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Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
« Reply #850 on: May 17, 2018, 06:33:05 AM »

I had the fear of God put in me about falling asleep with her on a couch or padded chair. So I only sit up with her in a rocker. Now I just worry if I fall asleep she'd rolling off the pillow and fall. I won't use my phone in MY bed because I have really bad insomnia and don't want to make it worse.


I know we are going OT but, why the worry about falling asleep on a couch or padded chair?  Especially the padded chair.  As I said, we were in an easy chair (padded, big fat arms) and could both fall asleep and we were so well supported (me by the chair, her by me and the pillow) that we never shifted.  And it was so nice to get that sleep!  Have the guidelines changed?  Rockers are great for an unhappy baby, the rocking soothes them, but for middle-of-the-night nursing?
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Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
« Reply #851 on: May 17, 2018, 06:49:35 AM »

I had the fear of God put in me about falling asleep with her on a couch or padded chair. So I only sit up with her in a rocker. Now I just worry if I fall asleep she'd rolling off the pillow and fall. I won't use my phone in MY bed because I have really bad insomnia and don't want to make it worse.


I know we are going OT but, why the worry about falling asleep on a couch or padded chair?  Especially the padded chair.  As I said, we were in an easy chair (padded, big fat arms) and could both fall asleep and we were so well supported (me by the chair, her by me and the pillow) that we never shifted.  And it was so nice to get that sleep!  Have the guidelines changed?  Rockers are great for an unhappy baby, the rocking soothes them, but for middle-of-the-night nursing?


I was told that a couch or cushy chair is one of the most dangerous places for a baby to sleep with parents because of the risk of suffocation.
If you do cosleep the recommendation is that it should only be on a firm bed, low to the floor, with no blankets or pillows.

http://pediatrics.aappublications.org/content/early/2016/10/20/peds.2016-2938

I'll admit, I'm probably even more paranoid about SIDS and infant death because of the loss support groups I am in I know many many women whose otherwise healthy babies have died in their first year of life. Many after the "it's safe now" mark of 4-6 months.

Even at 13 months we don't let her use a blanket overnight, just at naps. (And I still nurse her in the rocking chair at night.)

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Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
« Reply #852 on: May 18, 2018, 02:16:45 PM »
@lifejoy , babyjoy will one day treasure the jewelry that you got for your very first Mother's Day - in honor of her!  The necklace and earrings I got for my first Mother's Day will go to my daughter one day.  And if they don't appreciate them, well, fie on them.

I lost May already. The kids begged to go to the bookstore to spend their allowances and I got weak.  I bought 2 books.

I justified this because
a) It was Mother's Day and this was my tangible present to me (the kids washed the car)
b) I didn't buy one last month
c) We're going through some stressful family things and books are my security blanket.
d) The bookstore actually made an effort to stock "African American romance" and shelve it with "regular" romance and I decided it was time to put my money where my mouth is and try one.

I put the third book back on the shelf and will buy it next month.  That decision actually made the mild guilt go away.  I was still purposeful, just not within star-earning guidelines.

I did throw away the Yankee Candle coupons.


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You cracked me up:) LOL at all the great excuses, ahem, I mean perfectly good reasons:) - just teasing ya, but I was wondering how much of an impact overall this challenge has had on your book buying so far - two books versus five or ten in any given month? How many total for this year compared to last year?
...  and I love the "still purposeful, just not within star-earning guidelines" explanation. It has merit, but I can't apply it, because it's a slippery slope for me.

I think overall this challenge is proving a success for most of us - maybe not a total win, but hey, baby steps!

I'm more of an all or nothing personality and so I don't intend to enter the "still purposeful, just not star-earning guidelines" territory yet, even though I slipped once, I plan to stick with "no purchases at all" for a while longer.

I'm hoping to make it through May, June to mid July, because I am giving myself carte blanche while on vacation through September, which may mean anything from no purchases to several. Jewelry and gemstones being what they are, I always consider my purchases well and I boosted my budget to include a jewelry purchase if that is what I want to do - depends entirely on what I come across, if anything.

Once I return in late Sep, I'll re-evaluate where I stand. Not really keen on allowing myself a piece of jewelry over the holidays either. To the contrary, I hope to be stronger and not feel deprived, but rather victorious and righteous in my refusal to give into temptation.
The whole idea is for me to stop collecting and accumulating and that is exactly what I intend to do.

Naturally, I may need to allow myself a book, a Macchiato and a piece of Key Lime pie to detract myself from all things shiny:)
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Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
« Reply #853 on: May 18, 2018, 08:37:27 PM »
@Rosy , your budget will probably be much happier if you just indulge in books and not shiny pretty things.  And when you finish reading them, you can let me borrow them ;)

I am an expert at justifying books and cake (it's way better than Key Lime pie, just saying).

I do not have a great grasp on how much I spent on books last year, because I hid most of the purchases in the grocery budget (bad me!), but I know I decluttered a couple hundred earlier this year.  Generally, I bought at least 1 book a week, sometimes often more if it was a bad a week/my favorite author had a new book/random author I'd never heard of had a new book/ooooo that book cover features a pretty dress.  And that doesn't count the Half-Priced Books runs....because if it's used and half-off it obviously doesn't count.  So....maybe 100 books purchased last year?  Not counting the ones I bought the children.

In 4.5 months this year I've only bought 6 or 7 books for myself (and that includes an accidental cookbook purchase), and I've cut book spending for the children by about 50% (replaced by weekly library runs + their newly discovered willingness to spend their own money if mom doesn't offer).  Yet I've still managed to read 78 books.

I would have to be dead to have a year with zero book purchases, and even that first year postmortem there will probably be a few Amazon preorders get filled.  So this level of mindfulness is unusual for me, and I'm really pleased with how well this challenge is working - for me and for everyone else.  By the end of the year I hope we will all have found a sustainable balance.
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Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
« Reply #854 on: May 19, 2018, 03:02:08 PM »
I don't think I confessed this, but I did buy a gift card in May. I bought a Starbucks coffee gift card that we will use for a road trip. I bought it because it came with a $25 Sephora gift card. Which, I sold, because I don't shop there. So, fail, but I was tempted to then buy something at Sephora, so I avoided that & at least made $20+ on the gift card. So, there's that. But, I could have waited until closer to the road trip & added the money at that time. However, it would have "cost" $20 more then. . . I can't decide if it was a good purchase or not, but it's clearly a slippery slope for me & I'm seeing the justification & realizing that again, I should stick to my plan of only buying gift cards for immediate use.

As a "reality check", I just went in & added up all of our current gift card values. They are over $1K in total. Although, about $250 was a gift from work. But, that's still quite a bit of money to keep in our current budget & not spend.