Wow, this forum definitely seems to be more about FI (fat FI, if we're being honest) than ER. I monitor the annual FIRE cohort threads and there are a smattering of pullers of ripcords, but ultimately it seems like buffering the stache OMY is the predominant name of the game.
Not criticizing, just pointing it out because others have been annoyed at my lack of ER at various points in my journey... to each their own, it's nice MMM'ers are getting good options these days.
This THREAD is more about fat FIRE than lean FIRE, that's for sure. Not sure you could generalize it to the MMM population at large. OMY is a reasonable compromise before taking such a big, important step. It gets a bit silly after 3 times, but emotions are what they are.
ER wasn't an option for us. I was 55 when I found MMM and my wife was 65.
We had to be EXTRA EXTRA EXTRA secure in our FIRE choices because we have a mentally handicapped daughter who simply cannot take care of herself, so if we get it wrong, she's the innocent one who pays for our mistake. So, multiple safety margins were a must for us.
Our original plan was for a spend of about $60K per year and an income of (approximately, from memory, 'cause I'm not going to go back to 2012 and dig thru my journal):
$32K social security
$20K rental home income
$28K stock income
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=$80K
That way, we would have plenty of buffer just in case, because we were saving for two retirement periods, one for the 3 of us and one for our daughter after we both died.
Not LeanFIRE but not crazy high levels of Fat FIRE either. A good, solid, middle-class income with a paid off house and cars.
A year before we planned to FIRE, we reached a net worth of $1M, which included our paid off home at $120k, three rental homes (2 rent-ready), and the rest in stocks and bonds. We wanted to get that 3rd home rent-ready, pick up a fourth and renovate it, replace our beaters with newer cars, and pad the stash a bit more That would put us within a year of my wife filing for her max SS at age 70.
Then my mom died and we doubled our net worth overnight. That's how we got into this group so quickly instead of it taking many years for the stock component to grow and the property to appreciate in value.
But hey, we weren't going to toss that financial gain away.