@MoneyTree, it seems my brain has a few more things to say on this topic, because I keep thinking about it today. Luckily, this is a safe place to talk about money and no one thinks you're being an asshat. It's also what I love about the Moab Meetups. Where else can you talk/hike/hang around the campfire with cool people who understand how money works, no matter where they are in their journey?
Early in the journey, before Pete came along, I counted everything. I would even check the "Zestimates" on my property monthly and add them to my totals. Actually, that's not really accurate. I never counted the "value" of my car, clothing, jewelry, household goods, etc. because if the SHTF, I couldn't get much for any of it, and that still holds true to this day.
Then I just started counting my equities, which is technically how the "races" are supposed to work.
Once I started hitting numbers I'd never dreamed of and my equities were earning more than I was, I started counting everything* again, but in a very loosey-goosey way. I don't budget, I don't add up all of our investments compulsively, because it just doesn't matter now.
Just for fun: I don't count our old cars, our fancy-pants RV, any of the contents of our home, or the condo we bought for my Bonus Kid, who is on the spectrum (all paid for). He's gainfully employed and was never going to launch without a huge boost. I'd rather help him find independence now than have them be engulfed by a firehose of $$$ after we're dead. We don't count SS because neither of us have filed for it yet, but it will be a good amount when we eventually do. DH has a Defined Benefit Pension that began in 2022. We never counted that before he retired, but we live on it now, along with our rental income.
*What we do count: Primary home (no mortgage, HCOLA), three SFH rental properties (net of their long, low, lean mortgages, MCOLA), and all of our investment accounts. Sometimes I call my husband "Lee Majors", which totally cracks us up.
TL;DR - This shit works, man, it really works, and there's a million ways to get there.