't drink for the 9 months plus about a month afterwards (breastfeeding). And it was no big deal. If I did want to go cold turkey 100% it was nice to have an odouls during social situations, to enjoy the taste and also fit in.

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Re: Reducing drinking!
« Reply #3 on: October 04, 2017, 09:52:51 AM »
Exactly,  1 glass of wine leads to another and then I have 0 motivation as well.  Plus, I get the munchies pretty soon and out come the cheese and crackers!!

The Whole30 sounds intruiging.  I'll check it out.   It feel it is actually tougher for me to restrict to a few drinks a week rather than go cold turkey.

Still, I don't want to eliminate wine entirely from my life ... just re-train myself to exercise much more moderation.



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Re: Reducing drinking!
« Reply #4 on: October 04, 2017, 04:14:03 PM »
Semi-success story here (still working on it).  I never drank much in my teens and 20s but hit a bad and still ongoing extremely stressful patch of my life in my early 30s.  I started having a couple of drinks in the evening with dinner to try and relax, but it soon became a bad habit.  At the worst point I was drinking a bottle of wine a night, 3-4 nights a week.  Obviously, that had to stop, as well as being horrifying when I worked out the cost over a year!

Like others, I found that my productivity went down to zero in the evenings but it was still really hard to break the habit.  The only way I could do it was to stop keeping alcohol in the house at all and only buy it when I had a proper reason to.  And then, if it was a bottle of something that I wouldn't finish in one go then I'd pour out what I'd allow myself to drink in one night at the start and stash the rest of the bottle in the attic, or in the garage.  Sounds ridiculous, but if I put it in the fridge then I lost my willpower after the second glass of wine and I'd go and get another one.  If I had to make a conscious decision to fetch it from somewhere inconvenient then I could usually stop and talk myself out of it.  Now I rarely drink on weekdays at all and might have a glass or two on a Saturday night, but it's a vast improvement.

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Re: Reducing drinking!
« Reply #5 on: October 04, 2017, 06:29:23 PM »
I've been toying with this idea. After the election, I found myself having a glass of wine with dinner most nights, instead of only on weekends. I recently discovered that none of my fall/winter pants zip, and I haven't otherwise changed my eating/exercise habits. So looks like I'll have to reduce the booze intake or else buy all new pants. :(

I've had mixed success so far. It helps that I have terrible fall allergies and my allergy meds do not play nicely with booze; I get unpleasantly drunk really fast, so on bad allergy days it's easy to abstain. I do not want to experience that again! But if I haven't had to take meds that day it's been hit or miss whether I resist.

Basically I need a better way to cope with stress resulting from the news, than having a glass of wine. Considering that I've also cut desserts and white carbs and in general am trying not to spend money at all, I'm coming up blank. I think that for a while wine was replacing dessert when I was really dying for baked goods. Everyone always says exercise but I am just not a workout sort of person.

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Re: Reducing drinking!
« Reply #6 on: October 11, 2017, 11:17:50 AM »
Basically I need a better way to cope with stress resulting from the news, than having a glass of wine. Considering that I've also cut desserts and white carbs and in general am trying not to spend money at all, I'm coming up blank. I think that for a while wine was replacing dessert when I was really dying for baked goods. Everyone always says exercise but I am just not a workout sort of person.

Have you tried information diet? I, too, lament hearing the daily drama about Trump but still wanted to stay informed on world events so I use the NPR One Android app. It is all the same stories as NPR on the radio but you can skip any stories you don't want to hear and also can listen to podcasts (Planet Money is my favorite). Recently I have been using the skip button prodigiously whenever the stupid Las Vegas story comes up (we still don't know his motivation oh my goodness!! let's interview his short-term girlfriend from SE Asia!) and less as much with Trump stories unless it's about the NFL.

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On topic, what are your guys' opinions  on moderation versus cold-turkey with regards to alcohol? Moderation is more difficult from a self-control perspective because it is easy to slide back into daily habits. However, is moderation better from a psychological standpoint because it teaches enjoyment without excess? Alcoholism runs in my family and I aspire to be like my partner. She can smoke or drink socially but will very rarely just have a drink for no reason.

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Re: Reducing drinking!
« Reply #7 on: October 11, 2017, 02:12:21 PM »
albireo, I've had success lately with this. Back in March after my habit got out of control, I vowed to stop drinking for a while and then return to moderate drinking only if I wanted to. (I am very rebellious, even against myself, so vowing to never drink again would have resulted in me immediately getting wasted.)

I ended up not drinking at all for 6 weeks.

Since May I have been limiting it to weekends plus 1 day a week just like you. During the week, I usually limit it to one glass per sitting and on the weekend, 2 glasses per day max. Although occasionally I've had 3 on Saturday and none on Sunday. Depends on what's going on.

I've lost 5-6 pounds basically without trying, and I feel so much better. Also doing much better at work. More clear-headed.

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« Reply #8 on: October 11, 2017, 02:50:10 PM »


Have you tried information diet?

Kind of? I limit my exposure to news (and the Make America Kittens Again Chrome extension is the best thing ever!), but I don't want to give up Facebook and I tend to see lots of headlines that raise my blood pressure and anxiety - though at least I can usually keep myself from clicking the link.



On topic, what are your guys' opinions  on moderation versus cold-turkey with regards to alcohol? Moderation is more difficult from a self-control perspective because it is easy to slide back into daily habits. However, is moderation better from a psychological standpoint because it teaches enjoyment without excess? Alcoholism runs in my family and I aspire to be like my partner. She can smoke or drink socially but will very rarely just have a drink for no reason.

I've been torn on this too. Right now I am leaning toward not having it in the house, but allowing myself a drink when I'm out. Too easy to pour WAY too large of a glass of wine at home, and then, what the hell, why not have another. Whereas if I'm out, and paying for every glass, I'll naturally limit myself because damn, that gets expensive, and I feel a bit of moral outrage at paying the same amount for 1 glass of wine as I usually do for a bottle!

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Re: Reducing drinking!
« Reply #9 on: October 12, 2017, 10:11:52 AM »
but I don't want to give up Facebook

This, here, is your problem.