@BeanCounter - I can relate to some of your challenges, though my path is a little different. I was aiming to FIRE at $2M, then $2.5M, then… well shortly we passed $3.5M and I couldn’t quite pull the trigger, but a different work opportunity presented itself, and now I’m a year into that. I’m enjoying it and working on keeping even keel and not taking on the stress. Since we are FIRE, though, and I’m choosing to work, I’m looking at the spending differently.
We’re still maxing out retirement accounts and driving old cars and not buying a vacation home, but that spendy trip we want to take? We’re taking it. Kids have sports out of town and it’s easier to spend the night? Get the hotel (or stay at sister’s house and buy them dinner). We still can’t spend all of our money, though, so there’s surplus. I have a friend that has brought us some equity opportunities in businesses, so we’ve shoveled some money into those. One is doing fantastic so far, the next is just getting started but shows promise. These are chunks of money that I couldn’t have imagined parting with for this even 5 years ago, but now I’m going into these knowing full well I may never see that money again… or I may get a 10x return over 5 years. And 10x would be kinda cool.
Anyway, FIRE means you have choices and can take risks or make life easier or just not stress about how you’re going to cover regular expenses after you get fired for giving the honest answer your boss doesn’t want to hear. (And guess what, if she’s any kind of a decent leader and human being, she wants honesty, even if it hurts… though it it’s too painful you might consider when and how and in front of whom you deliver it.) My point is that you, and everyone else in this club, has a choice, and simply having they choice makes it easier to absorb the stresses you’re willing to absorb, and to say no to those you won’t accept. Whether you’re working or not.