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Re: Continued: Getting rid of stuff / Clearing out clutter! PART 2
« Reply #1650 on: November 15, 2018, 06:20:29 AM »

I struggle with china because I don't care for it, but there's still a 12 piece set that my husband agrees we don't need but have to keep while his mother is still alive.  Huge chunk of cabinet space...

What is it with parents and china?  My Mom gave me a set that was her Aunt's decades ago, and is horrified that I want to get rid of it.  It is monogrammed (not our initial) and gold rimmed, so can't go in the dishwasher.  I'm sure it cost my Great Aunt a fortune when she bought it.  But no one wants it now, including us.  We have carted this stuff around through 4 houses, and it is not going with us next time.  So I've been sneaking it out so Mom doesn't notice - first the cups and saucers, then the bread plates, etc.   We are down to the dinner plates and a couple of small bowls now, and those will go after Christmas.


I agree!  Parents just don't understand (Cue DJ Jazzy Jeff and Fresh Prince)….
I haven't thought about it too much, but I KNOW my mom has at least one set of.... maybe not china, but something she considers "her fancy dishes" and used for Thanksgiving, Xmas, etc.  I also KNOW she has a cabinet of tchotchkes (that she apparently now calls Nic Nacs, she was insisting on the phone last night that she's never used the word tchotchkes). 
We were talking a bit about my grandma, who still lives alone and just turned 91 yesterday... and I was asking if she still has cabinets full of junk at her house... my mom kept insisting that one of my aunts helped clean the house out so that it would be more livable... but when I pressed her, she said that "of course" she still has her Nic Nacs in big cabinets with glass doors... as if that's NOT what I was referring to as 'Junk' (it was).
THIMBLES and BELLS.  OH THE THIMBLES AND BELLS.

This makes me nervous that there are more cabinets of junk at my parents house than I realize.  :::Shudder:::
I try not to press them too much about the state of their junk, as I live a thousand+ miles away...  But my dad grew up dirt-floor-poor, and I know he just feels secure stockpiling stuff even though they've been securely lower-middle class for decades (not ideal, but they're secure) and he likely DOES NOT NEED his old mower salvage parts, or two decades worth of his old factory-issued steel toed boots that "have plenty of life left in them". 
OK, FEELING PANICKED, MUST STOP THINKING ABOUT THAT CROWDED HOUSE.
And several curio cabinets like were popular in the 80s for displaying dolls and shit.

…. I snort-laughed when I read that!  These are the EXACT thing my parents have in their house.  Displaying who knows what?  I think there's a model airplane in one and like... some bells and a few figurines in the other?  WHYYYYYYYYY.  I'm having vague memories of what's inside those things "displayed" and... a desk clock for like a fancy bosses desk (why), figurines of ladies in bonnets and crap, model cars my dad put together in the 1990's on like one weekend a year when we weren't allowed to bother him, ummm… some childrens crafts, some glasses for whisky or something (no one drinks), um...
I'm getting a headache thinking about it.  Ha.

Those curio cabinets are like the precursor to Instagram/Facebook, where people would collect images or objects of their lives to present a narrative to themselves (and their guests) about themselves over time. It's interesting that people do that virtually now. Humans are silly.

Anyway, I laughed when I read your post. My husband and I jokingly refer to all of our possessions as our precious golden trinkets.

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Re: Continued: Getting rid of stuff / Clearing out clutter! PART 2
« Reply #1651 on: November 15, 2018, 06:40:57 AM »
Yesterday I gave 8 crystal liquor glasses that I have had for 18 years and never once drank a liquor from, to the church treasures sale.  Also leaving the house were a number of pots and old Christmas decorations.  Man it felt good.  And they will be used in the big fundraiser.

My gramma went through a phase of making dolls.  She would make clothing for them out of her wedding dress or other important clothing.  The fabric from the suits or dresses that she had made over the years was too good for turning into a quilt or a rug.  One doll for each of her grandchildren in the  wedding dress she made herself.   I have been able to store my doll at my parents house.  She lives in the glass case on the curio cabinet in the living room with the three other dolls , for each of my brothers anď my dad.

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« Reply #1652 on: November 15, 2018, 06:42:44 AM »
Okay, here is a curio cabinet story...years ago the hub and I went to Florida on vacay. We went to some shop that sold these pretty bird figurines. They are fairly large. So I get carried away and buy about 4 of these birds. They came in fairly large boxes with Styrofoam to protect them. Well, not only do we have these birds, we bought other stuff. We now realize we have no way to get these treasures home because we have no room in our suitcases. So, while we were shopping, we find this place that is selling giant roller suitcases for like $19.99 so we bought two. Now we get all this junk back to the hotel and no way we can maneuver 4 suitcases on wheels and carry bags. So we put one of our smaller suitcases into the gigantic suitcase with some of the junk we bought. We still had 3 rolly bags and one was super heavy in a cheap suitcase so it rolled like crap! Well, somehow we made it to the airport and home. Now, I have these birds and no where to put them. I have no shelves and no room to put shelves in. OMG! So, I went to Bob's furniture store (nightmare furniture store) and bought a narrow cheap curio cabinet that fit all the birds. I also had a few other random smaller birds I was able to put in the cabinet. Now, occasionally I have to dust these dumb birds. Why oh why did I buy all the birds, that led to the suitcases that led to the curio cabinet that now leads me to dust them! These birds are not collector stuff and are not worth anything but are pretty.
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Re: Continued: Getting rid of stuff / Clearing out clutter! PART 2
« Reply #1653 on: November 15, 2018, 06:53:04 AM »
When I was a kid my Mom took me to the house of someone I now recognize as a hoarder who was a doll lady. She must have had thousands. But she had a collection of 20 she changed daily based on the weather.

I was determined to do the same with my American Girl dolls, but seasonally.

Well shit, that takes a lot of time!

So my dolls get changed yearly. And I have 13 of them (down from a high of 15).  But Toy Story emotionally scarred me, so I don't know how to get rid of any of them.  I think I should have 5. That would be more reasonable...

My daughter will get a few when she's old enough to play with them. But mostly it's an oversized collection...


But curio cabinets were the stuff of my dreams when I was a kid.  I just threw out the 11 pewter figurines I got for selling girl scout cookies (I have a traumatic story about why I don't have 12...)  I LOVE a collection, but now as an adult, I only collect postcards.

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Re: Continued: Getting rid of stuff / Clearing out clutter! PART 2
« Reply #1654 on: November 15, 2018, 07:11:51 AM »
I think that, maybe, today is the day that the boxes of donations we filled several months ago will be able to leave the house and actually make it to the donation center. They have been sitting silently in the basement waiting for a day when I had room in the car and some extra time. I'm unreasonably excited about their immanent departure.

This weekend, DH has a whole day free. He is planning on maybe cleaning out the piled junk in said basement. More stuff may be unearthed that can leave. I think we still have too much snow to remove the leaves from the dog's yard so an inside job would be just the ticket.

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Re: Continued: Getting rid of stuff / Clearing out clutter! PART 2
« Reply #1655 on: November 15, 2018, 02:25:41 PM »
Any time I think I’m ‘done’ with decluttering I watch someone doing the minimalism game on YouTube and always find a few more things. I tend not to play the game properly: one thing on the first day, two on the second etc, but instead I write the numbers 1-30 and then go in little bursts to see what numbers I can cross off. Last night it was 1, 2, 3, 20. I purged some old makeup, an adjustable rod for hanging things that was super wobbly and no longer needed since I built shelves for our entry hall, a skipping rope still in its packet (to the giving tree), a little bag (coin purse maybe?) that looks like a tiny backpack that I have never used, some Fitbit ‘acessories’ a different sized band etc, and a foam roller that was too firm. All packed up into the donation bag except the skipping rope which went into my work bag to drop at the tree.

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Re: Continued: Getting rid of stuff / Clearing out clutter! PART 2
« Reply #1656 on: November 16, 2018, 07:47:41 AM »
The way we all list out the specific items we ditch reads like death notices for things. Don't get me wrong; I love this thread. It just struck me as funny and deliciously weird.

Old pillows, sodastream, and computer backpack are added to the donation pile.

Lol, it does seem like an obituary for stuff, doesn't it?

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« Reply #1657 on: November 16, 2018, 10:36:39 PM »
Listed nine things on eBay. If everything sells I'll end up with $185 back in my pocket.

I topped up my shampoo, etc, so I can throw out the empty refills.

And I started writing Christmas cards so I can get them out of my house. This is the first year I didn't buy cards in the post-Christmas sales. I had about dozen left over from Christmas 2015, a dozen from Christmas 2016 and a dozen from Christmas 2017, so I'm using up those first.

I'm undecided if I will buy cards in January as I hate to be contributing to landfill. But for now I still have seven grandparents (it's a long story), two of whom are in care, and the cards mean a lot to them.

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Re: Continued: Getting rid of stuff / Clearing out clutter! PART 2
« Reply #1658 on: Today at 04:45:05 AM »
Doing a huge wardrobe clearout, plus a heap of baby things. One big surprise is EIGHT great quality bras in a size I haven't been for years - probably the only time in my life I've owned eight bras in one size?! Such luxury. Luckily a friend thinks they'll fit her so they're going to a good home.

They all fit her! Yay! Friend is happy, I'm happy, everybody wins.

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« Reply #1659 on: Today at 08:05:59 AM »
@Roadrunner53 I thoroughly enjoyed your bird/cabinet story. It sounds like a Dr. Seusian tale against buying souvenirs (to me anyway).

Today, I decluttered the notebooks. I tore out all of my writings and put them in a folder, then I either donated or recycled the notebooks. When I Kondoed a few years ago, I just recycled all of my writings, but I think I'll keep these for a future me to look over and say, why did I keep these? I also got rid of a bunch of what I consider school supplies because I still have the mindset of a 12 year old, but I think adult people might call them stationery supplies. (Also looked into the etymology of the word stationery because that seemed like a good use of time).

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« Reply #1660 on: Today at 08:29:46 AM »
Today I want to start the process of purging my cloth diapering supplies.  This is hard for me because I paid good money for them. But doing so would clear a cubic yard or so, and I have no intention of using them.
- solid metal snap setter and dies, think they cost me $150 or so
- several thousand new plastic snaps, many colors
- a few yards of hemp sherpa, PUL, foldover elastic, and performance wicking fabric for liners

Will take photos, then post on Craigslist to see if I can make a local sale. If they don't move, need to consider my options. The cost of shipping these materials, especially the heavy snap setter, would easily double their price.

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« Reply #1661 on: Today at 08:31:00 AM »
The final trips of STUFF are today and yesterday. MOST was yesterday. Including my dreaded memory boxes. Dreaded just because I have nowhere to store them, and I really don't have the emotional energy to go through them. Included are some paper things, like old letters, but also stuffed animals from when I was a child, a feather from my show roo I loved when I was a kid, that sort of stuff. No idea how I'll manage to get through everything.

Got the go ahead on getting rid of 1 of 2 dressers I had gotten from my mom. The other fits, and she okay'd me selling this one. Also yesterday was able to fit in the sale of a vacuum (we had 2, this was my old one) for $75. So far I've been able to sell $160 worth of stuff during this move with pretty minimal effort.

At least now that the final pieces are up here, I can finalize decor stuff. Know what I'll be using and not. I also have a growing stash of "stuff to give back to family". Up next: neon colored fiesta ware serving plate and gravy boat MIL inexplicably showed up with one day after we bought the house. No room now, so back they go at thanksgiving! Now I need to decide if it's more rude to show up with a large dish at someone else's thanksgiving, or show up with an empty serving platter!

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« Reply #1662 on: Today at 08:44:32 AM »
Up next: neon colored fiesta ware serving plate and gravy boat MIL inexplicably showed up with one day after we bought the house. No room now, so back they go at thanksgiving! Now I need to decide if it's more rude to show up with a large dish at someone else's thanksgiving, or show up with an empty serving platter!

Could you put food in the big serving plate, and send it home with somebody when they take leftovers home? 

As for sentimental stuff from your childhood, how about taking a few photos before you get rid of them?

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« Reply #1663 on: Today at 08:51:58 AM »
Up next: neon colored fiesta ware serving plate and gravy boat MIL inexplicably showed up with one day after we bought the house. No room now, so back they go at thanksgiving! Now I need to decide if it's more rude to show up with a large dish at someone else's thanksgiving, or show up with an empty serving platter!

Could you put food in the big serving plate, and send it home with somebody when they take leftovers home? 

As for sentimental stuff from your childhood, how about taking a few photos before you get rid of them?

No, I need to give it to MIL. I can't very well pass a family 'heirloom' onto another person without her permission. Also, it's a giant serving platter, like what you put the turkey on, and weighs about 14lbs, lol.

And I don't *want* to get rid of any of that stuff. That was my point! Photos don't replace the tangible experience of seeing the indents from your hands as a child. And at this point, I'm still not giving up the idea I might have children of my own. So my plan is to try and get rid of enough other stuff that I might be able to make room.

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« Reply #1664 on: Today at 08:53:04 AM »
I am still really really into this thread!

I think I'm down to close to my bare-bones materialism besides the old family photos.  I might be able to find a thing her and there to give away or sell, but right now I think I am tapped out.

This means the rest of my clean up energy needs to go to my 'Big List', which is... probably about 50% complete?


To be clear, my home is not without fluff, it's just down the essential fluff.  Right now I am staring at this beautiful hand made machete and leather decorate machete sash.  It hangs from the wall like art.
This machete was one of the items left in the first house that I purchased by the prior owners.  Everything else they left I threw out/gave away, but for whatever reason this thing made me smile and seemed like such a whimsical thing to keep.  Now that I've sold that house I keep it as a reminder of that proud amazing moment when I walked into the HOME THAT I HAD JUST PURCHASED and how warm my heart felt... and how I looked over and saw a machete sitting in the kitchen, laughed, and just never got rid of the dang thing.  HA.

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« Reply #1665 on: Today at 09:51:49 AM »
Up next: neon colored fiesta ware serving plate and gravy boat MIL inexplicably showed up with one day after we bought the house. No room now, so back they go at thanksgiving! Now I need to decide if it's more rude to show up with a large dish at someone else's thanksgiving, or show up with an empty serving platter!

Could you put food in the big serving plate, and send it home with somebody when they take leftovers home? 

As for sentimental stuff from your childhood, how about taking a few photos before you get rid of them?

No, I need to give it to MIL. I can't very well pass a family 'heirloom' onto another person without her permission. Also, it's a giant serving platter, like what you put the turkey on, and weighs about 14lbs, lol.

And I don't *want* to get rid of any of that stuff. That was my point! Photos don't replace the tangible experience of seeing the indents from your hands as a child. And at this point, I'm still not giving up the idea I might have children of my own. So my plan is to try and get rid of enough other stuff that I might be able to make room.

ah bummer!  I see what you mean. How about just quietly disappearing it, and when she asks where it is, say it's "in storage"?

Oh, I see what you mean about your childhood stuff.  Yes, this is what storage space is for. I'm getting rid of a lot of stuff that doesn't matter to me, so I can save a few of the clothes worn by my dad who died.

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Re: Continued: Getting rid of stuff / Clearing out clutter! PART 2
« Reply #1666 on: Today at 10:51:30 AM »
The way we all list out the specific items we ditch reads like death notices for things. Don't get me wrong; I love this thread. It just struck me as funny and deliciously weird.

Old pillows, sodastream, and computer backpack are added to the donation pile.

Lol, it does seem like an obituary for stuff, doesn't it?

I love this observation (and also like that we give these things one last nod before removing them from our lives)


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« Reply #1667 on: Today at 11:57:29 AM »
OH just freecycled her wedding dress. Listed it for fabric as the actual outer dress had a lot of marks (oh, and a small tear from over-enthusiastic playing of lawn darts during the reception). It never got cleaned after the wedding and a decade of storage didn't do it any favours, but there was a train that never got used, plus all the lining material, etc.  So far, so dull.

But then the woman that came to pick it up said that she wanted the fabric because she used to be in a pop band, they were going on a reunion tour to the Netherlands, and so she was trying to sort out costumes. Way better story than just going into someone's craft stash.

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« Reply #1668 on: Today at 12:42:40 PM »
Yesterday was lovely things I never wear : the gorgeous chestnut Kickers, my eelskin cowboy boots, my fluevog heels. They all hurt my feet in some way but have previously escaped the purging because they are souvenirs of Paris, Melbourne and Chicago trips with Ofpym.

Goodbye boots, I hope someone find you and loves you.

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« Reply #1669 on: Today at 02:58:58 PM »
We had people over last night. The time spent tidying the living areas, bathroom & kitchen was minimal and it was easy to clean because.. no clutter! High five!

There's still the spare bedroom and study that are too full but I think I'll just shut the door and make peace with those. In 2019 we are building a double garage which will house stuff like skis, bikes, tools, heaters & fans that currently live in these rooms. It's not really possible to arrange stuff that just shouldn't be there in a pleasing way!