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Title: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: lifejoy on December 18, 2017, 05:51:37 PM
Ok, if youíve read ďYour Money or Your LifeĒ, then youíre familiar with gazingus pins. For the rest of ya: itís the non-essential that you keep on buying even though you donít need it, you already have some, and itís just not necessary! Itís your kryponite, your habit, your addiction. Your collection. Your irrational obsession. Iíll post a more in-depth description below, but I think you get the idea.

Iíll be giving up jewellery purchases for 2018 (ack!). What will you be giving up? Consider this thread your support group. We will be firm and we will hold you accountable. Post here when youíre feeling weak or triumphant. Letís give up buying gazingus pins for 2018! We can do it!

Hereís who is participating, and the gazingus pin theyíre pledging to give up for a year:

☆⋆✮Lifejoy - Clothing (except bridesmaid outfits)
☆CheapskateWife - books, jewellery, clothes, and amazon purchases
☆⋆✮✧✪✬Iowajes / I'm a red panda- fabric and nail polish
⋆Vertkurt - watches
⋆✮✧Inkedup - coffee and tea (until home collection is used up)
☆⋆✮✪✬Middo - tools (unless in emergency)
☆⋆✮✧✪✬Happierathome - Tupperware
☆Harper - workout videos and no more than one workout video subscription site
☆Horsepoor - Horse blankets (barring massive destruction of a winter blanket that doesn't have a spare), Saddle pads, Riding breeches or boots, and kitchen gadgets
☆⋆✧✪✬Tris Prior - tea (until home collection is used) and no fun socks/tights
⋆Duchess - eating out junk food / sweets
☆Alleykat - all beauty-related items
⋆✮✧✪Poundwise - craft supplies
☆JanetJackson - energy drinks
☆⋆✮✧✪✬Laura33 - tea
☆✧Chaskavitch - grocery store chocolate, clothing
☆⋆✮✧✪✬Mspym - material or patterns
☆⋆✮✪✬Rosy - jewellery
☆⋆✮✧✪✬Diapasoun - books (unless needed for book club)
☆⋆✧✪✬Formerlydivorcedmom - books (exception: one per month), candles
☆✧✪✬Crustybadger - junk food bought at work
☆⋆✮✪Zeli2033 - books
☆Izybat - eating out
☆⋆✮✧✪✬RetiredAt63 - fibre
☆⋆DTaggart - outdoor gear
☆⋆✧✪✬Serendip - books and workshops/self-improvement courses
✧Gaja - pens, pencils, stationary
✮✧✪Maybebabymustache - GCs unless to be used immediately
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: lifejoy on December 18, 2017, 05:52:24 PM
Discover Your Gazingus Pins
What things do you particularly like to buy, and buy often? What items are so hard to resist that you just can’t pass them by? Everyone has them …

For some people it’s ceramic figurines; for others it’s pens.
For some people it’s shoes; for others it’s earrings.
For some it’s sports memorabilia; for others it’s electronic gadgets.

We call these “gazingus pins.” They are those things you buy automatically, because it’s a habit, or because they make you feel a certain way. You can create categories to track gazingus pins and to monitor when you make unconscious choices out of emotion or habit.

How Do You Know if Something Is a Gazingus Pin?

Ask these questions:

Do I/we need this? Do I/we really want it?
Where would this item be on the fulfillment curve (survival, comfort, luxury, clutter) when I first buy it?
Where would this item be in another month? Two months? A year?

- https://yourmoneyoryourlife.weebly.com/discover-your-gazingus-pins.html
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: meadow lark on December 18, 2017, 06:39:41 PM
I love the idea, and often say to myself when I want something, "this is just a gazingus pin."  I don't know why it helps give me perspective, but it really does. 
  I can't think of any category of things I buy like that anymore, but if one hits me I will post!
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: lifejoy on December 18, 2017, 08:09:17 PM
I love the idea, and often say to myself when I want something, "this is just a gazingus pin."  I don't know why it helps give me perspective, but it really does. 
  I can't think of any category of things I buy like that anymore, but if one hits me I will post!

Haha that’s probably a good thing if you don’t have an obvious answer come to mind ;)

For me, it used to be sweets until I started tracking my spending and found out I was spending $20-40/week on chocolates and pastries! Now it’s jewellery but I’m ready to swear off it for 12 months and appreciate what I have.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: meadow lark on December 20, 2017, 01:57:49 PM
Food was a big one, but now that I am vegan and in a small city, there's nothing tempting I can eat at the bakery anyway!

I love jewelry too, but every time Inam tempted I remember how much I already have that I don't wear.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: gaja on December 20, 2017, 02:57:40 PM
Mine is notebooks. I have at least 20 empty ones, but still buy more. Bookshops in general are a vice.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: lexde on December 20, 2017, 03:11:58 PM
Food. Snacks and junk and diet soda. Prepackaged, nutritionally-devoid waistline expanders. Definitely a compulsion that needs to stop!
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: Serendip on December 20, 2017, 03:15:01 PM
Good idea!
I am giving up art workshops for the year.
Even though I studied arts and have taken many workshops--I always feel compelled to learn something new (even when I am not practicing half the things I would like to practice)

And books..no buying books (the library and our personal library will have to suffice)
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: CheapskateWife on December 20, 2017, 03:24:13 PM
Good idea!
I am giving up art workshops for the year.
Even though I studied arts and have taken many workshops--I always feel compelled to learn something new (even when I am not practicing half the things I would like to practice)

And books..no buying books (the library and our personal library will have to suffice)
Books...I am also so terrible about buying something that looks interesting and then allowing it to collect dust forever and ever more. 
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: lifejoy on December 20, 2017, 03:58:31 PM
Mine is notebooks. I have at least 20 empty ones, but still buy more. Bookshops in general are a vice.

This is for you: http://www.slate.com/articles/life/culturebox/2013/02/addicted_to_stationery_confessions_of_a_woman_who_haunts_paper_stores_and.html
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: lifejoy on December 20, 2017, 03:59:33 PM
Good idea!
I am giving up art workshops for the year.
Even though I studied arts and have taken many workshops--I always feel compelled to learn something new (even when I am not practicing half the things I would like to practice)

And books..no buying books (the library and our personal library will have to suffice)
Books...I am also so terrible about buying something that looks interesting and then allowing it to collect dust forever and ever more.

When I gave up buying books a beautiful thing happened: I always had 3-6 weeks to read a particular (library) book. It often meant that I actually read it! Having a due date can be a wonderful thing :)
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: lifejoy on December 23, 2017, 09:29:34 AM
Ok I’m mentally preparing for this year of abstaining!

Rules for myself:
-cannot buy jewellery
-cannot buy jewellery accessories (holders, cleaners, etc)
-can receive as gifts
-can use gift cards for these types of things
-cannot opt for elective “repairs” (I.e. refinishing a piece or changing the setting of a stone)

So I guess my goal is to not spend my money on such things, but if they come my way it’s ok.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: gaja on December 23, 2017, 10:03:14 AM
Mine is notebooks. I have at least 20 empty ones, but still buy more. Bookshops in general are a vice.

This is for you: http://www.slate.com/articles/life/culturebox/2013/02/addicted_to_stationery_confessions_of_a_woman_who_haunts_paper_stores_and.html
Ok, I admit it. At least 20 empty books means 32 untouched, blank, ready to open, notebooks, and about 10 where I have used just a few pages.

Unlike the lady in the article, all my notebooks are basicly the same: A5 in size, unlined, soft cover. I guess that makes it even more crazy.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: lifejoy on December 23, 2017, 07:59:58 PM
Mine is notebooks. I have at least 20 empty ones, but still buy more. Bookshops in general are a vice.

This is for you: http://www.slate.com/articles/life/culturebox/2013/02/addicted_to_stationery_confessions_of_a_woman_who_haunts_paper_stores_and.html
Ok, I admit it. At least 20 empty books means 32 untouched, blank, ready to open, notebooks, and about 10 where I have used just a few pages.

Unlike the lady in the article, all my notebooks are basicly the same: A5 in size, unlined, soft cover. I guess that makes it even more crazy.

I’ll trade you gazingus pins? I collect diamonds LOL it would be much more cost-effective if I collected notebooks ;)

Everyone has their thing!
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: soccerluvof4 on December 24, 2017, 03:58:45 AM
For me its going to be sweets especially buying boxed candy. I have a weakness for Peanut M&M's and though I usually buy them at Dollar store on way to something I am going to replace them with something healthier. Only exception will be if someone buys them for me.

The other thing is every night I put something sweet in the bottom of my yogurt every night so I buy crap like Debbie cakes etc.. to dump my yogurt over as my night time snack. This to is ending in 2018.

I never ate sweets till I met my DW 21 + years ago and I gotta stop. So No Buying of Sweets!!!!
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: Astatine on December 24, 2017, 04:55:59 AM
I'm not sure if I still have any (definitely used to be books) but I'm intrigued so I'm posting to follow.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: I'm a red panda on December 24, 2017, 05:13:14 AM
Fabric. (Yardage, not presewn, I don't buy that much)

Not sure I can get through the year without buying more, but I'd like to try!

(DH just said "what if you need more"? But why would I -need- it? I told him if he thinks it is life's necessity, he can buy it.)
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: lifejoy on December 24, 2017, 05:56:14 AM
For me its going to be sweets especially buying boxed candy. I have a weakness for Peanut M&M's and though I usually buy them at Dollar store on way to something I am going to replace them with something healthier. Only exception will be if someone buys them for me.

The other thing is every night I put something sweet in the bottom of my yogurt every night so I buy crap like Debbie cakes etc.. to dump my yogurt over as my night time snack. This to is ending in 2018.

I never ate sweets till I met my DW 21 + years ago and I gotta stop. So No Buying of Sweets!!!!

When I cut back on sugary treats, my taste buds really changed and it was very eye-opening. I also found that gifts took on a whole new level of possibility; now when people gift me chocolate it’s like OH WOW THANKS!!!! instead of just more chocolate in an over-sugared life. I hope you have the same experience!
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: lifejoy on December 24, 2017, 05:58:08 AM
Fabric. (Yardage, not presewn, I don't buy that much)

Not sure I can get through the year without buying more, but I'd like to try!

(DH just said "what if you need more"? But why would I -need- it? I told him if he thinks it is life's necessity, he can buy it.)

Sounds like a great way to keep the sewing pile organized :)

Also my mom recycles fabric. Like making a baby bib out of an old shirt. Good luck!
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: lifejoy on December 24, 2017, 05:58:41 AM
I'm not sure if I still have any (definitely used to be books) but I'm intrigued so I'm posting to follow.

How did you change and stop buying books?
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: I'm a red panda on December 24, 2017, 06:47:50 AM
Fabric. (Yardage, not presewn, I don't buy that much)

Not sure I can get through the year without buying more, but I'd like to try!

(DH just said "what if you need more"? But why would I -need- it? I told him if he thinks it is life's necessity, he can buy it.)

Sounds like a great way to keep the sewing pile organized :)

Also my mom recycles fabric. Like making a baby bib out of an old shirt. Good luck!

I'm no longer allowed to reuse fabric like that. I was told it had crossed the line to hoarding. I can braid a T-shirt into a dog toy immediately, but anything else must leave the house.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: lifejoy on December 24, 2017, 07:19:09 AM
Fabric. (Yardage, not presewn, I don't buy that much)

Not sure I can get through the year without buying more, but I'd like to try!

(DH just said "what if you need more"? But why would I -need- it? I told him if he thinks it is life's necessity, he can buy it.)

Sounds like a great way to keep the sewing pile organized :)

Also my mom recycles fabric. Like making a baby bib out of an old shirt. Good luck!

I'm no longer allowed to reuse fabric like that. I was told it had crossed the line to hoarding. I can braid a T-shirt into a dog toy immediately, but anything else must leave the house.

Ahh gotcha.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: lifejoy on December 24, 2017, 12:09:50 PM
When we stop buying things, we tend to become more grateful for the things they are given to us.

https://mobile.nytimes.com/2017/12/15/opinion/sunday/shopping-consumerism.html?mc=adintl&mcid=Facebook&ad-keywords=IntlAudDev&subid1=TAFI&mccr=tafiwomen&referer=http://m.facebook.com

And it gets easier with practice!
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: vertkurt on December 24, 2017, 07:32:19 PM
Watches are my pins. I just don't know why, but I'm always looking at watches to buy even though I have 5 already and can only wear one at a time.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: lifejoy on December 24, 2017, 09:15:06 PM
Watches are my pins. I just don't know why, but I'm always looking at watches to buy even though I have 5 already and can only wear one at a time.

So you’ll give up acquiring new ones for a year?
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: Inkedup on December 25, 2017, 09:20:03 AM
Where to begin? :)

I've been on the stationery-addict bandwagon for years (notebooks! fountain pen inks!). Ditto sweets. Ditto expensive coffees and teas. Books, too, have been an issue in the past, but I have gotten much better about focusing instead on reading than acquiring in the past year.

It's much easier for me to talk myself out of a gazingus pin if the item in question is non-comestible. If I can eat or drink it, I find myself justifying the cost. "It won't go to waste because I'm going to use it up! Also: it's only temporarily taking up space!" This is why putting the brakes on acquiring more coffee/tea is so difficult. Since I have weaned myself off the daily habit of buying drinks in to-go cups, I'm admittedly giving myself mental justification in brewing up a good-quality beverage to bring to work than buying the burnt brew at a local cafe. But I have enough to supplement work lunches for the next year.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: lifejoy on December 25, 2017, 10:20:34 AM
Where to begin? :)

I've been on the stationery-addict bandwagon for years (notebooks! fountain pen inks!). Ditto sweets. Ditto expensive coffees and teas. Books, too, have been an issue in the past, but I have gotten much better about focusing instead on reading than acquiring in the past year.

It's much easier for me to talk myself out of a gazingus pin if the item in question is non-comestible. If I can eat or drink it, I find myself justifying the cost. "It won't go to waste because I'm going to use it up! Also: it's only temporarily taking up space!" This is why putting the brakes on acquiring more coffee/tea is so difficult. Since I have weaned myself off the daily habit of buying drinks in to-go cups, I'm admittedly giving myself mental justification in brewing up a good-quality beverage to bring to work than buying the burnt brew at a local cafe. But I have enough to supplement work lunches for the next year.

Sooo if I’m hearing you right, no buying of coffee or tea?
Title: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: lifejoy on December 25, 2017, 10:21:07 AM
I’m going to update the top first post with our usernames and the thing they’re abstaining from buying

Hopefully it will help us all stay on track and accountable! And perhaps we can share ideas with others that are abstaining from buying the same thing.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: gaja on December 25, 2017, 11:35:35 AM
Iím going to update the top first post with our usernames and the thing theyíre abstaining from buying

Hopefully it will help us all stay on track and accountable! And perhaps we can share ideas with others that are abstaining from buying the same thing.
Please add pens and pencils to mine, or just put me down for (against) stationery. I will also cut down on art supplies for the kids, but cutting it completely will be too big a step.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: Astatine on December 25, 2017, 03:46:46 PM
I'm not sure if I still have any (definitely used to be books) but I'm intrigued so I'm posting to follow.

How did you change and stop buying books?

Edited because TMI. It was an accidental side-effect of several years of full-on decluttering and getting rid of stuff.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: Inkedup on December 25, 2017, 05:02:06 PM
Where to begin? :)

I've been on the stationery-addict bandwagon for years (notebooks! fountain pen inks!). Ditto sweets. Ditto expensive coffees and teas. Books, too, have been an issue in the past, but I have gotten much better about focusing instead on reading than acquiring in the past year.

It's much easier for me to talk myself out of a gazingus pin if the item in question is non-comestible. If I can eat or drink it, I find myself justifying the cost. "It won't go to waste because I'm going to use it up! Also: it's only temporarily taking up space!" This is why putting the brakes on acquiring more coffee/tea is so difficult. Since I have weaned myself off the daily habit of buying drinks in to-go cups, I'm admittedly giving myself mental justification in brewing up a good-quality beverage to bring to work than buying the burnt brew at a local cafe. But I have enough to supplement work lunches for the next year.

Sooo if Iím hearing you right, no buying of coffee or tea?

Not until I drink up what I already own. It's going to be difficult because I love to collect and drink different kinds of loose-leaf Asian teas. The variety is astounding. And there's always something new to try :(
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: middo on December 25, 2017, 06:30:56 PM
My gazingus pin is tools.  I buy too many, and buy ones I don't need now.  The problem is we live on a small farm out of town. Going to town for a tool takes over an hour, so things get bought
Just in case.

So, no more purchases of tools that are not needed IMMEDIATELY.  I think I can do that, with some help.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: Eucalyptus on December 25, 2017, 07:00:56 PM
Excellent thread!

I'm not going to buy any books that are not work related. I'm going to try library them instead and read the ones I've got.

I'm not going to buy any more Men's Fitness or Men's Health magazines! This is a particularly bad habit of mine...
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: lifejoy on December 25, 2017, 07:15:05 PM
Excellent thread!

I'm not going to buy any books that are not work related. I'm going to try library them instead and read the ones I've got.

I'm not going to buy any more Men's Fitness or Men's Health magazines! This is a particularly bad habit of mine...

Check out if your library has Press Display or RB Digital. Free access to magazines on your computer, phone, or tablet!
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: lifejoy on December 25, 2017, 07:18:12 PM
My gazingus pin is tools.  I buy too many, and buy ones I don't need now.  The problem is we live on a small farm out of town. Going to town for a tool takes over an hour, so things get bought
Just in case.

So, no more purchases of tools that are not needed IMMEDIATELY.  I think I can do that, with some help.

Good one! I have been surprised in the past at the sorts of things I’ve been able to borrow from my network of contacts once I’ve reached out to them :)

Facebook can be handy for that sort of thing.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: lifejoy on December 25, 2017, 07:20:18 PM
PS - @Eucalyptus - can the work-related books not be obtained from the library? Do you have any experience with inter library loans?
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: lifejoy on December 25, 2017, 07:21:13 PM
Where to begin? :)

I've been on the stationery-addict bandwagon for years (notebooks! fountain pen inks!). Ditto sweets. Ditto expensive coffees and teas. Books, too, have been an issue in the past, but I have gotten much better about focusing instead on reading than acquiring in the past year.

It's much easier for me to talk myself out of a gazingus pin if the item in question is non-comestible. If I can eat or drink it, I find myself justifying the cost. "It won't go to waste because I'm going to use it up! Also: it's only temporarily taking up space!" This is why putting the brakes on acquiring more coffee/tea is so difficult. Since I have weaned myself off the daily habit of buying drinks in to-go cups, I'm admittedly giving myself mental justification in brewing up a good-quality beverage to bring to work than buying the burnt brew at a local cafe. But I have enough to supplement work lunches for the next year.

Sooo if I’m hearing you right, no buying of coffee or tea?

Not until I drink up what I already own. It's going to be difficult because I love to collect and drink different kinds of loose-leaf Asian teas. The variety is astounding. And there's always something new to try :(

Now you have an easy answer when people ask you what you’d like for birthday/Xmas/etc! “Well, I’m not buying any tea right now but I love trying new ones...”
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: lifejoy on December 25, 2017, 07:24:32 PM
I received two necklaces, a ring box, earrings, and a travel jewellery case for Xmas :D

Hoping this tides me over! It will.

I’m uncertain as to whether or not I want to include optional repairs to my personal challenge. Not buying jewellery and jewellery-related-things will be good for me. It will also cut down on my shopping overall. But what if I want to re-size a ring? Or repair a necklace? On the one hand, that means I’m not buying anything new, which I usually think is fine. On the other hand, it is feeding into my jewellery addiction and the fact that all my fun money ends up going to jewellery-related purchases.

Thoughts?
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: HappierAtHome on December 26, 2017, 12:53:21 AM
I'm in! No Tupperware (the brand, not the generic category of plastic containers) in 2018.

I received two necklaces, a ring box, earrings, and a travel jewellery case for Xmas :D

Hoping this tides me over! It will.

Iím uncertain as to whether or not I want to include optional repairs to my personal challenge. Not buying jewellery and jewellery-related-things will be good for me. It will also cut down on my shopping overall. But what if I want to re-size a ring? Or repair a necklace? On the one hand, that means Iím not buying anything new, which I usually think is fine. On the other hand, it is feeding into my jewellery addiction and the fact that all my fun money ends up going to jewellery-related purchases.

Thoughts?

Make a list throughout the year, tell yourself you can do it all in 2019 if you want to. Then see if you still want to. Waiting a year can't hurt, right?
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: lifejoy on December 26, 2017, 02:10:07 AM
I'm in! No Tupperware (the brand, not the generic category of plastic containers) in 2018.

I received two necklaces, a ring box, earrings, and a travel jewellery case for Xmas :D

Hoping this tides me over! It will.

I’m uncertain as to whether or not I want to include optional repairs to my personal challenge. Not buying jewellery and jewellery-related-things will be good for me. It will also cut down on my shopping overall. But what if I want to re-size a ring? Or repair a necklace? On the one hand, that means I’m not buying anything new, which I usually think is fine. On the other hand, it is feeding into my jewellery addiction and the fact that all my fun money ends up going to jewellery-related purchases.

Thoughts?

Make a list throughout the year, tell yourself you can do it all in 2019 if you want to. Then see if you still want to. Waiting a year can't hurt, right?

I like that plan.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: vertkurt on December 26, 2017, 05:44:35 PM
Watches are my pins. I just don't know why, but I'm always looking at watches to buy even though I have 5 already and can only wear one at a time.

So youíll give up acquiring new ones for a year?

Yes I will and may sell some of the others off.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: lifejoy on December 26, 2017, 07:46:38 PM
Watches are my pins. I just don't know why, but I'm always looking at watches to buy even though I have 5 already and can only wear one at a time.

So you’ll give up acquiring new ones for a year?

Yes I will and may sell some of the others off.

Bravo!! Perhaps I will sell some jewellery...
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: soccerluvof4 on December 27, 2017, 03:34:46 AM
For me its going to be sweets especially buying boxed candy. I have a weakness for Peanut M&M's and though I usually buy them at Dollar store on way to something I am going to replace them with something healthier. Only exception will be if someone buys them for me.

The other thing is every night I put something sweet in the bottom of my yogurt every night so I buy crap like Debbie cakes etc.. to dump my yogurt over as my night time snack. This to is ending in 2018.

I never ate sweets till I met my DW 21 + years ago and I gotta stop. So No Buying of Sweets!!!!

When I cut back on sugary treats, my taste buds really changed and it was very eye-opening. I also found that gifts took on a whole new level of possibility; now when people gift me chocolate itís like OH WOW THANKS!!!! instead of just more chocolate in an over-sugared life. I hope you have the same experience!



I couldn't of said it better. I find when I give things up in about 2 weeks I don't crave them anymore.  And sure is a killer thats for sure.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: lifejoy on December 27, 2017, 05:43:42 AM
For me its going to be sweets especially buying boxed candy. I have a weakness for Peanut M&M's and though I usually buy them at Dollar store on way to something I am going to replace them with something healthier. Only exception will be if someone buys them for me.

The other thing is every night I put something sweet in the bottom of my yogurt every night so I buy crap like Debbie cakes etc.. to dump my yogurt over as my night time snack. This to is ending in 2018.

I never ate sweets till I met my DW 21 + years ago and I gotta stop. So No Buying of Sweets!!!!

When I cut back on sugary treats, my taste buds really changed and it was very eye-opening. I also found that gifts took on a whole new level of possibility; now when people gift me chocolate it’s like OH WOW THANKS!!!! instead of just more chocolate in an over-sugared life. I hope you have the same experience!



I couldn't of said it better. I find when I give things up in about 2 weeks I don't crave them anymore.  And sure is a killer thats for sure.

I found this documentary to be really useful. It was on Netflix at some point : https://www.rottentomatoes.com/m/sugar_coated/
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: Harper on December 27, 2017, 08:16:46 AM
I'm drawn to this thread.  My gazingus pin is embarrassing.  I collect workout videos.  That would be ok if I was in shape but I'm not.  I have so many that I haven't even tried. 

I think I'm ready to throw my hat in for this.

I also stream one workout site that will expire in May.  I have some Christmas money that I will use if I decide to resubscribe to that one or another.  But that's it...no new videos and only one streaming site.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: horsepoor on December 27, 2017, 08:38:54 AM
I'll give this a shot; all of mine are horse-related.  So I will not buy any:

Horse blankets (barring massive destruction of a winter blanket that doesn't have a spare)
Saddle pads
Riding breeches or boots
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: Tris Prior on December 27, 2017, 10:26:44 AM

Not until I drink up what I already own. It's going to be difficult because I love to collect and drink different kinds of loose-leaf Asian teas. The variety is astounding. And there's always something new to try :(

I'm trying this too - no more tea until I use up what I have. I'm trying to lose weight so I have replaced my nightly snack and/or glass of wine with a cup (or several) of herbal tea. I went a bit overboard with flavors, I think, because I am starving all the time from this stupid diet so I figured that at least if I have tea I really like maybe I won't be so miserable?

Also, no more fun socks or tights. I am addicted to sockdreams.com, have an impressive collection of warm stripey thigh-high socks that allow me to wear skirts while it's freezing cold out, and am studiously ignoring that they're having a big sale right now. When I bought my last few pairs and realized that my sock drawer no longer closes (it's a small drawer, but still!) I decided that it had gotten a little bit out of hand. At this point it's pure want, not need.
Title: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: lifejoy on December 27, 2017, 01:21:57 PM
This is great
I’m feeling very motivated because we’re all “in it together” and I’m being held accountable by this thread. And it’s keeping it in the forefront of my mind! Thanks, guys.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: Duchess on December 28, 2017, 02:07:18 AM
OK. I'm in. I've been resisting this thread for about a week because posting means I finally have to acknowledge my gazingus pin: junk food and drinks while out and about.

I'm still OK with going out for meals with family and friends. What I want to avoid are the unplanned stops on the way to work because I wasnít organised enough to have breakfast at home, or the mid-afternoon pick-me-up coffee and sweet treat. While we meal plan for lunch and dinner, I need to get better at planning healthier and lower-cost snacks. I may even try a bit of baking.

This challenge will also tie in nicely with the Frugalwoods Uber Frugal Month which I've signed up for.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: lifejoy on December 28, 2017, 02:13:58 AM
OK. I'm in. I've been resisting this thread for about a week because posting means I finally have to acknowledge my gazingus pin: junk food and drinks while out and about.

I'm still OK with going out for meals with family and friends. What I want to avoid are the unplanned stops on the way to work because I wasn’t organised enough to have breakfast at home, or the mid-afternoon pick-me-up coffee and sweet treat. While we meal plan for lunch and dinner, I need to get better at planning healthier and lower-cost snacks. I may even try a bit of baking.

This challenge will also tie in nicely with the Frugalwoods Uber Frugal Month which I've signed up for.

That used to be me! The transition was hard but switching to tea and vegetables eventually helped me avoid major energy slumps. And was far cheaper!

*now off I go to check out the FW Uber frugal month...*
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: alleykat on December 28, 2017, 06:05:12 AM
I have so many ďpinsĒ it is not even funny, however, for 2018 I will pick skincare, hair care and makeup purchases.  All beauty related items.  Will purchase only when replacing something needed. I really need to get this area under control.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: Duchess on December 28, 2017, 06:19:06 AM
OK. I'm in. I've been resisting this thread for about a week because posting means I finally have to acknowledge my gazingus pin: junk food and drinks while out and about.

I'm still OK with going out for meals with family and friends. What I want to avoid are the unplanned stops on the way to work because I wasnít organised enough to have breakfast at home, or the mid-afternoon pick-me-up coffee and sweet treat. While we meal plan for lunch and dinner, I need to get better at planning healthier and lower-cost snacks. I may even try a bit of baking.

This challenge will also tie in nicely with the Frugalwoods Uber Frugal Month which I've signed up for.

That used to be me! The transition was hard but switching to tea and vegetables eventually helped me avoid major energy slumps. And was far cheaper!

*now off I go to check out the FW Uber frugal month*

As someone mentioned above, the tricky thing about food and drink is that it's soooo easy to justify buying since you have to eat and drink. I donít necessarily need an over-priced latte and a chocolate cupcake though.

I managed to resist temptation this morning when I popped to the shop, and also when passing by not one, not two but three food outlets at IKEA. So feeling a little proud of my good start.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: lifejoy on December 28, 2017, 09:18:54 PM
I have so many “pins” it is not even funny, however, for 2018 I will pick skincare, hair care and makeup purchases.  All beauty related items.  Will purchase only when replacing something needed. I really need to get this area under control.

Do you know that you get a free bday fist from Sephora if you’re a VIB member?
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: lifejoy on December 28, 2017, 09:19:17 PM
OK. I'm in. I've been resisting this thread for about a week because posting means I finally have to acknowledge my gazingus pin: junk food and drinks while out and about.

I'm still OK with going out for meals with family and friends. What I want to avoid are the unplanned stops on the way to work because I wasn’t organised enough to have breakfast at home, or the mid-afternoon pick-me-up coffee and sweet treat. While we meal plan for lunch and dinner, I need to get better at planning healthier and lower-cost snacks. I may even try a bit of baking.

This challenge will also tie in nicely with the Frugalwoods Uber Frugal Month which I've signed up for.

That used to be me! The transition was hard but switching to tea and vegetables eventually helped me avoid major energy slumps. And was far cheaper!

*now off I go to check out the FW Uber frugal month*

As someone mentioned above, the tricky thing about food and drink is that it's soooo easy to justify buying since you have to eat and drink. I don’t necessarily need an over-priced latte and a chocolate cupcake though.

I managed to resist temptation this morning when I popped to the shop, and also when passing by not one, not two but three food outlets at IKEA. So feeling a little proud of my good start.

You should feel proud :)
That is an excellent start!
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: Tris Prior on December 29, 2017, 09:07:21 AM
Do you know that you get a free bday fist from Sephora if youíre a VIB member?

I'm guessing this is a typo but part of me giggled at the thought of getting a free birthday facepunch at Sephora. "No more expensive makeup for you, spendypants!" ;)

I have only once liked the free gift. Last year it was a matte lip gloss that was so nude, it made me look like a corpse. Oh well.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: lifejoy on December 29, 2017, 01:05:41 PM
Do you know that you get a free bday fist from Sephora if you’re a VIB member?

I'm guessing this is a typo but part of me giggled at the thought of getting a free birthday facepunch at Sephora. "No more expensive makeup for you, spendypants!" ;)

I have only once liked the free gift. Last year it was a matte lip gloss that was so nude, it made me look like a corpse. Oh well.

LMFAO yeah what a typo!!!
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: hegemony on December 29, 2017, 05:39:10 PM
I have a thrift store habit that has led to quite a few gazingus pins over time. 

I think I have the cast iron cookware, wool blankets, vintage dishes, and tote bags largely under control now.  Books and knitting supplies are still an issue, though, so those will be my gazingus pins to avoid this year.

Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: lifejoy on December 29, 2017, 11:52:49 PM
I have a thrift store habit that has led to quite a few gazingus pins over time. 

I think I have the cast iron cookware, wool blankets, vintage dishes, and tote bags largely under control now.  Books and knitting supplies are still an issue, though, so those will be my gazingus pins to avoid this year.

Added! :)
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: middo on December 30, 2017, 01:43:19 AM
My gazingus pin is tools.  I buy too many, and buy ones I don't need now.  The problem is we live on a small farm out of town. Going to town for a tool takes over an hour, so things get bought
Just in case.

So, no more purchases of tools that are not needed IMMEDIATELY.  I think I can do that, with some help.

I feel a little success already. I needed a brick bolster yesterday, which i thought I had one of somewhere, but couldn't find at the time. Rather than buying a new one, a look through the three sheds did not find it.  But, a text to my son shed some light on the issue.  He last used it doing some paving down the back, it might be there.   A look through the.long grass, and success!
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: lifejoy on December 30, 2017, 05:17:04 AM
My gazingus pin is tools.  I buy too many, and buy ones I don't need now.  The problem is we live on a small farm out of town. Going to town for a tool takes over an hour, so things get bought
Just in case.

So, no more purchases of tools that are not needed IMMEDIATELY.  I think I can do that, with some help.

I feel a little success already. I needed a brick bolster yesterday, which i thought I had one of somewhere, but couldn't find at the time. Rather than buying a new one, a look through the three sheds did not find it.  But, a text to my son shed some light on the issue.  He last used it doing some paving down the back, it might be there.   A look through the.long grass, and success!

That’s awesome!! Off to a great start!

Myself, I have stopped shopping for jewellery which is a big help when trying to not buy!
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: lifejoy on January 01, 2018, 06:49:04 AM
Well, I’m adding clothes, accessories, and shoes. Except bridesmaid dresses and other necessary purchases.

This is the year of anti-accumulation for me! :)

I’m moving a lot, so it’s good timing. Happy New Year, everyone.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: alleykat on January 01, 2018, 08:25:37 AM
Do you know that you get a free bday fist from Sephora if youíre a VIB member?

I'm guessing this is a typo but part of me giggled at the thought of getting a free birthday facepunch at Sephora. "No more expensive makeup for you, spendypants!" ;)

I have only once liked the free gift. Last year it was a matte lip gloss that was so nude, it made me look like a corpse. Oh well.

LMFAO yeah what a typo!!!


Lmao.  I wish it was a fist punch, it would help to say no.

I will also add groceries.  This is a hard area for me but I need to control what comes in and work through what I already have before things expire.   No more stuff just because unless needed.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: lifejoy on January 01, 2018, 10:12:03 AM
Do you know that you get a free bday fist from Sephora if you’re a VIB member?

I'm guessing this is a typo but part of me giggled at the thought of getting a free birthday facepunch at Sephora. "No more expensive makeup for you, spendypants!" ;)

I have only once liked the free gift. Last year it was a matte lip gloss that was so nude, it made me look like a corpse. Oh well.

LMFAO yeah what a typo!!!


Lmao.  I wish it was a fist punch, it would help to say no.

I will also add groceries.  This is a hard area for me but I need to control what comes in and work through what I already have before things expire.   No more stuff just because unless needed.

I think... the broadness and life-necessity-ness of groceries might make it a tricky “gazingus pin”. In fact- you’re inspiring me! Maybe I should make a thread for “no food waste in 2028”?
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: lifejoy on January 01, 2018, 10:12:53 AM
@alleykat - but I do like the way you’re thinking!
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: horsepoor on January 01, 2018, 10:20:29 AM
OK, starting today!  Full confession:  I bought two horse blankets a few days back when they were on super-sale, reasoning that it was not yet 2018.  I am so weak.  But now it's officially 2018, so I no longer have that excuse.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: lifejoy on January 01, 2018, 11:02:58 AM
OK, starting today!  Full confession:  I bought two horse blankets a few days back when they were on super-sale, reasoning that it was not yet 2018.  I am so weak.  But now it's officially 2018, so I no longer have that excuse.

Every day is a new day :)
And every year is a new year!

Leave the past in the past. You are now a person that does not buy horse stuff until 2019. You’re obviously a very caring horse owner/companion, but your horse sounds like it has everything it needs so you can stop using your time and money buying stuff for it.

What will you do with your newfound time and money?

Myself: I am going to try and divert some of that shopping energy (so much browsing!) into improving my cooking skills.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: 10dollarsatatime on January 01, 2018, 11:04:33 AM
Tea, until drink up what I have... and I have a ridiculous amount.
Canning jars.  I have a problem.  I will allow myself to get any actual antiques, but must also practice a one in-two out (post 1940s) if I find any.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: lifejoy on January 01, 2018, 11:06:22 AM
Tea, until drink up what I have... and I have a ridiculous amount.
Canning jars.  I have a problem.  I will allow myself to get any actual antiques, but must also practice a one in-two out (post 1940s) if I find any.

Just curious: are you at risk of finding a bunch of antiques to replace the buying of regular canning jars? If you still shop/hunt for antiques, is that going to just transform the gazingus pin?

Consider this a gentle push to maybe go for no canning jars at all :)
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: lifejoy on January 01, 2018, 11:08:35 AM
I’ve just added clothing (except bridesmaid outfits) to my challenge. I do not need any new clothes for the next 12 months, that’s for sure!
Title: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: lifejoy on January 01, 2018, 11:12:03 AM
A thought for everyone that is not buying tea or coffee: maybe you could use Birthday or Xmas or valentines gifts as a way to replenish your collection

Or if you have old gift cards kicking around. Or maybe you have friends that have a bunch of tea they’re not going to drink? My friends and I do clothing/stuff swaps and people often bring tea.

Some events have tea out, and maybe you could pocket one for later. Hotels often have tea in the room that you could pocket and have replenished after housekeeping comes in. Also are you already using tea bags more than once? Give it a try!

I have a ton of tea right now because I cut back when I was pregnant.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: horsepoor on January 01, 2018, 11:56:29 AM
OK, starting today!  Full confession:  I bought two horse blankets a few days back when they were on super-sale, reasoning that it was not yet 2018.  I am so weak.  But now it's officially 2018, so I no longer have that excuse.

Every day is a new day :)
And every year is a new year!

Leave the past in the past. You are now a person that does not buy horse stuff until 2019. Youíre obviously a very caring horse owner/companion, but your horse sounds like it has everything it needs so you can stop using your time and money buying stuff for it.

What will you do with your newfound time and money?

Myself: I am going to try and divert some of that shopping energy (so much browsing!) into improving my cooking skills.

Well, hopefully I will riding more. ;)  My horses tend to have issues that stop me from riding, then I get bored and think of things they "need", especially when it's winter and there's snow on the ground.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: Cassie on January 01, 2018, 11:57:51 AM
Clothes and jewelry used to be so hard for me.  Then in my mid 40's the desire for clothes just went away.  The urge for jewelry took a lot longer to leave and did not occur until my late 50's.  I also used to buy knick-naks but after semi-retiring I got sick of dusting them when I no longer had cleaners and eventually decluttered a ton of stuff.   I have no clue why the desire for some things just disappeared.  I think it is good to know what things you over buy and to cut back on that. A friend of mine buys tons of yarn but since I knit scarves for the homeless she will frequently donate some of it to me so I benefit from her overbuying:))
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: lifejoy on January 01, 2018, 11:58:59 AM
OK, starting today!  Full confession:  I bought two horse blankets a few days back when they were on super-sale, reasoning that it was not yet 2018.  I am so weak.  But now it's officially 2018, so I no longer have that excuse.

Every day is a new day :)
And every year is a new year!

Leave the past in the past. You are now a person that does not buy horse stuff until 2019. You’re obviously a very caring horse owner/companion, but your horse sounds like it has everything it needs so you can stop using your time and money buying stuff for it.

What will you do with your newfound time and money?

Myself: I am going to try and divert some of that shopping energy (so much browsing!) into improving my cooking skills.

Well, hopefully I will riding more. ;)  My horses tend to have issues that stop me from riding, then I get bored and think of things they "need", especially when it's winter and there's snow on the ground.

Good that you’ve identified this!

Me, I spend too much time shopping on my phone. Online shopping is my biggest issues. I need to replace that habit with one of... cooking tips? Netflix? Podcasts? Candy crush? I’m still working out the details.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: lifejoy on January 01, 2018, 12:00:56 PM
Clothes and jewelry used to be so hard for me.  Then in my mid 40's the desire for clothes just went away.  The urge for jewelry took a lot longer to leave and did not occur until my late 50's.  I also used to buy knick-naks but after semi-retiring I got sick of dusting them when I no longer had cleaners and eventually decluttered a ton of stuff.   I have no clue why the desire for some things just disappeared.  I think it is good to know what things you over buy and to cut back on that. A friend of mine buys tons of yarn but since I knit scarves for the homeless she will frequently donate some of it to me so I benefit from her overbuying:))

Good observations! If you ever figure out how you lost the desire to buy clothes and jewellery, DO let me know! :)
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: Poundwise on January 03, 2018, 04:47:25 AM
I'm in!  No more craft supplies for me.  My problem is that it's a moving target... I stop buying yarn, I start buying fabric.  Stop buying fabric, start buying gardening supplies, etc.  I need to sense what my latest fad is, stop it in its tracks, and finish some projects for once.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: lifejoy on January 03, 2018, 08:30:44 PM
I'm in!  No more craft supplies for me.  My problem is that it's a moving target... I stop buying yarn, I start buying fabric.  Stop buying fabric, start buying gardening supplies, etc.  I need to sense what my latest fad is, stop it in its tracks, and finish some projects for once.

Welcome! Added!

I sense a lot of creativity in your future :)
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: Duchess on January 08, 2018, 06:04:57 AM
We're a week into the challenge; how is everyone doing?

I've realised that choosing no junk food while out and about as my gazingus pin requires daily willpower and organisation. So far there's been one occasion where I shared a fizzy drink that my husband bought while were we on the road visiting family at the weekend. I don't think I'd have bought it myself if he hadn't been there.

Otherwise, I've been pretty organised taking lunch/snacks with me when I go out and making sure my water bottle is full. I've only been at work for one day since Christmas though so we'll see how things pan out next week when I'm back to my normal working pattern and the little one is in childcare. Mornings always seem rushed trying to get everyone out of the house on time.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: JanetJackson on January 08, 2018, 10:04:23 AM
I'm in!!
I have not read the book, so I don't have a pure frame of reference, but I certainly get the idea...
mine is pure evil: ENERGY DRINKS.

Over the last few years, my consumption of these awful cans of chemical waste has increased to an alarming level.  I'm not trying to cut out caffeine, I can easily and cheaply make coffee at home, but these fizzy gut-bombs need to stop.  I buy them at Aldi for 78c each (the Aldi equivalent of Monster) and guzzle two a day MINDLESSLY (and almost every single day- that's 12-14 a week!!), and then wonder why my stomach hurts so bad every.  single.  day.  Then I go to the grocery store again, and pile them up in my cart.  I'm embarrassed when I go to the check out, I'm embarrassed if someone sees me with one at work.  Overall, this needs to stop.

I'm excited about this one.  I don't need to buy these, I have coffee.  Coffee is cheaper, more reasonable, and easier on my gut.

I'm in- starting today, since my fridge is empty of the poison, currently.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: lifejoy on January 08, 2018, 10:17:13 AM
Duchess - sounds like you’re off to a great start! Could you put trail mix in your purse or bag as a failsafe for emergency noshing? I find raw unsalted nuts, seeds, and dried berries to be a healthy snack that can really take the edge off.

Re: not buying jewellery or clothes, I’m doing well! I’ve stopped browsing jewellery (formerly my favourite hobby!) and as far as clothes are concerned, I am attempting to see my closet with new eyes. I think I will allow tailoring, dry cleaning, and any other clothing-care so I can preserve what I have!
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: lifejoy on January 08, 2018, 10:19:52 AM
I'm in!!
I have not read the book, so I don't have a pure frame of reference, but I certainly get the idea...
mine is pure evil: ENERGY DRINKS.

Over the last few years, my consumption of these awful cans of chemical waste has increased to an alarming level.  I'm not trying to cut out caffeine, I can easily and cheaply make coffee at home, but these fizzy gut-bombs need to stop.  I buy them at Aldi for 78c each (the Aldi equivalent of Monster) and guzzle two a day MINDLESSLY (and almost every single day- that's 12-14 a week!!), and then wonder why my stomach hurts so bad every.  single.  day.  Then I go to the grocery store again, and pile them up in my cart.  I'm embarrassed when I go to the check out, I'm embarrassed if someone sees me with one at work.  Overall, this needs to stop.

I'm excited about this one.  I don't need to buy these, I have coffee.  Coffee is cheaper, more reasonable, and easier on my gut.

I'm in- starting today, since my fridge is empty of the poison, currently.

Added! And welcome :)

When I dramatically cut back on sweets, it helped me to envision and frame to myself that, “I am not a person that consumes X.” And also, “I am not the kind of person that seeks our bakeries at every turn.” Haha!

But it really helped me.

Good luck and glad you joined in!
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: Tris Prior on January 08, 2018, 10:22:01 AM
I'm doing well. Studiously ignored the sockdreams.com clearance sale. Have not bought any more tea (though am drinking a lot of it to stay warm through this awful cold snap, which thankfully seems to be over for the moment).

Though, I realized that one of the teas I bought, I really don't like. And yesterday, the third time trying it in hopes it would suddenly mutate into something delicious, I thought, "ugh, I REALLY have to slog through 17 more cups of this crap before I can buy more?" Is it cheating to make it really weak so that I can't really taste it? I'm at least trying to alternate it with the 4 other flavors that I really like so I don't get stuck with this and nothing else.

Lesson learned: Despite its name, "sugar cookie" herbal tea will never, ever actually taste like a sugar cookie. You are not fooling anyone, Celestial Seasonings!!

Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: JanetJackson on January 08, 2018, 10:23:29 AM
Thanks!
Glad to be here!


I'm in!!
I have not read the book, so I don't have a pure frame of reference, but I certainly get the idea...
mine is pure evil: ENERGY DRINKS.

Over the last few years, my consumption of these awful cans of chemical waste has increased to an alarming level.  I'm not trying to cut out caffeine, I can easily and cheaply make coffee at home, but these fizzy gut-bombs need to stop.  I buy them at Aldi for 78c each (the Aldi equivalent of Monster) and guzzle two a day MINDLESSLY (and almost every single day- that's 12-14 a week!!), and then wonder why my stomach hurts so bad every.  single.  day.  Then I go to the grocery store again, and pile them up in my cart.  I'm embarrassed when I go to the check out, I'm embarrassed if someone sees me with one at work.  Overall, this needs to stop.

I'm excited about this one.  I don't need to buy these, I have coffee.  Coffee is cheaper, more reasonable, and easier on my gut.

I'm in- starting today, since my fridge is empty of the poison, currently.

Added! And welcome :)

When I dramatically cut back on sweets, it helped me to envision and frame to myself that, ďI am not a person that consumes X.Ē And also, ďI am not the kind of person that seeks our bakeries at every turn.Ē Haha!

But it really helped me.

Good luck and glad you joined in!
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: Laura33 on January 08, 2018, 10:58:18 AM
OMG I totally should not have read this thread.  I read it to (a) figure out wth a "gazingus pin" was, and (b) see what kind of "stuff" Mustachians get sucked into buying, since this crew is known for being anti-stuff.  I just sort of assumed this wasn't me, because I'm not really a "stuff" person.

But . . . but . . . but then I see people wrote "tea."  You mean the delicious beverage -- that elixir of the Gods, that delicious nectar that comes in all sorts of wonderful varieties -- can be a gazingus pin?  Oh.  Shit.

So, yeah, I'm in.  My name is Laura, and I have a problem.  It's tea.  I have a shelf full of it -- so full that it has spilled out onto the adjacent shelves (which I rationalized as "oh, that's the 'old' stuff" and "oh, I'll put DD's there," and "that 1-lb bag is just too large to fit in the cabinet"*).  So.  No more loose tea purchases until I have used up my current 'stache of the varieties I like.**  Not even in-kind replacements, dammit (because that's why the "old" stuff never gets drunk).

Now if only I could get DH to swear off buying more wine. . . .

*You'd think that even saying that out loud would have been a tip-off, wouldn't you?

**Not including the stuff I keep for guests.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: lifejoy on January 08, 2018, 11:16:26 AM
I'm doing well. Studiously ignored the sockdreams.com clearance sale. Have not bought any more tea (though am drinking a lot of it to stay warm through this awful cold snap, which thankfully seems to be over for the moment).

Though, I realized that one of the teas I bought, I really don't like. And yesterday, the third time trying it in hopes it would suddenly mutate into something delicious, I thought, "ugh, I REALLY have to slog through 17 more cups of this crap before I can buy more?" Is it cheating to make it really weak so that I can't really taste it? I'm at least trying to alternate it with the 4 other flavors that I really like so I don't get stuck with this and nothing else.

Lesson learned: Despite its name, "sugar cookie" herbal tea will never, ever actually taste like a sugar cookie. You are not fooling anyone, Celestial Seasonings!!

Ack that tea sounds bad!

Maybe you could trade it with a friend? Do you know anyone that might like it?

I have a drawer full of tea and half of it I will never drink. I think I’ll put all the flavours I don’t like into the next clothing swap.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: lifejoy on January 08, 2018, 11:18:14 AM
OMG I totally should not have read this thread.  I read it to (a) figure out wth a "gazingus pin" was, and (b) see what kind of "stuff" Mustachians get sucked into buying, since this crew is known for being anti-stuff.  I just sort of assumed this wasn't me, because I'm not really a "stuff" person.

But . . . but . . . but then I see people wrote "tea."  You mean the delicious beverage -- that elixir of the Gods, that delicious nectar that comes in all sorts of wonderful varieties -- can be a gazingus pin?  Oh.  Shit.

So, yeah, I'm in.  My name is Laura, and I have a problem.  It's tea.  I have a shelf full of it -- so full that it has spilled out onto the adjacent shelves (which I rationalized as "oh, that's the 'old' stuff" and "oh, I'll put DD's there," and "that 1-lb bag is just too large to fit in the cabinet"*).  So.  No more loose tea purchases until I have used up my current 'stache of the varieties I like.**  Not even in-kind replacements, dammit (because that's why the "old" stuff never gets drunk).

Now if only I could get DH to swear off buying more wine. . . .

*You'd think that even saying that out loud would have been a tip-off, wouldn't you?

**Not including the stuff I keep for guests.

What would it be like if you didn’t have specific tea reserved for guests?

Anyways, glad we caught your attention and happy to have you join us! :)
Title: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: lifejoy on January 08, 2018, 11:19:56 AM
Haha so fun update:
I was tempted to buy a gorgeous cashmere cardigan... and then my baby peed on me. LOL! I think I can wait for fancy clothes and live with what I’ve got for now
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: Poundwise on January 08, 2018, 11:30:55 AM
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We're a week into the challenge; how is everyone doing?

Me: Not so great!  Because we were having a kids' party over the weekend, I bought a bunch of sewing and soap making supplies so I could make mitten clips and cute bath soaps for the goodie bags. But the snowstorm delayed shipping and now I will have yet more craft supplies arriving today which means more clutter.  Well, I guess I shall have to save them for the next party...

Maybe one way I can prevent this kind of thing is by planning further ahead, so I can use up existing supplies for my crafting "needs". Correctly applied, crafting is positive in my life because I enjoy it, I am skilled, and at relatively low cost, can make many nice things for gifts and personal use. But buying supplies without using them up is a waste of money, fills up the very limited storage in my home, so that I spend more time moving things around and less time crafting. Also, there is usually no need to buy supplies new as it can all be found used on freecycle or ebay. 
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: gaja on January 08, 2018, 11:35:41 AM
Re:tea. If I buy or get gifted tea/coffee and donít like the taste of it, Iíll usually bring it to work. Stuff that is left in the coffee area will disappear in very short time.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: lifejoy on January 08, 2018, 12:15:47 PM
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We're a week into the challenge; how is everyone doing?

Me: Not so great!  Because we were having a kids' party over the weekend, I bought a bunch of sewing and soap making supplies so I could make mitten clips and cute bath soaps for the goodie bags. But the snowstorm delayed shipping and now I will have yet more craft supplies arriving today which means more clutter.  Well, I guess I shall have to save them for the next party...

Maybe one way I can prevent this kind of thing is by planning further ahead, so I can use up existing supplies for my crafting "needs". Correctly applied, crafting is positive in my life because I enjoy it, I am skilled, and at relatively low cost, can make many nice things for gifts and personal use. But buying supplies without using them up is a waste of money, fills up the very limited storage in my home, so that I spend more time moving things around and less time crafting. Also, there is usually no need to buy supplies new as it can all be found used on freecycle or ebay.

Good analysis!

Me, I don’t like crafting. So I would have a hard time devoting money to it. That being said, I’m not sure how old your kids are but I worked at a Libray that did a bunch of low budget crafts. Like this one:
https://www.theseasonedmom.com/fall-leaves-wax-paper/

Maybe it would be a good challenge for you to think of the crafts that you can make for free, instead of the very best craft that is out there for low cost?
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: lifejoy on January 08, 2018, 12:16:10 PM
Re:tea. If I buy or get gifted tea/coffee and don’t like the taste of it, I’ll usually bring it to work. Stuff that is left in the coffee area will disappear in very short time.

That’s a good plan :)
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: Tris Prior on January 08, 2018, 12:37:34 PM
Food/drink I don't want always goes on the "free" table in the work breakroom. I figured that was cheating, though?
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: lifejoy on January 08, 2018, 12:41:53 PM
Food/drink I don't want always goes on the "free" table in the work breakroom. I figured that was cheating, though?

Oh. Yeah, it probably would be cheating! :)
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: gaja on January 08, 2018, 01:29:46 PM
Food/drink I don't want always goes on the "free" table in the work breakroom. I figured that was cheating, though?

Oh. Yeah, it probably would be cheating! :)

As part of distancing myself from my upbringing, I decided life was to short to do or eat things I didn't like, if the only argument for is that I "aught to". Arguments like "healthy", "good for society", "polite", still stand. But stinky tea; no.

But that is what *I* needed to do to change into a more balanced and happy person, after years of suffering consequences of "good girl syndrome". YMMV.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: CheapskateWife on January 08, 2018, 01:56:32 PM
Going to join this one...mine are books, amazon, jewelry and clothes shopping.

The thing is that I do the books through goodwill purchases, so they are dirt cheap.  But there is a pile of them here in my home that we just haven't read, and I have no idea if they ever will get read.  So books.  (Excluding digital free books through my library of course)

Amazon...its not a huge problem but something I can and should improve on.  There are lots of random things I have purchased through amazon (clothing specifically) that once I got it home was not pleased and then of course didn't return.  The quality is never what I want, it almost always comes from Asia, and I'm not content with it once I get it. 

Seriously, for clothes and jewelry, I have more than enough.  No buys this year.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: horsepoor on January 08, 2018, 02:06:15 PM
We're a week into the challenge; how is everyone doing?

The site with the best deals on horse blankets just closed their business, so that's one temptation gone for me.  So far, so good.

Trying to be very deliberate with any other purchases to make sure I'm not just replacing one pin with another.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: TartanTallulah on January 08, 2018, 02:15:05 PM
I'd never come across the term "Gazingus Pins" before I opened this thread out of curiosity today. I shall steal the term to refer to the various sport-related gadgets and exactly-the-right-tool-for-the-job widgets that my husband can't resist buying. Or my daughter's collection of Yankee candles and scented bath bombs.

I don't have any of my own to add because over the past few years I've obliterated most of them, but reading through the thread I can see lots of former gazingus pins of mine - expensive chocolate, fancy coffee, books, magazines, hand made soap, crafting tools and materials, kitchen equipment - and I can add running shoes, of which I have so many stashed that I won't need to buy another pair till around 2025.

Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: Laura33 on January 08, 2018, 02:16:49 PM
What would it be like if you didnít have specific tea reserved for guests?

Guess I should have been clearer:  the "guest" teas are ones I do not like.  The only one I buy on purpose is Earl Grey (the only thing my MIL drinks; I cannot stand it).  The rest are usually teas that I was given as a gift and really really don't like, so I put them in a little canister in case someone else does.  I am willing to cut back on my hoarding of delicious teas, but I am not willing to drink stuff I hate.  :-)
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: JanetJackson on January 09, 2018, 07:53:59 AM
Hi Y'all- Checking in!
I'll probably check in a lot, so I apologize ahead of time- addiction and habit are STRONG forces and I need a lil' accountability.

No energy drink today!  My cold brew coffee was not quite done yet (I make it in the fridge overnight), but I still poured some into a mason jar with a splash of almond milk and have been sipping on it this morning- although it's a bit weak.  I have another jar in my lunch bag as a back up.  I won't have any time to run out to the store today, so no chance of me buying one- and my fridge is energy drink free.  Going ok so far.

I def want it- I love how fizzy they are in the morning and how they kind of punch you awake.  Oh well!  :)
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: chaskavitch on January 09, 2018, 08:32:00 AM
/sigh

I'm in, I think.  I'm going to try to avoid buying sweets/snacks on grocery trips (or at all, unless DH specifically requests it), and clothes for myself?  These are going to be really hard. 

I tend to pick up a Lara bar or 3 oz of chocolate covered almonds or a piece of cornbread at the grocery store for like $1 and then eat it on my walk home.  It isn't much money or too many calories for each instance, but even if I only do it once a week, that's at a minimum $52 a year I'm wasting.

Clothes... I don't feel like I buy a lot of clothes, but I definitely HAVE a lot of clothes, so I must keep getting them.  I just bought another pair of leggings this morning off of Facebook, for goodness sake (which is not great for my uber frugal January, lol).  They're lularoe, so comfy, second-hand, and were only $10, but still, I didn't NEED them.  I'll take free clothes, but only if I'm getting rid of something else.

I'm not giving up buying all clothes, because we have a 19 month old, and he's going to need things, but I'll make it a priority to check with my friends for hand-me-downs before I buy anything.  Everything is second-hand or on clearance anyhow, but again, being cheap doesn't mean I need it.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: Poundwise on January 09, 2018, 08:55:54 AM
JanetJackson, have you considered drinking seltzer in the morning? My husband used to have a Diet Coke addiction but he weaned himself off with seltzer...

As for teas, I drink only black tea, but I do keep some florals (which I hate but get gifted to me) around for guests. I have two decorated tins-- one for herbal packets, one for florals that I keep filled for guests, plus two boxes of black teas for myself. Maybe it helps in general to have a space limit? I.e., if it won't fit, you can't buy more?

Thanks for the crafting suggestion, lifejoy!  I'm mostly interested, though, in doing crafts that would be expensive to buy premade or don't exist for purchase at all. So for instance, I too would covet a $400 cashmere cardigan, but then end up spending $70 on cashmere yarn (and as a matter of fact I have knit several items using industrial-sized cones of cashmere yarn, but in some cases I had to stop partway because I ran out of the right color of yarn, or else I have yarn left over.)

This is a consequence of still having champagne tastes on a beer budget. Instead of giving up champagne, I learn how to make champagne (don't let's mention the craft beer kit in the garage.)
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: MaybeBabyMustache on January 09, 2018, 12:48:37 PM
I'm doing well. Studiously ignored the sockdreams.com clearance sale. Have not bought any more tea (though am drinking a lot of it to stay warm through this awful cold snap, which thankfully seems to be over for the moment).

Though, I realized that one of the teas I bought, I really don't like. And yesterday, the third time trying it in hopes it would suddenly mutate into something delicious, I thought, "ugh, I REALLY have to slog through 17 more cups of this crap before I can buy more?" Is it cheating to make it really weak so that I can't really taste it? I'm at least trying to alternate it with the 4 other flavors that I really like so I don't get stuck with this and nothing else.

Lesson learned: Despite its name, "sugar cookie" herbal tea will never, ever actually taste like a sugar cookie. You are not fooling anyone, Celestial Seasonings!!

I'm now embarrassed to admit that I have a huge soft spot for that tea! It has a very mild flavor, and took some getting used to, but now I'm sad I can't find it. The shame of an adoration of the sugar cookie tea! :-)
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: horsepoor on January 09, 2018, 01:50:25 PM
I'm doing well. Studiously ignored the sockdreams.com clearance sale. Have not bought any more tea (though am drinking a lot of it to stay warm through this awful cold snap, which thankfully seems to be over for the moment).

Though, I realized that one of the teas I bought, I really don't like. And yesterday, the third time trying it in hopes it would suddenly mutate into something delicious, I thought, "ugh, I REALLY have to slog through 17 more cups of this crap before I can buy more?" Is it cheating to make it really weak so that I can't really taste it? I'm at least trying to alternate it with the 4 other flavors that I really like so I don't get stuck with this and nothing else.

Lesson learned: Despite its name, "sugar cookie" herbal tea will never, ever actually taste like a sugar cookie. You are not fooling anyone, Celestial Seasonings!!

I'm now embarrassed to admit that I have a huge soft spot for that tea! It has a very mild flavor, and took some getting used to, but now I'm sad I can't find it. The shame of an adoration of the sugar cookie tea! :-)

I was laughing earlier because I went and dropped off an unwanted box of tea (Bigelow Orange Spice) in the communal tea area, and there was a box of Celestial Seasonings Sugar Cookie tea!
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: mspym on January 10, 2018, 02:22:29 AM
This year I have committed to the absolutely no clothing purchases challenge but the gazingus pin that I have also committed to is No More Material OR Patterns this year. I have SO MUCH fabric, intriguing patterns, drafting books, and all the component parts necessary to make anything I want. (Embarrassingly enough, I am halfway through making a pair of trousers, a dress, and a workshirt. Just finish one!)

Previous gazingus pins I have picked up and discarded- manga, bags, shoes, coats/jackets, vintage glassware, letterpress prints, sports equipment. It really is a roving collective urge. 
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: MaybeBabyMustache on January 10, 2018, 07:29:10 AM
I'm doing well. Studiously ignored the sockdreams.com clearance sale. Have not bought any more tea (though am drinking a lot of it to stay warm through this awful cold snap, which thankfully seems to be over for the moment).

Though, I realized that one of the teas I bought, I really don't like. And yesterday, the third time trying it in hopes it would suddenly mutate into something delicious, I thought, "ugh, I REALLY have to slog through 17 more cups of this crap before I can buy more?" Is it cheating to make it really weak so that I can't really taste it? I'm at least trying to alternate it with the 4 other flavors that I really like so I don't get stuck with this and nothing else.

Lesson learned: Despite its name, "sugar cookie" herbal tea will never, ever actually taste like a sugar cookie. You are not fooling anyone, Celestial Seasonings!!

I'm now embarrassed to admit that I have a huge soft spot for that tea! It has a very mild flavor, and took some getting used to, but now I'm sad I can't find it. The shame of an adoration of the sugar cookie tea! :-)

I was laughing earlier because I went and dropped off an unwanted box of tea (Bigelow Orange Spice) in the communal tea area, and there was a box of Celestial Seasonings Sugar Cookie tea!

When I'm trying to lose weight & am hungry in the evenings, the smell of the sugar cookie tea almost makes me feel like I'm having a treat. Who are all of these others giving away my favorite?! :-)
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: asauer on January 10, 2018, 08:58:37 AM
I need this one.  No freaking books in 2018!  I have at least 40 that I haven't read.  If I want more I will go to the library and/or browse the free kindle downloads.  To help, I have disconnected my ability to "one click" anything on Amazon.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: Tris Prior on January 10, 2018, 09:11:36 AM

I'm now embarrassed to admit that I have a huge soft spot for that tea! It has a very mild flavor, and took some getting used to, but now I'm sad I can't find it. The shame of an adoration of the sugar cookie tea! :-)

Is it cheating if I mail the rest of mine to you? ;)

I don't like mildly flavored tea, that must be it. I like strong teas and no matter how long I steep it it just looks pale and tastes gross.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: MaybeBabyMustache on January 10, 2018, 09:18:53 AM

I'm now embarrassed to admit that I have a huge soft spot for that tea! It has a very mild flavor, and took some getting used to, but now I'm sad I can't find it. The shame of an adoration of the sugar cookie tea! :-)

Is it cheating if I mail the rest of mine to you? ;)

I don't like mildly flavored tea, that must be it. I like strong teas and no matter how long I steep it it just looks pale and tastes gross.

Ah yes, I love mild flavored tea, so that makes sense! The sugar cookie is probably the most mild in my bunch.

And, my gazingus pin - not buying discounted gift cards unless I have an actual planned expense that will use them up. I sometimes get caught up in the "bargain"
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: Laura33 on January 10, 2018, 01:33:33 PM
So in the interest of full disclosure and accountability, here is a pic of my tea cabinet.  The cabinet (left side) was supposed to be one shelf of everyday mugs, one shelf of tea, and two shelves of extra storage for things we don't use often and don't want in the main part of the kitchen.  The open shelving (right side) was supposed to store cute stuff, like my sugar and creamer set or little art pieces.  Now my tea takes up the entire designated tea shelf and three of the open shelves (the tea on the second-from-top cabinet shelf is my MIL's, while the stuff on the bottom open shelf is my DD's + some of the flavored stuff I offer guests).  Not shown is open 45-degree shelving to the right that contains the teapots and such; even that now has a couple of canisters in it.

I do agree that available space is an issue, so my goal here is to reduce my own tea back to its original single shelf, which is more than sufficient for any reasonable human.  I then want to weed the stupid cups and saucers down to a single shelf, so we can consolidate DD's and MIL's stashes into that third shelf.  (Believe it or not, all those mugs and cups/saucers are what is left after a weeding-out about two years ago -- people keep giving us mugs, and I hate to toss them because I don't want to hurt feelings). 

Some progress:  I have already finished off one canister of very, very old tea that had been sitting there for God-knows how long.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: DTaggart on January 10, 2018, 09:44:07 PM
So I was wasting time at work reading through this thread (I FIRE in 3 weeks so have a fair amount of down time at work these days!!!) and found myself thinking, "Gee, I don't really have a gazingus pin anymore. I get my books from the library or Paperbackswap, I hardly ever buy clothes if I can help it, I don't like jewelry.... I mean, the only 'stuff' I ever really buy is outdoor and fitness gear...... oh CRAP."

Friends, I do indeed have a gazingus pin. My name is DTaggart, and I have a problem buying outdoor gear.  Mr. Taggart and I really enjoy hiking and camping, and we've been slowly acquiring gear to get into overnight backpacking. It's pretty ridiculous how much stuff you need to enjoy such a supposedly minimalist hobby! One of our long term post-FIRE plans is to travel around and do some long distance backpacking like the PCT and AT so I've been trying to buy high-quality, lightweight stuff that will last us for a long time, but that also means EXPENSIVE. Late last year we finally got the last pieces of "essential" gear we need to start doing some basic treks, so my goal for 2018 is to not buy any additional stuff or "upgrade" any existing items, and to focus on using and enjoying what I already have. There's a lot of little additional things that are so easy to pick up here and there - a new pair of wool socks (I have tons of good socks already!), an inflatable travel pillow (I can stuff my extra clothes into an existing stuff-sack!), a cook pot that weighs .1 oz less than my current pot (extra weight is good for training!).... Nope. I already have the things I really need.

So, this year I will not buy new outdoor or fitness stuff with the following exceptions:
1. Consumable stuff that needs to be replaced (I'm thinking mainly of fuel for the stove, maybe a new cartridge for the water filter)
2. My current pair of hiking shoes are in good shape, but they may wear out before the end of the year, so I will allow myself ONE pair of replacement shoes if necessary. I may also require a new pair of running shoes for road-running, which I am trying to get back into - one pair if necessary.
3. If I find high quality performance clothing at the thrift shop in my CURRENT size, I can buy that. This is a pretty rare event and usually saves 90% or more so I don't want to pass up such a unicorn if I happen upon it. But I will NOT buy used gear from online resale groups, or gear from discount sites, because those deals will come around again next year if I still think I really want the item.
4. If anything breaks and cannot be repaired, I am allowed to replace it.

So that's it. Mr. Taggart isn't going to like this, but if there's something he really wants he can spend is personal spending money on it.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: JanetJackson on January 11, 2018, 06:00:27 AM
No Gazingus energy drinks here yet!!
So far it's costing me a bit more, as I realized I was out of creamer at home both yesterday and today and ended up stopping to get gas station coffee (where I would have normally just slung a can of energy drink out of my fridge, since they were ALWAYS in there).
It's going ok so far.  It's amazing how instinctual these things become.  When I went into the gas station I went RIGHT to the energy drink cooler... and then had to redirect myself over to the little starbucks doubleshots.  On my way home from work today I will buy creamer (well my version of creamer- almond milk) so I can drink the abundance of coffee I have at home, ha.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: lifejoy on January 11, 2018, 07:27:38 AM
@Chaskavitch - that used to be me at grocery stores! Always buying a Lindt dark salted chocolate bar. I funneled that money into fancy trail mix and premise bag salads. Cutting back really works: my taste buds have changed.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: lifejoy on January 11, 2018, 07:31:29 AM
@Poundwise - ahhh I understand your crafting motivations now. Sounds like the old trap of “spending money to save money”. (Example: “I made this cashmere cardigan! A real one would cost $700 so I save $600!!” But you’re out the $100 you spent on supplies. Also if you’re like any crafter I know, you have a room filled with supplies for ideas and also things that are half finished.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: lifejoy on January 11, 2018, 09:15:13 AM
It really is a roving collective urge.

This.

Now that I’m not buying clothing or jewellery, I find myself interested in glassware and china... which I absolutely do not have a shortage of and do not need!
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: lifejoy on January 11, 2018, 09:20:23 AM

I'm now embarrassed to admit that I have a huge soft spot for that tea! It has a very mild flavor, and took some getting used to, but now I'm sad I can't find it. The shame of an adoration of the sugar cookie tea! :-)

Is it cheating if I mail the rest of mine to you? ;)

I don't like mildly flavored tea, that must be it. I like strong teas and no matter how long I steep it it just looks pale and tastes gross.

Ah yes, I love mild flavored tea, so that makes sense! The sugar cookie is probably the most mild in my bunch.

And, my gazingus pin - not buying discounted gift cards unless I have an actual planned expense that will use them up. I sometimes get caught up in the "bargain"

Would it not be easier to just cut out GCs completely? Or would you be forgoing major savings? This sounds like it could be one of those “spend money to *save* money” things... better to just not spend at all, no?
Title: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: lifejoy on January 11, 2018, 09:32:45 AM
So in the interest of full disclosure and accountability, here is a pic of my tea cabinet.  The cabinet (left side) was supposed to be one shelf of everyday mugs, one shelf of tea, and two shelves of extra storage for things we don't use often and don't want in the main part of the kitchen.  The open shelving (right side) was supposed to store cute stuff, like my sugar and creamer set or little art pieces.  Now my tea takes up the entire designated tea shelf and three of the open shelves (the tea on the second-from-top cabinet shelf is my MIL's, while the stuff on the bottom open shelf is my DD's + some of the flavored stuff I offer guests).  Not shown is open 45-degree shelving to the right that contains the teapots and such; even that now has a couple of canisters in it.

I do agree that available space is an issue, so my goal here is to reduce my own tea back to its original single shelf, which is more than sufficient for any reasonable human.  I then want to weed the stupid cups and saucers down to a single shelf, so we can consolidate DD's and MIL's stashes into that third shelf.  (Believe it or not, all those mugs and cups/saucers are what is left after a weeding-out about two years ago -- people keep giving us mugs, and I hate to toss them because I don't want to hurt feelings). 

Some progress:  I have already finished off one canister of very, very old tea that had been sitting there for God-knows how long.

Great pic!!! I will post my own gazingus pins.

Also,
“In “The Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up,” Marie Kondo says that we should never keep gifts out of guilt because the giver’s joy happens the moment the gift is given.”

Sooooo get rid of the mugs you don’t love! I give you permission

(https://uploads.tapatalk-cdn.com/20180111/93d32a8f80aa18c7e567e12fdbe56fbf.jpg)

(https://uploads.tapatalk-cdn.com/20180111/21bbe26e6e81c72e6cfba9311a5cc76f.jpg)

This is a pic of my jewellery I decided to bring to my temporary location. I have LOADS more and do not need anything else!!!

I also took a pic of clothes I have that I don’t like or that don’t fit. I have a clothing swap to go to in February - so I do not need to buy a thing else!

PS - lol you guys make me want to try sugar cookie tea!
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: MaybeBabyMustache on January 12, 2018, 08:29:51 AM

I'm now embarrassed to admit that I have a huge soft spot for that tea! It has a very mild flavor, and took some getting used to, but now I'm sad I can't find it. The shame of an adoration of the sugar cookie tea! :-)

Is it cheating if I mail the rest of mine to you? ;)

I don't like mildly flavored tea, that must be it. I like strong teas and no matter how long I steep it it just looks pale and tastes gross.

Ah yes, I love mild flavored tea, so that makes sense! The sugar cookie is probably the most mild in my bunch.

And, my gazingus pin - not buying discounted gift cards unless I have an actual planned expense that will use them up. I sometimes get caught up in the "bargain"

Would it not be easier to just cut out GCs completely? Or would you be forgoing major savings? This sounds like it could be one of those ďspend money to *save* moneyĒ things... better to just not spend at all, no?

It's a fair question. Here's an example of how I used one recently that worked well, in my mind. Knew I would be buying a flight. Explored options & price compared to find best deals. Explored all other ways to get a price discount, frequent flier miles, etc. Bought the gift card for $180/200 gift card. Immediately applied to flight. So, I'm okay with that, as I consider it just another discount. But, buying for some future "unknown - oh I may need this" is not useful.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: I'm a red panda on January 12, 2018, 08:40:35 AM
It's the 12th day of the year and already I really want to buy fabric.  For nothing. I have NOTHING planned.  UGH.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: Serendip on January 12, 2018, 08:59:49 AM
It's the 12th day of the year and already I really want to buy fabric.  For nothing. I have NOTHING planned.  UGH.

Good job recognizing the itch vs. scratching the itch :)

I also am a collector of fabrics but stopped accumulating last year and this year even downsized my stash.
Do you have anything in particular you want to create with what you already own?
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: Serendip on January 12, 2018, 09:03:41 AM
I just yesterday was lamenting the fact that I might 'run out' of black ink/pens this year
 (we are on a no-shopping year and I only enjoy drawing/writing with black)

My partner actually laughed-out-loud at the absurdity of this since I own heaps of black markers/pens and even a pot of black india ink.

It was a good reminder that it's time to move beyond the habit of buying myself microline pens regularly and experiment with the stuff I have!
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: I'm a red panda on January 12, 2018, 09:10:33 AM
It's the 12th day of the year and already I really want to buy fabric.  For nothing. I have NOTHING planned.  UGH.

Good job recognizing the itch vs. scratching the itch :)

I also am a collector of fabrics but stopped accumulating last year and this year even downsized my stash.
Do you have anything in particular you want to create with what you already own?

Oh, I have tons of things I want to make with what I already own. But no time.  I have plenty of time for online shopping, but no time for actual sewing. So my hobby has been reduced to accumulating.

And I don't want to buy anymore!
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: Laura33 on January 12, 2018, 10:22:56 AM
[snip]

Your gazingus pins are much cuter than mine.  ;-)
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: lifejoy on January 12, 2018, 08:29:28 PM

I'm now embarrassed to admit that I have a huge soft spot for that tea! It has a very mild flavor, and took some getting used to, but now I'm sad I can't find it. The shame of an adoration of the sugar cookie tea! :-)

Is it cheating if I mail the rest of mine to you? ;)

I don't like mildly flavored tea, that must be it. I like strong teas and no matter how long I steep it it just looks pale and tastes gross.

Ah yes, I love mild flavored tea, so that makes sense! The sugar cookie is probably the most mild in my bunch.

And, my gazingus pin - not buying discounted gift cards unless I have an actual planned expense that will use them up. I sometimes get caught up in the "bargain"

Would it not be easier to just cut out GCs completely? Or would you be forgoing major savings? This sounds like it could be one of those “spend money to *save* money” things... better to just not spend at all, no?

It's a fair question. Here's an example of how I used one recently that worked well, in my mind. Knew I would be buying a flight. Explored options & price compared to find best deals. Explored all other ways to get a price discount, frequent flier miles, etc. Bought the gift card for $180/200 gift card. Immediately applied to flight. So, I'm okay with that, as I consider it just another discount. But, buying for some future "unknown - oh I may need this" is not useful.

Gotcha. Instant usage or not happening! Good call :)
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: lifejoy on January 12, 2018, 08:31:39 PM
It's the 12th day of the year and already I really want to buy fabric.  For nothing. I have NOTHING planned.  UGH.

My mom bought fabric a few days ago.
She also dug put some fabric that she bought nearly 30 years ago when *I* was a baby, and is using it now.

Haha anyways that’s your cautionary tale ;)

You can do it!!!

To her credit, my mom also uses old shirts and old blankets for sewing fabric. Maybe if you feel the itch you could find some “new” fabric through repurposing?
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: lifejoy on January 12, 2018, 08:32:54 PM
I just yesterday was lamenting the fact that I might 'run out' of black ink/pens this year
 (we are on a no-shopping year and I only enjoy drawing/writing with black)

My partner actually laughed-out-loud at the absurdity of this since I own heaps of black markers/pens and even a pot of black india ink.

It was a good reminder that it's time to move beyond the habit of buying myself microline pens regularly and experiment with the stuff I have!

Sounds like a good reality check, and/or encouragement to try something new! Hooray!
Title: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: lifejoy on January 12, 2018, 08:34:23 PM
It's the 12th day of the year and already I really want to buy fabric.  For nothing. I have NOTHING planned.  UGH.

Good job recognizing the itch vs. scratching the itch

I also am a collector of fabrics but stopped accumulating last year and this year even downsized my stash.
Do you have anything in particular you want to create with what you already own?

Oh, I have tons of things I want to make with what I already own. But no time.  I have plenty of time for online shopping, but no time for actual sewing. So my hobby has been reduced to accumulating.

And I don't want to buy anymore!

Sounds like the kind of shopping I do. A bit aspirational. I covet really pretty party dresses because parties = awesome. But I am not really going to many parties! And even if I were, it’s not like I don’t already own dresses...

Anyways I love the resolve in your last sentence
You got this!!
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: lifejoy on January 12, 2018, 08:35:28 PM
[snip]

Your gazingus pins are much cuter than mine.  ;-)

Haha thanks! ;)

(Psst - don’t encourage me! Lol)
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: mspym on January 13, 2018, 06:43:43 PM
It's the 12th day of the year and already I really want to buy fabric.  For nothing. I have NOTHING planned.  UGH.

I keep my fabric in a transparent box so when I get the urge to buy more, the surplus I already have is staring me in the face.

A thought- what is underneath the urge? for me it's a combination of hope [this will be the magical easy pattern I don't need to tweak] and a reminder of the things I want to do and will have time to do in the future but don't right now. A combo of stockpiling and daydreaming in the form of physical objects.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: I'm a red panda on January 13, 2018, 07:02:00 PM
A transparent box? Like just one?
I keep mine in 9, plus a shelving unit. I have a dedicated sewing room.

And my quilting club mocks me for how little "stash" I have...
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: chaskavitch on January 14, 2018, 07:57:45 AM
A transparent box? Like just one?
I keep mine in 9, plus a shelving unit. I have a dedicated sewing room.

And my quilting club mocks me for how little "stash" I have...

Ohh, a dedicated craft room would be amazing.  My fabric is stashed in tubs around our basement, and I do my sewing on a table that's an offshoot of my computer desk.  It is distracting, because my husband works from home, so whenever I try to sew, he's either working or playing video games right across the table from me.

Also, I totally failed already.  Bought myself a shirt at Costco.  I really like it, and it's perfect for leggings because it's grey and longish in the back and not super tight but still flattering...I should not be allowed to go shopping by myself.  And I have a clothing swap in a few weeks!  I didn't get invited to it until after I bought the shirt, but it probably wouldn't have made a difference.  Here's hoping I get rid of more than I take it at the swap :)

On the bright side, I'm doing well with grocery shopping!  Yay!
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: lifejoy on January 14, 2018, 09:48:44 AM
A transparent box? Like just one?
I keep mine in 9, plus a shelving unit. I have a dedicated sewing room.

And my quilting club mocks me for how little "stash" I have...

Ohh, a dedicated craft room would be amazing.  My fabric is stashed in tubs around our basement, and I do my sewing on a table that's an offshoot of my computer desk.  It is distracting, because my husband works from home, so whenever I try to sew, he's either working or playing video games right across the table from me.

Also, I totally failed already.  Bought myself a shirt at Costco.  I really like it, and it's perfect for leggings because it's grey and longish in the back and not super tight but still flattering...I should not be allowed to go shopping by myself.  And I have a clothing swap in a few weeks!  I didn't get invited to it until after I bought the shirt, but it probably wouldn't have made a difference.  Here's hoping I get rid of more than I take it at the swap :)

On the bright side, I'm doing well with grocery shopping!  Yay!

Will you re-set with clothing? Like starting anew or saying no more than one item per month? Or one-in, one-out?
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: chaskavitch on January 14, 2018, 10:24:23 AM
A transparent box? Like just one?
I keep mine in 9, plus a shelving unit. I have a dedicated sewing room.

And my quilting club mocks me for how little "stash" I have...

Ohh, a dedicated craft room would be amazing.  My fabric is stashed in tubs around our basement, and I do my sewing on a table that's an offshoot of my computer desk.  It is distracting, because my husband works from home, so whenever I try to sew, he's either working or playing video games right across the table from me.

Also, I totally failed already.  Bought myself a shirt at Costco.  I really like it, and it's perfect for leggings because it's grey and longish in the back and not super tight but still flattering...I should not be allowed to go shopping by myself.  And I have a clothing swap in a few weeks!  I didn't get invited to it until after I bought the shirt, but it probably wouldn't have made a difference.  Here's hoping I get rid of more than I take it at the swap :)

On the bright side, I'm doing well with grocery shopping!  Yay!

Will you re-set with clothing? Like starting anew or saying no more than one item per month? Or one-in, one-out?

I think I'll say that I'm going to aim for no more buying clothes.  I can't imagine NEEDING more things unless my dresser catches on fire, which seems unlikely :)  There's nothing I've been waiting to buy or longing for specifically, except for some shortish boots to wear with skinny jeans/leggings.  My only ones are an impractical (but excellent) red velvet.  If I find some super on sale, I might buy them, but I'm not going to go look specifically for boots.  Mostly I'd end up with like 37 open tabs in Chrome and decision fatigue, and maybe also boots.

The whole time I was looking at this shirt at Costco, and carrying it around in my cart, I was thinking "Man, I really don't need this.  It's going to throw off my MMM challenged AND my Frugalwoods challenge.  But I really like it!"  So ridiculous.

For the shirt I just bought, I will definitely go find another piece of clothing to add to my clothes swap pile.  I'll hopefully find more than one, though. 

ETA - I might need to buy some new bras.  I've been wearing the same three cheap comfy cloth ones since our son was born, and they're getting holes in them.  I'm not looking forward to going back to the structured underwire style, especially since we're going to try for another kid this year.  Underwires and pregnant boobs do not get along.  I'll wait until these ones are actually kaput, though, and replace rather than add.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: I'm a red panda on January 14, 2018, 11:35:18 AM
For the Costco shirt, could you return it? They are great about returns. Maybe after your clothing swap when you know you have something else.

Returns are a good way to deal with the aftermath of a shopping high.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: chaskavitch on January 14, 2018, 11:36:28 AM
For the Costco shirt, could you return it? They are great about returns. Maybe after your clothing swap when you know you have something else.

Returns are a good way to deal with the aftermath of a shopping high.

...yeah, I'm definitely wearing it at work right now, so no.  That would have been a good solution, though :)
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: Inkedup on January 14, 2018, 12:09:31 PM
So far so good on the tea-buying.

As I continue to consume my stash, however, the hoarding urge remains firmly rooted in place and I'm constantly making a mental note to "buy more of x soon," because the supply is dwindling.

Have I given in? No. But here's my stumbling block: The teas I drink are loose-leaf varieties from Asia, which I buy from an American-based importer who seems to be the only source for some of these kinds of teas in the States. (When you google the varieties, other American tea companies may turn up, but they admittedly get their supply from him.) This is all well and good, but this importer is a one-man operation who is getting up in years and wants to retire. So. The urge to place a massive order is firmly planted in my brain.

If I liked the boxed teas at the grocery store, I could easily talk myself out of this urge to stockpile. You can count on brands such as Celestial Seasonings, Twinings, and the Republic of Tea, to be there in a year. A small business is more likely to abruptly pull up stakes and shut down its website when the owner has decided he's had enough.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: galliver on January 14, 2018, 12:58:53 PM
I'm interested in PTF...I can't identify a single category for myself but I know I make some frivolous purchases sometimes, so hearing about people resisting their "cravings" is good for me. Also, reading through reinforced my desire to weed/use up my hair products and soap stashes. I've been working on that anyway, and not adding to them, but I've been replacing the products I like best and neglecting to put ok ones into rotation. Your stories are also reinforcing the "no clothes shopping" challenge :)

I also wanted to comment on sugar cookie tea: it wasn't my favorite, but I found it's much better with sugar(/sweetener). Imagine unsweetened sugar cookies...blech. But then, I prefer most of my fruit teas and some black teas sweetened. YMMV.

PS We have a stuffed tea cabinet, too. I relate. But I think bf is the greater contributor to that and I'm not taking in a challenge dependent on his behavior rather than mine...and in fairness he's been pushing gently to have more of the "cabinet teas" vs our typical black Ceylon.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: galliver on January 14, 2018, 01:01:59 PM
So far so good on the tea-buying.

As I continue to consume my stash, however, the hoarding urge remains firmly rooted in place and I'm constantly making a mental note to "buy more of x soon," because the supply is dwindling.

Have I given in? No. But here's my stumbling block: The teas I drink are loose-leaf varieties from Asia, which I buy from an American-based importer who seems to be the only source for some of these kinds of teas in the States. (When you google the varieties, other American tea companies may turn up, but they admittedly get their supply from him.) This is all well and good, but this importer is a one-man operation who is getting up in years and wants to retire. So. The urge to place a massive order is firmly planted in my brain.

If I liked the boxed teas at the grocery store, I could easily talk myself out of this urge to stockpile. You can count on brands such as Celestial Seasonings, Twinings, and the Republic of Tea, to be there in a year. A small business is more likely to abruptly pull up stakes and shut down its website when the owner has decided he's had enough.
I'm curious what these tea varieties are...

If larger tea shops sell them (and there is demand...), they will likely pursue another source if this particular importer goes out of business....
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: lifejoy on January 14, 2018, 01:45:35 PM
Haha thanks to all you tea aficionados I cleaned out my tea drawer and put all the ones I don’t like into my clothing swap pile (we swap stuff in addition to clothes). Now all my “guest” teas are ones I like, too! Imagine that ;)

I’m noticing some themes in myself and others, things that come up when we’re trying to resist:

-scarcity (“What if I run out? Better stock up”)
-good deals (“I’ve never seen such a good price on XYZ! I had to get it!)
-amnesia or blindness (“I didn’t realize I already had a bunch of XYZ”)

For me, I am resisting a silk top that is normally $300... it is on for $15. Whaaaaat!!! See above identified danger feelings ;)

But I keep imagining how cool and awesome I’m going to feel when at the end of the year I get to say: I didn’t buy any clothes or jewellery this year. And I also look forward to breaking the habit in my brain. Stopping shopping is going to be key to my success.

I’ve been working on my stylebook app. You add pics of clothes you own and input detail like how much it cost and how many times you’ve worn it. The smart closet app does the same thing (but that app is free). Let me just say it is a VERY effective way to stop buying clothing because you see what you’ve got AND how much you paid for all of it! Yikes.

And it occupies my time the same way online shopping used to.

So anyways... staying strong!
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: galliver on January 14, 2018, 01:49:55 PM
Shared this on the "no clothes shopping" thread but relevant here, too.

https://mobile.nytimes.com/2017/12/15/opinion/sunday/shopping-consumerism.html
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: Inkedup on January 14, 2018, 02:12:36 PM
So far so good on the tea-buying.

As I continue to consume my stash, however, the hoarding urge remains firmly rooted in place and I'm constantly making a mental note to "buy more of x soon," because the supply is dwindling.

Have I given in? No. But here's my stumbling block: The teas I drink are loose-leaf varieties from Asia, which I buy from an American-based importer who seems to be the only source for some of these kinds of teas in the States. (When you google the varieties, other American tea companies may turn up, but they admittedly get their supply from him.) This is all well and good, but this importer is a one-man operation who is getting up in years and wants to retire. So. The urge to place a massive order is firmly planted in my brain.

If I liked the boxed teas at the grocery store, I could easily talk myself out of this urge to stockpile. You can count on brands such as Celestial Seasonings, Twinings, and the Republic of Tea, to be there in a year. A small business is more likely to abruptly pull up stakes and shut down its website when the owner has decided he's had enough.
I'm curious what these tea varieties are...

If larger tea shops sell them (and there is demand...), they will likely pursue another source if this particular importer goes out of business....

It's called puerh tea, and there are literally thousands of different types. Each one tastes a bit different. As with wine, you can age them which is supposed to improve the flavor.
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Pu%27er_tea

Most loose leaf tea retailers offer some puerhs, but a lot of it is mediocre quality. There isn't a lot of demand for it in the U.S. due to its distinctive (acquired?) taste and the finicky brewing involved. Most of the good stuff tends to stay in Asian countries.

Drinking and collecting puerhs can be an "expensive" hobby, but only in terms of up front costs. Buying a 400g cake of tea may set you back $60-80, but you tend to use only 5g per sitting. Unlike tea bags, good quality tea leaves can be re-steeped multiple times, so you end up spending less than $1 per serving on a type of tea that some consider the best in the world. It's actually a mustachian beverage :) But it's easy to go crazy with collecting...
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: galliver on January 14, 2018, 03:57:50 PM
So far so good on the tea-buying.

As I continue to consume my stash, however, the hoarding urge remains firmly rooted in place and I'm constantly making a mental note to "buy more of x soon," because the supply is dwindling.

Have I given in? No. But here's my stumbling block: The teas I drink are loose-leaf varieties from Asia, which I buy from an American-based importer who seems to be the only source for some of these kinds of teas in the States. (When you google the varieties, other American tea companies may turn up, but they admittedly get their supply from him.) This is all well and good, but this importer is a one-man operation who is getting up in years and wants to retire. So. The urge to place a massive order is firmly planted in my brain.

If I liked the boxed teas at the grocery store, I could easily talk myself out of this urge to stockpile. You can count on brands such as Celestial Seasonings, Twinings, and the Republic of Tea, to be there in a year. A small business is more likely to abruptly pull up stakes and shut down its website when the owner has decided he's had enough.
I'm curious what these tea varieties are...

If larger tea shops sell them (and there is demand...), they will likely pursue another source if this particular importer goes out of business....

It's called puerh tea, and there are literally thousands of different types. Each one tastes a bit different. As with wine, you can age them which is supposed to improve the flavor.
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Pu%27er_tea

Most loose leaf tea retailers offer some puerhs, but a lot of it is mediocre quality. There isn't a lot of demand for it in the U.S. due to its distinctive (acquired?) taste and the finicky brewing involved. Most of the good stuff tends to stay in Asian countries.

Drinking and collecting puerhs can be an "expensive" hobby, but only in terms of up front costs. Buying a 400g cake of tea may set you back $60-80, but you tend to use only 5g per sitting. Unlike tea bags, good quality tea leaves can be re-steeped multiple times, so you end up spending less than $1 per serving on a type of tea that some consider the best in the world. It's actually a mustachian beverage :) But it's easy to go crazy with collecting...
My bf likes puerh, among others! So I am familiar with the "tea that is swampy...in a good way". Not my jam, but I suspect there are enough of you puerh drinkers out there to justify filling a market vacancy. Don't stock up!
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: Inkedup on January 14, 2018, 05:16:19 PM
My bf likes puerh, among others! So I am familiar with the "tea that is swampy...in a good way". Not my jam, but I suspect there are enough of you puerh drinkers out there to justify filling a market vacancy. Don't stock up!

It's not only swampy, but peaty and earthy, as well as fruity and floral if you taste a nice green puerh :) (I'm making myself thirsty...)
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: lifejoy on January 14, 2018, 08:18:41 PM
My bf likes puerh, among others! So I am familiar with the "tea that is swampy...in a good way". Not my jam, but I suspect there are enough of you puerh drinkers out there to justify filling a market vacancy. Don't stock up!

It's not only swampy, but peaty and earthy, as well as fruity and floral if you taste a nice green puerh :) (I'm making myself thirsty...)

Does it expire? Could you stretch out your remaining supply? Things are more luxurious and savoured when not enjoyed regularly :)
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: better late on January 14, 2018, 09:59:53 PM
I'd like to join this challenge. I didn't think I had a Gazingus  pin until I uh opened my purse and 5 lipsticks fell out. Combined with the few in the car. And the ones in my minimalist makeup bag. And the three of the same color still in packaging that I bought on eBay that are stored in my drawer in my bathroom because they were discontinued and I might never be able to find as good a color. Yeah. I should be all set for 2018
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: Inkedup on January 14, 2018, 11:03:15 PM
My bf likes puerh, among others! So I am familiar with the "tea that is swampy...in a good way". Not my jam, but I suspect there are enough of you puerh drinkers out there to justify filling a market vacancy. Don't stock up!

It's not only swampy, but peaty and earthy, as well as fruity and floral if you taste a nice green puerh :) (I'm making myself thirsty...)

Does it expire? Could you stretch out your remaining supply? Things are more luxurious and savoured when not enjoyed regularly :)

Good point :) It actually doesn't expire! This tea is actually meant to be aged and enjoyed along the way as its flavor evolves. What tempts me is not just the potential scarcity of what I have found and enjoy but also the sheer variety of unexplored teas.

But I do have other types of teas to drink...and these should be prioritized for consumption, as they do lose their flavor over time! I'm going to brew a nice green tea for my work thermos this week :)
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: lifejoy on January 15, 2018, 01:58:02 AM
I'd like to join this challenge. I didn't think I had a Gazingus  pin until I uh opened my purse and 5 lipsticks fell out. Combined with the few in the car. And the ones in my minimalist makeup bag. And the three of the same color still in packaging that I bought on eBay that are stored in my drawer in my bathroom because they were discontinued and I might never be able to find as good a color. Yeah. I should be all set for 2018

Welcome! Added! Apt username ;)
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: lifejoy on January 15, 2018, 01:58:51 AM
My bf likes puerh, among others! So I am familiar with the "tea that is swampy...in a good way". Not my jam, but I suspect there are enough of you puerh drinkers out there to justify filling a market vacancy. Don't stock up!

It's not only swampy, but peaty and earthy, as well as fruity and floral if you taste a nice green puerh :) (I'm making myself thirsty...)

Does it expire? Could you stretch out your remaining supply? Things are more luxurious and savoured when not enjoyed regularly :)

Good point :) It actually doesn't expire! This tea is actually meant to be aged and enjoyed along the way as its flavor evolves. What tempts me is not just the potential scarcity of what I have found and enjoy but also the sheer variety of unexplored teas.

But I do have other types of teas to drink...and these should be prioritized for consumption, as they do lose their flavor over time! I'm going to brew a nice green tea for my work thermos this week :)

Sounds like an excellent plan!

And I believe you have a case of tea FOMO - fear of missing out!
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: Laura33 on January 15, 2018, 07:23:11 AM
Iím noticing some themes in myself and others, things that come up when weíre trying to resist:

-scarcity (ďWhat if I run out? Better stock upĒ)
-good deals (ďIíve never seen such a good price on XYZ! I had to get it!)
-amnesia or blindness (ďI didnít realize I already had a bunch of XYZĒ)

Mine is a funky version of scarcity.  I hate shopping (my most reliable tea source was in the mall), and I hate wasting money on things I donít like (so not excited about buying something online I havenít tasted).  So when I see something I like, think, ďgee, better stock up so I donít have to deal with this hell again for a long timeĒ - so Iíd go to the mall and walk out with over a hundred bucks worth of tea. 

But then once I have it, I donít ever want to use it up, because that means I will be out.  I have a ton of little special packets I bought off the internet (like the kinds that bloom into a flower), and I never want to use them, because then they will be gone!*  And worse:  now the mall place is out of business, and I cannot find their particular version of my favorite tea anywhere.  So I am now down to a few potsí worth, and I am hoarding that remaining stash ó I donít want to use it because then itíll be gone forever! 

*Because, you know, itís not like I could ever buy more. . . .  Yes, I realize it is completely illogical.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: Tris Prior on January 15, 2018, 10:44:25 AM

I also wanted to comment on sugar cookie tea: it wasn't my favorite, but I found it's much better with sugar(/sweetener). Imagine unsweetened sugar cookies...blech. But then, I prefer most of my fruit teas and some black teas sweetened. YMMV.

Huh, that's probably true, but I've quit sugar and don't like artificial sweetener. Oh well.

I have the flu. At the rate I'm going through tea right now, I should be through my stash way faster than I'd anticipated.

I have a scarcity mentality too sometimes with my shopping. For example - I love Halloween and will use Halloween-themed bath/body products, wear Halloween-themed socks, use Halloween-themed housewares all year 'round. But you can only buy them in the fall - so as soon as I see, for example, that my favorite handmade bath/body seller has released her Halloween products, I'll buy up a bunch of them, to get me through to next year. So, that's usually a big outlay of money all at once...... but then I don't buy more during the year, because I literally can't, so maybe it is a wash? Dunno.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: JanetJackson on January 15, 2018, 11:52:12 AM
How's everyone doing?
I'm still at ZERO energy drinks so far!  I did buy some carbonated water, although I hate the expense... I think I like carbonation for my general stomach upset, so I figured I'd use those for a while and then wean them back if I can.

I did get AGGRESSIVE when my roommate "borrowed" a cup of coffee from my pitcher of cold brew in the fridge.  There was still plenty left in the pitcher, so I had to reel myself back into "reasonable land" and just tell him it was fine.  UGH.  MY CAFFEINE.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: Inkedup on January 15, 2018, 12:47:35 PM
Iím noticing some themes in myself and others, things that come up when weíre trying to resist:

-scarcity (ďWhat if I run out? Better stock upĒ)
-good deals (ďIíve never seen such a good price on XYZ! I had to get it!)
-amnesia or blindness (ďI didnít realize I already had a bunch of XYZĒ)

Mine is a funky version of scarcity.  I hate shopping (my most reliable tea source was in the mall), and I hate wasting money on things I donít like (so not excited about buying something online I havenít tasted).  So when I see something I like, think, ďgee, better stock up so I donít have to deal with this hell again for a long timeĒ - so Iíd go to the mall and walk out with over a hundred bucks worth of tea. 

But then once I have it, I donít ever want to use it up, because that means I will be out.  I have a ton of little special packets I bought off the internet (like the kinds that bloom into a flower), and I never want to use them, because then they will be gone!*  And worse:  now the mall place is out of business, and I cannot find their particular version of my favorite tea anywhere.  So I am now down to a few potsí worth, and I am hoarding that remaining stash ó I donít want to use it because then itíll be gone forever! 

*Because, you know, itís not like I could ever buy more. . . .  Yes, I realize it is completely illogical.

Laura33, I could suggest an alternative source for those blooming teas, but don't want to compromise your efforts to hold back on tea buying! :)
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: Inkedup on January 15, 2018, 01:14:20 PM

Sounds like an excellent plan!

And I believe you have a case of tea FOMO - fear of missing out!

FOMO infiltrates every facet of life, doesn't it? :)
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: I'm a red panda on January 15, 2018, 01:25:04 PM
The tea discussion reminded me of this. She probably made a few thousand (or more, likely) dollars on this video mixing together her massive stash of teas. But won't it all go bad now that it's opened?
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Y0D0s9eIKuw
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: Laura33 on January 15, 2018, 02:58:52 PM
Iím noticing some themes in myself and others, things that come up when weíre trying to resist:

-scarcity (ďWhat if I run out? Better stock upĒ)
-good deals (ďIíve never seen such a good price on XYZ! I had to get it!)
-amnesia or blindness (ďI didnít realize I already had a bunch of XYZĒ)

Mine is a funky version of scarcity.  I hate shopping (my most reliable tea source was in the mall), and I hate wasting money on things I donít like (so not excited about buying something online I havenít tasted).  So when I see something I like, think, ďgee, better stock up so I donít have to deal with this hell again for a long timeĒ - so Iíd go to the mall and walk out with over a hundred bucks worth of tea. 

But then once I have it, I donít ever want to use it up, because that means I will be out.  I have a ton of little special packets I bought off the internet (like the kinds that bloom into a flower), and I never want to use them, because then they will be gone!*  And worse:  now the mall place is out of business, and I cannot find their particular version of my favorite tea anywhere.  So I am now down to a few potsí worth, and I am hoarding that remaining stash ó I donít want to use it because then itíll be gone forever! 

*Because, you know, itís not like I could ever buy more. . . .  Yes, I realize it is completely illogical.

Laura33, I could suggest an alternative source for those blooming teas, but don't want to compromise your efforts to hold back on tea buying! :)

Iíll hold you to that - maybe I can use that as incentive to power through the challenge.  :-)
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: lifejoy on January 15, 2018, 03:06:00 PM
I’m noticing some themes in myself and others, things that come up when we’re trying to resist:

-scarcity (“What if I run out? Better stock up”)
-good deals (“I’ve never seen such a good price on XYZ! I had to get it!)
-amnesia or blindness (“I didn’t realize I already had a bunch of XYZ”)

Mine is a funky version of scarcity.  I hate shopping (my most reliable tea source was in the mall), and I hate wasting money on things I don’t like (so not excited about buying something online I haven’t tasted).  So when I see something I like, think, “gee, better stock up so I don’t have to deal with this hell again for a long time” - so I’d go to the mall and walk out with over a hundred bucks worth of tea. 

But then once I have it, I don’t ever want to use it up, because that means I will be out.  I have a ton of little special packets I bought off the internet (like the kinds that bloom into a flower), and I never want to use them, because then they will be gone!*  And worse:  now the mall place is out of business, and I cannot find their particular version of my favorite tea anywhere.  So I am now down to a few pots’ worth, and I am hoarding that remaining stash — I don’t want to use it because then it’ll be gone forever! 

*Because, you know, it’s not like I could ever buy more. . . .  Yes, I realize it is completely illogical.

Laura33, I could suggest an alternative source for those blooming teas, but don't want to compromise your efforts to hold back on tea buying! :)

I’ll hold you to that - maybe I can use that as incentive to power through the challenge.  :-)

Inkedup you should refer her in 2019 ;)
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: Inkedup on January 15, 2018, 04:01:37 PM
The tea discussion reminded me of this. She probably made a few thousand (or more, likely) dollars on this video mixing together her massive stash of teas. But won't it all go bad now that it's opened?
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Y0D0s9eIKuw

They won't go bad, per se, but flavor-wise these teas will be a ghost of their former selves. Even many teas in sealed packets have shelf lives, but exposure to light and air really speeds things up. It's just not a good idea to buy and tear open so many bags of tea at once.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: Inkedup on January 15, 2018, 04:03:56 PM
Iím noticing some themes in myself and others, things that come up when weíre trying to resist:

-scarcity (ďWhat if I run out? Better stock upĒ)
-good deals (ďIíve never seen such a good price on XYZ! I had to get it!)
-amnesia or blindness (ďI didnít realize I already had a bunch of XYZĒ)

Mine is a funky version of scarcity.  I hate shopping (my most reliable tea source was in the mall), and I hate wasting money on things I donít like (so not excited about buying something online I havenít tasted).  So when I see something I like, think, ďgee, better stock up so I donít have to deal with this hell again for a long timeĒ - so Iíd go to the mall and walk out with over a hundred bucks worth of tea. 

But then once I have it, I donít ever want to use it up, because that means I will be out.  I have a ton of little special packets I bought off the internet (like the kinds that bloom into a flower), and I never want to use them, because then they will be gone!*  And worse:  now the mall place is out of business, and I cannot find their particular version of my favorite tea anywhere.  So I am now down to a few potsí worth, and I am hoarding that remaining stash ó I donít want to use it because then itíll be gone forever! 

*Because, you know, itís not like I could ever buy more. . . .  Yes, I realize it is completely illogical.

Laura33, I could suggest an alternative source for those blooming teas, but don't want to compromise your efforts to hold back on tea buying! :)

Iíll hold you to that - maybe I can use that as incentive to power through the challenge.  :-)

Inkedup you should refer her in 2019 ;)

Will do!
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: I'm a red panda on January 15, 2018, 04:16:46 PM
The tea discussion reminded me of this. She probably made a few thousand (or more, likely) dollars on this video mixing together her massive stash of teas. But won't it all go bad now that it's opened?
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Y0D0s9eIKuw

They won't go bad, per se, but flavor-wise these teas will be a ghost of their former selves. Even many teas in sealed packets have shelf lives, but exposure to light and air really speeds things up. It's just not a good idea to buy and tear open so many bags of tea at once.

Well it didn't sound like she bought them all at once, so probably it didn't matter that she opened them since she'd been hoarding anyway since you say sealed tea goes bad too. 
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: lifejoy on January 15, 2018, 04:23:21 PM
The tea discussion reminded me of this. She probably made a few thousand (or more, likely) dollars on this video mixing together her massive stash of teas. But won't it all go bad now that it's opened?
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Y0D0s9eIKuw

Hahahahaha ok that was the best. Even if it hurt my minimalist soul a little ;)
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: middo on January 16, 2018, 03:40:27 AM
My gazingus pin is tools.  I buy too many, and buy ones I don't need now.  The problem is we live on a small farm out of town. Going to town for a tool takes over an hour, so things get bought
Just in case.

So, no more purchases of tools that are not needed IMMEDIATELY.  I think I can do that, with some help.

So today I sharpened my chain saw again, but the chain is really at the end of its life. New chain next time I am in town, but, no new tools with it. Just the chain to maintain the current tool.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: I'm a red panda on January 16, 2018, 06:57:42 AM
The tea discussion reminded me of this. She probably made a few thousand (or more, likely) dollars on this video mixing together her massive stash of teas. But won't it all go bad now that it's opened?
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Y0D0s9eIKuw

Hahahahaha ok that was the best. Even if it hurt my minimalist soul a little ;)

I don't know what this woman does with all her hoarding (the amount of nail stuff she has is insanity, she mixed nail powders in one video and had like 70 of them, though I assume at this point most of it is free)- because while she is a youtube millionaire, it seems like they live in a reasonably sized Ottawa condo.   
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: lifejoy on January 16, 2018, 07:17:42 AM
My gazingus pin is tools.  I buy too many, and buy ones I don't need now.  The problem is we live on a small farm out of town. Going to town for a tool takes over an hour, so things get bought
Just in case.

So, no more purchases of tools that are not needed IMMEDIATELY.  I think I can do that, with some help.

So today I sharpened my chain saw again, but the chain is really at the end of its life. New chain next time I am in town, but, no new tools with it. Just the chain to maintain the current tool.

Chainsaw is something you’ll be needing to use straightaway?
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: alleykat on January 16, 2018, 10:14:26 AM
So far, besides one skincare item I could have probably done without, no other skincare or makeup purchases and I don't foresee myself buying anymore. As a matter of fact I am going to challenge myself to see how far I can go before purchasing any at all.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: DTaggart on January 16, 2018, 11:42:28 AM
Well, so far so good on my no outdoor/fitness gear goal.

Immediately after my post, I realized that I don't have a rain-cover for my backpack, which is something I will probably need to get eventually. But I did some thinking and googling and realized I can use a trash bag to keep my pack and gear dry, and I have an emergency rain poncho that will cover my pack as well. Coupled with the fact that most of the near-term plans I have are unlikely to find me getting caught in the rain (hooray for droughts?!) and I think I can avoid this purchase for now.

Hubby and I did a long hike on Sunday, and he damaged one of his trekking poles (slipped, put all his weight on the pole to avoid a fall and the handle came loose), so I thought "Great, guess we're going to have to replace those." But he jammed the handle back on and reported that it seemed to be holding. I also realized that since I've been having some issues with one of my elbows I might be better off using one pole instead of two for a while, in which case we could trade for the time being. I guess we'll see if his "repair" holds or not.

One of my friends is planning a backpacking trip for June which I am hoping to join, but it requires a bear-proof canister which I don't have. I checked the local outdoor store and found I can rent one for about $10 or so. This will give me an opportunity to try before I buy and get a better idea of what size/brand I really want to commit to when I do buy.

And finally, one of my "exceptions" was to maybe buy a new pair of running shoes, and lo and behold someone posted a pair of brand new shoes in my size on my local Buy Nothing Group today! I indicated my interest and am waiting to hear back.

So, patience and a little bit of planning/thinking instead of running out and buying things right away is paying off :)
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: galliver on January 16, 2018, 01:13:18 PM
Hubby and I did a long hike on Sunday, and he damaged one of his trekking poles (slipped, put all his weight on the pole to avoid a fall and the handle came loose), so I thought "Great, guess we're going to have to replace those." But he jammed the handle back on and reported that it seemed to be holding. I also realized that since I've been having some issues with one of my elbows I might be better off using one pole instead of two for a while, in which case we could trade for the time being. I guess we'll see if his "repair" holds or not.

Can you epoxy it? (Tube of 5-minute is cheaper and more versatile than a trekking pole ;) )
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: DTaggart on January 16, 2018, 01:18:04 PM
Hubby and I did a long hike on Sunday, and he damaged one of his trekking poles (slipped, put all his weight on the pole to avoid a fall and the handle came loose), so I thought "Great, guess we're going to have to replace those." But he jammed the handle back on and reported that it seemed to be holding. I also realized that since I've been having some issues with one of my elbows I might be better off using one pole instead of two for a while, in which case we could trade for the time being. I guess we'll see if his "repair" holds or not.

Can you epoxy it? (Tube of 5-minute is cheaper and more versatile than a trekking pole ;) )

Yeah I think that's the next step if the "jamming it back on" technique doesn't work :) He got mad at me for poking at it since it seemed to be holding and he didn't want to mess it up again lol
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: galliver on January 16, 2018, 01:26:28 PM
Hubby and I did a long hike on Sunday, and he damaged one of his trekking poles (slipped, put all his weight on the pole to avoid a fall and the handle came loose), so I thought "Great, guess we're going to have to replace those." But he jammed the handle back on and reported that it seemed to be holding. I also realized that since I've been having some issues with one of my elbows I might be better off using one pole instead of two for a while, in which case we could trade for the time being. I guess we'll see if his "repair" holds or not.

Can you epoxy it? (Tube of 5-minute is cheaper and more versatile than a trekking pole ;) )

Yeah I think that's the next step if the "jamming it back on" technique doesn't work :) He got mad at me for poking at it since it seemed to be holding and he didn't want to mess it up again lol

As a pessimist, I would expect a "just jam it back on" solution to fail at the most inopportune moment. Like, the farthest point of a particularly strenuous hike when you are actively leaning on it.... so, I'm on your side re: poking at it vs your husbands re: leave it alone.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: DTaggart on January 16, 2018, 01:35:35 PM
Hubby and I did a long hike on Sunday, and he damaged one of his trekking poles (slipped, put all his weight on the pole to avoid a fall and the handle came loose), so I thought "Great, guess we're going to have to replace those." But he jammed the handle back on and reported that it seemed to be holding. I also realized that since I've been having some issues with one of my elbows I might be better off using one pole instead of two for a while, in which case we could trade for the time being. I guess we'll see if his "repair" holds or not.

Can you epoxy it? (Tube of 5-minute is cheaper and more versatile than a trekking pole ;) )

Yeah I think that's the next step if the "jamming it back on" technique doesn't work :) He got mad at me for poking at it since it seemed to be holding and he didn't want to mess it up again lol

As a pessimist, I would expect a "just jam it back on" solution to fail at the most inopportune moment. Like, the farthest point of a particularly strenuous hike when you are actively leaning on it.... so, I'm on your side re: poking at it vs your husbands re: leave it alone.

My thoughts exactly, I think I'll encourage him to stress test it at home.... part of the "no poking" irritation was probably that we were in the middle of the trail at the time.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: DTaggart on January 16, 2018, 02:10:01 PM
One of my friends is planning a backpacking trip for June which I am hoping to join, but it requires a bear-proof canister which I don't have. I checked the local outdoor store and found I can rent one for about $10 or so. This will give me an opportunity to try before I buy and get a better idea of what size/brand I really want to commit to when I do buy.

Haha, my friend just posted that she has FIVE bear canisters, so I guess I can probably borrow one of hers. This is EXACTLY the type of excessive over-buying of gear that I want avoid :)
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: middo on January 16, 2018, 03:30:43 PM
My gazingus pin is tools.  I buy too many, and buy ones I don't need now.  The problem is we live on a small farm out of town. Going to town for a tool takes over an hour, so things get bought
Just in case.

So, no more purchases of tools that are not needed IMMEDIATELY.  I think I can do that, with some help.

So today I sharpened my chain saw again, but the chain is really at the end of its life. New chain next time I am in town, but, no new tools with it. Just the chain to maintain the current tool.

Chainsaw is something youíll be needing to use straightaway?

I'll definately need to use it today or tomorrow.  So it is a need not a want.  No other tool purchases at the same time is the challenge for me.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: TartanTallulah on January 16, 2018, 03:35:33 PM
I'm quite pleased with myself today. My favourite upmarket chocolate shop is still having its post-Christmas sale. I logged on to the website and filled a basket with beautifully packaged delicacies. Then I thought, "I can't believe I'm going to spend that much on confectionery," emptied the basket, and closed the window.

Not very long ago, I'd have said, "It's a cheap luxury and I don't have many luxuries," and hit the spend button without hesitation.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: lifejoy on January 16, 2018, 09:35:27 PM
Well, so far so good on my no outdoor/fitness gear goal.

Immediately after my post, I realized that I don't have a rain-cover for my backpack, which is something I will probably need to get eventually. But I did some thinking and googling and realized I can use a trash bag to keep my pack and gear dry, and I have an emergency rain poncho that will cover my pack as well. Coupled with the fact that most of the near-term plans I have are unlikely to find me getting caught in the rain (hooray for droughts?!) and I think I can avoid this purchase for now.

Hubby and I did a long hike on Sunday, and he damaged one of his trekking poles (slipped, put all his weight on the pole to avoid a fall and the handle came loose), so I thought "Great, guess we're going to have to replace those." But he jammed the handle back on and reported that it seemed to be holding. I also realized that since I've been having some issues with one of my elbows I might be better off using one pole instead of two for a while, in which case we could trade for the time being. I guess we'll see if his "repair" holds or not.

One of my friends is planning a backpacking trip for June which I am hoping to join, but it requires a bear-proof canister which I don't have. I checked the local outdoor store and found I can rent one for about $10 or so. This will give me an opportunity to try before I buy and get a better idea of what size/brand I really want to commit to when I do buy.

And finally, one of my "exceptions" was to maybe buy a new pair of running shoes, and lo and behold someone posted a pair of brand new shoes in my size on my local Buy Nothing Group today! I indicated my interest and am waiting to hear back.

So, patience and a little bit of planning/thinking instead of running out and buying things right away is paying off :)

You’re off to a fantastic start!!!
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: lifejoy on January 16, 2018, 09:37:23 PM
My gazingus pin is tools.  I buy too many, and buy ones I don't need now.  The problem is we live on a small farm out of town. Going to town for a tool takes over an hour, so things get bought
Just in case.

So, no more purchases of tools that are not needed IMMEDIATELY.  I think I can do that, with some help.

So today I sharpened my chain saw again, but the chain is really at the end of its life. New chain next time I am in town, but, no new tools with it. Just the chain to maintain the current tool.

Chainsaw is something you’ll be needing to use straightaway?

I'll definately need to use it today or tomorrow.  So it is a need not a want.  No other tool purchases at the same time is the challenge for me.
Stay strong, you can do it!!! :)
Maybe take a really close look at all the tools you so own before you go?
For me, becoming intimately aware of what I own make me less likely to add to it.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: lifejoy on January 16, 2018, 09:38:16 PM
So far, besides one skincare item I could have probably done without, no other skincare or makeup purchases and I don't foresee myself buying anymore. As a matter of fact I am going to challenge myself to see how far I can go before purchasing any at all.
Props to you for continuing on. I like your challenge to yourself.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: lifejoy on January 16, 2018, 09:39:46 PM
I'm quite pleased with myself today. My favourite upmarket chocolate shop is still having its post-Christmas sale. I logged on to the website and filled a basket with beautifully packaged delicacies. Then I thought, "I can't believe I'm going to spend that much on confectionery," emptied the basket, and closed the window.

Not very long ago, I'd have said, "It's a cheap luxury and I don't have many luxuries," and hit the spend button without hesitation.
Healthier choice, too! Way to go!!!

When I stopped buying chocolate (used to buy a bar EVERY grocery trip) it made gifted chocolate ten times more enjoyable :)
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: lifejoy on January 16, 2018, 09:41:36 PM
I’m doing well. I found the first week painful as I created new habits. Online shopping out of boredom (I’m a new SAHM, often trapped under a baby) was my weakness. Now I read blogs or watch Netflix or post on MMM :)

Also my stylebook app is really helping me because it’s showing me how many clothes I have that I don’t even wear! The idea of adding more becomes bonkers!
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: middo on January 17, 2018, 03:37:22 AM
My gazingus pin is tools.  I buy too many, and buy ones I don't need now.  The problem is we live on a small farm out of town. Going to town for a tool takes over an hour, so things get bought
Just in case.

So, no more purchases of tools that are not needed IMMEDIATELY.  I think I can do that, with some help.

So today I sharpened my chain saw again, but the chain is really at the end of its life. New chain next time I am in town, but, no new tools with it. Just the chain to maintain the current tool.

Chainsaw is something youíll be needing to use straightaway?

I'll definately need to use it today or tomorrow.  So it is a need not a want.  No other tool purchases at the same time is the challenge for me.
Stay strong, you can do it!!! :)
Maybe take a really close look at all the tools you so own before you go?
For me, becoming intimately aware of what I own make me less likely to add to it.

I bought a new chain, but that is all. I didn't even look at the other power tools (well, not enough to feel the need to buy one). So I think this is maintaining a tool I already have rather than buying one.  I used it this afternoon to clear some wattle that had fallen over a fence and was causing issues on our driveway, and broke our sons car aerial. So probably a necessary purchase.
Title: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: lifejoy on January 17, 2018, 03:39:12 AM
My gazingus pin is tools.  I buy too many, and buy ones I don't need now.  The problem is we live on a small farm out of town. Going to town for a tool takes over an hour, so things get bought
Just in case.

So, no more purchases of tools that are not needed IMMEDIATELY.  I think I can do that, with some help.

So today I sharpened my chain saw again, but the chain is really at the end of its life. New chain next time I am in town, but, no new tools with it. Just the chain to maintain the current tool.

Chainsaw is something you’ll be needing to use straightaway?

I'll definately need to use it today or tomorrow.  So it is a need not a want.  No other tool purchases at the same time is the challenge for me.
Stay strong, you can do it!!!
Maybe take a really close look at all the tools you so own before you go?
For me, becoming intimately aware of what I own make me less likely to add to it.

I bought a new chain, but that is all. I didn't even look at the other power tools (well, not enough to feel the need to buy one). So I think this is maintaining a tool I already have rather than buying one.  I used it this afternoon to clear some wattle that had fallen over a fence and was causing issues on our driveway, and broke our sons car aerial. So probably a necessary purchase.

Woohoo! Great job
I agree - tool maintenance
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: HappierAtHome on January 17, 2018, 03:42:43 AM
Still going strong, 17 days in :-)
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: horsepoor on January 17, 2018, 07:17:08 AM
I bought a piece of horse training equipment on eBay last night.  It was something I've been planning to buy to make some new work I'm doing with my horses a little easier.  It's not in the pin categories I listed, but I'm posting about it to avoid "pin creep." 

I am adding kitchen equipment to my pins.  I replaced four coffee mugs that were going on 20 years old, as well as two sheet pans that were starting to peel.  Since that followed the 1 in, 1 out rule (actually, I chucked some other cookie sheets I never use as well as the old sheet pans).  We also replaced our old soup bowls a couple months ago too.  I received a fancy immersion circulator for Christmas, and now I'm eyeing the accessories available for it, but it's feeling a lot like clutter.  So unless something breaks, no new kitchen gadgets, dishes, etc. for the rest of the year.  I cook a ton, but still, the kitchen gadgets are a lot.  If I want something, I'll add it to a list and reassess the need/want at the end of the year.

Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: TartanTallulah on January 17, 2018, 07:40:58 AM
I'm quite pleased with myself today. My favourite upmarket chocolate shop is still having its post-Christmas sale. I logged on to the website and filled a basket with beautifully packaged delicacies. Then I thought, "I can't believe I'm going to spend that much on confectionery," emptied the basket, and closed the window.

Not very long ago, I'd have said, "It's a cheap luxury and I don't have many luxuries," and hit the spend button without hesitation.
Healthier choice, too! Way to go!!!

When I stopped buying chocolate (used to buy a bar EVERY grocery trip) it made gifted chocolate ten times more enjoyable :)

Alas, I haven't given up buying chocolate. I'll just buy cheaper chocolate from the supermarket and spend £10 or so a month instead of £70 including postage on a stash that might last three months.

I've tried many times to stop buying, or even eating, chocolate. I end up making up the calories with things I don't normally eat - cookies, breakfast cereal, other candy - so have given up giving up.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: I'm a red panda on January 17, 2018, 09:08:39 AM
So this wasn't my challenge- but someone please stop me from buying more nail polish.
Julep has a grab bag for 10 polishes for $20.  But I do not need them. And I really don't want duplicates of ones I have, so a mystery bag is not a good idea.

I really like spending money recently.  This is not good.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: lifejoy on January 17, 2018, 09:14:00 AM
So this wasn't my challenge- but someone please stop me from buying more nail polish.
Julep has a grab bag for 10 polishes for $20.  But I do not need them. And I really don't want duplicates of ones I have, so a mystery bag is not a good idea.

I really like spending money recently.  This is not good.

I find they when I stop buying one category of thing, it’s hard for me to resist the urge to reallocate that money to other shopping.

Nail polishes last forever and really add to clutter! IMO...
Maybe use up the ones you’ve got before adding to the collection?
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: I'm a red panda on January 17, 2018, 09:22:05 AM
So this wasn't my challenge- but someone please stop me from buying more nail polish.
Julep has a grab bag for 10 polishes for $20.  But I do not need them. And I really don't want duplicates of ones I have, so a mystery bag is not a good idea.

I really like spending money recently.  This is not good.

I find they when I stop buying one category of thing, itís hard for me to resist the urge to reallocate that money to other shopping.

Nail polishes last forever and really add to clutter! IMO...
Maybe use up the ones youíve got before adding to the collection?

Use up the ones I've got- hahahahaha!

To be fair, I do a lot of nail art, and have an instagram dedicated to it (I'd be on my way to making $$$, lol, except youtube demonetized my account for having fewer than 1000 subscribers). And I did clean out any really old or ugly ones this year. Now my polish collection is much more "curated".
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: lifejoy on January 17, 2018, 09:25:36 AM
So this wasn't my challenge- but someone please stop me from buying more nail polish.
Julep has a grab bag for 10 polishes for $20.  But I do not need them. And I really don't want duplicates of ones I have, so a mystery bag is not a good idea.

I really like spending money recently.  This is not good.

I find they when I stop buying one category of thing, it’s hard for me to resist the urge to reallocate that money to other shopping.

Nail polishes last forever and really add to clutter! IMO...
Maybe use up the ones you’ve got before adding to the collection?

Use up the ones I've got- hahahahaha!

To be fair, I do a lot of nail art, and have an instagram dedicated to it (I'd be on my way to making $$$, lol, except youtube demonetized my account for having fewer than 1000 subscribers). And I did clean out any really old or ugly ones this year. Now my polish collection is much more "curated".

Hey I have an IG devotes to fancy jewellery product photography pics... doesn’t mean I get to buy more jewellery ;)

(I wish it did)

(Must resist)

Iowajes - you can’t be missing any crucial colours?

Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: I'm a red panda on January 17, 2018, 09:42:39 AM
I have a pretty long wishlist to fill out my "needs" (haha)- but that isn't what I'm looking at here.

Thank you for helping me not press buy, even though the price is amazing.

Still trying to figure out how to monetize this and/or my sewing. Might need to go back to the blog to have something with ad revenue I can direct to from instagram.  Really annoyed at youtube- it was just a dollar or two a video, but it was slowly adding up.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: lifejoy on January 17, 2018, 10:52:54 AM
I have a pretty long wishlist to fill out my "needs" (haha)- but that isn't what I'm looking at here.

Thank you for helping me not press buy, even though the price is amazing.

Still trying to figure out how to monetize this and/or my sewing. Might need to go back to the blog to have something with ad revenue I can direct to from instagram.  Really annoyed at youtube- it was just a dollar or two a video, but it was slowly adding up.

That’s really really cool that you were making any money at all for any period of time on YouTube!

There will be more amazing prices in the future :)
And you can always tell people what to get you for bday or Xmas!
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: diapasoun on January 18, 2018, 10:40:33 AM
Totally late, but I'm definitely joining this. I have a few smaller gazingus pins that are mostly under control, but my biggest gazingus pin is and always has been books. Being surrounded by books is intensely comforting to me for a whole variety of reasons. While that's not necessarily bad, the fact that I buy books and then don't READ them is. Books are great, but my relationship with them is off, and to me it feels disrespectful to a book to buy it and then never interact with it again.

Therefore, I have a moratorium on buying new books; the only exception is a book for the book club I run IF I can't find it at any of the libraries I have access to, or on a friend's shelf. Audible subscrip is cancelled, my comic pull list is set to run out at the ends of the current runs (may take a bit but we'll see), and I have given myself a firm GLARE about buying rarer medieval texts at the specialty bookshop. Gift books are okay (they're the guaranteed thing I receive on any gift-giving occasion). I'm not sure what my line is yet on free books (e.g. free piles or Little Library books). I'm leaning towards no on the freebies, but I'm not sure yet.

Congrats to everyone who is successfully resisting their gazingus pins! Woooo!
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: I'm a red panda on January 18, 2018, 10:49:47 AM
And now the nail polish grab bag is 20% off.  UGH.

NOT BUYING!
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: diapasoun on January 18, 2018, 11:01:15 AM
@iowajes Can you take some time today to do some nice nail art? Something that uses your current supplies and is beautiful and makes you happy? Getting to do that, and reflecting on the bounty of resources you have available to you to make art and be happy, can definitely help me sometimes when I'm feeling the spending-monster trying to uncurl from inside...
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: Poundwise on January 18, 2018, 02:44:41 PM
And now the nail polish grab bag is 20% off.  UGH.

NOT BUYING!

If you belong to a nail polish or cosmetics community, how about organizing a "mystery grab bag" swap?  You could collect a few names and assign everyone a random partner, Secret Santa style. Then everyone puts the same number of their unused nail polishes, or an equal dollar value of cosmetics, in pretty bags, and sends it to their partner.

Lifejoy, that's some lovely jewelry but the goal is not for us to swap gazingus pins!! It may inspire me to check out my jewelry making kit, which has been unused for several years, though.

I'm happy to say that I haven't purchased anything but basic food since I last wrote in.   I was working on an electronics project for which I already owned 90% of the materials, went online to get the missing bits, saw that there was a $100 free shipping minimum, started adding items that I might need just in case, then suddenly realized that I was about to start another gazingus binge.  I asked my husband to check if he has the pieces I need (<$3) in his workshop already.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: Rosy on January 18, 2018, 04:25:39 PM
OK OK - here I am, joining the club - pass the tea, please:)

I've followed this challenge from the beginning and I've resisted joining in the fun (fun, ugh - highly debatable:). Resistance proved futile - I have some bada$$ goals for 2018 and unless I kick my jewelry habit - I love natural gemstones and whenever there is a new mine find or a favorite, like Sleeping Beauty Turquoise about to be mined out - I spend every extra penny on my sparkly obsession.

Looking over my 2017 expenditures showed me that I lied to myself all of 2017 - I am an out of control, raging jewelry/gemstone collector. Yes, I've successfully beat the collector's fever down to a smoldering fire - a few times in the last three years and yes, I did no real damage to my finances, yet.
However, the ugly truth is that if I want to meet my goals this year I need to step away from the fire.

A few days ago:
Oh lord, help me - it's gem week and I just discovered that my favorite designer is offering an event price on the matching earrings and ring to the necklace I already own.
This is my birthstone and my birthday is coming up and I really want to own the complete ensemble - well, everyone knows a complete set is more valuable to a collector .....
OMG, I can't stand to watch - this is the last cut (meaning he is out of that stone cut) - meaning this is a one and done, unless I order this now - it will be gone forever. I.WANT.IT.!!!

I came to this thread thirty times and shut off the TV for the afternoon - when I looked again, the set was sold out. So I didn't really totally resist temptation, I knew that if I held off for a few hours it would be gone forever - oh the agony!
Relief too - this was $700 I could ill afford to spend and I knew it, still, while I was in the grip of desire - imagining wearing my new complete set on my birthday - I was coming up with all sorts of spins to make it happen anyway - I mean I could ask for the ring for my birthday, ignoring that I already asked for a watch - I'm worth it, right?!

Full disclosure:
I did order a ring during gem week, before I saw the jewelry ensemble to match my necklace. My intention had been to allow myself one item, but only an item that I had been drooling over for a while and only if it was at a killer event price to boot.
So there is that - 99 bucks worth incl S&H.

But - that was before I discovered the extent of my jewelry purchases in 2017 at another channel that I had managed to hide from my conscious inspection. So now I feel guilty, chagrined.
I am questioning my values and what I'm even doing on MMM - since obviously I may be bada$$ in some areas - but a total failure in the obsession with sparkly beauties department.

@lifejoy - I hope it is OK for me to hang out with you here. I do think jewelry repairs should be allowed, if we don't, we deprive ourselves of the joy of wearing our sparkling beauties.
I am holding off on having my mother's pearl necklace restrung because I don't wear it that often.
I will not have anything reworked or have a new piece designed around my Morganite stones collection like I hoped to do for my birthday either.

I'm really feeling the pinch of paying off the few sparklies incl a lovely Chrome Diopside necklace with awesome stone quality that I pounced on during the holiday sale. These were pieces to enhance my collection and I love and wear everyone one of them with great joy. The trouble is that I forgot how much of an impact even a $200 monthly payment can have on an already tight budget - there was much upheaval in my budget in 2017 and I'm still trying to adjust - not fun.

So since it is no longer in the budget and all my resources in 2018 will be poured into my two goals of $50K savings and filling up my travel fund in time for my Europe trip later this year - there will be no more Gazingus pins for me in 2018.

Oh and lifejoy, I am glad that I was never into diamonds, although I admire the Art Deco pieces, they never were in my price range:) Although I do own a couple, including one ring I bought in Amsterdam at the Diamond Exchange a long time ago, small, but exquisite.
I'm a sucker for gold though and one day I will buy that one particular style gold necklace I've always wanted, maybe for my 70th birthday. Yes, I think I'd like that.
In fact, as I write this I've come to a decision - that necklace will be the last thing I'll ever buy. I love jewelry and always pick up something on every trip I take, but I am well aware that the time has come to say enough is enough and in a sense, I am good with that.
So I will end it all in style with a fine gold necklace.

Whew - funny how these things happen sometimes - it will be so much easier to quit cold turkey now.
So now I am thinking - - yup, nothing at all is just fine with me.
Just think, I'll save a bunch of money now and in the future. I'll be able to meet both my goals a lot easier and I have that last fine gold necklace to look forward to.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: I'm a red panda on January 18, 2018, 07:47:36 PM
So... it looks like my husband will be using my exception and buying fabric.

We are redoing our living room, and the design presented includes $700 of pillows.  I can make 8 pillows for about $50-100, even with expensive home dec fabric.  I will first go through my stash of quilting cottons and see if I can do anything with what I have, including dyeing some; so I'm going to avoid buying.  But there is NO WAY I will buy a pillow. Especially not for $80 (I used to balk at $25 pillows...)
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: mspym on January 19, 2018, 12:30:09 AM
So far so good, I do better with clear limits so this has been a good challenge to join.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: MaybeBabyMustache on January 19, 2018, 07:43:04 AM
@Rosy - just really wanted to say that I enjoyed reading your post. I was giggling a lot. Sounds like a worthy & expensive gazingus pin! Good luck.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: Serendip on January 19, 2018, 10:03:03 AM
@Rosy - just really wanted to say that I enjoyed reading your post. I was giggling a lot. Sounds like a worthy & expensive gazingus pin! Good luck.

I agree--really enjoyed reading that Rosy.
We all understand the strange feeling that seems to override every other bit of logic when our particular 'precious' is in our grasp. :)

Good job! And I think you are onto something..you will look forward to your new golden beauty and appreciate all the sparklies you have so much more if you aren't worried about the next accumulation.
Thanks for sharing!
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: CheapskateWife on January 19, 2018, 10:28:12 AM
Avoided some adorable fashion and accessories last night...a lovely lace bralette that I just don't need was passed over with only an adoring glance.   Sadly, I know that my girls would never be contained by such frivolity, but it is nice to day dream.  Buttery soft navy blue and magnolia leggings with a denim tunic...sigh.  And then I wandered away from the shiny pretties, muttering under my breath "no gazingus pins" and made haste to the item I really needed, TEA...bahahahahaha

No really, its for my new singing gig, got to protect the pipes.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: HappierAtHome on January 19, 2018, 11:00:57 AM
Just checking in to say I'm still going strong.

Really appreciating this thread. Making a public commitment to buy NO gazingus pins has helped me in ways I did not expect - it is oddly soothing to know I won't be browsing certain online shops, won't be agonising over potential purchases, won't be wondering afterwards if they will be worth it. Thanks Lifejoy!
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: lifejoy on January 20, 2018, 05:26:09 AM
So... it looks like my husband will be using my exception and buying fabric.

We are redoing our living room, and the design presented includes $700 of pillows.  I can make 8 pillows for about $50-100, even with expensive home dec fabric.  I will first go through my stash of quilting cottons and see if I can do anything with what I have, including dyeing some; so I'm going to avoid buying.  But there is NO WAY I will buy a pillow. Especially not for $80 (I used to balk at $25 pillows...)

Gotta ask... could you live without pillows for 11.5 months? Any worries that this could be the first exception of many...?

Though I will admit that I did suggest to my husband that he could buy me a silk top I found for $15! He knows I’m in this challenge and didn’t fall for it ;)
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: alleykat on January 20, 2018, 06:14:33 AM
Still staying pretty strong.  Only one beauty item purchased so far.  The brutal weather made that a need.  Awesome.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: I'm a red panda on January 20, 2018, 06:56:10 AM
So... it looks like my husband will be using my exception and buying fabric.

We are redoing our living room, and the design presented includes $700 of pillows.  I can make 8 pillows for about $50-100, even with expensive home dec fabric.  I will first go through my stash of quilting cottons and see if I can do anything with what I have, including dyeing some; so I'm going to avoid buying.  But there is NO WAY I will buy a pillow. Especially not for $80 (I used to balk at $25 pillows...)

Gotta ask... could you live without pillows for 11.5 months? Any worries that this could be the first exception of many..

I could, I'm not really a fan of them on couches, but redecorating our living room is husbands #1 priority this year. If I don't make them, he will buy them.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: Duchess on January 20, 2018, 10:14:55 AM
Wow. It seems likes everyone is doing well. Iím still going strong and have avoided buying any snacks while out and about on my own.

There have been some occasions where weíve visited a cafť for drinks and a cake as a family. These were unplanned purchases but the rest of my family hasnít signed up for this challenge and it doesnít seem fair to impose my rules on them. Sometimes we end up popping into a cafť to escape the rain and thaw out after doing fairly frugal and outdoorsy activities. Acquiring a thermos flask might help us have hot drinks on the go once the weather improves.

This challenge has really helped me to become more aware of the thoughts and emotions triggered in certain shopping-related circumstances. Consequently, I need to own up to another gazingus pin: Clothes for my daughter.

She gets so many hand-me-downs from her older cousin that we really donít need to buy her much at all. But I find it hard to resist a bargain especially when itís from one of the organic brands much beloved by some parents in our area. This is TOTALLY about impression management. I can deal with the idea of people judging me negatively based on my attire but I would hate for them to do the same to my daughter. Logically, I know that this really shouldnít matter but emotionally, thatís a different matter.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: Inkedup on January 20, 2018, 10:52:16 AM
Hi Everyone!

Confession time: I bought tea for a family member who recently ran out of her regular brew of choice, and succumbed to the temptation to add something for myself to the order as well. Sigh.

Not going to waste anyone's time by rationalizing the purchase on here, though it was not a mindless one. Also, if I hadn't decided to participate in this thread I would likely have bought more. A LOT more. And it would have been the varietals that expire sooner.

I have no intention of slinking off into the shadows and quitting altogether. But I wanted to come clean. This stuff is hard, and I admire you all for sticking to your guns. Onward and upward...
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: lifejoy on January 20, 2018, 11:19:45 AM
So... it looks like my husband will be using my exception and buying fabric.

We are redoing our living room, and the design presented includes $700 of pillows.  I can make 8 pillows for about $50-100, even with expensive home dec fabric.  I will first go through my stash of quilting cottons and see if I can do anything with what I have, including dyeing some; so I'm going to avoid buying.  But there is NO WAY I will buy a pillow. Especially not for $80 (I used to balk at $25 pillows...)

Gotta ask... could you live without pillows for 11.5 months? Any worries that this could be the first exception of many..

I could, I'm not really a fan of them on couches, but redecorating our living room is husbands #1 priority this year. If I don't make them, he will buy them.

Ah gotcha. Not sure if it would work for you guys but we found some throw pillows at a thrift shop, 3 for $7. The colours and the cleanliness worked for us :)
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: lifejoy on January 20, 2018, 11:23:31 AM
Wow. It seems likes everyone is doing well. I’m still going strong and have avoided buying any snacks while out and about on my own.

There have been some occasions where we’ve visited a café for drinks and a cake as a family. These were unplanned purchases but the rest of my family hasn’t signed up for this challenge and it doesn’t seem fair to impose my rules on them. Sometimes we end up popping into a café to escape the rain and thaw out after doing fairly frugal and outdoorsy activities. Acquiring a thermos flask might help us have hot drinks on the go once the weather improves.

This challenge has really helped me to become more aware of the thoughts and emotions triggered in certain shopping-related circumstances. Consequently, I need to own up to another gazingus pin: Clothes for my daughter.

She gets gets so many hand-me-downs from her older cousin that we really don’t need to buy her much at all. But I find it hard to resist a bargain especially when it’s from one of the organic brands much beloved by some parents in our area. This is TOTALLY about impression management. I can deal with the idea of people judging me negatively based on my attire but I would hate for them to do the same to my daughter. Logically, I know that this really shouldn’t matter but emotionally, that’s a different matter.

Props to you for such great awareness! Do you want me to add DD clothing to your name on the first post?

I grew up in handmedowns and it instilled some good values in me :)
One being that it’s important to be presentable but more important to have a good personality and be kind and hardworking etc. I guess I’m saying, maybe you can hope that people will judge your daughter based upon who she is and not what she’s wearing. (I know we as a society judge by appearances but still.)

Anyways great job with the snacks etc! And the awareness and thought process just sounds really great.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: lifejoy on January 20, 2018, 11:24:48 AM
Hi Everyone!

Confession time: I bought tea for a family member who recently ran out of her regular brew of choice, and succumbed to the temptation to add something for myself to the order as well. Sigh.

Not going to waste anyone's time by rationalizing the purchase on here, though it was not a mindless one. Also, if I hadn't decided to participate in this thread I would likely have bought more. A LOT more. And it would have been the varietals that expire sooner.

I have no intention of slinking off into the shadows and quitting altogether. But I wanted to come clean. This stuff is hard, and I admire you all for sticking to your guns. Onward and upward...

You’re right - it is so hard to change ingrained habits! You’ve got guts to fess up and continue on :)
I believe in you.
Keep on keepin’ on. Make the decision to make this work and I bet you could do it. Only 11.5 months to go!
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: lifejoy on January 20, 2018, 11:30:38 AM
OK OK - here I am, joining the club - pass the tea, please:)

I've followed this challenge from the beginning and I've resisted joining in the fun (fun, ugh - highly debatable:). Resistance proved futile - I have some bada$$ goals for 2018 and unless I kick my jewelry habit - I love natural gemstones and whenever there is a new mine find or a favorite, like Sleeping Beauty Turquoise about to be mined out - I spend every extra penny on my sparkly obsession.

Looking over my 2017 expenditures showed me that I lied to myself all of 2017 - I am an out of control, raging jewelry/gemstone collector. Yes, I've successfully beat the collector's fever down to a smoldering fire - a few times in the last three years and yes, I did no real damage to my finances, yet.
However, the ugly truth is that if I want to meet my goals this year I need to step away from the fire.

A few days ago:
Oh lord, help me - it's gem week and I just discovered that my favorite designer is offering an event price on the matching earrings and ring to the necklace I already own.
This is my birthstone and my birthday is coming up and I really want to own the complete ensemble - well, everyone knows a complete set is more valuable to a collector .....
OMG, I can't stand to watch - this is the last cut (meaning he is out of that stone cut) - meaning this is a one and done, unless I order this now - it will be gone forever. I.WANT.IT.!!!

I came to this thread thirty times and shut off the TV for the afternoon - when I looked again, the set was sold out. So I didn't really totally resist temptation, I knew that if I held off for a few hours it would be gone forever - oh the agony!
Relief too - this was $700 I could ill afford to spend and I knew it, still, while I was in the grip of desire - imagining wearing my new complete set on my birthday - I was coming up with all sorts of spins to make it happen anyway - I mean I could ask for the ring for my birthday, ignoring that I already asked for a watch - I'm worth it, right?!

Full disclosure:
I did order a ring during gem week, before I saw the jewelry ensemble to match my necklace. My intention had been to allow myself one item, but only an item that I had been drooling over for a while and only if it was at a killer event price to boot.
So there is that - 99 bucks worth incl S&amp;H.

But - that was before I discovered the extent of my jewelry purchases in 2017 at another channel that I had managed to hide from my conscious inspection. So now I feel guilty, chagrined.
I am questioning my values and what I'm even doing on MMM - since obviously I may be bada$$ in some areas - but a total failure in the obsession with sparkly beauties department.

@lifejoy - I hope it is OK for me to hang out with you here. I do think jewelry repairs should be allowed, if we don't, we deprive ourselves of the joy of wearing our sparkling beauties.
I am holding off on having my mother's pearl necklace restrung because I don't wear it that often.
I will not have anything reworked or have a new piece designed around my Morganite stones collection like I hoped to do for my birthday either.

I'm really feeling the pinch of paying off the few sparklies incl a lovely Chrome Diopside necklace with awesome stone quality that I pounced on during the holiday sale. These were pieces to enhance my collection and I love and wear everyone one of them with great joy. The trouble is that I forgot how much of an impact even a $200 monthly payment can have on an already tight budget - there was much upheaval in my budget in 2017 and I'm still trying to adjust - not fun.

So since it is no longer in the budget and all my resources in 2018 will be poured into my two goals of $50K savings and filling up my travel fund in time for my Europe trip later this year - there will be no more Gazingus pins for me in 2018.

Oh and lifejoy, I am glad that I was never into diamonds, although I admire the Art Deco pieces, they never were in my price range:) Although I do own a couple, including one ring I bought in Amsterdam at the Diamond Exchange a long time ago, small, but exquisite.
I'm a sucker for gold though and one day I will buy that one particular style gold necklace I've always wanted, maybe for my 70th birthday. Yes, I think I'd like that.
In fact, as I write this I've come to a decision - that necklace will be the last thing I'll ever buy. I love jewelry and always pick up something on every trip I take, but I am well aware that the time has come to say enough is enough and in a sense, I am good with that.
So I will end it all in style with a fine gold necklace.

Whew - funny how these things happen sometimes - it will be so much easier to quit cold turkey now.
So now I am thinking - - yup, nothing at all is just fine with me.
Just think, I'll save a bunch of money now and in the future. I'll be able to meet both my goals a lot easier and I have that last fine gold necklace to look forward to.

Welcome, Rosy!! You’re a girl after my own heart :)

Something that has helped me buy less jewellery is to take photos and itemize and appreciate everything I already own. I’ve stopped shopping for jewellery but I haven’t unsubscribed to emails or bling Instagram accounts. That’ll be step two :)

You might check out the Smart Closet or Stylebook apps. I’m using stylebook (because I didn’t know about the free alternative, Smart Closet) and its REALLY helping me. You take pics and you can see cost per wear and everything!

I’m doing well and a book that I keep thinking of is The Power of Habit. (Your library will probably have it! I https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/12609433-the-power-of-habit) I am making a new habit.(https://uploads.tapatalk-cdn.com/20180120/fd05e2bed3ef44d3684f82d6d0746b37.jpg)(https://uploads.tapatalk-cdn.com/20180120/9f8bd1f226725284c7a160d539522814.jpg)(https://uploads.tapatalk-cdn.com/20180120/fcf15bd95789daf39d48659de73df574.jpg)
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: Duchess on January 20, 2018, 11:53:15 AM
Props to you for such great awareness! Do you want me to add DD clothing to your name on the first post?
Thank you 😊 Yes, please add DD clothing to the list.

@lifejoy I notice in your stylebook screen that you have zero items on your wish list. Thatís got to be a good thing!
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: lifejoy on January 20, 2018, 12:07:59 PM
Avoided some adorable fashion and accessories last night...a lovely lace bralette that I just don't need was passed over with only an adoring glance.   Sadly, I know that my girls would never be contained by such frivolity, but it is nice to day dream.  Buttery soft navy blue and magnolia leggings with a denim tunic...sigh.  And then I wandered away from the shiny pretties, muttering under my breath "no gazingus pins" and made haste to the item I really needed, TEA...bahahahahaha

No really, its for my new singing gig, got to protect the pipes.

Way to go!!!! Practice that resistance muscle!
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: lifejoy on January 20, 2018, 12:10:59 PM
Totally late, but I'm definitely joining this. I have a few smaller gazingus pins that are mostly under control, but my biggest gazingus pin is and always has been books. Being surrounded by books is intensely comforting to me for a whole variety of reasons. While that's not necessarily bad, the fact that I buy books and then don't READ them is. Books are great, but my relationship with them is off, and to me it feels disrespectful to a book to buy it and then never interact with it again.

Therefore, I have a moratorium on buying new books; the only exception is a book for the book club I run IF I can't find it at any of the libraries I have access to, or on a friend's shelf. Audible subscrip is cancelled, my comic pull list is set to run out at the ends of the current runs (may take a bit but we'll see), and I have given myself a firm GLARE about buying rarer medieval texts at the specialty bookshop. Gift books are okay (they're the guaranteed thing I receive on any gift-giving occasion). I'm not sure what my line is yet on free books (e.g. free piles or Little Library books). I'm leaning towards no on the freebies, but I'm not sure yet.

Congrats to everyone who is successfully resisting their gazingus pins! Woooo!

Welcome! I hear ya on buying books and not reading them. It wasn’t until I switched to 99% library books and I had 3-9 weeks (depending on renewals) to read them... that I started really, swiftly, reading them. It’s pretty great!!

You got this. :)

For comic books, my library has the hoopla app and it allowed me to read the Saga comic (including the latest one in the day of its release! Awesome!). Maybe your library has something like that?
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: lifejoy on January 20, 2018, 12:13:15 PM
Just checking in to say I'm still going strong.

Really appreciating this thread. Making a public commitment to buy NO gazingus pins has helped me in ways I did not expect - it is oddly soothing to know I won't be browsing certain online shops, won't be agonising over potential purchases, won't be wondering afterwards if they will be worth it. Thanks Lifejoy!

I feel the same way. Telling myself something is not an option has kind of mentally taken it off the table for me.

Also I am somewhat housebound with a baby, so that helps me avoid the malls! ;)
But online shopping was always my bigger challenge anyways. I am avoiding online shopping by reading blogs and watching videos and posting on the MMM forum, instead.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: MaybeBabyMustache on January 20, 2018, 02:20:06 PM
And, my gazingus pin - not buying discounted gift cards unless I have an actual planned expense that will use them up. I sometimes get caught up in the "bargain"

Staying strong. Have not bought any gift cards, and have been slowly using up a couple that we have.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: Inkedup on January 20, 2018, 02:56:54 PM
Hi Everyone!

Confession time: I bought tea for a family member who recently ran out of her regular brew of choice, and succumbed to the temptation to add something for myself to the order as well. Sigh.

Not going to waste anyone's time by rationalizing the purchase on here, though it was not a mindless one. Also, if I hadn't decided to participate in this thread I would likely have bought more. A LOT more. And it would have been the varietals that expire sooner.

I have no intention of slinking off into the shadows and quitting altogether. But I wanted to come clean. This stuff is hard, and I admire you all for sticking to your guns. Onward and upward...

Youíre right - it is so hard to change ingrained habits! Youíve got guts to fess up and continue on :)
I believe in you.
Keep on keepiní on. Make the decision to make this work and I bet you could do it. Only 11.5 months to go!

Thanks, lifejoy! :D
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: lifejoy on January 20, 2018, 04:13:35 PM
And, my gazingus pin - not buying discounted gift cards unless I have an actual planned expense that will use them up. I sometimes get caught up in the "bargain"

Staying strong. Have not bought any gift cards, and have been slowly using up a couple that we have.

Woo woo!! Nailing it!
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: diapasoun on January 20, 2018, 04:37:49 PM
Welcome! I hear ya on buying books and not reading them. It wasnít until I switched to 99% library books and I had 3-9 weeks (depending on renewals) to read them... that I started really, swiftly, reading them. Itís pretty great!!

You got this. :)

For comic books, my library has the hoopla app and it allowed me to read the Saga comic (including the latest one in the day of its release! Awesome!). Maybe your library has something like that?

It's both hard and easy -- most of the time it's not too rough, but I have some very weird, niche interests, and so when I'm in some old used bookstore and a book hits that interest perfectly... it can be hard. One of the things I need to do is just not go into the bookstores that have my biggest problem books.

My library has an okay comic collection, not great. It does look like we have Hoopla, though; I need to look. I have CloudLibrary, may as well add Hoopla in...!
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: lifejoy on January 20, 2018, 09:10:07 PM
Welcome! I hear ya on buying books and not reading them. It wasn’t until I switched to 99% library books and I had 3-9 weeks (depending on renewals) to read them... that I started really, swiftly, reading them. It’s pretty great!!

You got this. :)

For comic books, my library has the hoopla app and it allowed me to read the Saga comic (including the latest one in the day of its release! Awesome!). Maybe your library has something like that?

It's both hard and easy -- most of the time it's not too rough, but I have some very weird, niche interests, and so when I'm in some old used bookstore and a book hits that interest perfectly... it can be hard. One of the things I need to do is just not go into the bookstores that have my biggest problem books.

My library has an okay comic collection, not great. It does look like we have Hoopla, though; I need to look. I have CloudLibrary, may as well add Hoopla in...!

I am HUGE into the “Saga” graphic novel series and Hoopla has it. Super easy to read on phone, tablet, or computer!

Yes learning to stop shopping for our gazingus pins seems to be vital.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: diapasoun on January 21, 2018, 09:27:07 AM
I am HUGE into the ďSagaĒ graphic novel series and Hoopla has it. Super easy to read on phone, tablet, or computer!

Yes learning to stop shopping for our gazingus pins seems to be vital.

Saga is amazing, and one of the things that got me back into comics after years off.

Yeah, learning to avoid certain triggery places is so helpful. I'm glad mine are physical - easier to avoid than websites. I feel for everyone who has an online trigger!
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: lifejoy on January 21, 2018, 09:49:58 AM
I am HUGE into the “Saga” graphic novel series and Hoopla has it. Super easy to read on phone, tablet, or computer!

Yes learning to stop shopping for our gazingus pins seems to be vital.

Saga is amazing, and one of the things that got me back into comics after years off.

Yeah, learning to avoid certain triggery places is so helpful. I'm glad mine are physical - easier to avoid than websites. I feel for everyone who has an online trigger!

Sometimes I dream of camping with no wifi...
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: DTaggart on January 21, 2018, 10:48:23 AM
Checking in... so far I'm still on the wagon! The Buy Nothing Group shoes I was hoping to get didn't happen, the person flaked out, which is fine. I had already mentally selected a pair of older, uncomfortable trail shoes in my closet that I would have put in the donation bag, so I feel good about exercising the one-in one-out mentality.

Hubby seems pretty convinced his trekking poles are in good shape and don't need replacement, but he also emailed the company to see if what they say or if they can repair them.

I ran several times last week, and had a good hike yesterday, all with my existing gear. Buying shit doesn't make me outdoorsy, going outside makes me outdoorsy :)

Sometimes I dream of camping with no wifi...

Oooh! Do you need help shopping for a tent??? (KIDDING)
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: chaskavitch on January 21, 2018, 11:01:01 AM
I'm doing well this week, I think.  I haven't bought any clothes, and I have avoided buying extra snacks except for two granola bars (Kind savory bars) to bring to work.  Right now I only have sweet things to snack on, and that just spirals down into eating tortillas with melted chocolate chips and peanut butter when DH isn't looking (for real - it's ridiculous and terrible and I can't stop myself, which is yet another problem).

My clothes swap has been moved from the beginning of Feb to the beginning of March, which I'm taking as a good thing - more time to go through my clothes and resign myself to getting rid of more!  I still haven't chosen a shirt to get rid of in response to buying that Costco shirt, which is just sad. 

DH has a standing video game engagement on Monday nights - I think I'm going to try to go through my dresser once a week and get rid of at least one thing, as well as consider carefully what I'm keeping.  I have a bunch of shirts that I have either never worn or wear very seldom, but I keep them "just in case" - for that one perfect situation, or to try with that other pair of pants that isn't quite comfortable yet, so I still haven't worn it.  I have a shirt that I got (for free, at least) that gaps at the front buttons, and I rationalized it with "once I'm done breastfeeding this will totally fit!"  I think that's the one that's going to go first.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: I'm a red panda on January 21, 2018, 11:10:26 AM
I am so excited for spring. 2 years ago we upgraded our tent for an epic cross continent camping trip, then DH got hit by a car and we couldn't go.  Last year, we had the baby. But THIS year we are going to use our mammoth tent!
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: lifejoy on January 21, 2018, 11:13:58 AM
Checking in... so far I'm still on the wagon! The Buy Nothing Group shoes I was hoping to get didn't happen, the person flaked out, which is fine. I had already mentally selected a pair of older, uncomfortable trail shoes in my closet that I would have put in the donation bag, so I feel good about exercising the one-in one-out mentality.

Hubby seems pretty convinced his trekking poles are in good shape and don't need replacement, but he also emailed the company to see if what they say or if they can repair them.

I ran several times last week, and had a good hike yesterday, all with my existing gear. Buying shit doesn't make me outdoorsy, going outside makes me outdoorsy :)

Sometimes I dream of camping with no wifi...

Oooh! Do you need help shopping for a tent??? (KIDDING)

Hahaha good one!!! ;)

Also smart on you guys for emailing the company. And I really like: “Buying shit doesn't make me outdoorsy, going outside makes me outdoorsy :)”

I think that sentence can be adopted for all aspirational buying!
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: MaybeBabyMustache on January 21, 2018, 11:34:18 AM
I'm doing well this week, I think.  I haven't bought any clothes, and I have avoided buying extra snacks except for two granola bars (Kind savory bars) to bring to work.  Right now I only have sweet things to snack on, and that just spirals down into eating tortillas with melted chocolate chips and peanut butter when DH isn't looking (for real - it's ridiculous and terrible and I can't stop myself, which is yet another problem).

My clothes swap has been moved from the beginning of Feb to the beginning of March, which I'm taking as a good thing - more time to go through my clothes and resign myself to getting rid of more!  I still haven't chosen a shirt to get rid of in response to buying that Costco shirt, which is just sad. 

DH has a standing video game engagement on Monday nights - I think I'm going to try to go through my dresser once a week and get rid of at least one thing, as well as consider carefully what I'm keeping.  I have a bunch of shirts that I have either never worn or wear very seldom, but I keep them "just in case" - for that one perfect situation, or to try with that other pair of pants that isn't quite comfortable yet, so I still haven't worn it.  I have a shirt that I got (for free, at least) that gaps at the front buttons, and I rationalized it with "once I'm done breastfeeding this will totally fit!"  I think that's the one that's going to go first.

Here's one idea that works well for me. If my clothes are super well organized, I'm much more inclined to a) see everything and b) know what I'm wearing/not wearing or c) wear everything.

Here are a few tips I use:
-I roll all of my tank tops & then line them up by color in drawers. (I'm in California, so layer a lot of thin cardigans with colored tank tops for work). The rolling gives you a TON of space, and you can easily see everything at one glance. Seeing how many lovely colors I have is really helpful & prevents me wanting to buy more
-Work out clothes. Same thing - I group into categories (running pants for warmer weather, cooler weather, and just around the house pants). I fold the pants, but they are all in convenient stacks, so I don't need to see everything. Once I grouped them by usage, it became clear that I had too many of one type. (Will sell the nicer pair on eBay). For my workout tanks, I arrange by sports bras (just stacked on each other), rolled dry fit tshirts, and work out tanks. I can easily see everything I have, and things go through quite a rotation

I could go on, but the organization is key for me in seeing what I'm using, using what I have, and discovering when I have too much of any one thing.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: lifejoy on January 21, 2018, 12:03:49 PM
@chaskavitch:

Things I’ve done to prep for clothing swaps is to reverse the direction of all my hangers and then turn them the other way once I’ve worn that item. Over time it because obvious which items you’ve never grabbed for.

Also I keep a bag in my closet for potential clothing swap items. I feel it on an ongoing basis. If I never dig an item out, then I know I won’t miss it if I give it up!

Good luck :)

This website helped me narrow down what kind of items I should keep: https://anuschkarees.com/
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: Laura33 on January 21, 2018, 01:03:46 PM
Success today: ran to the mall for something I needed, and lo and behold, there was a brand new tea shop across the walkway.  I stopped and saw all the lovely canisters, and then turned and walked away. 

But I am reminded why I donít go to the mall!  Itís funny, the last few weeks I have had unexpected free time as DD is now driving and taking care of stuff, and I am realizing that I have spent more money than before, because I am using my free time to take care of annoying errands that involve the mall or a shopping center (which I normally avoid like the plague), and then I see other things that seem like a good idea, and before I know it, Iíve bought crap I donít actually need.  Just this AM I talked myself out of picking up a new pair of gym shoes ďwhile I was outĒ ó I knew I was going to be next to the store, and I had a coupon and member ďbucks,Ē so I thought, well, might as well get that taken care of so I donít have to make another trip when the shoes give out.  And then I made myself inspect my shoes, and yes, they are over a year old, but they are just fine, so I put the coupon down and stepped away.

So clearly the lesson for me is to stick with habits that keep me away from temptation.  Because willpower goes only so far.  Luckily, this morning it took me right past that pretty new tea shop and out to my car.  ;-). And Iíve finished off a second bag of tea, too.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: chaskavitch on January 21, 2018, 01:04:37 PM
@chaskavitch:

Things Iíve done to prep for clothing swaps is to reverse the direction of all my hangers and then turn them the other way once Iíve worn that item. Over time it because obvious which items youíve never grabbed for.

Also I keep a bag in my closet for potential clothing swap items. I feel it on an ongoing basis. If I never dig an item out, then I know I wonít miss it if I give it up!

Good luck :)

This website helped me narrow down what kind of items I should keep: https://anuschkarees.com/

I've tried the reverse hanger thing before, but I always convince myself that I have a good reason for keeping things :)  I should probably try again.

That's an interesting website!  I vacillate a lot about what my "style" is, or what colors I enjoy.  I should really think about it so I end up with a cohesive wardrobe, instead of random outfits that don't intermingle.

ETA: Now I'm just going through pinterest looking for pretty lace tops /sigh
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: diapasoun on January 21, 2018, 02:57:47 PM
I've tried the reverse hanger thing before, but I always convince myself that I have a good reason for keeping things :)  I should probably try again.

I don't know if this would work for you, but two things I've done:

1. When I do the reverse hanger trick, I give myself a full year to turn the hangers back around. If I haven't worn it in over a year, it GOES (unless it's something I'm only gonna wear to a wedding) -- work clothes, workout clothes, etc, it goes. Because I know it GOES, this means I purposefully put items into rotation, and wear them when I might not otherwise. And when I keep staring at something and still don't want to wear it, even if I know it has to go after a year, it usually means I should probably get rid of it before the year is up.

2. I am not allowed to acquire more clothing storage space. No more hangers than I have. No more drawer or shelf space than I have. If something new doesn't fit in that space, something old has to get tossed. This absolutely works well for me in getting rid of things I don't wear, and has prevented me from buying stuff before too ('This is a hanger top and not cooler than anything else I have!').

Clothing's not my gazingus pin, so not sure if this would work for you. I'm kind of using the second method for my books right now -- if there's no shelf space, there's no space for new books (which is... very true right now, and helping me in not buying new stuff).
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: chaskavitch on January 21, 2018, 03:51:49 PM
I've tried the reverse hanger thing before, but I always convince myself that I have a good reason for keeping things :)  I should probably try again.

I don't know if this would work for you, but two things I've done:

1. When I do the reverse hanger trick, I give myself a full year to turn the hangers back around. If I haven't worn it in over a year, it GOES (unless it's something I'm only gonna wear to a wedding) -- work clothes, workout clothes, etc, it goes. Because I know it GOES, this means I purposefully put items into rotation, and wear them when I might not otherwise. And when I keep staring at something and still don't want to wear it, even if I know it has to go after a year, it usually means I should probably get rid of it before the year is up.

2. I am not allowed to acquire more clothing storage space. No more hangers than I have. No more drawer or shelf space than I have. If something new doesn't fit in that space, something old has to get tossed. This absolutely works well for me in getting rid of things I don't wear, and has prevented me from buying stuff before too ('This is a hanger top and not cooler than anything else I have!').

Clothing's not my gazingus pin, so not sure if this would work for you. I'm kind of using the second method for my books right now -- if there's no shelf space, there's no space for new books (which is... very true right now, and helping me in not buying new stuff).

So, another problem with this method right now (and yet another justification) is that I'm in the middle of kids.  I got pregnant in summer 2015; spent half of 2016 pregnant; and spent last year convincing myself I was going to be consistent working out, eating right, lose weight, and fit in the clothes I've been saving for years for "when I'm thinner again".  We're considering trying to have another kid this year, so everything will hopefully be in flux for a while longer.

On the other hand, there are clothes that I definitely already look at and think "I should really try that shirt again", and pass them over because I just don't like them that much,  due to comfort/color/style.  Those clothes, at least, should definitely go.

I also like the idea of not adding things I don't have space for.  I've already been pregnant, and theoretically shouldn't need to buy even more maternity clothes this time around. 
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: Harper on January 21, 2018, 07:49:12 PM
Great job everyone!

I haven't bought any new workout videos -- at least in 2018. I did pick up 8 videos for $8 at Dollar Tree at the end of December but no more.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: lifejoy on January 22, 2018, 01:09:20 AM
I've tried the reverse hanger thing before, but I always convince myself that I have a good reason for keeping things :)  I should probably try again.

I don't know if this would work for you, but two things I've done:

1. When I do the reverse hanger trick, I give myself a full year to turn the hangers back around. If I haven't worn it in over a year, it GOES (unless it's something I'm only gonna wear to a wedding) -- work clothes, workout clothes, etc, it goes. Because I know it GOES, this means I purposefully put items into rotation, and wear them when I might not otherwise. And when I keep staring at something and still don't want to wear it, even if I know it has to go after a year, it usually means I should probably get rid of it before the year is up.

2. I am not allowed to acquire more clothing storage space. No more hangers than I have. No more drawer or shelf space than I have. If something new doesn't fit in that space, something old has to get tossed. This absolutely works well for me in getting rid of things I don't wear, and has prevented me from buying stuff before too ('This is a hanger top and not cooler than anything else I have!').

Clothing's not my gazingus pin, so not sure if this would work for you. I'm kind of using the second method for my books right now -- if there's no shelf space, there's no space for new books (which is... very true right now, and helping me in not buying new stuff).

So, another problem with this method right now (and yet another justification) is that I'm in the middle of kids.  I got pregnant in summer 2015; spent half of 2016 pregnant; and spent last year convincing myself I was going to be consistent working out, eating right, lose weight, and fit in the clothes I've been saving for years for "when I'm thinner again".  We're considering trying to have another kid this year, so everything will hopefully be in flux for a while longer.

On the other hand, there are clothes that I definitely already look at and think "I should really try that shirt again", and pass them over because I just don't like them that much,  due to comfort/color/style.  Those clothes, at least, should definitely go.

I also like the idea of not adding things I don't have space for.  I've already been pregnant, and theoretically shouldn't need to buy even more maternity clothes this time around.

Clothes that don’t fit right now:
Would you buy it brand new today? No? Why?

Keep the stuff that you’d buy new in the right size. But if the style gives you pause, that should tell you something!

Pack up the clothes that don’t fit now. For me, my pre-pregnancy clothes got packed away. And now my maternity clothes are packed away, too. I’ve got out my pre-pregnancy clothes that fit, and my nursing clothes. It helps me focus on the clothes that work now instead of being overwhelmed by a whole bunch of sizes.

Download the free app “Smart Closet”. If there’s an article of clothing you don’t want to add, pay attention to that feeling! It’s probably something you don’t really like.

Hope that helps :)

Another thing you can do is to move all your “maybe” clothes (that do fit) instal a spare closet. If you never reach for them... you know you’ll never miss them!
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: lifejoy on January 22, 2018, 01:10:24 AM
Great job everyone!

I haven't bought any new workout videos -- at least in 2018. I did pick up 8 videos for $8 at Dollar Tree at the end of December but no more.

Woo woo! That’s really excellent of you!!
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: lifejoy on January 22, 2018, 01:35:33 AM
PS good questions for looking through clothing:

Does this fit me?
Is this age-appropriate?
Is this my true style?
Do I love this?
Do I wear this?
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: chaskavitch on January 22, 2018, 06:23:05 AM
PS good questions for looking through clothing:

Does this fit me?
Is this age-appropriate?
Is this my true style?
Do I love this?
Do I wear this?

Those are nice simple questions that seem like they should be easy to answer if I go with my gut reaction.  We'll see how tonight goes.  I did make some lists yesterday after reading through a few posts on the website you recommended, and I realized I never wear brown.  Ever.  I think of myself as having sort of an earthy palate usually, lots of greens and burgundys, burnt orange, etc., but I have exactly one brown camisole and one other shirt (that I rarely wear) with brown accents.  It's weird that I never noticed that before.   
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: lifejoy on January 22, 2018, 06:28:31 AM
PS good questions for looking through clothing:

Does this fit me?
Is this age-appropriate?
Is this my true style?
Do I love this?
Do I wear this?

Those are nice simple questions that seem like they should be easy to answer if I go with my gut reaction.  We'll see how tonight goes.  I did make some lists yesterday after reading through a few posts on the website you recommended, and I realized I never wear brown.  Ever.  I think of myself as having sort of an earthy palate usually, lots of greens and burgundys, burnt orange, etc., but I have exactly one brown camisole and one other shirt (that I rarely wear) with brown accents.  It's weird that I never noticed that before.

Sounds like you’re off to a great start! And you’ll be getting new-to-you stuff at your upcoming swap. It’ll feel good to contribute the stuff you don’t wear and don’t love :)
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: Rosy on January 22, 2018, 07:57:13 AM
So far so good - presently, I am not tempted to add to my jewelry collection at all.

My last jewelry payment is in May - some of it will drop off in Jan and then March. So to make this challenge more real and effective, I will take exactly half of each of those payments and send them to my Holiday Club savings account @2% APR instead.
So come Feb 1, I'll see my first small $ win. It will be only $22 (pmt was 43.88) but hey, I'll take it.

lifejoy, you are right - it certainly helps to take inventory of what you already own. I did that last year and was shocked when I found a couple of near-duplicates - what a waste of money. For shame!

My downfall has been the jewelry channels on TV, I discovered them at a time when I was sick and depressed ... I stopped buying for awhile when the monthly pmts got out of hand - WTH? I knew I was in trouble then:)
This is year four and ugh, I find that I'm still not quite where I would like to be, although there has been a measurable improvement.

Last year I organized my jewelry by gemstone which really made me happy:). I ordered jewelry boxes with a glass top lid so I can see at a glance what I already have.
That gave me great satisfaction, definitely saved me some money, because I could take a time out from TV and quickly look in my jewelry box. It stopped me from buying more.
Of course, it also led to a list of - I need earrings to go with that....

Taking inventory, taking pictures and having all jewelry invoices in one place went a long way towards reigning in the spontaneous spend. I realized there was significant appreciation of a couple solitaire stones I purchased years ago. Sweet!
So there is that.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: lifejoy on January 22, 2018, 11:18:31 AM
Rosy, I think you and I are making a smart move by calming it down on the jewellery! I own stuff I’ve never even worn...
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: lifejoy on January 22, 2018, 10:00:19 PM
I just wanna say... my stylebook app is keeping a running total of how much money I’ve spent on clothing and jewellery. Yikes. It reminds me of the first step in YMOYL where you add up how much money you’ve ever earned and then you go WOAH.

Well I’ve been slowly adding to my digital closet and WOAH. Maybe when I’m done I’ll reveal the total $ but for now I’ll just use it as a VERY effective way to not give in!
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: lifejoy on January 23, 2018, 08:05:44 AM
My thought for this morning:

"Do not spoil what you have by desiring what you have not; remember that what you now have was once among the things you only hoped for." - Epicurus(https://uploads.tapatalk-cdn.com/20180123/9cabcb7175c411af259ad0668b42b1b8.jpg)
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: lifejoy on January 23, 2018, 11:24:43 AM
Also this one:

Socrates — 'He who is not contented with what he has, would not be contented with what he would like to have.'(https://uploads.tapatalk-cdn.com/20180123/0e6362123127d44624a8eb130bf3b34e.jpg)
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: HappierAtHome on January 23, 2018, 03:35:05 PM
My thought for this morning:

"Do not spoil what you have by desiring what you have not; remember that what you now have was once among the things you only hoped for." - Epicurus(https://uploads.tapatalk-cdn.com/20180123/9cabcb7175c411af259ad0668b42b1b8.jpg)

Love this one!!
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: Rosy on January 24, 2018, 09:03:21 AM
Rosy, I think you and I are making a smart move by calming it down on the jewellery! I own stuff Iíve never even worn...

Lifejoy - I confess there are three items in my jewelry box at present that I have not yet worn - although I will say in my defense that two of them are "going out" pieces not suited for daily wear.
The third - well, is one of the reasons I am toning it down.

In my e-mail this morning:
Rosy, we've got a markdown with your name on it .....

Sure I let myself be pulled into the rabbit hole and looked ... and oh yeah, I was sooo tempted for about 5 minutes until, like you, I looked at last years credit card statement and I was once again - temporarily - cured.
Those statements, and yesterday I looked all the way back to 2013, are like throwing cold water on my feverish desire for more ...
Yes, I wanted those two items and had saved them, but hey, I am sticking to my plan - no more gemstones/jewelry for me in 2018.

I am hoping that together we will make it through this year. If I want to meet my goals I simply have to re-direct my money, that is all there is to it.
 
Something else I noticed, one of the last pieces I bought in December and another around June of last year - were "upgrades"!!!!
A dangerous development.
I already own most of the collection (95%) that I set out to accumulate - oh yeah, somewhere along the line this "collection" turned into a "goal" of owning certain gemstones/jewelry ensembles.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: diapasoun on January 24, 2018, 10:58:05 AM
Congrats on holding strong, Rosy.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: I'm a red panda on January 24, 2018, 11:09:56 AM
phweeew! The nail polish sale ended and I did not buy any :)

No fabric so far in January. And I've actually sewn a few times, so used some. 
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: Laura33 on January 24, 2018, 12:08:45 PM
@Rosy:  One of the things that I find helps me in the face of mindless temptation is to multiply whatever the amount is by 25, because that is how much more I would need to have in my 'stache to FIRE with the ability to buy stuff like that every year.  Because sure, I'm not going to buy the exact same thing again, but I have gotten used to a lifestyle where I get to blow $XX cash on that kind of stuff every year.  And that means that I have to acknowledge to myself that this isn't a one-time thing -- that I have let my lifestyle inflate to the point that dropping $XX/year on this stuff is my "normal."  Therefore, if I want to FIRE successfully, my two choices are to get used to living without $XX worth of new stuff every year (starting now!), or to make sure I save enough extra to continue to fund $XX every year.

And if you really want to be depressed, start with that (e.g., take your last year's jewelry spending and multiply by 25 to get the extra 'stache needed), and then compare that figure to how much $$ you are saving each year, in total.  How many more years will you need to work at that savings rate to cover the cost of your habit?  Is it worth that extra time?

I'm not going to blow smoke:  I will freely admit that sometimes my answer to that question has been "hell yes, this is worth it!"  But way more often, the answer is either "what the hell was I thinking, I don't need this!" or "you know, I like this and appreciate it, but maybe $X is enough to make me happy instead of $XX."   

On the tea front, another tin down. :-)  I have really been surprised to discover how many containers I had with only a pot or two of tea left -- just getting rid of those will free up a ton of room in the pantry.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: DTaggart on January 24, 2018, 12:46:03 PM
Everyone is doing awesome!

I had a moment of major temptation yesterday. I'm in several Facebook groups for discussing hiking/backpacking gear, and yesterday someone pointed out a MassDrop deal for 3-packs of Darn Tough merino wool hiking socks for about 1/3 off the normal price. I would have scrolled right on by, except that Darn Tough is an AWESOME brand who happens to have a lifetime guarantee - if you ever get a hole in one of their socks you can send them in and receive a replacement pair. I already own 1 pair and have had them replaced once, so I know they make good on the guarantee. My eventual goal is to someday have 4-5 pairs of Darn Tough socks each for both hubby and I, and then we'll never have to pay for hiking socks again!

So needless to say, the deal caught my eye. But then I clicked on it, and it turned out it was for the short ankle-height socks which neither of us like, so I was able to resist. I'm not sure I would have passed it up if they were a length and style I wanted.

I should probably unsubscribe from some of these gear groups, but even if I'm not planning on buying gear, I still want to learn about it and keep up on things, because eventually I'll have to replace some stuff. I think this issue will mostly resolve itself once I'm FIREd (ONE MORE WEEK YA'LL!!) and will not have nearly so much idle time to waste scrolling through FB. I'll give it a few weeks and revisit.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: Rosy on January 24, 2018, 02:00:43 PM
Clothing's not my gazingus pin, so not sure if this would work for you. I'm kind of using the second method for my books right now -- if there's no shelf space, there's no space for new books (which is... very true right now, and helping me in not buying new stuff).

Thanks for the encouragement on the jewelry temptations, diapasoun:)
About the books - I've adopted the one in and one out plan, the best and only thing that I ever did that helped me go from over seven large bookcases down to three medium-size ones.
I do love my books, although not to the point of a gazingus pin. Good books on Herbs - Aromatherapy - Herbal recipes or medicine are expensive and not easy to find. Over time I built a small collection on that and other subjects that interest me. I keep them, exchanging rarely for another, better book.

All the leisure reading-sci-fi, romance, top ten, thriller etc. is read and then immediately donated. I actually have a stack of books that I haven't read yet, doesn't happen often. We have a new 3-2-1 used bookstore and I picked up a stack of $1 and $3 books.
Unfortunately, our library is often sorely lacking in books about finance or anything else I find myself interested in - heck even jewelry making - there is practically nothing to choose from. Decorating books from the 60s? give me a break.

My next endeavor will entail reading the classics, hopefully, I can find a good source online and some at my library.

I'm with you that clothing is not my gazingus pin - I've planned my wardrobe on a yearly basis since I was ten - no joke:) It was born out of necessity and later it became a fun challenge.
I could probably do classes on how to go about it and come away with a great wardrobe suited to you and your lifestyle.

@Laura33 - Money is an emotional trigger for me - I am rarely rational about it. I totally get what you are saying, especially the time factor - for all intents and purposes I am out of time.
You are right, it does help to see the statements from the past four years and I have been looking at them obsessively. It is a clarifier and motivator.

Bottomline:
This is only the beginning of the year and I am frankly terrified that I can't make my goals happen because I can't control my spending habits when it comes to gemstones/jewelry. I will feel better once I see the final numbers for January - because that means I won the battle - one month down and 11 more months to go.

This is about as bada$$ as it gets, I left MMM creampuff territory because I am making one last push for two goals that are important to me. So I really hope this thread will continue to stay strong and supportive throughout all of 2018 - I need you guys!

@iowajess you wanna trade my gemstone/jewelry gazingus pin for your nailpolish addiction?:) It would totally solve my problem:)
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: diapasoun on January 24, 2018, 02:19:12 PM
My next endeavor will entail reading the classics, hopefully, I can find a good source online and some at my library.

If you're willing to read electronically (either on an ereader or on a computer screen), Project Gutenberg has pretty much ALL the classics, and they're completely free. PG's an open source site dedicated to getting out of print books into electronic format, and of course the popular ones got up there first. However, there's a really wide variety. One of my vices is medieval cookbooks, and they have a pretty sweet selection! So, if you're looking for more traditional classics, you've got a very good chance of finding them.

(Obviously, since of my vices is medieval cookbooks, I feel you on the specialty book life.)
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: lifejoy on January 24, 2018, 04:25:41 PM
Rosy, we can do it!!!

I’m starting to analyze my reasons for jewellery buying. A lot of it I seldom wear because I don’t like looking “showy”. But I love collecting it.

Iowajes - bravo! Way to exercise that resistance muscle!

Laura33 - good tip about multiplying by 25! There is also a free app (called “Pretirement”) and it does calculations to show you how far away you are from FIRE if you add or subtract certain purchases from your life.

DTaggart - woohoo! So close to FIRE! Let us know if that changes your ability to resist gazingus pins!

Rosy - does your library so interlibrary loans? Also, are you a university graduate who lives near a university? As an alumni you should be able to take out books from your alma matter and schools that have a partnership with it. +1 for Project Gutenberg! Classics you find for free (and copyright free!) http://www.gutenberg.org/

Also, you are SUPER BADASS! Good job on signing up for this and I know we can do it. Find a new hobby to replace the time you used to spend shopping for jewellery. Post here when you need support. We can do this!

Like yoda says... (I think)... “Do or do not. There is no ‘try’”.
Title: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: lifejoy on January 24, 2018, 07:23:32 PM
I’m listening to an audiobook about addiction. I enjoy buying clothes, but I am/was addicted to buying jewellery!

The author summarizes some interesting points about addiction vs passion.

http://www.mindfulhub.com/passion-vs-addiction/

“Passion is generous because it’s not ego-driven.  Addiction is self-centered.  Passion gives and enriches, addiction is a thief.” (From “In the Realm of Hungry Ghosts” by Gabor Maté).

Anyways I’ve read a lot about shopping addiction and the formation of habits, and this book takes a unique look at addiction in general (although it focuses on drug addiction). Thought you guys might find it interesting!

https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/617702.In_the_Realm_of_Hungry_Ghosts

(Oh, but for you book buyers make sure to get it from the library!)
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: Brother Esau on January 25, 2018, 05:48:42 AM
Almost 1 month into 2018 and I'm on track for the following:

1. Not buying any clothes this year. I have multiples of everything in case something rips or gets ruined somehow.
2. Zero spend on bike parts and maintenance. Again, have multiples of extra stuff (grips, tires/tubes, helmets, etc). Also, fortunate enough to possess a gift card from my local bike shop in case something major happens like blowing out a drivetrain or breaking a frame.

Good luck to all!
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: I'm a red panda on January 25, 2018, 06:59:47 AM
Just for honesty, I'll report that I bought 5 yards of fabric and 10 pillow forms.  This cost me $100 and replaces the $600 worth of pillows the designer put into our room.  I have enough invisible zippers for all but 2 of them, and those I'll just do envelope style backs.

I'm so excited about the new living room.  (And instead of the $500 table that is apparently made from MDF, my husband bought $125 of supplies and will be building our table. He makes great furniture.)

This should be the ONLY fabric purchase this year- and I'm really considering it a pillow purchase.  I just wanted to pass out at the thought of spending that much on premade pillows.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: Rosy on January 25, 2018, 07:31:55 AM
My next endeavor will entail reading the classics, hopefully, I can find a good source online and some at my library.

If you're willing to read electronically (either on an ereader or on a computer screen), Project Gutenberg has pretty much ALL the classics, and they're completely free. PG's an open source site dedicated to getting out of print books into electronic format, and of course the popular ones got up there first. However, there's a really wide variety. One of my vices is medieval cookbooks, and they have a pretty sweet selection! So, if you're looking for more traditional classics, you've got a very good chance of finding them.

(Obviously, since of my vices is medieval cookbooks, I feel you on the specialty book life.)

@diapasoun
Well, what do you know - I happen to have a thing for medieval cookbooks too:) Hard to come by that is for sure. One of the smaller castles I went to in Germany had an awesome collection and they would let you view the uber rare ones by special arrangement. Very cool.
I don't remember the name except that it was close to Heidelberg and it was actually famous for saving wild birds, like falcons and in particular, hawks. A sanctuary with falconry shows in a medieval tower on top of the hill, high above the river Neckar?.
They also had a collection of rare medieval - I'm not sure what to call it - seeds, plants and leaves - the real thing, preserved in books, with annotations and observations for growing and use. Some medicinal.
I've always wanted to go back there.

I owned a couple of reprints from the medieval cuisine around Frankfurt (they do reprints sometimes for celebrations) but they disappeared during one of my moves. Some of the recipes were too awful to contemplate to eat, much less cook. But it was fun to test a couple - tastes sure were different back then.

What do you find most interesting about medieval cookbooks?
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: Rosy on January 25, 2018, 07:41:49 AM
Thanks to lifejoy and diapasoun - I'll keep the Gutenberg in mind. I do read a lot on my phone, some on the computer too. I'd like to read Goethe's Faust in German and then in English and I've never read anything by Dickens..... so you see, it will take me a very long time to slog through all the classics.
If I had the money, I would have a library in my house no doubt about that. I make do with a nice study instead.

Oh and I forgot to post a win from yesterday - got an early cash birthday present and the question, "Would you like some jewelry for your birthday?".
DRUMROLL PLEASE ..... I said NO to more jewelry and put the cash in my bank account instead to keep me on track with my goals for the year!
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: Poundwise on January 25, 2018, 07:51:25 AM
They also had a collection of rare medieval - I'm not sure what to call it - seeds, plants and leaves - the real thing, preserved in books, with annotations and observations for growing and use. Some medicinal.
I've always wanted to go back there.

Herbarium?
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: Poundwise on January 25, 2018, 07:57:58 AM
Last night I was looking for soap recipes to use up the supplies I bought earlier this month, and found the most wonderful site (Soapqueen) showing the most beautiful products-- free instructions, and of course all the tools and supplies available for sale! Pre-challenge, I would have thrown $100 at the site, turned about $20 worth into gifts, and then the remaining $80 would sit around taking up my storage...

Yesterday I did buy a single ball of yarn so I could finish a pair of mittens that I started last year.  Unfortunately, it was the wrong yarn, so I will have to go back, return it, and ask the store to order the correct one (they were out of the right one but I couldn't quite remember what I needed).  Then, the old me would likely buy more yarn I didn't need, to reward them for all the trouble they've taken for me.   What do you do when you have a relationship with a worthy small business that you'd like to support?
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: Rosy on January 25, 2018, 08:10:21 AM
They also had a collection of rare medieval - I'm not sure what to call it - seeds, plants and leaves - the real thing, preserved in books, with annotations and observations for growing and use. Some medicinal.
I've always wanted to go back there.

Herbarium?

Herbarium - perhaps. It was rather obscure, "the books" were rather small (but thick), akin to our modern day book sizes. Made from a particular kind of wood to better preserve the plant materials, something that keeps critters and insects at bay. Most of them had spaces carved out inside. It also had thick paper pages with some pressed leaves, drawings and writings.

It was someone's lifework of botanical observations - a true treasure. There were extinct plants and plants imported from around the world. Fascinating.
Not at all like the illuminated, colorful, fancy large books/copies produced by the monks.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: diapasoun on January 25, 2018, 11:14:53 AM
What do you do when you have a relationship with a worthy small business that you'd like to support?

Unsurprisingly, I have this with my local bookshop. :) It helps to remember that I've already supported them a great deal monetarily -- it's okay for me to take a break from that. They don't live and die by my purchases alone, and if they did, it would be an indication that no matter how much I love them, that's not a business that can (or likely should) survive.

I do try to advertise for them as much as I can (word of mouth, on instagram, etc) and I do still go to events they put on.

They also had a collection of rare medieval - I'm not sure what to call it - seeds, plants and leaves - the real thing, preserved in books, with annotations and observations for growing and use. Some medicinal.
I've always wanted to go back there.

Herbarium?

Herbarium - perhaps. It was rather obscure, "the books" were rather small (but thick), akin to our modern day book sizes. Made from a particular kind of wood to better preserve the plant materials, something that keeps critters and insects at bay. Most of them had spaces carved out inside. It also had thick paper pages with some pressed leaves, drawings and writings.

It was someone's lifework of botanical observations - a true treasure. There were extinct plants and plants imported from around the world. Fascinating.
Not at all like the illuminated, colorful, fancy large books/copies produced by the monks.

Those sound absolutely beautiful, oh my gosh. Scratch both the medieval itch and the naturalist itch.

I'm lucky in that actually owning a book like that generally doesn't interest me -- the upkeep is so intensive for truly old books and I don't have the archival skills. However, I would 100% take a trip that was centered around seeing old manuscripts. For my birthday one year the celebration was "go to the travelling exhibition of the Magna Carta." That was AWESOME.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: Laura33 on January 25, 2018, 11:19:24 AM
Oh and I forgot to post a win from yesterday - got an early cash birthday present and the question, "Would you like some jewelry for your birthday?".
DRUMROLL PLEASE ..... I said NO to more jewelry and put the cash in my bank account instead to keep me on track with my goals for the year!

Yaaaaay Rosy!!!
Title: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: lifejoy on January 25, 2018, 11:23:11 AM
Thanks to lifejoy and diapasoun - I'll keep the Gutenberg in mind. I do read a lot on my phone, some on the computer too. I'd like to read Goethe's Faust in German and then in English and I've never read anything by Dickens..... so you see, it will take me a very long time to slog through all the classics.
If I had the money, I would have a library in my house no doubt about that. I make do with a nice study instead.

Oh and I forgot to post a win from yesterday - got an early cash birthday present and the question, "Would you like some jewelry for your birthday?".
DRUMROLL PLEASE ..... I said NO to more jewelry and put the cash in my bank account instead to keep me on track with my goals for the year!

Rock on, Rosy! Way to go!

My win: before we go to sleep my husband and I have started doing a new thing where we say three things that we are happy the other person did. It’s a great way to acknowledge acts of service (cleaning the kitchen!) or qualities we enjoy (that joke you told!). Last night my husband listed my jewellery ban as one of his three things he appreciated me doing.

My intense desire for new jewellery has been a point of contention for us at times, so his appreciation of my ban was some excellent reinforcement of my mission.
Title: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: lifejoy on January 25, 2018, 11:24:15 AM
Last night I was looking for soap recipes to use up the supplies I bought earlier this month, and found the most wonderful site (Soapqueen) showing the most beautiful products-- free instructions, and of course all the tools and supplies available for sale! Pre-challenge, I would have thrown $100 at the site, turned about $20 worth into gifts, and then the remaining $80 would sit around taking up my storage...

Yesterday I did buy a single ball of yarn so I could finish a pair of mittens that I started last year.  Unfortunately, it was the wrong yarn, so I will have to go back, return it, and ask the store to order the correct one (they were out of the right one but I couldn't quite remember what I needed).  Then, the old me would likely buy more yarn I didn't need, to reward them for all the trouble they've taken for me.   What do you do when you have a relationship with a worthy small business that you'd like to support?

Write positive reviews for them online

Facebook, Yelp, google. It can help small businesses immensely.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: alleykat on January 25, 2018, 11:28:01 AM
I will finish January with 1 skincare purchase and no makeup.  I have no interest in purchasing either going forward unless absolutely necessary.  As a matter of fact, the more shit happens at work, my resolve is getting stronger.  I am in good shape financially because of the market but I am more motivated to save my money than purchase more of this stuff that will just sit in my cabinets and eventually get tossed.  I want the option of leaving if I need to so instead I will try and focus on saving a few years worth of expenses.

Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: formerlydivorcedmom on January 25, 2018, 03:44:36 PM
You guys are so inspiring!  I can't commit to 0, but can I join anyway?

My gazingus pin is books. 

I read voraciously (and re-read regularly) and it's habit to go down the book aisle at the grocery store every week and add a book...or a handful of books ... to the cart.   That's on top of the Amazon purchases (like the other poster, I had to disable one-click).  I LOVE BOOKS.

I've been trying to cut down over the last few months.  I started separating out the book purchases from the grocery purchases for better transparency.  That was ... eye-opening.  I also decluttered my bookshelves and gave away a couple of hundred books (don't worry - we still have 5 bookshelves full of adult books). 

I realized I was buying books
1) to fill in my "collection" of certain authors (and romance authors can be PROLIFIC) ... some books I purchased more than once because I didn't remember I'd already bought it and read it)
2) to try new authors, many of whom I didn't like
3) because I thought I ought to read them ... but those just languished in a pile

I am not going to be able to adhere to 0 books purchased this year, but I want to make sure that I'm only buying the books I want to read over and over. 

I'm going to limit myself to buying 1 book per month this year [excluding books purchased with gift cards I am given].  I've already made this month's purchase.


Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: diapasoun on January 25, 2018, 03:50:35 PM
My gazingus pin is books. 

[...]

I realized I was buying books
1) to fill in my "collection" of certain authors (and romance authors can be PROLIFIC) ... some books I purchased more than once because I didn't remember I'd already bought it and read it)
2) to try new authors, many of whom I didn't like
3) because I thought I ought to read them ... but those just languished in a pile

Welcome, fellow bibliophile!

Do you have a Goodreads account or some other way of tracking what you've read? I've found this is helpful for me in remembering what I've read, because I can just look something up on GR and see if I've read it or not. Could help in the accidental re-buys.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: formerlydivorcedmom on January 25, 2018, 04:07:20 PM

Welcome, fellow bibliophile!

Do you have a Goodreads account or some other way of tracking what you've read? I've found this is helpful for me in remembering what I've read, because I can just look something up on GR and see if I've read it or not. Could help in the accidental re-buys.

I started tracking on a spreadsheet this year.  I've never tracked before because I read so much it was hard to keep up with.  The spreadsheet doesn't help, though, when I'm at the store and don't have it handy to check.    Sigh.

That was a bad week in general. Besides duplicate buying, I also ordered 2 books from the library that I already owned and had forgotten about.  That was another clue that maybe my book-buying had gotten out of control.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: lifejoy on January 25, 2018, 04:35:38 PM
Welcome, formerlydivorcedmom! You, like myself and many others here, seem to have a collector’s spirit! I used to be that way with books until I a) 100% converted to obtaining library books and b) realized that a list of my fave books would satisfy me nearly as much as buying them would. I seldom re-read, so this works for me.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: CrustyBadger on January 25, 2018, 05:13:00 PM
No vending machine sodas or snacks for me at work!

I can eat chips if I want chips but I have to buy them in a large back and pack them for my lunch.

I realized I was spending up to $15 a week on these things.  My health doesn't need it and neither does my wallet.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: lifejoy on January 25, 2018, 05:17:30 PM
Welcome, CrustyBadger! Added you to the first post :)
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: Inkedup on January 25, 2018, 05:26:09 PM
My gazingus pin is books. 

[...]

I realized I was buying books
1) to fill in my "collection" of certain authors (and romance authors can be PROLIFIC) ... some books I purchased more than once because I didn't remember I'd already bought it and read it)
2) to try new authors, many of whom I didn't like
3) because I thought I ought to read them ... but those just languished in a pile

Welcome, fellow bibliophile!

Do you have a Goodreads account or some other way of tracking what you've read? I've found this is helpful for me in remembering what I've read, because I can just look something up on GR and see if I've read it or not. Could help in the accidental re-buys.

I second the Goodreads recommendation as a book tracker. A few years ago I also started keeping a list in a notebook of titles I read from year to year, which I have continued to keep up. Regardless of how you choose to track your books, it's fun to look back on what you've accomplished.

As a former librarian, books are a gazingus pin for me, too, but I've gotten better about it over the years.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: lifejoy on January 25, 2018, 05:56:05 PM
My gazingus pin is books. 

[...]

I realized I was buying books
1) to fill in my "collection" of certain authors (and romance authors can be PROLIFIC) ... some books I purchased more than once because I didn't remember I'd already bought it and read it)
2) to try new authors, many of whom I didn't like
3) because I thought I ought to read them ... but those just languished in a pile

Welcome, fellow bibliophile!

Do you have a Goodreads account or some other way of tracking what you've read? I've found this is helpful for me in remembering what I've read, because I can just look something up on GR and see if I've read it or not. Could help in the accidental re-buys.

I second the Goodreads recommendation as a book tracker. A few years ago I also started keeping a list in a notebook of titles I read from year to year, which I have continued to keep up. Regardless of how you choose to track your books, it's fun to look back on what you've accomplished.

As a former librarian, books are a gazingus pin for me, too, but I've gotten better about it over the years.

I’m a former librarian too! Hi :)
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: Inkedup on January 25, 2018, 06:47:28 PM
My gazingus pin is books. 

[...]

I realized I was buying books
1) to fill in my "collection" of certain authors (and romance authors can be PROLIFIC) ... some books I purchased more than once because I didn't remember I'd already bought it and read it)
2) to try new authors, many of whom I didn't like
3) because I thought I ought to read them ... but those just languished in a pile

Welcome, fellow bibliophile!

Do you have a Goodreads account or some other way of tracking what you've read? I've found this is helpful for me in remembering what I've read, because I can just look something up on GR and see if I've read it or not. Could help in the accidental re-buys.

I second the Goodreads recommendation as a book tracker. A few years ago I also started keeping a list in a notebook of titles I read from year to year, which I have continued to keep up. Regardless of how you choose to track your books, it's fun to look back on what you've accomplished.

As a former librarian, books are a gazingus pin for me, too, but I've gotten better about it over the years.

Iím a former librarian too! Hi :)

No way! Lol. It's nice to meet all these fellow book nerds :)
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: lifejoy on January 25, 2018, 07:39:09 PM
My gazingus pin is books. 

[...]

I realized I was buying books
1) to fill in my "collection" of certain authors (and romance authors can be PROLIFIC) ... some books I purchased more than once because I didn't remember I'd already bought it and read it)
2) to try new authors, many of whom I didn't like
3) because I thought I ought to read them ... but those just languished in a pile

Welcome, fellow bibliophile!

Do you have a Goodreads account or some other way of tracking what you've read? I've found this is helpful for me in remembering what I've read, because I can just look something up on GR and see if I've read it or not. Could help in the accidental re-buys.

I second the Goodreads recommendation as a book tracker. A few years ago I also started keeping a list in a notebook of titles I read from year to year, which I have continued to keep up. Regardless of how you choose to track your books, it's fun to look back on what you've accomplished.

As a former librarian, books are a gazingus pin for me, too, but I've gotten better about it over the years.

I’m a former librarian too! Hi :)

No way! Lol. It's nice to meet all these fellow book nerds :)

Definitely! No surprise that books are a common addiction :)
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: CheapskateWife on January 26, 2018, 03:18:40 PM
Thusfar my identified Gazingus pins are thrifted books and clothes, but a new pin is stirring and I need to get ahead of it.  Quilting fabric is calling me...I must have more...

Actually, I must finish the three quilts I have supplies for and then I can think about a new project, but oh, look at these...

Instituted a new rule for my craft room...2 projects out, before 1 new one goes in.  That should have me sufficiently focused on finishing what I have started before starting something new.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: Izybat on January 26, 2018, 08:45:09 PM
I always thought that I was getting over my spendy ways because I've really reined in a lot. I used to buy tons of books, now I order them from the library. I have trouble coming up with ideas for people to give me a gifts for birthdays and Christmas because I never seem to want anything (my default is Home Depot gift cards because my house needs a ton of work).

However, my Gazingus pin is restaurants, or more to the point, eating anything out of the house. I tend to stop and buy breakfast food on the way to work (sometimes even after I've eaten at home), or buy snacks at work or on the way home from work. Our eating out budget is insane, and its one of the things that drives me crazy financially.

So, my goal is to limit myself to one restaurant/eating out per week (we usually do carry out pizza once per week). This would go a long way for both my health and my budget, but it's going to be very difficult.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: Parizade on January 26, 2018, 08:54:16 PM
Craft and/or art supplies. I have more than enough to last me at least 10 years even if I used them which I tend not to do.
Title: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: lifejoy on January 27, 2018, 01:15:19 AM
Thusfar my identified Gazingus pins are thrifted books and clothes, but a new pin is stirring and I need to get ahead of it.  Quilting fabric is calling me...I must have more...

Actually, I must finish the three quilts I have supplies for and then I can think about a new project, but oh, look at these...

Instituted a new rule for my craft room...2 projects out, before 1 new one goes in.  That should have me sufficiently focused on finishing what I have started before starting something new.

Welcome! Good job identifying all of your gazingus pins. I haven’t added quilting supplies to the front page (yet) because it sounds like you get to buy some kind of like whenever you want, as long as you put the work in

Let me know if you disagree or if you want to adapt your plan!
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: lifejoy on January 27, 2018, 01:22:41 AM
I always thought that I was getting over my spendy ways because I've really reined in a lot. I used to buy tons of books, now I order them from the library. I have trouble coming up with ideas for people to give me a gifts for birthdays and Christmas because I never seem to want anything (my default is Home Depot gift cards because my house needs a ton of work).

However, my Gazingus pin is restaurants, or more to the point, eating anything out of the house. I tend to stop and buy breakfast food on the way to work (sometimes even after I've eaten at home), or buy snacks at work or on the way home from work. Our eating out budget is insane, and its one of the things that drives me crazy financially.

So, my goal is to limit myself to one restaurant/eating out per week (we usually do carry out pizza once per week). This would go a long way for both my health and my budget, but it's going to be very difficult.

That sounds like a great goal! Stretch challenge: make it once a month and I’ll add you to the first page :)

I feel like this thread is becoming very permissive... this is my effort to tighten things up a bit! However I do want you to feel welcome, and I recognize what a big change going from daily to weekly would be. I just don’t want this to be a “cutting back on gazingus pins” thread - it’s a No gazingus pins thread! :) Break the habit! Look back on 2018 with awe and pride!

That being said, I’m not such a hardass. I can add you to the first post if you like :)
Just wanna tempt you into monthly because I bet you can do it!
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: lifejoy on January 27, 2018, 01:23:12 AM
Craft and/or art supplies. I have more than enough to last me at least 10 years even if I used them which I tend not to do.

Added you! Welcome! :)
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: Rosy on January 27, 2018, 07:34:49 AM
My gazingus pin is books. 

[...]

I realized I was buying books
1) to fill in my "collection" of certain authors (and romance authors can be PROLIFIC) ... some books I purchased more than once because I didn't remember I'd already bought it and read it)
2) to try new authors, many of whom I didn't like
3) because I thought I ought to read them ... but those just languished in a pile

Welcome, fellow bibliophile!

Do you have a Goodreads account or some other way of tracking what you've read? I've found this is helpful for me in remembering what I've read, because I can just look something up on GR and see if I've read it or not. Could help in the accidental re-buys.

I second the Goodreads recommendation as a book tracker. A few years ago I also started keeping a list in a notebook of titles I read from year to year, which I have continued to keep up. Regardless of how you choose to track your books, it's fun to look back on what you've accomplished.

As a former librarian, books are a gazingus pin for me, too, but I've gotten better about it over the years.

Iím a former librarian too! Hi :)

No way! Lol. It's nice to meet all these fellow book nerds :)

Definitely! No surprise that books are a common addiction :)

I used to volunteer at my local library:) Me and my grandfather were the bibliophiles in the family.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: Tris Prior on January 27, 2018, 08:01:49 AM


Write positive reviews for them online

Facebook, Yelp, google. It can help small businesses immensely.

Yes, this! As a small business owner this is SO important. Also like, comment on, and share their social media posts, as Facebook in particular buries them and refuses to show them to people who've liked our page if we don't pay money, but will show them to more people if they qualify as "engaging" (i.e., popularity contest; posts that are liked and commented on and shared are shown to more people).
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: horsepoor on January 27, 2018, 09:04:15 AM
Doing well over here.  I'm just checking in because I looked at my pay stub and discovered that I received a substantial temporary raise for the four-month detail I started this month.  I was not expecting it, and it will be really tempting to blow this little windfall on frivolous horse or kitchen gear, so I am trying to focus on how great it will feel to pay my car off within the next few months instead.  As soon as we get past the next potential government shutdown, I'm going to put all the extra towards the car loan (nice to hang on to the extra cash when a potential furlough is looming, otherwise I would do it right now).  Mustachians would say don't pay off the car because it's a 0% loan, but I'm sick of figuring that payment into my budget every month.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: I'm a red panda on January 27, 2018, 10:03:31 AM
OK. I'm officially adding nail polish to my list.

So no fabric (excepting the pre-pillows for our living room), no nail polish.

I haven't bought any but I want to so bad. I really love nail polish .

I really think the issue is time. When I have lots of time I don't shop that much because I actually use the stuff I have but when I don't have very much time I mostly just shop because my hobby boils down to fabric collecting or nail polish collecting rather than sewing or painting.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: lifejoy on January 27, 2018, 11:06:39 AM
@horsepoor - that sounds like an EXCELLENT plan!

@iowajes - I think “no nail polish” is a perfect addition to your “no gazingus pin” decree! I also think you’re doing a great job identifying your habits and desires. You got this!
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: lifejoy on January 27, 2018, 08:12:05 PM
So is a watch considered jewellery? Haaaaaa... just kidding ;)
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: Rosy on January 28, 2018, 07:31:23 AM
I will finish January with 1 skincare purchase and no makeup.  I have no interest in purchasing either going forward unless absolutely necessary.  As a matter of fact, the more shit happens at work, my resolve is getting stronger.  I am in good shape financially because of the market but I am more motivated to save my money than purchase more of this stuff that will just sit in my cabinets and eventually get tossed. I want the option of leaving if I need to so instead I will try and focus on saving a few years worth of expenses.

Yay @alleykat! I agree with you, it helps a great deal to have clear goals of what you want to do with your money - instead.

So is a watch considered jewellery? Haaaaaa... just kidding ;)

Not really - I think watches should be in their own category:) Dear @lifejoy - could it be that you hid a gazingus pin under another gazingus pin:)?

Just checking in - almost caved last night:
There it was, the perfect beautiful three-row green gemstone bracelet to complete my ensemble. The one I've been dying to add to my collection, at a price I can afford?:).
The Gods are mocking me - my desire is killing me.
I feel bereft - damn, I know I can't afford to give in - it is a choice of either sticking with my goals ...

This morning:
I'm telling you, if I see this bracelet at this price again, I am buying it - consequences be damned... I know this stone is mined out and this is in truth a good opportunity.

No, no and NO - I have to face reality - I want it all, my goals and my gazingus pin, but something's gotta give.

I'll be so happy when January is over and I can say - I did not give in to my desires this month. No more gazingus pins for 2018 for me!
I think I'm experiencing withdrawals.



Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: lifejoy on January 28, 2018, 07:42:51 AM
Woohoo, good job Rosy!
I think you and I have to learn to stop shopping for the things we’re addicted to! Oh well, we’ve almost survived month one...

I’ve been tempted. Instead I make a list of all the things I want to buy in 2019, haha.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: Inkedup on January 28, 2018, 10:19:57 AM
This year I have decided to track my monthly expenses on paper, simply because I'm an analog tool person and it reduces the urge to procrastinate. There's a separate category to identify the necessities and the frivolous purchases. At the end of the month I'm going to see how much I spent on the latter, but to be honest, I'm already seeing that the January amount is higher than I want it to be.

No no no, Inkedup.

After finishing up one 1/4lb packet of tea and the remaining beans in a bag of coffee this month, I am feeling more determined about sticking to my guns moving forward. Thinking of it in zero sum terms has helped a bit: "Do you want to buy more crap or do you want to buy financial security/an earlier retirement date?"

I have SO. FREAKING. MUCH. stuff, in the form of both consumables and non-consumables, to enjoy. Chasing after the next item is so silly.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: Poundwise on January 29, 2018, 08:04:32 AM
Here is a tip for Rosy, and for all of us... nobody's willpower is strong enough to resist constant temptation.  If you are still subscribed to whatever email list or magazine that advertises your gazingus pin, you're going to have to cancel it and find something harmless to take its place.  If you are driving past your gazingus store every day, you need to take a different route until you are well and thoroughly out of the habit of stopping in.

However, constant exposure to beautiful pictures of things to want, want, want, will wear down even the strongest resolve.  If we are serious about cutting our jewelry, tea, nailpolish, or crafting supplies habits, we are going to have to cut off the route.  For instance, I am also trying to lose a little weight, so this means turning off the light in the kitchen right after dinner and not going back in there! I used to wander in after putting the kids to bed, then after tidying up I would reward myself with a little snack or three.  Then, more likely than not, I would settle down and do some online shopping. Now I am trying to spend that time working on some of my unfinished projects, or simply going to bed early.  So far, so good!
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: RetiredAt63 on January 29, 2018, 08:40:26 AM
Poundwise is so right!  When I was a poor broke poor grad student there was no internet, but there were masses of advertising inserts in the Saturday paper.  I never looked at them, because if I did I would see all sorts of things I wanted.  IF I didn't see the ads I didn't feel the "need" for the stuff.

One of my gazingus pins is fibre (I spin) and I have a stash that will keep me going for a few years.  I am totally avoiding events where there will be masses of yummy fibre for sale, because it would be so so easy to buy some.  You know, you bury your hands in this luscious fluff, and dream of the yarns that it will make, and the next thing you know you have bought it.

Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: zeli2033 on January 29, 2018, 09:39:03 AM
Hope itís not too late to join in on this one but my gazingus pins are books like many others here. There is little I love more than buying a stack of new books and coming home to curl up with a warm beverage, my robe and cozy socks to read the day away. (If I were being cut throat Iíd add tea to the list but Iím going for progress here - donít want to give myself a breakdown :)

So in 2018, itís books for me! Couple caveats I want to throw in for myself:
1. If thereís a new book on my radar, must check library first!
2. Cannot buy new books unless it is with cash received from selling other books back. This way books canít come in the door unless enough books have gone out the door to pay for them (hmmm...is this cheating?)
3. Cannot buy a book unless itís guaranteed I will re-read it and criteria for #2 is met
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: formerlydivorcedmom on January 29, 2018, 12:50:55 PM
I proudly told my husband I'd signed on for this challenge and was going to limit myself to no more than 1 book per month.

In a very alarmed voice, he asked why on earth I'd do something like that, and then he tried to argue me out of it.  (I could see him thinking "holy heck, when she runs out of reading material she invents household projects to do!")

I pointed out that my book budget last year was somewhere between $500-750, and I promised not to add any new household projects to the list.  He walked away shaking his head.

I went shopping with middle kid this weekend and did not go down the book aisle at the grocery store, did not buy a book at Costco, and didn't even step foot in Barnes and Noble even though the only parking spot I found at the shopping center was right in front of their store. 
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: lifejoy on January 29, 2018, 01:48:21 PM
Poundwise is so right!  When I was a poor broke poor grad student there was no internet, but there were masses of advertising inserts in the Saturday paper.  I never looked at them, because if I did I would see all sorts of things I wanted.  IF I didn't see the ads I didn't feel the "need" for the stuff.

One of my gazingus pins is fibre (I spin) and I have a stash that will keep me going for a few years.  I am totally avoiding events where there will be masses of yummy fibre for sale, because it would be so so easy to buy some.  You know, you bury your hands in this luscious fluff, and dream of the yarns that it will make, and the next thing you know you have bought it.

LOL I thought you meant spin class and edible fibre! LOL

Do you want me to add you to the first post? No fibre for 2018?
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: lifejoy on January 29, 2018, 01:50:17 PM
Hope it’s not too late to join in on this one but my gazingus pins are books like many others here. There is little I love more than buying a stack of new books and coming home to curl up with a warm beverage, my robe and cozy socks to read the day away. (If I were being cut throat I’d add tea to the list but I’m going for progress here - don’t want to give myself a breakdown :)

So in 2018, it’s books for me! Couple caveats I want to throw in for myself:
1. If there’s a new book on my radar, must check library first!
2. Cannot buy new books unless it is with cash received from selling other books back. This way books can’t come in the door unless enough books have gone out the door to pay for them (hmmm...is this cheating?)
3. Cannot buy a book unless it’s guaranteed I will re-read it and criteria for #2 is met

Welcome! It sounds like I should’ve made a “Buy less gazingus pins for 2018!” Thread ;)

I jest, I jest! I agree, progress is progress. I’ll add you to the first post :)
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: lifejoy on January 29, 2018, 01:51:45 PM
I proudly told my husband I'd signed on for this challenge and was going to limit myself to no more than 1 book per month.

In a very alarmed voice, he asked why on earth I'd do something like that, and then he tried to argue me out of it.  (I could see him thinking "holy heck, when she runs out of reading material she invents household projects to do!")

I pointed out that my book budget last year was somewhere between $500-750, and I promised not to add any new household projects to the list.  He walked away shaking his head.

I went shopping with middle kid this weekend and did not go down the book aisle at the grocery store, did not buy a book at Costco, and didn't even step foot in Barnes and Noble even though the only parking spot I found at the shopping center was right in front of their store.

WOW!!!! You are doing wonderfully!!! Incredible job for month 1. You got this!!!! Your husband is going to be so impressed in December :)
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: lifejoy on January 29, 2018, 01:55:05 PM
@Inkedup / it sounds like your mentality is just where it needs to be! Have you heard of the free app “Pretirement”? It helps you calculate just how much these gazingus pins (and other things) will affect your FIRE date. Very motivating!

@Poundwise - sigh. You are right! If I’m going to stop buying, I need to stop shopping. Blarrrgh. Baby steps.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: chaskavitch on January 29, 2018, 04:45:23 PM
I had a shirt that I got from a clothes swap - super comfy, soft, fit well - that I still hadn't worn.  Last week, I though "hm, the next time it's cold enough, I'll wear it to work and see if I like it."  Then my green pants got dirty, and I realized that I only have ONE pair of pants that I'd ever wear this shirt with, because it's just the wrong blue for me to want to wear it with jeans, and it's too patterned for me to wear with leggings.  Sooooo, now it's in my clothes swap pile, without ever having been worn since I got it. 

One more step toward having a wardrobe full of only clothes that I actually like to wear :)
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: CrustyBadger on January 29, 2018, 04:49:41 PM
My weakness at work is snacks from the vending machine (Cokes, cheese doodles....)   I have been So Good about not buying anything all month!  I could easily spend $3 a day on these foods.

I was really, sorely tempted today.   I did pack a lunch, but I skipped breakfast, and I was hungry from the get go.

But... it's started to become a habit for me NOT to buy from the vending machine.  So I had the thought (I should get some Doritos) and then immediately tamped it down.  Ate my lunch a little earlier, and was full.  And didn't have a craving again until I came,  where (to sate my carb craving) I had a slice of whole grain bread and butter.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: lifejoy on January 29, 2018, 05:53:08 PM
Chaskavitch and crustybadger- you guys are doing great!!!

Do you think we should be like in kindergarten and get a star by our name if we survived the month? I know I like to track things visually, myself...
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: diapasoun on January 29, 2018, 06:47:48 PM
Chaskavitch and crustybadger- you guys are doing great!!!

Do you think we should be like in kindergarten and get a star by our name if we survived the month? I know I like to track things visually, myself...

I am totally pro-big golden stars!
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: HappierAtHome on January 29, 2018, 06:52:50 PM
Chaskavitch and crustybadger- you guys are doing great!!!

Do you think we should be like in kindergarten and get a star by our name if we survived the month? I know I like to track things visually, myself...

YES I WANT A STAR!
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: CrustyBadger on January 29, 2018, 07:06:32 PM
YES PLEASE, me too, I would like a star!
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: lifejoy on January 29, 2018, 07:30:17 PM
Ok it’s settled :)
I will dole out stars on February 1st!
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: Izybat on January 29, 2018, 07:56:37 PM
Today was a really tempting day to eat out, though to be honest, they all seem to be. It was cold this morning and I had to scrape my windshield. I got in the car to drive to work and immediately thought "I should get a hot chocolate and a donut to warm up!". I had just eaten breakfast.... I didn't give in and I didn't hit the vending machine at work. One workday down. The next few will be harder and easier at the same time. I'm traveling for work for the next four days, so less temptation to snack or buy extra food while I'm out.

Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: Laura33 on January 29, 2018, 08:12:23 PM
Star star star star star!!!!!!!  Yesyesyes!!!  I have finished two partial tins of tea this week, including sucking it up and finishing off the rest of my favorite tea ever that I canít get any more, and I am drinking the sort of ďmehĒ teas because I need to get rid of them, and I have repurposed the empty pretty tins for other teas to make the best use of the space in my cabinet, and I have bought NO new teas - not even at the grocery store.  Very proud of myself.  I want my gold star, dammit!!!!!  ;-)
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: horsepoor on January 29, 2018, 08:24:49 PM
Stars are an excellent idea, 12 gold stars at the end of the year would be a good goal.  I'm enjoying following this thread, everyone is doing great!

Yesterday I got an email from SmartPak Equine with additional 20% off of clearance stuff.  I got as far as having two pairs of breeches in my cart before I decided I didn't really like the color of the pair that was truly a good deal, and the deal wasn't that great on the pair I really liked.  Clicked out of there without buying anything.  Now that I took advantage of the 50% off promo on horse supplements I needed to buy, I will unsubscribe from their emails.

Received a Dover Saddlery catalog in the mail today and deposited it directly in the recycling bin.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: DTaggart on January 29, 2018, 09:21:00 PM
Oooh yay for stars!!

I am still holding strong, no new outdoor or fitness gear has been purchased. I'm totally focusing on getting outside and using the gear I already own and its been excellent. I hiked both Saturday and Sunday, and ran MWF last week. And I'm making plans with some friends for a trip in Sep/Oct to the amazing Havasupai Indian Reservation (difficult-to-get permits go on sale Thursday, wish us luck).
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: lifejoy on January 29, 2018, 09:23:41 PM
Woohoo! Exciting days ahead :)

Ok so you guys will totally help me figure out if one of y’all is missing a star, right? I mean I’m good, but I have a baby and sleep eludes me so I can’t pretend I’ll get it perfect first shot :)

Yay I feel like a kindergarten teacher.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: I'm a red panda on January 29, 2018, 10:28:48 PM
It's up to you if I get a star. Fabric came into my house, and I picked it out. But DH bought it (because of this challenge). It's not his gazingus pin...
Title: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: lifejoy on January 29, 2018, 10:38:01 PM
It's up to you if I get a star. Fabric came into my house, and I picked it out. But DH bought it (because of this challenge). It's not his gazingus pin...

Aw you’re sweet to give me the power but I consider this a personal challenge! You’ll have to tell me if you feel like you bought a gazingus pin for January

Edited to add: part of why I need you to tell me is because I don’t know what your financial situation is like with your husband. If my husband bought me jewellery I picked out with OUR money, I’d call that me buying a gazingus pin. If he used his fun money to buy me jewellery, hmm definitely more of a grey area and I think then it would depend on what my specific goals were.

Part of my goal is to resist the itch. So I’m being pretty rigid with myself. It sounds like your situation was the lesser of two “evils” - your DH was going to buy pillows if you didn’t make them (IIRC). So anyways, up to you! Whichever will encourage you more to stay strong for the rest of the year
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: galliver on January 30, 2018, 12:54:30 AM
It's up to you if I get a star. Fabric came into my house, and I picked it out. But DH bought it (because of this challenge). It's not his gazingus pin...
(...)

What about a delayed star awarded when the fabric is all pillows, if that is not yet the case? If it is finished, then it's basically a pillow purchase accomplished for cheaper, win! But if not, it's contributing to the stash-of-materials/unfinished-projects problem. :)
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: mspym on January 30, 2018, 01:54:26 AM
Star star star!
I am avoiding the fabric shops near work and am maintaining rigid unsubscribe boundaries on my email. Plus the pile of half finished projects is still in my line of sight, taunting me whenever I feel tempted.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: I'm a red panda on January 30, 2018, 03:24:26 AM
Lifejoy, my husband and I have shared money, and no personally allocated funds. We don't have any sort of budget, just a "don't spend a lot of money" plan that has always worked. We actually don't do gifts for the reason you said. Him buying something for me is just spending our money, I might as well buy it myself!  But he bought the fabric because he wanted the pillows.  And I didn't buy myself a birthday present last week.

So I get a star :)
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: lifejoy on January 30, 2018, 04:14:02 AM
Lifejoy, my husband and I have shared money, and no personally allocated funds. We don't have any sort of budget, just a "don't spend a lot of money" plan that has always worked. We actually don't do gifts for the reason you said. Him buying something for me is just spending our money, I might as well buy it myself!  But he bought the fabric because he wanted the pillows.  And I didn't buy myself a birthday present last week.

So I get a star :)

Works for me! Happy belated birthday! That’s some good willpower right there. I loooove buying myself a birthday present. Good job, you!
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: zeli2033 on January 30, 2018, 07:06:07 AM
Hope itís not too late to join in on this one but my gazingus pins are books like many others here. There is little I love more than buying a stack of new books and coming home to curl up with a warm beverage, my robe and cozy socks to read the day away. (If I were being cut throat Iíd add tea to the list but Iím going for progress here - donít want to give myself a breakdown :)

So in 2018, itís books for me! Couple caveats I want to throw in for myself:
1. If thereís a new book on my radar, must check library first!
2. Cannot buy new books unless it is with cash received from selling other books back. This way books canít come in the door unless enough books have gone out the door to pay for them (hmmm...is this cheating?)
3. Cannot buy a book unless itís guaranteed I will re-read it and criteria for #2 is met

Welcome! It sounds like I shouldíve made a ďBuy less gazingus pins for 2018!Ē Thread ;)

I jest, I jest! I agree, progress is progress. Iíll add you to the first post :)

@lifejoy YOUíRE RIGHT. Ok. Iím in. No caveats. No book purchases in 2018. So far, so good this month. Although now I feel extra twitchy...
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: chaskavitch on January 30, 2018, 07:08:55 AM
Hope itís not too late to join in on this one but my gazingus pins are books like many others here. There is little I love more than buying a stack of new books and coming home to curl up with a warm beverage, my robe and cozy socks to read the day away. (If I were being cut throat Iíd add tea to the list but Iím going for progress here - donít want to give myself a breakdown :)

So in 2018, itís books for me! Couple caveats I want to throw in for myself:
1. If thereís a new book on my radar, must check library first!
2. Cannot buy new books unless it is with cash received from selling other books back. This way books canít come in the door unless enough books have gone out the door to pay for them (hmmm...is this cheating?)
3. Cannot buy a book unless itís guaranteed I will re-read it and criteria for #2 is met

Welcome! It sounds like I shouldíve made a ďBuy less gazingus pins for 2018!Ē Thread ;)

I jest, I jest! I agree, progress is progress. Iíll add you to the first post :)

@lifejoy YOUíRE RIGHT. Ok. Iím in. No caveats. No book purchases in 2018. So far, so good this month. Although now I feel extra twitchy...

Woo, peer pressure FTW!
Title: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: lifejoy on January 30, 2018, 08:11:50 AM
Hope it’s not too late to join in on this one but my gazingus pins are books like many others here. There is little I love more than buying a stack of new books and coming home to curl up with a warm beverage, my robe and cozy socks to read the day away. (If I were being cut throat I’d add tea to the list but I’m going for progress here - don’t want to give myself a breakdown

So in 2018, it’s books for me! Couple caveats I want to throw in for myself:
1. If there’s a new book on my radar, must check library first!
2. Cannot buy new books unless it is with cash received from selling other books back. This way books can’t come in the door unless enough books have gone out the door to pay for them (hmmm...is this cheating?)
3. Cannot buy a book unless it’s guaranteed I will re-read it and criteria for #2 is met

Welcome! It sounds like I should’ve made a “Buy less gazingus pins for 2018!” Thread

I jest, I jest! I agree, progress is progress. I’ll add you to the first post

@lifejoy YOU’RE RIGHT. Ok. I’m in. No caveats. No book purchases in 2018. So far, so good this month. Although now I feel extra twitchy...

Wooooohoo!!!! Go Zeli! You can do it. Be creative. Be strong. It’s only for 11 more months! And think of how badass you will feel on December 31

Hehe now we just have to peer pressure @formerlydivorcedmom to follow suit! :D
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: diapasoun on January 30, 2018, 09:31:06 AM
Hope itís not too late to join in on this one but my gazingus pins are books like many others here. There is little I love more than buying a stack of new books and coming home to curl up with a warm beverage, my robe and cozy socks to read the day away. (If I were being cut throat Iíd add tea to the list but Iím going for progress here - donít want to give myself a breakdown :)

So in 2018, itís books for me! Couple caveats I want to throw in for myself:
1. If thereís a new book on my radar, must check library first!
2. Cannot buy new books unless it is with cash received from selling other books back. This way books canít come in the door unless enough books have gone out the door to pay for them (hmmm...is this cheating?)
3. Cannot buy a book unless itís guaranteed I will re-read it and criteria for #2 is met

Welcome! It sounds like I shouldíve made a ďBuy less gazingus pins for 2018!Ē Thread ;)

I jest, I jest! I agree, progress is progress. Iíll add you to the first post :)

@lifejoy YOUíRE RIGHT. Ok. Iím in. No caveats. No book purchases in 2018. So far, so good this month. Although now I feel extra twitchy...

Think of how many wonderful books you already own, waiting for you to pick up their familiar covers again and while away some time with them!

And think of how many wonderful books are sitting in the library, waiting for human hands to pick them up and treat them gently.

You got this!
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: Rosy on January 30, 2018, 09:36:24 AM
CONGRATS to all of you if you made it this far! If not - just start over, it takes time to change your habits, possibly replace them with a new, outstanding, good for you habit. I see more gold stars in our future:)

@lifejoy I'll be standing in line for my first gold star tomorrow - ready to polish it with my jewelry cleaning cloth:)

January has been a really tough month - temptations galore.
1. The little devil sitting on my shoulder whispered that gift cards don't count - umm, yes, clearly that is an excuse to buy.
2. Then I kept rationalizing that I could allow myself - just one inexpensive item of jewelry every month to ease the transition,
    umm, NO - I am abstaining - period.

In January:
1. Told Mr. R. - no jewelry for my birthday (although we do have separate finances)
2. Resisted strong temptations for two purchases - that I'm secretly still shedding a tear over:)
3. Decided not to indulge myself for my birthday with a jewelry purchase either.

To firm my resolve for February:
I am re-directing my money to my two goals for 2018 instead. I want to travel and save money way more than I want to acquire more jewelry.
In truth, the time has come to stop collecting anyway.
There will be a reward in 2019, a long coveted Italian gold necklace for my birthday.

Maybe it will get a bit easier in February as we strengthen our badass mustachian muscles and set aside our creampuff entitlement attitude.
We can do this together - thanks for all of your support.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: CrustyBadger on January 30, 2018, 03:33:57 PM
My gazingus pin temptation is snacks from the vending machine at work.  I've done great this month (I want that gold star!!) but I do notice that I've been eating more snacks at home as a result.

I buy the doritos and cheese doodles for the kids to take to school as snacks, but lately I will eat a bunch myself when I get home from work or after dinner.

This was NEVER something I would do before and it is counter to the spirit of this challenge.

I bought a ton of popcorn kernels instead to keep on hand for late night snacking if need be.  That's my usual snack anyhow.  And I need to think of other habits, like coming home from work and drinking a nice cool glass of ice water while I relax.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: lifejoy on January 30, 2018, 04:08:43 PM
HAHA Rosy, you make me laugh! An 18k gold star for you!!!

CrustyBadger - I am impressed at your awareness and introspection. Myself, I try to replace unhealthy snacks with stuff that will fill me up. Mini carrots instead of chips, peanut butter on toast instead of chocolate. I'm human so it doesn't always work. But maybe you could think of things you could eat so that your tum isn't empty, but that aren't nutritionless snacks? "Eat to Live" is a book that really helped me see food differently.

https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/34451.Eat_to_Live

So I'm reading this book about addiction, and it had a part about dopamine being released in the brain even when we just see a cue of the thing we're addicted to. I.e. if you see a chocolate bar, you don't even have to be eating it yet, and your brain will release the happy chemicals just by SEEING it. And then there is an urge to consummate the desire of eating it...

Anyways all of that to say, y'all are right and I have to get out of temptation's way. No more online browsing for me! The looking clearly makes my brain happy, but it's also tortuously tempting!
Title: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: lifejoy on January 30, 2018, 05:26:25 PM
Ok I went back nearly ten pages and also made some educated guesses. I’m sure I’ve missed people that haven’t checked in for a little while. If I’ve missed you on the first post, please let me know and I’ll add your star

If January was not your month, know that changes take time! Be kind to yourself. Maybe January was what you needed in order to mentally prepare for Frugal February
Stay strong and carry on!
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: RetiredAt63 on January 30, 2018, 06:35:52 PM
Poundwise is so right!  When I was a poor broke poor grad student there was no internet, but there were masses of advertising inserts in the Saturday paper.  I never looked at them, because if I did I would see all sorts of things I wanted.  IF I didn't see the ads I didn't feel the "need" for the stuff.

One of my gazingus pins is fibre (I spin) and I have a stash that will keep me going for a few years.  I am totally avoiding events where there will be masses of yummy fibre for sale, because it would be so so easy to buy some.  You know, you bury your hands in this luscious fluff, and dream of the yarns that it will make, and the next thing you know you have bought it.

LOL I thought you meant spin class and edible fibre! LOL

Do you want me to add you to the first post? No fibre for 2018?

Sure!  Although this is a carry-over from 2917, I haven't bought any for at least 6 months. I did get a gift bag last fall but it was free (and lovely alpaca, so nice, perfect colour), given out to everyone in a group.  So I gather I am eligible for a star?

My other gazingus pin is books, but since I joined a good library that itch has been well satisfied.  I still read a lot, all for my annual membership (non-resident) which is a tiny fraction of the cost of the books.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: Inkedup on January 30, 2018, 07:05:30 PM
Lifejoy: I don't deserve a star! Remember, I caved this month ;)
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: lifejoy on January 30, 2018, 07:09:08 PM
Lifejoy: I don't deserve a star! Remember, I caved this month ;)

My bad!!

Thanks for the correction :)

Hope I whet your appetite for next month!
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: Inkedup on January 30, 2018, 07:24:53 PM
Lifejoy: I don't deserve a star! Remember, I caved this month ;)

My bad!!

Thanks for the correction :)

Hope I whet your appetite for next month!

As long as you don't whet my appetite for tea ;) (kidding...)
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: zeli2033 on January 30, 2018, 09:08:13 PM
Oh my goodness.  The star is amazing. I. Am. So. Motivated. BECAUSE OF THE STAR.

Iím 5 years old and I love it.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: lifejoy on January 30, 2018, 09:29:11 PM
Lifejoy: I don't deserve a star! Remember, I caved this month ;)

My bad!!

Thanks for the correction :)

Hope I whet your appetite for next month!

As long as you don't whet my appetite for tea ;) (kidding...)

I hope you’re re-using those tea bags! ;)
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: lifejoy on January 30, 2018, 09:29:47 PM
Oh my goodness.  The star is amazing. I. Am. So. Motivated. BECAUSE OF THE STAR.

I’m 5 years old and I love it.

Oh yes.... and there’s another star in it for you if you make it through February!!!
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: Serendip on January 30, 2018, 09:42:53 PM
oohh..I want the star!

No books bought this year ( I found one I really wanted to read and of course my library had it and another one they brought in when I requested it!).

 I've extended 'no art workshops' to include no self-improvement courses and resisted a yoga retreat. It's funny--these are good things but I know my gazingus pin...I've got plenty of things to work with without adding more :)
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: lifejoy on January 30, 2018, 11:39:23 PM
oohh..I want the star!

No books bought this year ( I found one I really wanted to read and of course my library had it and another one they brought in when I requested it!).

 I've extended 'no art workshops' to include no self-improvement courses and resisted a yoga retreat. It's funny--these are good things but I know my gazingus pin...I've got plenty of things to work with without adding more :)

Excellent!! My phone is not letting me add stars. I will do it as soon as I can get to a computer or desktop :)
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: mspym on January 31, 2018, 03:24:08 AM
Posting for accountability: I don't think I am subbing in new gazingus pins but sometime in mid-January I had a realisation that I could no longer pirate books and I *must* buy or borrow from the library if I want one. I've always bought a LOT of books, but I've also downloaded a lot too and that's not something I can justify or excuse anymore. Ethics man, they pop up when you don't expect it.

And like everyone else my tea collection is getting a bit ridiculous - at least 15 varieties of black and herbal - but since that has been my substitute for alcohol over the last 6 months I am giving myself a pass on it as long as I keep drinking it at my current rate. I am prepared to add this to my pins if I lose my ability to say "but this tea is a slight variation on 3 teas I already have, if I want that flavour I should ue one I already own".
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: formerlydivorcedmom on January 31, 2018, 01:00:59 PM
I felt the urge to buy books today so I got on the library website and requested several books from other branches.  They will be in on Friday :)

I'm not going to get to 0 for the year.  My favorite authors have new books coming out, and I know I will reread those umpteen times (probably 3x each this year), and, um, they're already preordered.  I may be able to get down to less than the 12 I had limited myself to, though - I think I only have 6 preordered.

The children found out about my challenge and assumed it also applied to them.  D12 asked me to request a book she wants from the library.  D8 used his allowance to buy a book he's been wanting - he didn't even ask me to buy it first!

Official January total - 1 book, bought before I joined this challenge.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: CheapskateWife on January 31, 2018, 01:07:36 PM
Checking in to claim my star...in the month of January there were no books, jewelry, clothes, or amazon purchases (for me, there was that one thing for Cheapskate kid but it came out of his account)

Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: CrustyBadger on January 31, 2018, 04:28:01 PM
I think I may need a new gazingus pin.  This month without work snack food was very easy to accomplish. 
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: Inkedup on January 31, 2018, 06:25:51 PM
Lifejoy: I don't deserve a star! Remember, I caved this month ;)

My bad!!

Thanks for the correction :)

Hope I whet your appetite for next month!

As long as you don't whet my appetite for tea ;) (kidding...)

I hope youíre re-using those tea bags! ;)

Oh, I drink loose teas! It tastes better, creates much less waste, and offers more steeps :)
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: I'm a red panda on January 31, 2018, 07:05:36 PM
I think I may need a new gazingus pin.  This month without work snack food was very easy to accomplish.
One month usually isn't too hard for anything.
You need the resolve to keep it going
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: middo on January 31, 2018, 10:14:46 PM
I'm checking in for my January star.  No new purchases of tools even though I had a couple of trips to the hardware.  I did repair one, but that is different to the casual collecting that I am trying to break.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: alleykat on January 31, 2018, 10:24:52 PM
Finishing the month with just one skincare purchase, well 3, today the doc gave me script for 2 products for acne. I did need all 3 so not regret purchases. I consider January a success.  Bring on February.  I am ready to have no purchases of this kind at all. I dont need a thing.

Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: Rosy on February 01, 2018, 10:19:08 AM
I think I may need a new gazingus pin.  This month without work snack food was very easy to accomplish.
One month usually isn't too hard for anything.
You need the resolve to keep it going

Oh no, iowajes:) - this first month about killed me, but I think February will be a breeze. I got the worst of the collection fever out of my system for now, anyway.
This was a major mindset adjustment - there were plenty of times when I thought I couldn't do it - even for just one month.

Besides, with all this talk about books and me not buying jewelry, I used a little of my discretionary funds on books - treated myself at B&N to a finance book that was on my list to buy (got it from the library first, but I wanted my own copy) and picked up two of their half off books in defiance. I mean, that is what discretionary or pocket money is for, right?:)
Membership at B&N is about to run out soon. I decided not to renew, so at least I took advantage of that extra 10% off - so there is that.

Not another gazingus pin - I don't think I could handle that, but it gave me some relief/reward and I may even repeat that maybe in March - a coffee, an apple thingie and one book, I love their cafe.
I do better when there is a reward:), but I'll only do it if I make it through Feb without buying gemstones/jewelry. Gotta show some restraint, even a creampuff mustachian must have some standards after all, n'est pas?


Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: lifejoy on February 01, 2018, 11:07:02 AM
I think I may need a new gazingus pin.  This month without work snack food was very easy to accomplish.
One month usually isn't too hard for anything.
You need the resolve to keep it going

Oh no, iowajes:) - this first month about killed me, but I think February will be a breeze. I got the worst of the collection fever out of my system for now, anyway.
This was a major mindset adjustment - there were plenty of times when I thought I couldn't do it - even for just one month.

Besides, with all this talk about books and me not buying jewelry, I used a little of my discretionary funds on books - treated myself at B&amp;N to a finance book that was on my list to buy (got it from the library first, but I wanted my own copy) and picked up two of their half off books in defiance. I mean, that is what discretionary or pocket money is for, right?:)
Membership at B&amp;N is about to run out soon. I decided not to renew, so at least I took advantage of that extra 10% off - so there is that.

Not another gazingus pin - I don't think I could handle that, but it gave me some relief/reward and I may even repeat that maybe in March - a coffee, an apple thingie and one book, I love their cafe.
I do better when there is a reward:), but I'll only do it if I make it through Feb without buying gemstones/jewelry. Gotta show some restraint, even a creampuff mustachian must have some standards after all, n'est pas?

Haha last I checked, most books are cheaper than most jewellery! ;)

Definitely I think when practicing extreme willpower, it’s normal to cave or reward yourself somewhere else! I bought myself a $4 bag at the library... to carry my fifty bajillion books through the rain. *Joy* :)

Ok I think I have properly doled out stars, but tell me if I haven’t got it right yet. Also we need to hear from a few people:

@gaja
@lexde
@Astak
@soccerluvof4
@vertkurt
@Eucalyptus
@Tris Prior
@Duchess
@hegemony
@10dollarsatatime
@JanetJackson
@asauer
@MaybeBabyMustache
@Better Late
@Parizade

Talk about accountability! Tell us how you did. We’ll be nice :)

Bravo to everyone who survived January! You’ve done it once, now just do it 11 more times. And for those of you that used January to gear up, then February is where you hit your stride!!! ☆☆☆☆☆☆☆☆☆☆☆☆☆
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: Poundwise on February 01, 2018, 12:10:39 PM
I hate to admit it, but I don't deserve my star. :~(

As I posted in the first week of the month, I bought all those craft supplies to make goodies for my daughter's birthday party-- they arrived too late for the party-- will do better in February. 
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: CrustyBadger on February 01, 2018, 12:13:40 PM
I think I may need a new gazingus pin.  This month without work snack food was very easy to accomplish.
One month usually isn't too hard for anything.
You need the resolve to keep it going

I think it might mean that snacks at work weren't really a gazingus pin, they were just a bad habit I fell into.  I'll keep up this new habit for the rest of the year, of course (not trying to weasel out of it!!) but am just thinking I probably have other gazingus pins I could identify.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: lifejoy on February 01, 2018, 12:29:31 PM
I hate to admit it, but I don't deserve my star. :~(

As I posted in the first week of the month, I bought all those craft supplies to make goodies for my daughter's birthday party-- they arrived too late for the party-- will do better in February.

Oops! Well now you know how good it’s going to feel when you get one in February! ;)
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: frontstepdesign on February 01, 2018, 12:42:18 PM
Ah, another challenge I should join!  @lifejoy, put me down for craft supplies - I have so many non-house projects I could work on.  (I don't deserve a Jan star, either - but February should be better!)
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: Duchess on February 01, 2018, 01:40:29 PM
Oh dammit. I donít check in with the thread for a few days and totally miss the introduction of stars. Itís a great idea!

Iím not allowed one for January though :-( Very nearly made it but didnít take enough food to work with me yesterday and ended up buying a packet of crisps (i.e., chips for the non-Brits). Hey-ho, Iím back on the wagon for February. At least with just 28 days itís a slightly shorter month.

@lifejoy I totally love the energy youíre bring to the challenge; itís like weíve got a personal cheerleader.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: lifejoy on February 01, 2018, 03:34:28 PM
Ah, another challenge I should join!  @lifejoy, put me down for craft supplies - I have so many non-house projects I could work on.  (I don't deserve a Jan star, either - but February should be better!)

Added! :)

Oh dammit. I donít check in with the thread for a few days and totally miss the introduction of stars. Itís a great idea!

Iím not allowed one for January though :-( Very nearly made it but didnít take enough food to work with me yesterday and ended up buying a packet of crisps (i.e., chips for the non-Brits). Hey-ho, Iím back on the wagon for February. At least with just 28 days itís a slightly shorter month.

@lifejoy I totally love the energy youíre bring to the challenge; itís like weíve got a personal cheerleader.

Star power!!!!! I'm almost certain they've done studies that show tracking goals with visual rewards (stars!) leads to greater success. Haha Duchess I love your logic - February is going to be a breeze with it's shorter amount of days! Hurrah! And I'm super glad you're enjoying my cheerleading. I have to be honest, though - I'm doing it just as much for myself as for you guys. I need to keep this thread active in order to keep myself accountable, haha. They say shame is one of the most powerful human emotions, and TBH I don't know if I could handle coming in here and confessing to breaking my ban... you guys are keeping me honest and on track!

With one month under our belts (for better or for worse), has anyone noticed anything? CrustyBadger has noticed that his supposed gazingus pin was too easy, and Rosy survived month 1 and thinks the second will be easier... I'm going back and forth, myself. Sometimes I think it's easy to buy ZERO of something, go cold turkey. I'm just not online browsing like I used to, because I know I can't buy any of the stuff that normally tempts me. On the other hand, sometimes things trigger me (tv shows! friends that shop! pants that don't fit!) and I find it very hard to resist! Overall I'm realizing that I can get by with a lot less clothes than I though I needed, and also that if I buy jewellery it just sits in a drawer. I hoard it. Oops.

I'm reading a book that is helping. It's called "Little Heathens: Hard Times and High Spirits on an Iowa Farm during the Great Depression". It's excellent so far. A true story and a really neat read if you want to not shop... because it's set in a time that is the OPPOSITE of Amazon Prime. You CANNOT shop because there are no almost no stores and when the depression hits, there is no money! How do ya like that? I like it. It motivated me to make a pot of dal (famously cheap dinner, fave of Jacob from ERE) and clean my house. Oh I'm so industrious when I'm not shopping! Lol.

CrustyBadger, can you think of a new gazingus pin to add to the challenge?

Also... does anyone have any books to recommend to me? On the topic of changing habits, resisting addictions, etc. I'm reading "Little Heathens" (described above) and also "In the Realm of Hungry Ghosts" (on the topic of addiction) and in the past I've read "The Power of Habit" and I think maybe I should revisit that one. I know there are a lot of readers in this thread so send me some recommendations!

Another thing I've noticed: we have a lot of people with identical gazingus pins. Isn't that interesting? I think some things lend themselves to collections better than others. But I wonder what it is about books, tea, crafting, jewellery, and junk food that make us addicted and crave more more more? Is it simply variety? FOMO? (Fear of missing out). Advertising? Hmm. I welcome your thoughts.

I'm being extremely verbose but I have to tell you something else: Jewellery and clothing are the gazingus pins I've banned myself from, but I have to confess that I have purchased a bridesmaid dress. This, I consider a mandatory purchase, and do not count it in this personal challenge. I see no way of obtaining one for free and I make it my business to do whatever makes the bride less stressed. So that is my exception.

Ok stay strong everyone! They say that part of the success of alcoholics anonymous is that it builds a community that is going for the same goal. Well, I think we've got a lovely team of people here and I KNOW we can do it! Only 334 more days to go ;)
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: MaybeBabyMustache on February 01, 2018, 04:02:09 PM
@lifejoy - resisted siren song of uber gift cards, & bought none in January! Even used a few gift cards I already had on hand this month. :-)
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: CrustyBadger on February 01, 2018, 04:06:28 PM
CrustyBadger has noticed that his supposed gazingus pin was too easy

Just FYI for your mental imagery -- CrustyBadger is a girl!!
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: CrustyBadger on February 01, 2018, 04:07:44 PM
I have to confess that I have purchased a bridesmaid dress. This, I consider a mandatory purchase, and do not count it in this personal challenge. I see no way of obtaining one for free and I make it my business to do whatever makes the bride less stressed. So that is my exception.

The bride must be obeyed!!   We all know that!
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: horsepoor on February 01, 2018, 05:37:29 PM
I think a lot of pins are similar because they are aspirational things:  crafting and sewing supplies - because we want to be creative and do all those Pinteresty things; books - because we want to be educated well-red; outdoor gear - because we want to be outdoorsy.  It's the same with my horse stuff - because I want to be a better rider, but of course buying matchy breeches and saddle pads don't do that; buying riding lessons and practicing as much as possible does that.

Only 334 more days to go ;)

Aaack! ;)

So I had a $10 off promo code from SmartPak, then they emailed me a $25 gift card as a sorry because they got way behind on sending out orders around New Year's.  It would have been easy to justify buying a pair of breeches for almost free, but I stuck to my guns and ordered some protective boots my horse needed, and a package of her amino acid supplements that will run out in about two weeks.

Staying focused on killing 1/3 of my remaining car loan at the end of this month!
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: lifejoy on February 01, 2018, 07:09:05 PM
CrustyBadger has noticed that his supposed gazingus pin was too easy

Just FYI for your mental imagery -- CrustyBadger is a girl!!

Oops :)

Thanks for letting me know!!
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: lifejoy on February 01, 2018, 07:09:48 PM
I think a lot of pins are similar because they are aspirational things:  crafting and sewing supplies - because we want to be creative and do all those Pinteresty things; books - because we want to be educated well-red; outdoor gear - because we want to be outdoorsy.  It's the same with my horse stuff - because I want to be a better rider, but of course buying matchy breeches and saddle pads don't do that; buying riding lessons and practicing as much as possible does that.

Only 334 more days to go ;)

Aaack! ;)

So I had a $10 off promo code from SmartPak, then they emailed me a $25 gift card as a sorry because they got way behind on sending out orders around New Year's.  It would have been easy to justify buying a pair of breeches for almost free, but I stuck to my guns and ordered some protective boots my horse needed, and a package of her amino acid supplements that will run out in about two weeks.

Staying focused on killing 1/3 of my remaining car loan at the end of this month!

Good job!!!

And I think you’re probably right about them being aspirational. I didn’t think about that but it really adds up!
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: Tris Prior on February 01, 2018, 07:54:07 PM
I'm still on the wagon! Have not bought any more socks or tea. Honestly, at the rate I'm sucking down herbal tea (every time I want junk food, comfort food, or alcohol, which is often), I may have flat out cured my addiction. I'm completely sick of the stuff right now.

(The trick is to avoid buying new flavors because if I drink any more GD "sugar cookie" or "bengal spice" I may vomit. But, so far so good.)
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: Laura33 on February 01, 2018, 08:13:40 PM
Why tea?  First, I donít drink coffee.  ;-). But second, it is a relatively guilt-free indulgence, and good tea tastes totally awesome.

For me, it is all mixed up in personal history.  Sweet tea at Grannyís as a kid, so warm fuzzies around tea from very small.  Needed caffeine by college, so that was a natural choice.  Grew up poor so never learned to really enjoy shopping and felt guilty about spending money - but once I had a job and some spare cash, I could justify a small indulgence, like a glass of tea while out, and not feel too bad about it.  And then I discovered some better teas while traveling, and found that I really noticed and appreciated the difference in flavor.  And then of course they donít sell these things everywhere, and I hate shopping, so whenever I do see it, I tell myself Iíd better stock up.  Multiply by 30 years and a lot more discretionary income than when I started, and you have a gazingus pin, a/k/a something that does serve a purpose, but that has become a spendy, unthinking habit that is out of proportion to that purpose ó somehow, it just trips a switch in my brain that it is ďokĒ to buy tea, and that in fact I really should stock up when I find it, so the rational decision making part of my brain shuts off, and the moremoremore 3-yr-old takes over.

The nice thing is that just making it conscious again has gone a long way toward breaking the cycle.  The first time I walked past a tea shop, man, my knees got weak.  But now Iím looking at and appreciating what I already have and am enjoying recovering some more space and organization in my tea cabinet, so that I can see and enjoy what I have.  I have no intention of cutting out tea entirely, or even cutting back on my consumption.  I just need to be paying as much attention to those purchases as I do to other stuff - I needed to break that ďautomatic preapprovalĒ cycle.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: DTaggart on February 01, 2018, 08:28:48 PM
I think a lot of pins are similar because they are aspirational things:  crafting and sewing supplies - because we want to be creative and do all those Pinteresty things; books - because we want to be educated well-red; outdoor gear - because we want to be outdoorsy.  It's the same with my horse stuff - because I want to be a better rider, but of course buying matchy breeches and saddle pads don't do that; buying riding lessons and practicing as much as possible does that.


And I think youíre probably right about them being aspirational. I didnít think about that but it really adds up!

Yes, for me it is definitely the aspirational aspect. A lot of times at work I'd find myself trying to distract myself from the things I didn't want to deal with (namely, work) by browsing gear or reading email ads. While I wanted to be doing these activities I loved, I couldn't because WORK, but I could certainly take a few minutes between tasks and order a new pair of socks. Maybe I skipped my workout the day before because I was tired when I got home, but I could buy some new shoes or a new kettlebell or whatever, and then I was still "committed" to my exercise goals. So that's why I'm trying to shift my focus to actually DOING the things I want to be doing, not buying things as a lame substitute.

Having several trips lined up for this year is definitely motivating, because I need to get in shape for them! But, I may have identified 1 thing that I think I will need to buy for a trip (a rodent proof food bag), but I don't think I will need it before a particular outing in September. So for now I'm just not going to worry about it. I will be on the look out for a reasonable substitute/alternative (do I already have something that will work? Does someone have one I can borrow, or maybe someone else on the trip will have room in their bag?) but I also don't want to be "that person" on the trip who doesn't have her crap together and sponges off of everyone else. But I don't need it for awhile, so I am going to wait and see if it really seems like a legitimate need or not.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: Astatine on February 02, 2018, 12:35:19 AM
I didn't sign up for this challenge but I'm still reading along (I suspect there is something I need from this thread, though).

I think a lot of pins are similar because they are aspirational things:  crafting and sewing supplies - because we want to be creative and do all those Pinteresty things; books - because we want to be educated well-red; outdoor gear - because we want to be outdoorsy.  It's the same with my horse stuff - because I want to be a better rider, but of course buying matchy breeches and saddle pads don't do that; buying riding lessons and practicing as much as possible does that.


This is from a minimalist blog, not a not-shopping blog, but I love this concept of a fantasy self (http://www.missminimalist.com/2011/08/declutter-your-fantasy-self/). I came across this blog post a few years ago and still find it a really useful concept to work out what I actually need and want in terms of physical items, but also helps steer to what I want to be doing, rather than what I think I should be doing to live up to a fantasy self.

It might be relevant to some of you in this challenge. And lifejoy, if you want something to read, I found the comments well worth a read as well.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: mspym on February 02, 2018, 02:04:04 AM
A star for me please - no fabric or patterns bought AND I have done some foundational thinking about my wardrobe and realised there is a definite hole for two of the three patterns that I am halfway through making.

Astatine- thanks for the fantasy self link, that is both intriguing and a useful tool.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: Poundwise on February 02, 2018, 06:50:29 AM
You folks have really hit it on the head about the aspirational aspect. Thank you for the fantasy self article! My fantasy self is a creative who surrounds herself with beautiful tasteful objects that she crafted herself. But in reality, I'm mostly an expert shopper, with my storage space bulging with craft materials such that my home is getting so cluttered that the net effect is a minus to beauty rather than a plus.

There's also the "pretty things" aspect.  It's really hard to resist the urge to collect pretty shiny things... all those lovely compact tins of tea, the sparkling stones in the jewelry, the colorful soft yarn and bright fabrics.

And lifejoy, you are absolutely right about leaving a great review for the yarn shop!  I will do so right away.  And maybe I'll teach a friend or two how to knit so as to leave the world at par for yarn buyers.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: frontstepdesign on February 02, 2018, 07:34:21 AM
There's a meme or two traveling around to the effect that "buying craft supplies" and "crafting" are two SEPARATE hobbies.  I fear this has been true for me as well, and I am endeavoring to change. 

I saw a piece on an amazing house, whose interior and porch were covered in glittered decoration and pattern - all of which was done in schoolchild art materials, from the grocery store, in rural Mississippi.  (Said art was moved to an art museum in Wisconsin.)  It doesn't take much extra (money, stuff) to be creative.

https://misspreservation.com/2016/08/19/going-inside-loy-bowlins-beautiful-holy-jewel-home/
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: Rosy on February 02, 2018, 12:37:23 PM
I didn't sign up for this challenge but I'm still reading along (I suspect there is something I need from this thread, though).

I think a lot of pins are similar because they are aspirational things:  crafting and sewing supplies - because we want to be creative and do all those Pinteresty things; books - because we want to be educated well-red; outdoor gear - because we want to be outdoorsy.  It's the same with my horse stuff - because I want to be a better rider, but of course buying matchy breeches and saddle pads don't do that; buying riding lessons and practicing as much as possible does that.


This is from a minimalist blog, not a not-shopping blog, but I love this concept of a fantasy self (http://www.missminimalist.com/2011/08/declutter-your-fantasy-self/). I came across this blog post a few years ago and still find it a really useful concept to work out what I actually need and want in terms of physical items, but also helps steer to what I want to be doing, rather than what I think I should be doing to live up to a fantasy self.

It might be relevant to some of you in this challenge. And lifejoy, if you want something to read, I found the comments well worth a read as well.

Great link, thanks, @Astatine! I think part of decluttering, letting go or re-evaluating your gazingus pins is about entering another phase of your life. You are breaking with old habits, we grow, we reinvent ourselves, we move on - it is a natural process.
If we stay static and unchanged we end up mired in old habits that no longer serve us well, at their worst these unchecked behaviors may do serious damage to our health or destroy our financial lives.
Change is invigorating and letting go when you know you are ready is highly satisfying, but it is not easy and might take more time than we like to tackle the disposal of a collection.
Age and circumstances, environment and your health are all factors.

All change requires a good look at ourselves and our actions. It begs the question: who is this person? and who do I want to be? Not always comfortable, especially if you don't like what you see.
One day you wake up and something shifted and we start questioning ourselves and our values and desires and collections and indeed our very way of life.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: I'm a red panda on February 02, 2018, 05:39:05 PM
I'm reporting back to say that all the fabric my husband purchase is now in pillow form so no extra fabric was added to the craft room. Also the pillows really do help pull the room together. Although we spent nearly $120 on pillows but I guess it's a hell of a lot cheaper than the 600 that was recommended
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: JanetJackson on February 02, 2018, 06:22:34 PM
Reporting back, I STILL have not touched an energy drink!  I have no idea how I am doing it.
I also joined a new gym a few weeks ago that has a sport and energy drink cooler RIGHT AT THE FRONT and I haven't even caved.  How?!?!  Yay!
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: Inkedup on February 02, 2018, 07:46:51 PM
But now Iím looking at and appreciating what I already have and am enjoying recovering some more space and organization in my tea cabinet, so that I can see and enjoy what I have.  I have no intention of cutting out tea entirely, or even cutting back on my consumption.  I just need to be paying as much attention to those purchases as I do to other stuff - I needed to break that ďautomatic preapprovalĒ cycle.

Bingo. I've been on autopilot where acquiring tea is concerned because it has replaced the more costly daily habit of buying beverages in to-go cups during the workday. The justification feels weird now because even a steady rate of consumption won't make a dent in what's in the cabinet. Now that I'm no longer contemplating the next purchase, it's much easier to relax and enjoy what's in my cup instead of experiencing this adrenaline-fueled thought that, "This is good. I should buy another pack."
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: lifejoy on February 03, 2018, 04:22:56 AM
But now I’m looking at and appreciating what I already have and am enjoying recovering some more space and organization in my tea cabinet, so that I can see and enjoy what I have.  I have no intention of cutting out tea entirely, or even cutting back on my consumption.  I just need to be paying as much attention to those purchases as I do to other stuff - I needed to break that “automatic preapproval” cycle.

Bingo. I've been on autopilot where acquiring tea is concerned because it has replaced the more costly daily habit of buying beverages in to-go cups during the workday. The justification feels weird now because even a steady rate of consumption won't make a dent in what's in the cabinet. Now that I'm no longer contemplating the next purchase, it's much easier to relax and enjoy what's in my cup instead of experiencing this adrenaline-fueled thought that, "This is good. I should buy another pack."

+1 to enjoying what I have now, because acquiring more has been taken off the table. It has shifted my focus onto what I have instead of what I want.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: alleykat on February 03, 2018, 04:46:27 AM
I had to buy 3 skincare items in January, two derm prescribed.  But no makeup.  So, one month down. I realize this thread is NO purchases but going forward I should be able to keep to none unless absolutely necessary. Skincare does get used up but I should be good for the rest of the year.

Still, so far, so good. And I am thrilled with no makeup purchases at all.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: zeli2033 on February 03, 2018, 06:57:18 AM
Another thing I've noticed: we have a lot of people with identical gazingus pins. Isn't that interesting? I think some things lend themselves to collections better than others. But I wonder what it is about books, tea, crafting, jewellery, and junk food that make us addicted and crave more more more? Is it simply variety? FOMO? (Fear of missing out). Advertising? Hmm. I welcome your thoughts.

For me, books are escapism. My "gazingus pin drug of choice" is of the fictional variety for the most part*. As a kid, they were my main coping skill to get away from a less than ideal home life. As I got older and life got better, I continued using it as a coping skill but for avoidance of smaller things like the emotions felt after a hard day at work. Or I bought books/read simply to make me feel differently than however I felt before I picked up the book, good or bad.

Books still represent a means to live a different life which is silly because I like my life especially now that I've been working to craft the one I really want. It just seems like my autopilot is still on ("hey, buy that book so the next time you feel [insert emotion] you have another world to jump into").

Hmmmm.

*Less intense is my desire for books to better myself. I certainly do buy books for my "fantasy self" as well but the internal alarm doesn't sound as readily or loudly as it does when I'm perusing fiction.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: RetiredAt63 on February 03, 2018, 07:55:10 AM
I first read about the fantasy self on a decluttering blog.  That certainly opened my eyes, I decluttered several fantasy selves after that.  Once my house is sold about 98% of my gardening books will be, not exactly fantasy books, but no-longer-relevant-to-my renter's-life books.  And they will go.  To be honest, half of them could probably go now.  And 95% of my grubby clothes will also be gone when I am no longer gardening.  Frugalwoods has it right when she posts about all the "stuff" you need for rural living.

Hm, about 80% of the blouses in my closet could go too, they do not fit my retired lifestyle at all.  I think I have kept them just so that when prospective purchasers look in the closets they will see clothes.

I too used fiction (especially science fiction) as an escape when I was a child and especially a teenager.  I am so glad I am not a teenager any more.  Although I wish I still had my teenage body.  ;-)
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: lifejoy on February 03, 2018, 10:17:31 AM
Ok, pretty proud of myself right now! A best bud sent me a link of a purse saying “I bet you’d like this!”. Well guess what? I LOVE it. It’s everything I’m looking for! AND it was on sale. Whaaaaat.

But I decided that purses and bags count as clothing. So I did not buy!

And then today, DH says: if you want jewellery for Valentine’s Day, you can have anything you want as long as it’s under $1000. WHAT. Old me, 2017 me, would’ve been ecstatic! 2018 me demurely mumbled that that would not be necessary and maybe he could just make me a delicious meal. Ha! Who am I??? I don’t even recognize myself!

But suffice to say that I am staying strong :)
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: Serendip on February 03, 2018, 10:36:21 AM
Ok, pretty proud of myself right now! A best bud sent me a link of a purse saying ďI bet youíd like this!Ē. Well guess what? I LOVE it. Itís everything Iím looking for! AND it was on sale. Whaaaaat.

But I decided that purses and bags count as clothing. So I did not buy!

And then today, DH says: if you want jewellery for Valentineís Day, you can have anything you want as long as itís under $1000. WHAT. Old me, 2017 me, wouldíve been ecstatic! 2018 me demurely mumbled that that would not be necessary and maybe he could just make me a delicious meal. Ha! Who am I??? I donít even recognize myself!

But suffice to say that I am staying strong :)

Worth feeling proud about!  Congrats: it's like watching yourself transform right before your own eyes (and ours, ha)

(and also JanetJackson with no energy drinks) so fantastic!

Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: lifejoy on February 03, 2018, 10:46:02 AM
Yes! Janet, Tris, and Laura - you guys are doing great!!!

Serendip, I like that. Thinking of it like a transformation. Very cool way to picture it. Who will I be by the end of 2018? Wait and see!

I’m still in shock that DH offered jewellery. He would typically never go for that! Good thing I have such steady resolve, lol ;)

Gahhhhh
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: lifejoy on February 03, 2018, 10:46:45 AM
PS - I will catch up on stars for Janet etc once I’m at a laptop. My iPhone and Tapatalk doesn’t let me do the stars :)
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: MaybeBabyMustache on February 03, 2018, 01:59:08 PM
I bought two sets of gift cards today (my gazingus pin). My specific requirement is that I cannot buy gift cards unless I have an immediate purpose for them. (In the US, you can often get promotional credit by purchasing gift cards). I bought a Home Depot gift card (which will be used today) & earned a $45 Starbucks gift card. I also bought $100 of Uber credit, which generated a $20 grocery store gift card. I use Uber to & from the airport for work trips & get reimbursed. I've spent through all of my Christmas Uber credits, so refilled.

I am giving myself a pass on this, as both will be almost immediately used. The $20 reward for grocery store credit is an awesome win. The starbucks one is high value, but I would have passed unless we needed the Home Depot money for today. I use Starbucks only when traveling.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: HappierAtHome on February 03, 2018, 04:49:56 PM
Ok, pretty proud of myself right now! A best bud sent me a link of a purse saying ďI bet youíd like this!Ē. Well guess what? I LOVE it. Itís everything Iím looking for! AND it was on sale. Whaaaaat.

But I decided that purses and bags count as clothing. So I did not buy!

And then today, DH says: if you want jewellery for Valentineís Day, you can have anything you want as long as itís under $1000. WHAT. Old me, 2017 me, wouldíve been ecstatic! 2018 me demurely mumbled that that would not be necessary and maybe he could just make me a delicious meal. Ha! Who am I??? I donít even recognize myself!

But suffice to say that I am staying strong :)

Amazing!!
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: RetiredAt63 on February 03, 2018, 06:19:45 PM
Congratulations to everyone growing their willpower.

I had a potential activity today that involved an hour+ drive each way in -15C weather, where there would have been masses of lovely tempting fibre.  I stayed home.  I have to admit most years I would have gone for the socializing, but I am not feeling very social at the moment, so staying home was not a big sacrifice.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: mspym on February 03, 2018, 07:45:00 PM
Not adding more seems to be inspiring me to clear out the old from my life - Another pile of clothes to take to the opshop. More books moved to the little free libraries nearby.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: lifejoy on February 03, 2018, 10:40:29 PM
Not adding more seems to be inspiring me to clear out the old from my life - Another pile of clothes to take to the opshop. More books moved to the little free libraries nearby.

I am feeling this way, too!
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: HappierAtHome on February 03, 2018, 11:02:41 PM
Not adding more seems to be inspiring me to clear out the old from my life - Another pile of clothes to take to the opshop. More books moved to the little free libraries nearby.

I am feeling this way, too!

Yes! Me too! I love it.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: chaskavitch on February 04, 2018, 06:42:53 AM
I think it is interesting that we have such a variety of pins, AND that there are still so many overlaps.  Personally, I don't think I have a single piece of jewelry that cost more that $30 besides my wedding ring.  I can't even imagine what I would spend $1000 on - I wouldn't have space for all the $20 earrings I could buy :)

However, my crossfit gym is selling shirts for the 2018 Crossfit Open, and they're only $20, and I am weirdly attached to having lots of workout shirts.  I only wear like 4 of the 15 or 20 I have now.  It's a mixture of color preferences, how they fit while I'm a little heavier than I used to be, and style for crossfit vs yoga or rock climbing, but I obviously don't need ANOTHER workout shirt. 

But I really really want it.  /sigh
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: lifejoy on February 04, 2018, 09:08:34 AM
I think it is interesting that we have such a variety of pins, AND that there are still so many overlaps.  Personally, I don't think I have a single piece of jewelry that cost more that $30 besides my wedding ring.  I can't even imagine what I would spend $1000 on - I wouldn't have space for all the $20 earrings I could buy :)

However, my crossfit gym is selling shirts for the 2018 Crossfit Open, and they're only $20, and I am weirdly attached to having lots of workout shirts.  I only wear like 4 of the 15 or 20 I have now.  It's a mixture of color preferences, how they fit while I'm a little heavier than I used to be, and style for crossfit vs yoga or rock climbing, but I obviously don't need ANOTHER workout shirt. 

But I really really want it.  /sigh


Haha my dad made a comment about the cost of jewellery and then I asked him how much he’s spent on beer in his lifetime. That made him shaddup and think! We all have our thing that we think is worth the cost. (I almost never drink. My beer money goes towards jewellery! Or used to...)
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: Rosy on February 04, 2018, 10:35:46 AM
Ok, pretty proud of myself right now! A best bud sent me a link of a purse saying ďI bet youíd like this!Ē. Well guess what? I LOVE it. Itís everything Iím looking for! AND it was on sale. Whaaaaat.

But I decided that purses and bags count as clothing. So I did not buy!

And then today, DH says: if you want jewellery for Valentineís Day, you can have anything you want as long as itís under $1000. WHAT. Old me, 2017 me, wouldíve been ecstatic! 2018 me demurely mumbled that that would not be necessary and maybe he could just make me a delicious meal. Ha! Who am I??? I donít even recognize myself!

But suffice to say that I am staying strong :)

An extra sparkly star for lifejoy please:)
We had the exact same conversation and I too choked a little bit - I think we are not quite fluent in this new language yet:)
Feb - so far not even tempted, mostly because I keep focusing more and more on my upcoming trip, so my attention is pleasantly engaged elsewhere.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: lifejoy on February 04, 2018, 11:59:34 AM
Ok, pretty proud of myself right now! A best bud sent me a link of a purse saying “I bet you’d like this!”. Well guess what? I LOVE it. It’s everything I’m looking for! AND it was on sale. Whaaaaat.

But I decided that purses and bags count as clothing. So I did not buy!

And then today, DH says: if you want jewellery for Valentine’s Day, you can have anything you want as long as it’s under $1000. WHAT. Old me, 2017 me, would’ve been ecstatic! 2018 me demurely mumbled that that would not be necessary and maybe he could just make me a delicious meal. Ha! Who am I??? I don’t even recognize myself!

But suffice to say that I am staying strong :)

An extra sparkly star for lifejoy please:)
We had the exact same conversation and I too choked a little bit - I think we are not quite fluent in this new language yet:)
Feb - so far not even tempted, mostly because I keep focusing more and more on my upcoming trip, so my attention is pleasantly engaged elsewhere.

Solidarity!!!
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: Laura33 on February 04, 2018, 01:04:13 PM
Not adding more seems to be inspiring me to clear out the old from my life - Another pile of clothes to take to the opshop. More books moved to the little free libraries nearby.

I am feeling this way, too!

Yes!!  I am now also working through the collection of half-used cosmetics samples and products -- I don't wear much makeup, so those things tend to stick around forever, and I have just decided I am not buying more of that until I get rid of what I have.  Not a gazingus pin, though, as that has piled up through sheer laziness and lack of interest.  ;-)

@lifejoy:  congrats!  What a HUGE win!!!

One more little bag of tea gone here, too -- one of those that I hadn't finished because I didn't really love it, but I just sucked it up and drank it, and now I don't have to think about it or waste cabinet space on it any more.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: mspym on February 05, 2018, 01:34:27 AM
Not adding more seems to be inspiring me to clear out the old from my life - Another pile of clothes to take to the opshop. More books moved to the little free libraries nearby.

I am feeling this way, too!

Yes!!  I am now also working through the collection of half-used cosmetics samples and products -- I don't wear much makeup, so those things tend to stick around forever, and I have just decided I am not buying more of that until I get rid of what I have.  Not a gazingus pin, though, as that has piled up through sheer laziness and lack of interest.  ;-)

@lifejoy:  congrats!  What a HUGE win!!!

One more little bag of tea gone here, too -- one of those that I hadn't finished because I didn't really love it, but I just sucked it up and drank it, and now I don't have to think about it or waste cabinet space on it any more.

@Laura33 I've been slowly throwing out all my halfused makeup and taking the random samples on trips to get rid of them. 

Amazing how inertia keeps you from removing things you haven't touched in YEARS. Once you start looking, it's *everywhere*
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: I'm a red panda on February 05, 2018, 07:06:37 AM
I recently gave nearly my entire collection of hotel toiletries to the food bank. We stay at really nice hotels for work- so these are often high end products, and it is hard to part with them.  I kept a few of my favorites for the guest bath, poured my absolute favorites into a larger bottle for my bathroom, and gave away the rest.

It was shockingly hard to part with free toiletries.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: Inkedup on February 05, 2018, 11:39:43 AM
However, my crossfit gym is selling shirts for the 2018 Crossfit Open, and they're only $20, and I am weirdly attached to having lots of workout shirts.  I only wear like 4 of the 15 or 20 I have now.  It's a mixture of color preferences, how they fit while I'm a little heavier than I used to be, and style for crossfit vs yoga or rock climbing, but I obviously don't need ANOTHER workout shirt. 

But I really really want it.  /sigh

If you find yourself starting to cave, just think: All those other now-unworn tops were wants at some point along the way. Will it really make you happy to add another one to the pile?
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: diapasoun on February 05, 2018, 12:09:01 PM
I didn't sign up for this challenge but I'm still reading along (I suspect there is something I need from this thread, though).

I think a lot of pins are similar because they are aspirational things:  crafting and sewing supplies - because we want to be creative and do all those Pinteresty things; books - because we want to be educated well-red; outdoor gear - because we want to be outdoorsy.  It's the same with my horse stuff - because I want to be a better rider, but of course buying matchy breeches and saddle pads don't do that; buying riding lessons and practicing as much as possible does that.


This is from a minimalist blog, not a not-shopping blog, but I love this concept of a fantasy self (http://www.missminimalist.com/2011/08/declutter-your-fantasy-self/). I came across this blog post a few years ago and still find it a really useful concept to work out what I actually need and want in terms of physical items, but also helps steer to what I want to be doing, rather than what I think I should be doing to live up to a fantasy self.

It might be relevant to some of you in this challenge. And lifejoy, if you want something to read, I found the comments well worth a read as well.

Great link, thanks, @Astatine! I think part of decluttering, letting go or re-evaluating your gazingus pins is about entering another phase of your life. You are breaking with old habits, we grow, we reinvent ourselves, we move on - it is a natural process.
If we stay static and unchanged we end up mired in old habits that no longer serve us well, at their worst these unchecked behaviors may do serious damage to our health or destroy our financial lives.
Change is invigorating and letting go when you know you are ready is highly satisfying, but it is not easy and might take more time than we like to tackle the disposal of a collection.
Age and circumstances, environment and your health are all factors.

All change requires a good look at ourselves and our actions. It begs the question: who is this person? and who do I want to be? Not always comfortable, especially if you don't like what you see.
One day you wake up and something shifted and we start questioning ourselves and our values and desires and collections and indeed our very way of life.

I just wanted to pop in and say how much I've enjoyed the discussion on this thread about why gazingus pins are gazingus pins for us -- it's such a good read and food for thought.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: formerlydivorcedmom on February 05, 2018, 02:27:21 PM
I want to add a second gazingus pin - candles.   I will not buy another candle this year.

I finished one over the weekend and went to my stash to pull out another one.  OMG I have a lot of candles - and that's after I "decluttered" the candle cabinet last summer!  This time, I grabbed one of the "beautiful" ones that I've had for years and refused to burn because it was sooo pretty.  It doesn't look pretty hidden in the stupid cabinet in the laundry room.  Now it will fulfill it's purpose in life and make me happy looking at it (and smelling it) in my living room.

As for why certain objects become gazingus pins...I have an overactive brain.  If I don't give it something to do, it goes nuts thinking about all kinds of crap....like a three-hour spell pondering why certain words are spelled one way and other words are spelled another way.  Or I start doing massive house projects because I need to be active in some way.  I can't turn it off...except with books.  I love to escape into other worlds.  I read voraciously (I've finished 16 books so far in 2018 and am halfway through three others - which means I'm off my normal pace), and I reread voraciously.  It's easier to have the books here with me than go to the library, which might be closed or might not have the exact book I want to read right at this moment.

 [This is not a new thing.  My tiny hometown opened its first library when I was 15.  The children's section was literally 90% books I donated since I had outgrown them.  Once I hauled them to the library, I still had 1,000 books in my bedroom, and I could find whichever one I wanted within 2 minutes.]

Candles are just pretty, and they smell good.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: chaskavitch on February 05, 2018, 02:59:13 PM
I want to add a second gazingus pin - candles.   I will not buy another candle this year.

I finished one over the weekend and went to my stash to pull out another one.  OMG I have a lot of candles - and that's after I "decluttered" the candle cabinet last summer!  This time, I grabbed one of the "beautiful" ones that I've had for years and refused to burn because it was sooo pretty.  It doesn't look pretty hidden in the stupid cabinet in the laundry room.  Now it will fulfill it's purpose in life and make me happy looking at it (and smelling it) in my living room.

As for why certain objects become gazingus pins...I have an overactive brain.  If I don't give it something to do, it goes nuts thinking about all kinds of crap....like a three-hour spell pondering why certain words are spelled one way and other words are spelled another way.  Or I start doing massive house projects because I need to be active in some way.  I can't turn it off...except with books.  I love to escape into other worlds.  I read voraciously (I've finished 16 books so far in 2018 and am halfway through three others - which means I'm off my normal pace), and I reread voraciously.  It's easier to have the books here with me than go to the library, which might be closed or might not have the exact book I want to read right at this moment.

 [This is not a new thing.  My tiny hometown opened its first library when I was 15.  The children's section was literally 90% books I donated since I had outgrown them.  Once I hauled them to the library, I still had 1,000 books in my bedroom, and I could find whichever one I wanted within 2 minutes.]

Candles are just pretty, and they smell good.

I am so impressed that you've read 16 books this year!  Nice.  I read quickly (especially compared to DH who reads, like, one book a year), but I think I've only read 5 or 6.  Does your library do e-books?  I like reserving the ones I want, and then being able to download them immediately when they email me that they're available instead of having to make a trip all the way to the library :)  The selection isn't always great, but it's a nice supplement to your zillions of books at home.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: chaskavitch on February 05, 2018, 03:13:42 PM
Dang it.  I just realized that I forgot to put my clothes swap on my Google calendar, because it has moved dates twice since I originally accepted the FB invite.  We're going to be out of town on our anniversary trip with friends that weekend :(  I was looking forward to it so much!  It's hosted by my pastor's wife, and this is the 11th annual swap - I've made all 10 of the previous ones. 

Now I'm really sad, and all DH said was "Well, the calendar was free when we made our plans.  You wanna bail on the trip?"  /sigh.  Just commiseration, dude, come on.  That's all I want.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: formerlydivorcedmom on February 06, 2018, 08:21:17 AM
@chaskavitch , I haven't gotten into ebooks yet.  I have a Nook, but it's probably sitting in a drawer with a dead battery.  I should probably learn to like it.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: lifejoy on February 06, 2018, 08:56:42 AM
Dang it.  I just realized that I forgot to put my clothes swap on my Google calendar, because it has moved dates twice since I originally accepted the FB invite.  We're going to be out of town on our anniversary trip with friends that weekend :(  I was looking forward to it so much!  It's hosted by my pastor's wife, and this is the 11th annual swap - I've made all 10 of the previous ones. 

Now I'm really sad, and all DH said was "Well, the calendar was free when we made our plans.  You wanna bail on the trip?"  /sigh.  Just commiseration, dude, come on.  That's all I want.

I can show you commiseration! That SUCKS!!!!!! But I bet you get to attend the next one :)
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: zeli2033 on February 06, 2018, 09:11:33 AM
I want to add a second gazingus pin - candles.   I will not buy another candle this year.

I finished one over the weekend and went to my stash to pull out another one.  OMG I have a lot of candles - and that's after I "decluttered" the candle cabinet last summer!  This time, I grabbed one of the "beautiful" ones that I've had for years and refused to burn because it was sooo pretty.  It doesn't look pretty hidden in the stupid cabinet in the laundry room.  Now it will fulfill it's purpose in life and make me happy looking at it (and smelling it) in my living room.

As for why certain objects become gazingus pins...I have an overactive brain.  If I don't give it something to do, it goes nuts thinking about all kinds of crap....like a three-hour spell pondering why certain words are spelled one way and other words are spelled another way.  Or I start doing massive house projects because I need to be active in some way.  I can't turn it off...except with books.  I love to escape into other worlds.  I read voraciously (I've finished 16 books so far in 2018 and am halfway through three others - which means I'm off my normal pace), and I reread voraciously.  It's easier to have the books here with me than go to the library, which might be closed or might not have the exact book I want to read right at this moment.

 [This is not a new thing.  My tiny hometown opened its first library when I was 15.  The children's section was literally 90% books I donated since I had outgrown them.  Once I hauled them to the library, I still had 1,000 books in my bedroom, and I could find whichever one I wanted within 2 minutes.]

Candles are just pretty, and they smell good.

I am so impressed that you've read 16 books this year!  Nice.  I read quickly (especially compared to DH who reads, like, one book a year), but I think I've only read 5 or 6.  Does your library do e-books?  I like reserving the ones I want, and then being able to download them immediately when they email me that they're available instead of having to make a trip all the way to the library :)  The selection isn't always great, but it's a nice supplement to your zillions of books at home.

This. This is my new favorite thing. I have so many ebooks on hold and itís like my birthday each time one is ready for me to read. I can download onto my phone and anytime I have a few spare minutes or want to zone out over lunch at work or something, I can pull up the book and read a few chapters. Best thing ever.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: formerlydivorcedmom on February 08, 2018, 01:48:31 PM
Win for me!

Last night I finished the first book in a series.  It was sooo good, and I wanted to read the next three. 

Normally I'd place an Amazon order and get them this weekend.  Instead, I ordered them from the library...and they'll be in my branch on Saturday.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: Rosy on February 08, 2018, 05:18:37 PM
Sweet win ^^^

Checking in - ALMOST caved just now, saved by a snafu when I tried to order. I took it as a sign that I need to stay on the straight and narrow.
Even the universe is telling me to stop!:)

Sigh - not really happy with myself and not really happy that the order didn't go through either.
Damn, I thought I was doing so well - guess I deceived myself.
I am still in danger of caving.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: lifejoy on February 08, 2018, 06:25:41 PM
Win for me!

Last night I finished the first book in a series.  It was sooo good, and I wanted to read the next three. 

Normally I'd place an Amazon order and get them this weekend.  Instead, I ordered them from the library...and they'll be in my branch on Saturday.

That is all kinds of excellent! Not only are you reading for *free*, but you are also helping your local library by beefing up their statistics! Really helpful for when they request funding and/or need stats to prove their worth. Go, you!!!
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: lifejoy on February 08, 2018, 06:26:35 PM
Sweet win ^^^

Checking in - ALMOST caved just now, saved by a snafu when I tried to order. I took it as a sign that I need to stay on the straight and narrow.
Even the universe is telling me to stop!:)

Sigh - not really happy with myself and not really happy that the order didn't go through either.
Damn, I thought I was doing so well - guess I deceived myself.
I am still in danger of caving.

It takes time. Be kind to yourself! You’re doing really really well! And I think it WAS a sign from the universe ;)

The universe is rooting for you!
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: horsepoor on February 08, 2018, 09:33:01 PM
Well, I won't be getting a star for February.  I rode after work yesterday and my horse got too sweaty for me to fully dry her out.  Luckily, it was warm enough to leave her a bit damp and naked, as I couldn't put her waterproof sheet on, trapping the residual sweat, and her cooler isn't safe to leave on overnight.  So today I ordered her a moisture-wicking sheet that will be safe to leave on overnight so she can finish drying and not get chilled after a workout. Options were:  using my larger horse's sheet, which she would get lots of poo on due to it hanging off her arse, or me spending an extra 30-45 minutes at the barn getting her thoroughly dry after each ride.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: CrustyBadger on February 09, 2018, 05:26:53 AM
Win for me -- yesterday I had a flat tire after work and took my car to a tire shop.  I was hungry and thirsty and they had a snack machine right there for me tempting me with sodas and snacks.  I almost rationalized buying something saying I had had a difficult afternoon, I was tired, and I said my Gazingus Pin was "vending machine snacks at work" not "vending machine snacks after work" so.. technicality.

But, I took some long drinks of water from the water fountain and didn't buy anything.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: Rosy on February 09, 2018, 06:46:00 AM
@ crusty, now that's fortitude! Yay for your win - staying strong in the face of temptation amidst an "I deserve it" moment. Kudos!
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: Rosy on February 09, 2018, 07:09:19 AM
Did I mention that the ring I tried to order last night is now following me around on the Internet? Every time I open up a new page - the picture of that damn ring pops up - that is just cruel and unusual punishment!

@ horsepoor - interesting dilemma. My first inclination is to say 45 minutes of your time saved several times this year is worth it. Preventing the horse from illness is more important than anything. That would be a necessity.
However, you can do without that moisture wicking blanket and do the work.

But then - we are trying to flex our hardcore MMM muscles in just this one area of our lives. Definitely not an easy feat.

Here is an evil suggestion: To drive the point home we could give out cream puffs at the end of the month to those of us who do not make it that month? I almost qualified for one last night - it is soo easy to give in, almost an automatic reaction. I really do want to break that habit.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: lifejoy on February 09, 2018, 07:58:42 AM
Did I mention that the ring I tried to order last night is now following me around on the Internet? Every time I open up a new page - the picture of that damn ring pops up - that is just cruel and unusual punishment!

@ horsepoor - interesting dilemma. My first inclination is to say 45 minutes of your time saved several times this year is worth it. Preventing the horse from illness is more important than anything. That would be a necessity.
However, you can do without that moisture wicking blanket and do the work.

But then - we are trying to flex our hardcore MMM muscles in just this one area of our lives. Definitely not an easy feat.

Here is an evil suggestion: To drive the point home we could give out cream puffs at the end of the month to those of us who do not make it that month? I almost qualified for one last night - it is soo easy to give in, almost an automatic reaction. I really do want to break that habit.

Gah! Rosy! How cruel that the ring is following you! I have had that happen to me. If you open up a “private” or “incognito” internet window, will it go away? I’m just hypothesizing.

Rosy, sometimes I pretend I’ve bought the ring. The itch to buy it disappears (in a pretend way) and I ask myself: has my life changed? Nope. I just have another ring in the drawer and I’ve lost that addictive urge. Going through that mental process kind of wakes me up.

And I think you make good points about how easy it is to give in.

I’ve been having leg pain and my massage therapist told me that wearing shoes with proper support (like running shoes for walking) could help. I’m not sure what to do. My ability to get size 9 running shoes for free is... limited.

Hmm. Maybe I can wear my hiking shoes. I will have to do some research.

As far as horsepoor is concerned, my initial reaction was, “its for the good of the horse! How could she say no?” But after thinking some more and reading your comment Rosy, I think there could always be an excuse like that. Similar to parents who buy stuff for their children. Sometimes it’s a true need (food!) and sometimes not (toys). Horsepoor, I can see this will be a good challenge for you. What are you hoping to get out of 2018? Have you added up how much you’re spending on your horse? I suspect it could be more than you realize.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: lifejoy on February 09, 2018, 08:02:22 AM
Oh, I also wanted to tell you guys:

Not spending money on jewellery and clothes has freed up a lot of my disposable fun money. It allowed me to commit a random act of kindness yesterday. It was really great to realize: hmm. Instead of a new pair of jeans I got to make that person’s day. This kind of feels better than a new pair of jeans...

Definitely this is an awareness and realization process for me! And it’s only February.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: CrustyBadger on February 09, 2018, 08:45:35 AM
Life joy, if there were a medical reason I needed to eat Doritos and coke, Iíd search for the Best Buy in bulk and optimize what I could, but count it as a need not a want. A single pair of proper tiring running shoes IMO does not count as a gazingus pin.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: lifejoy on February 09, 2018, 09:51:43 AM
Life joy, if there were a medical reason I needed to eat Doritos and coke, I’d search for the Best Buy in bulk and optimize what I could, but count it as a need not a want. A single pair of proper tiring running shoes IMO does not count as a gazingus pin.

Lol! Good one!!

Yeah, I’m thinking that it is not in line for my goals to stop spending that benefits my health. It’s the mindless fashion spending that I seek to challenge. I’m going to think on it a little more though.

Thanks for the laugh and the sound advice!!
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: lifejoy on February 09, 2018, 10:15:30 AM
Win for me -- yesterday I had a flat tire after work and took my car to a tire shop.  I was hungry and thirsty and they had a snack machine right there for me tempting me with sodas and snacks.  I almost rationalized buying something saying I had had a difficult afternoon, I was tired, and I said my Gazingus Pin was "vending machine snacks at work" not "vending machine snacks after work" so.. technicality.

But, I took some long drinks of water from the water fountain and didn't buy anything.

I'm intrigued, because January sounded pretty easy for you but I guess it is still requiring effort! I only mention that because of your comment about maybe needing to find a new gazingus pin to add. But I think this one is still a good challenge to cement :)
You're doing great! I try filling up on water in the middle of the night when I'm a bit hungry. I'm up at all hours breastfeeding my baby but the baby weight started falling off when I stopped eating at all hours, too! ;)

JanetJackson - added your star, finally! Formerlydivorcedmom - added candles to your list of gazingus pins. Hooray! You know what? I used to have a candle addiction, too! I had a *COLLECTION*. And it was beautiful. And then I realized that buying candles meant that I was literally setting fire to my money. Plus I was collecting candles much faster than I was using them. Bah. Not good!

Now when I get given candles or chocolates (things I'm not buying), I am delighted. Such a great gift. In the past, it was kind of a shrug and a mechanical *add to collection*. When I stop buying things for myself it makes receiving them as gifts so much more meaningful.

--

Food for thought: we are buying less gazingus pins. Or even zero gazingus pins! What are we creating room for? What values are we spending on instead? For me:

- Freedom (FIRE! Woot!)
- Giving (friends, strangers, charities)
- Space (by not adding to my clutter)
- Relationships (buying gifts and not having almost-fights with DH about stuff I want but don't have the fun money for)
- Confidence/security (happier with the clothes I have instead of always needing more more more)
- Health (spending my time cooking instead of online shopping)
- Time! (not spending so much shopping, buying and returning things)
- Modelling (showing my baby daughter that life is not all about consuming!)

I feel good that resisting my gazingus pins is making room in my life for me to focus on the things I TRULY value. What are you making room for in your life?
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: formerlydivorcedmom on February 09, 2018, 10:18:20 AM
You guys are doing so great - and it's lovely when the universe steps in to help.

@lifejoy, buy the shoes.  I just got back from the podiatrist, where I spent a wonderful $500 on X-rays and custom orthotics.  If I'd been wearing properly supportive shoes (cost =  $100), I wouldn't have had foot problems.  He literally took one look at my tennis shoes at my first appointment and said "'NO."  So I had to spend the $100 on the new shoes anyway...but I get the doctor bills on top of that.

Last night was Literacy Night at my son's school.  He had saved his allowance to buy books.  My husband showed me an awesome cookbook, which ended up on my credit card.  I got home and realized that cookbooks count as books.  Dammit.   Anyway, that's my 1 book for February.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: lifejoy on February 09, 2018, 10:31:02 AM
You guys are doing so great - and it's lovely when the universe steps in to help.

@lifejoy, buy the shoes.  I just got back from the podiatrist, where I spent a wonderful $500 on X-rays and custom orthotics.  If I'd been wearing properly supportive shoes (cost =  $100), I wouldn't have had foot problems.  He literally took one look at my tennis shoes at my first appointment and said "'NO."  So I had to spend the $100 on the new shoes anyway...but I get the doctor bills on top of that.

Last night was Literacy Night at my son's school.  He had saved his allowance to buy books.  My husband showed me an awesome cookbook, which ended up on my credit card.  I got home and realized that cookbooks count as books.  Dammit.   Anyway, that's my 1 book for February.

Yikes! Good cautionary tale about the footwear. Maybe running/walking shoes are more like athletic or sports wear, which is definitely not a gazingus pin category for me. Thanks for sharing your story :)

Also... the cookbook thing, I have so been there! The “oh yeah, I guess earrings are jewellery” realization of when you’re going through the motions and then realize you’re falling into Ann old habit. Yep. Good on you for realizing and committing! February is a short month, after all ;)
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: Rosy on February 09, 2018, 02:20:21 PM

Food for thought: we are buying less gazingus pins. Or even zero gazingus pins! What are we creating room for? What values are we spending on instead? For me:

- Freedom (FIRE! Woot!)
- Giving (friends, strangers, charities)
- Space (by not adding to my clutter)
- Relationships (buying gifts and not having almost-fights with DH about stuff I want but don't have the fun money for)
- Confidence/security (happier with the clothes I have instead of always needing more more more)
- Health (spending my time cooking instead of online shopping)
- Time! (not spending so much shopping, buying and returning things)
- Modelling (showing my baby daughter that life is not all about consuming!)

I feel good that resisting my gazingus pins is making room in my life for me to focus on the things I TRULY value. What are you making room for in your life?

I'm sure there is something in my life that I am making room for, but right now all I can see is that buying zero jewelry in 2018
1. keeps my finances intact.
2. makes it possible to reach my two goals for the year - trip and the savings goal.
3. gives me a bit of breathing room in my discretionary budget.

I am on a really tight budget, because of my two goals for this year and because I'm helping out a family member, so I have plenty of financial incentives to make it happen.
In other words, it is strengthening my focus and financial discipline - one may hope:)

"What values are we spending on instead?"
I am not spending on other things, rather I am prioritizing what I value most - FI - savings aka reaching that $50K goal in 2019!
Second, I am choosing a paid for trip over using my credit card (I will, but only to get the points - then I'll pay it from my savings) and over spending money on jewelry.

Given all that - it should be easy to do, but it is surprisingly hard and I do wonder if I can make it through the second month.
Self-sabotage and temptation must be first cousins:)

lifejoy - buy the shoes! There is nothing frivolous or spendy about buying a pair of shoes that are good for your health, your legs and probably your back too. Do some research.

Here is a site that may have better prices on your shoes than store retail - I plan on buying my hiking shoes there.
Be sure to check the reviews on your choices - I thought of going to the local store and trying them on, then get a much better sale price from this site.
www.sierratradingpost.com

Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: formerlydivorcedmom on February 09, 2018, 03:39:09 PM

Yikes! Good cautionary tale about the footwear. Maybe running/walking shoes are more like athletic or sports wear, which is definitely not a gazingus pin category for me. Thanks for sharing your story :)

In your case, new running shoes ought to go in the medical spending bucket.  It's an investment in your health.



Food for thought: we are buying less gazingus pins. Or even zero gazingus pins! What are we creating room for? What values are we spending on instead? For me:

- Freedom (FIRE! Woot!)
- Giving (friends, strangers, charities)
- Space (by not adding to my clutter)
- Relationships (buying gifts and not having almost-fights with DH about stuff I want but don't have the fun money for)
- Confidence/security (happier with the clothes I have instead of always needing more more more)
- Health (spending my time cooking instead of online shopping)
- Time! (not spending so much shopping, buying and returning things)
- Modelling (showing my baby daughter that life is not all about consuming!)

I feel good that resisting my gazingus pins is making room in my life for me to focus on the things I TRULY value. What are you making room for in your life?

For me, this challenge is about learning to be more mindful. 

I will always be a reader, I am just changing the way I do that.  I've done a good job of starting the decluttering process in my house over the last 6 months, since I discovered the KonMari method.  I want to take this time to be more intentional about everything that comes into my house.  If I can get to that level with the thing I am most passionate about, I feel like the rest with follow. And THAT means ...

less clutter ... which means
less stress
more appreciation for what I already have
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: MaybeBabyMustache on February 09, 2018, 03:44:26 PM
Like @formerlydivorcedmom my goal is to be more mindful. If I'm mindful of not buying gift cards that sit in my wallet for months at a time, I can put funds immediately to our unfunded 2018 goals (kids college extras + paying down vacation house mortgage).

I know that I get personally caught up in finding "the best deal" & get a high from said deal, but if I step back & consider it, it's actually not the best financial choice. Sometimes that's no boring, there's no accompanying high, and i just need to be able to think through & make the better decision.

Also, extra gift cards are just more clutter, & I often forget to use them, etc.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: CrustyBadger on February 09, 2018, 04:04:12 PM
Win for me -- yesterday I had a flat tire after work and took my car to a tire shop.  I was hungry and thirsty and they had a snack machine right there for me tempting me with sodas and snacks.  I almost rationalized buying something saying I had had a difficult afternoon, I was tired, and I said my Gazingus Pin was "vending machine snacks at work" not "vending machine snacks after work" so.. technicality.

But, I took some long drinks of water from the water fountain and didn't buy anything.

I'm intrigued, because January sounded pretty easy for you but I guess it is still requiring effort! I only mention that because of your comment about maybe needing to find a new gazingus pin to add. But I think this one is still a good challenge to cement :)
You're doing great! I try filling up on water in the middle of the night when I'm a bit hungry. I'm up at all hours breastfeeding my baby but the baby weight started falling off when I stopped eating at all hours, too! ;)

I still feel little twinges at work every now and then.. a little craving of something salty, or the boost of caffeine and sugar from a Coke.

I think the big difference between my Cokes and SNacks, versus other people's jewelry/books/fine teas, is that those things you chose you actually enjoy -- you value them, think they are worthwhile, just that you have too many of them.  (I think?)

Whereas I know these snacks are junk food, they are bad for me, I don't want to be eating them.  If I remember to pack a proper lunch, they don't tempt me at all.  They were just a bad habit.  I eat them for a boost, but know full well that after I eat and drink them I will just crash harder.

But man, at 4:30 after a long day of teaching and worrying about car  trouble it was hard to say no to a nice cold coke!  I did it again today when I went to pick up my car!
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: formerlydivorcedmom on February 09, 2018, 04:39:27 PM
Congrats for keeping on resisting, @CrustyBadger

I'm weaning myself off of soda again this month, as part of an eating plan to break the addiction to sugar.  I love my nice cold diet cokes.....and they are free at work....sigh.  I would have made it my gazingus pin, too, except soda is the only type of caffeine I drink, and there will occasionally be a day I need one to power through.   

Today I had to pretend to myself that I just had my teeth cleaned, so I don't want to stain them with soda or Dorito stains already.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: Poundwise on February 09, 2018, 07:58:45 PM
Good work, everyone!!

I was about to report that I had at last gone an entire month without a craft purchase, thus rightfully earning my star, when I suddenly recalled a purchase that I made in mid-January that I had completely forgotten within an hour of it happening!

A friend of mine mentioned that she needed some grommets put on a banner, and since I had some returns to make at the craft store I thought I would pick some up for her.  I had about 15 minutes to spare, so I charged through the store, making my return, grabbed the grommets, and then I picked up some colorful buttons that my daughter begged me for, and then on the way out of the store I snagged some sale rolls of ribbon!  And some other small stuff I don't even remember! 

In the end, it probably didn't cost much, as nothing was that expensive and I had a gift card (MaybeBabyMustache, I had GCs as a past gazingus pin!)  But really it is quite shocking, how little memory I have of the entire transaction! 

So it turns out my friend didn't need the grommets after all.   I was going to return them, but I think I had better just stop going into the store, since apparently I don't have anything approaching control when I get there. 
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: lifejoy on February 09, 2018, 09:45:23 PM
Good work, everyone!!

I was about to report that I had at last gone an entire month without a craft purchase, thus rightfully earning my star, when I suddenly recalled a purchase that I made in mid-January that I had completely forgotten within an hour of it happening!

A friend of mine mentioned that she needed some grommets put on a banner, and since I had some returns to make at the craft store I thought I would pick some up for her.  I had about 15 minutes to spare, so I charged through the store, making my return, grabbed the grommets, and then I picked up some colorful buttons that my daughter begged me for, and then on the way out of the store I snagged some sale rolls of ribbon!  And some other small stuff I don't even remember! 

In the end, it probably didn't cost much, as nothing was that expensive and I had a gift card (MaybeBabyMustache, I had GCs as a past gazingus pin!)  But really it is quite shocking, how little memory I have of the entire transaction! 

So it turns out my friend didn't need the grommets after all.   I was going to return them, but I think I had better just stop going into the store, since apparently I don't have anything approaching control when I get there.

It’s amazing, the sorts of things we do on autopilot!

Perhaps you could have someone return the grommets for you?

I recently returned some pants (purchased in December) and I had to put imaginary blinders on as I walked into the department store! I got $120 back and the lady was so nice, processed it as a return instead of store credit, even though it had been nearly two months... lol. Really psyched that I won’t be spending my 2018 life busy with returns. I definitely see unnecessary shopping and my habit of returning things as activities that take me away from my baby and my family and things I truly value.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: Serendip on February 10, 2018, 09:05:45 AM
So interesting to read everyone's updates :)

I found myself lost down the spiral of on-line book browing and almost purchased one this week. I realized I REALLY want to make it through this year without buying books (although I have 5 out from the library!), since I don't know when/if that has happened before.

Also please add me to the tea gazingus-pin group.

I was previously in denial but this morning saw a basket full of tea that I rarely touch. Been slowly working through my herbal collections (my sister is a herbalist so I have lovely selections of locally gathered plants..but the whole point is to use it and appreciate it). I love to make blended elixirs and concoctions but sometimes forget about the simple joy of a basic tea. Which is what I am enjoying this morning.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: diapasoun on February 10, 2018, 10:45:11 AM
Buying fewer books means...

1. More time to read my books because I'm shopping less
2. More appreciation for the books I already have.
3. More money to FI.
4. More space in my house, because books are also leaving.
5. Greater thoughtfulness about what brings happiness into my life and home.

@CrustyBadger I feel like I should join you at some point this year on a version of the snacks!gazingus pin, but I'm not quite there yet. My issue is dealing with junk food -- it's hard for me to resist. I'm currently pretty healthy, but that's likely because I'm still pretty young. I want to deal with any junk food issues before it becomes an issue, not after. So I've recently given myself a challenge: I only get junk food if I or a friend made it, or possibly on very special occasions (birthdays or big holidays). So I can make myself brownies, or if a friend makes cookies, I can have a cookie; but I can't dive into that bag of chips at D&D because those were bought from a store. It's definitely an ongoing process right now and not something I can do cold turkey yet (if only because I'm forgetful about it), but I hope that in a little bit I can join you in my version of this one.

Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: MaybeBabyMustache on February 10, 2018, 11:51:33 AM
Today is my birthday, & my husband got me a sparkly necklace. Disclaimer, we can afford this, & my husband is an amazing guy with great taste. I thanked him, hugged him & let him know that I'd really prefer something smaller, and/or to put that money towards a few nice dinners out together, etc. He's returning it, and no feelings were hurt. I know he loves to spoil me, but all I really need today, I have. Went for a run in the sunshine, he's doing the Costco run (yes!), he's picking up fancy cupcakes & champagne, the kids cleaned their rooms for my gift, and we're all happy & healthy.

Thought of all of you with the jewelry gazingus pins! Oh, & he also got me noise cancelling headphones for my international work trips. Mine are 12 years old, and are falling apart & no longer work. Definitely keeping those.

Life is funny. In my 20s, I would have LOVED a diamond necklace for my birthday. I'm so content & happy with the life I have now. (This is no judgment of anyone else who loves sparkly things, I have my own gazingus pins I assure you. ;-))
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: zeli2033 on February 10, 2018, 11:57:43 AM
I agree wholeheartedly on what diapasoun shared.

For me, not buying books this year also means:

1. Learning to practice patience. Just because I want it now doesn't mean I actually need to fulfill that desire at that instant. If I still want it in 11 months, I can easily have it. What I've found is that the internal alarm bells stop chiming so loudly once I delay fulfilling the desire for a new book. I consider it the practice I need as we work toward FIRE

2. Fostering a growing appreciation for my local library - both to check out books and in the joy I experience walking there, sometimes alone and sometimes with DH, and just browsing. Engaging with my local community more is already proving to be a huge positive and it's exactly what I want to make space and time for.




Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: Serendip on February 10, 2018, 12:02:00 PM
Today is my birthday, & my husband got me a sparkly necklace. Disclaimer, we can afford this, & my husband is an amazing guy with great taste. I thanked him, hugged him & let him know that I'd really prefer something smaller, and/or to put that money towards a few nice dinners out together, etc. He's returning it, and no feelings were hurt. I know he loves to spoil me, but all I really need today, I have. Went for a run in the sunshine, he's doing the Costco run (yes!), he's picking up fancy cupcakes & champagne, the kids cleaned their rooms for my gift, and we're all happy & healthy.

Thought of all of you with the jewelry gazingus pins! Oh, & he also got me noise cancelling headphones for my international work trips. Mine are 12 years old, and are falling apart & no longer work. Definitely keeping those.

Life is funny. In my 20s, I would have LOVED a diamond necklace for my birthday. I'm so content & happy with the life I have now. (This is no judgment of anyone else who loves sparkly things, I have my own gazingus pins I assure you. ;-))

HAPPY BIRTHDAY :)
enjoy the cupcakes and champagne..isn't it lovely to enjoy what we already own?!
have a great day (sparkly life vs. sparkly gift)

I think that's one the biggest reasons I strive to minimize accumulation: freeing up mindspace and homespace to enjoy the gifts I have, including the good people in life.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: lifejoy on February 10, 2018, 02:27:03 PM
Today is my birthday, &amp; my husband got me a sparkly necklace. Disclaimer, we can afford this, &amp; my husband is an amazing guy with great taste. I thanked him, hugged him &amp; let him know that I'd really prefer something smaller, and/or to put that money towards a few nice dinners out together, etc. He's returning it, and no feelings were hurt. I know he loves to spoil me, but all I really need today, I have. Went for a run in the sunshine, he's doing the Costco run (yes!), he's picking up fancy cupcakes &amp; champagne, the kids cleaned their rooms for my gift, and we're all happy &amp; healthy.

Thought of all of you with the jewelry gazingus pins! Oh, &amp; he also got me noise cancelling headphones for my international work trips. Mine are 12 years old, and are falling apart &amp; no longer work. Definitely keeping those.

Life is funny. In my 20s, I would have LOVED a diamond necklace for my birthday. I'm so content &amp; happy with the life I have now. (This is no judgment of anyone else who loves sparkly things, I have my own gazingus pins I assure you. ;-))

HAPPY BIRTHDAY :)
enjoy the cupcakes and champagne..isn't it lovely to enjoy what we already own?!
have a great day (sparkly life vs. sparkly gift)

I think that's one the biggest reasons I strive to minimize accumulation: freeing up mindspace and homespace to enjoy the gifts I have, including the good people in life.

Sparkly life vs sparkly gift! I love it!!!
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: MaybeBabyMustache on February 10, 2018, 02:59:16 PM
Today is my birthday, &amp; my husband got me a sparkly necklace. Disclaimer, we can afford this, &amp; my husband is an amazing guy with great taste. I thanked him, hugged him &amp; let him know that I'd really prefer something smaller, and/or to put that money towards a few nice dinners out together, etc. He's returning it, and no feelings were hurt. I know he loves to spoil me, but all I really need today, I have. Went for a run in the sunshine, he's doing the Costco run (yes!), he's picking up fancy cupcakes &amp; champagne, the kids cleaned their rooms for my gift, and we're all happy &amp; healthy.

Thought of all of you with the jewelry gazingus pins! Oh, &amp; he also got me noise cancelling headphones for my international work trips. Mine are 12 years old, and are falling apart &amp; no longer work. Definitely keeping those.

Life is funny. In my 20s, I would have LOVED a diamond necklace for my birthday. I'm so content &amp; happy with the life I have now. (This is no judgment of anyone else who loves sparkly things, I have my own gazingus pins I assure you. ;-))

HAPPY BIRTHDAY :)
enjoy the cupcakes and champagne..isn't it lovely to enjoy what we already own?!
have a great day (sparkly life vs. sparkly gift)

I think that's one the biggest reasons I strive to minimize accumulation: freeing up mindspace and homespace to enjoy the gifts I have, including the good people in life.

Sparkly life vs sparkly gift! I love it!!!

I will definitely remember this! Love that so much. thanks, Serendip!
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: mspym on February 10, 2018, 03:07:44 PM
So far it has been easier than expected - the line about BUYING CRAFT SUPPLIES and CRAFTING being two different hobbies is definitely holding true for me.  I just avoid the two places where I habitually go and removed a bookmark or two which has held the urge at bay. It has also eased the guilt at my unfinished sewing- at least I am not adding to the pile of unstarted/unfinished projects- even as I lose the mirage of "but *this* pattern will be different, this one I can whip up in 5 minutes and it will be flattering and not need adjustment and go with everything in my wardrobe..." which is a lie but permits me to walk away from challenges instead of flexing and getting stronger in my sewing.

So what I am gaining is
1- more money
2- more thoughtful consumption
3- improved skills and ability to tackle tougher projects by working through the hard parts of my current projects.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: horsepoor on February 10, 2018, 10:16:36 PM
As far as horsepoor is concerned, my initial reaction was, ďits for the good of the horse! How could she say no?Ē But after thinking some more and reading your comment Rosy, I think there could always be an excuse like that. Similar to parents who buy stuff for their children. Sometimes itís a true need (food!) and sometimes not (toys). Horsepoor, I can see this will be a good challenge for you. What are you hoping to get out of 2018? Have you added up how much youíre spending on your horse? I suspect it could be more than you realize.

Good question!  What I really want to avoid is buying stuff because "oh, it's a good deal and nice to have an extra! or oh, I'll need this for a hypothetical show I might go to in six months, or oh, wouldn't my horse look cute decked out in matching teal accessories!!"

I spend enough on my horses (I have three) to make any self-respecting Mustachian crap their thrifted jeans, but I'm OK with that.  I just don't want to buy stuff that doesn't actually further my goals, or will sit and gather dust.  So I did buy the sheet ($61.98 with shipping) because it's something I have an actual use for right now.  If I had it already, it would have come in handy today when my mare was sweaty after our riding lesson and it was windy and 36F (she wore my other horse's too-big wool sheet for the trailer ride home).  I will note that I refrained from buying a matching one for my other horse, who is away at reform school and won't be back until summer, when such an item will be unnecessary.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: WootWoot on February 11, 2018, 11:21:26 AM
I could have written this! Always on the hunt for good online art workshops.

Good idea!
I am giving up art workshops for the year.
Even though I studied arts and have taken many workshops--I always feel compelled to learn something new (even when I am not practicing half the things I would like to practice)

And books..no buying books (the library and our personal library will have to suffice)
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: Mezzie on February 11, 2018, 02:56:46 PM
I will not buy:
-fountain pens
-books not required for school (I usually just rely on the library, but I bought three cookbooks in December -- granted, after I had checked them out from the library and tested some recipes, and I'm using the cookbooks weekly, but three are enough)
-stationery (unless I actually use mine up)
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: Tris Prior on February 11, 2018, 06:09:46 PM
Yes!!  I am now also working through the collection of half-used cosmetics samples and products -- I don't wear much makeup, so those things tend to stick around forever, and I have just decided I am not buying more of that until I get rid of what I have.  Not a gazingus pin, though, as that has piled up through sheer laziness and lack of interest.  ;-)


I'm the same way (though I do wear makeup daily). I don't consider makeup a gazingus pin because I don't have to restrain myself from accumulating more shiny things, but I just seem to accumulate it anyway. I have so much eyeshadow right now because a friend gave me a couple of large palettes she wasn't going to use. I have a bunch of lip balm that I'm never going to get through because a little goes a LONG way with this brand and I got a 4-pack on clearance a couple years ago. Today I was in Sephora to buy a mascara because mine was dried up and I was drooling over all of the eyeshadows but wasn't really tempted to bring any home because, honestly, the amount I have kind of stresses me out. Too much choice! But I feel bad just throwing it out.

Why does having a lot of makeup stress me out, whereas having a lot of tea and a lot of socks/tights doesn't? That's an excellent question; I don't have the answer. All my makeup lives in a big metal lunchbox and takes up very little space compared to the legwear so I don't know.

I am still holding strong. I did visit my nemesis sockdreams.com today but didn't buy anything. I really had the urge to spend today because, well, my cat died yesterday and I'm trying not to emotionally eat or drink wine in response (dieting) so of course that leaves retail therapy, right? :P At any rate, instead of buying, I added some things I liked to  my wishlist on the site. And deleted a few things on my wishlist that I was like "why on earth did I even want that?" It was a great tool to feel like I was shopping for myself, without spending anything or accumulating more STUFF.

Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: lifejoy on February 11, 2018, 08:11:52 PM
Yes!!  I am now also working through the collection of half-used cosmetics samples and products -- I don't wear much makeup, so those things tend to stick around forever, and I have just decided I am not buying more of that until I get rid of what I have.  Not a gazingus pin, though, as that has piled up through sheer laziness and lack of interest.  ;-)


I'm the same way (though I do wear makeup daily). I don't consider makeup a gazingus pin because I don't have to restrain myself from accumulating more shiny things, but I just seem to accumulate it anyway. I have so much eyeshadow right now because a friend gave me a couple of large palettes she wasn't going to use. I have a bunch of lip balm that I'm never going to get through because a little goes a LONG way with this brand and I got a 4-pack on clearance a couple years ago. Today I was in Sephora to buy a mascara because mine was dried up and I was drooling over all of the eyeshadows but wasn't really tempted to bring any home because, honestly, the amount I have kind of stresses me out. Too much choice! But I feel bad just throwing it out.

Why does having a lot of makeup stress me out, whereas having a lot of tea and a lot of socks/tights doesn't? That's an excellent question; I don't have the answer. All my makeup lives in a big metal lunchbox and takes up very little space compared to the legwear so I don't know.

I am still holding strong. I did visit my nemesis sockdreams.com today but didn't buy anything. I really had the urge to spend today because, well, my cat died yesterday and I'm trying not to emotionally eat or drink wine in response (dieting) so of course that leaves retail therapy, right? :P At any rate, instead of buying, I added some things I liked to  my wishlist on the site. And deleted a few things on my wishlist that I was like "why on earth did I even want that?" It was a great tool to feel like I was shopping for myself, without spending anything or accumulating more STUFF.

Props to you for holding strong. I am so sorry to hear about your cat. Years ago, I bought jewellery after finding out my cousin died. I eventually gave away that piece. Looking at it always made me feel sad.

Maybe buying socks would make you feel sad when you looked at them.

Is there a better way you could do retail therapy? Donating money to a pet shelter? Buying flowers or a plaque to put on the garden as a memorial?

Anyways my heart goes out to you.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: MaybeBabyMustache on February 11, 2018, 08:41:59 PM
So sorry for your loss @Tris Prior . I used to have a wicked lipgloss habit, but I'm over that, but not as I'd like. How? Well, one of them irritated my lips so fiercely that I had to go to a dermatologist & get a prescription cream. It took six months of treatment to get over it, and as a result, I had to toss ALL of my lipgoss. Like, maybe 20 tubes? It was pretty sad, super wasteful, and a clear sign how wasteful it was that I even owned 20 tubes. Now I have 2 with sunblock, & a couple I wear at work. Speaking of reformed gazingus pins. . . ;-)
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: formerlydivorcedmom on February 12, 2018, 07:53:20 AM
Happy belated birthday, @MaybeBabyMustache , and hugs to you, @Tris Prior .

I had to go down the book aisle at the grocery store this weekend (because the Valentine's cards were there too, and my son needed to pick up a box for school).  I lingered to read the titles of the new releases.  My son (age 8) poked me in the back and said "NO BOOKS, MAMA!  You promised."

Surprisingly, I wasn't actually going to buy one.  There was one that sounded good by an author I like, and I just put it on my mental list to get from the library.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: lifejoy on February 12, 2018, 08:16:10 AM
Happy belated birthday, @MaybeBabyMustache , and hugs to you, @Tris Prior .

I had to go down the book aisle at the grocery store this weekend (because the Valentine's cards were there too, and my son needed to pick up a box for school).  I lingered to read the titles of the new releases.  My son (age 8) poked me in the back and said "NO BOOKS, MAMA!  You promised."

Surprisingly, I wasn't actually going to buy one.  There was one that sounded good by an author I like, and I just put it on my mental list to get from the library.

Kudos to you, and your son! Sounds like you have accountability in real life in addition to online :)
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: MaybeBabyMustache on February 12, 2018, 08:47:15 AM
Thank you, @formerlydivorcedmom ! Best gift was the room cleaning from the kids. No nagging, & spotless rooms. Also, found the missing mates of 6 pairs of socks. Ahhhh, kids! :-)
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: diapasoun on February 12, 2018, 09:55:13 AM
@Tris Prior, I'm so sorry to hear about your cat. Losing feline family is terrible.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: Rosy on February 13, 2018, 07:02:03 AM
@TrisPrior
Quote
I am still holding strong. I did visit my nemesis sockdreams.com today but didn't buy anything. I really had the urge to spend today because, well, my cat died yesterday and I'm trying not to emotionally eat or drink wine in response (dieting) so of course that leaves retail therapy, right? :P At any rate, instead of buying, I added some things I liked to  my wishlist on the site. And deleted a few things on my wishlist that I was like "why on earth did I even want that?" It was a great tool to feel like I was shopping for myself, without spending anything or accumulating more STUFF.

1. Sorry about your kitty. I had a little black one that lived 21 years and moved to two continents with me, twice:) I cried so hard on the freeway the next day that I don't even know how I could see to drive. She will forever live in my memory.

2. That's funny about the wishlist - I rarely use them, because I don't want to turn them into a goal:)
You are stronger than I, because my mind will not let go of that list until I "accomplished" it.

I do have an Amazon book list, but it doesn't tempt me and physically draw me like jewelry does.

@MabeBabyMustache - I love the sparkly life vs sparkly jewelry analogy. But, then I immediately think - WHY can't I have both?:)
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: chaskavitch on February 13, 2018, 07:08:59 AM
I successfully navigated Walmart and King Soopers without buying anything not on my grocery list.  I LOVE LOVE LOVE those little Cadbury mini eggs.  I don't know why, but I could eat a full sized bag of them all by myself in a single sitting (I think I might have, a few years ago).  And I didn't buy them, even though they're on aisle displays literally all over the place.  Good for my wallet, my blood sugar, and my self control.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: formerlydivorcedmom on February 13, 2018, 07:45:55 AM
I successfully navigated Walmart and King Soopers without buying anything not on my grocery list.  I LOVE LOVE LOVE those little Cadbury mini eggs.  I don't know why, but I could eat a full sized bag of them all by myself in a single sitting (I think I might have, a few years ago).  And I didn't buy them, even though they're on aisle displays literally all over the place.  Good for my wallet, my blood sugar, and my self control.

The worst part is they are ON SALE at my grocery store right now.  I had to be very very very strong not to buy them this week, but they weren't on the list.  I've also successfully refrained from putting them on next week's list.

We deserve major karma points for this level of self-control.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: Poundwise on February 13, 2018, 09:00:57 AM
@Tris Prior I am so sorry about your kitty! :~(
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: lifejoy on February 13, 2018, 09:37:21 AM
@TrisPrior
Quote
I am still holding strong. I did visit my nemesis sockdreams.com today but didn't buy anything. I really had the urge to spend today because, well, my cat died yesterday and I'm trying not to emotionally eat or drink wine in response (dieting) so of course that leaves retail therapy, right? :P At any rate, instead of buying, I added some things I liked to  my wishlist on the site. And deleted a few things on my wishlist that I was like "why on earth did I even want that?" It was a great tool to feel like I was shopping for myself, without spending anything or accumulating more STUFF.

@MabeBabyMustache - I love the sparkly life vs sparkly jewelry analogy. But, then I immediately think - WHY can't I have both?:)

My hero, Gail Vaz-Oxlade, says you CAN have it all! ... just not all at the same time ;)

Gotta prioritize! Sparkly life, THEN sparkly jewellery ;)
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: lifejoy on February 13, 2018, 09:38:04 AM
I successfully navigated Walmart and King Soopers without buying anything not on my grocery list.  I LOVE LOVE LOVE those little Cadbury mini eggs.  I don't know why, but I could eat a full sized bag of them all by myself in a single sitting (I think I might have, a few years ago).  And I didn't buy them, even though they're on aisle displays literally all over the place.  Good for my wallet, my blood sugar, and my self control.

That is BAD-ASS!!
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: lifejoy on February 13, 2018, 09:38:45 AM
I successfully navigated Walmart and King Soopers without buying anything not on my grocery list.  I LOVE LOVE LOVE those little Cadbury mini eggs.  I don't know why, but I could eat a full sized bag of them all by myself in a single sitting (I think I might have, a few years ago).  And I didn't buy them, even though they're on aisle displays literally all over the place.  Good for my wallet, my blood sugar, and my self control.

The worst part is they are ON SALE at my grocery store right now.  I had to be very very very strong not to buy them this week, but they weren't on the list.  I've also successfully refrained from putting them on next week's list.

We deserve major karma points for this level of self-control.

I agree! Karma points to the max!
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: diapasoun on February 13, 2018, 10:26:59 AM
I successfully navigated Walmart and King Soopers without buying anything not on my grocery list.  I LOVE LOVE LOVE those little Cadbury mini eggs.  I don't know why, but I could eat a full sized bag of them all by myself in a single sitting (I think I might have, a few years ago).  And I didn't buy them, even though they're on aisle displays literally all over the place.  Good for my wallet, my blood sugar, and my self control.

Easter candy is my nemesis. Cadbury? Jelly beans? Little chocolate rabbits? I've given myself a gentle ban on buying junk food (I can only buy raw ingredients and make it) and I'm really hoping I pull through that for the Easter season....
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: frontstepdesign on February 14, 2018, 12:17:44 PM
Ok, so it's halfway through the month, and I have been working on the Embroidered Magyar Coat (pics in my journal), and realizing I'm going to run out of the wool thread I've been using.  HERE'S THE BIG BREAKTHROUGH THAT IS GOING TO MEAN A STAR...

...it's okay to stop working on that step of the coat when I run out of thread.

There's so much left to do for the coat (spin/weave the collar, design the back embroidery), and theres NO WAY I could finish during coat wearing season in the short term, so... it's ok.  I'll just finish knitting up the rest of the thread I have, making as much cording as it makes, and put it away for later.  I'll ask for more thread for birthday(Aug)/Christmas - it's hard to find, anyway.  I have plenty else to work on in the meantime, and THAT FEELS FINE.  (I can't believe this.  It's amazing!!!)
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: diapasoun on February 14, 2018, 12:22:21 PM
Ok, so it's halfway through the month, and I have been working on the Embroidered Magyar Coat (pics in my journal), and realizing I'm going to run out of the wool thread I've been using.  HERE'S THE BIG BREAKTHROUGH THAT IS GOING TO MEAN A STAR...

...it's okay to stop working on that step of the coat when I run out of thread.

There's so much left to do for the coat (spin/weave the collar, design the back embroidery), and theres NO WAY I could finish during coat wearing season in the short term, so... it's ok.  I'll just finish knitting up the rest of the thread I have, making as much cording as it makes, and put it away for later.  I'll ask for more thread for birthday(Aug)/Christmas - it's hard to find, anyway.  I have plenty else to work on in the meantime, and THAT FEELS FINE.  (I can't believe this.  It's amazing!!!)

This is AMAZING! So many congrats to you on feeling okay about shifting your focus to other, more easily created portions of the coat right now. Boo-yah!
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: Rosy on February 14, 2018, 12:25:36 PM
Oh, oh sweets - Cadbury Caramel filled Easter eggs and the little plain solid chocolate Easter eggs.
I'm lucky in that Mr. R. gives me a Lindt chocolate bunny (my fave) and a package of three Cadbury Caramel eggs for Easter. It's become a tradition. Once I discovered this keeps me from roaming the Easter chocolate aisle and buying enough for five people, because of course, I like it all - that saved the day.

Valentine's day, I forgot to tell him no chocolate gift - I got three this morning. What was he thinking?:)
I asked for potted Anthurium lilies from Aldi - they are beautiful, and I sort of appropriated a gift card from his rewards card that I coveted:)
Just looking at all that chocolate prompted me to get out my bike, the weather is perfect and a nearby park has great biking trails.

I need to be more active, not eat more chocolate truffles! Says she who is making a chocolate mousse cup for Valentine's Dinner tonight - hypocrite.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: lifejoy on February 14, 2018, 12:42:52 PM
Ok, so it's halfway through the month, and I have been working on the Embroidered Magyar Coat (pics in my journal), and realizing I'm going to run out of the wool thread I've been using.  HERE'S THE BIG BREAKTHROUGH THAT IS GOING TO MEAN A STAR...

...it's okay to stop working on that step of the coat when I run out of thread.

There's so much left to do for the coat (spin/weave the collar, design the back embroidery), and theres NO WAY I could finish during coat wearing season in the short term, so... it's ok.  I'll just finish knitting up the rest of the thread I have, making as much cording as it makes, and put it away for later.  I'll ask for more thread for birthday(Aug)/Christmas - it's hard to find, anyway.  I have plenty else to work on in the meantime, and THAT FEELS FINE.  (I can't believe this.  It's amazing!!!)

You are ALL KINDS of amazing!!!

And I love you for reminding me that the month is half over. This has been a hard one for me. I have noticed that my triggers are when I feel tired and insecure. As a new Mom, this happens often. Shopping to the rescue! Not.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: lifejoy on February 14, 2018, 01:18:38 PM
Oh, oh sweets - Cadbury Caramel filled Easter eggs and the little plain solid chocolate Easter eggs.
I'm lucky in that Mr. R. gives me a Lindt chocolate bunny (my fave) and a package of three Cadbury Caramel eggs for Easter. It's become a tradition. Once I discovered this keeps me from roaming the Easter chocolate aisle and buying enough for five people, because of course, I like it all - that saved the day.

Valentine's day, I forgot to tell him no chocolate gift - I got three this morning. What was he thinking?:)
I asked for potted Anthurium lilies from Aldi - they are beautiful, and I sort of appropriated a gift card from his rewards card that I coveted:)
Just looking at all that chocolate prompted me to get out my bike, the weather is perfect and a nearby park has great biking trails.

I need to be more active, not eat more chocolate truffles! Says she who is making a chocolate mousse cup for Valentine's Dinner tonight - hypocrite.

You can send the chocolates to me ;)

I’ve had chocolate for breakfast and lunch... oh and am like you, having a chocolate mousse cake with dinner! Lol you are a girl after my own heart!!

DH gave me $100 to buy lingerie or nightgown. I told him I’m not buying clothes so he can buy me something or keep the money. Sweet thought, he finds it hard to shop for me (understandably!) but I am resisting the urge to show for wearable clothes.

I did buy sunglasses for $7 because DH sat on my only pair. Sunglasses are not clothes or jewellery so I feel ok about that.

I’m still debating the walking shoes. Will probably buy some.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: diapasoun on February 14, 2018, 01:37:18 PM
And I love you for reminding me that the month is half over. This has been a hard one for me. I have noticed that my triggers are when I feel tired and insecure. As a new Mom, this happens often. Shopping to the rescue! Not.

It's good to know that those are triggers for you! (I suspect they're triggers for all of us, really.)

Are there any things you can do to galvanize yourself when you're tired or insecure? Things that remind you that you are a competent and capable human, or ways to get a twenty minute nap when you need it? (I imagine the latter is especially hard, given the nature of babies.)
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: lifejoy on February 14, 2018, 03:13:28 PM
And I love you for reminding me that the month is half over. This has been a hard one for me. I have noticed that my triggers are when I feel tired and insecure. As a new Mom, this happens often. Shopping to the rescue! Not.

It's good to know that those are triggers for you! (I suspect they're triggers for all of us, really.)

Are there any things you can do to galvanize yourself when you're tired or insecure? Things that remind you that you are a competent and capable human, or ways to get a twenty minute nap when you need it? (I imagine the latter is especially hard, given the nature of babies.)

I will think on this! Excellent questions.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: Serendip on February 14, 2018, 04:22:54 PM
@TrisPrior
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I am still holding strong. I did visit my nemesis sockdreams.com today but didn't buy anything. I really had the urge to spend today because, well, my cat died yesterday and I'm trying not to emotionally eat or drink wine in response (dieting) so of course that leaves retail therapy, right? :P At any rate, instead of buying, I added some things I liked to  my wishlist on the site. And deleted a few things on my wishlist that I was like "why on earth did I even want that?" It was a great tool to feel like I was shopping for myself, without spending anything or accumulating more STUFF.

@MabeBabyMustache - I love the sparkly life vs sparkly jewelry analogy. But, then I immediately think - WHY can't I have both?:)

My hero, Gail Vaz-Oxlade, says you CAN have it all! ... just not all at the same time ;)

Gotta prioritize! Sparkly life, THEN sparkly jewellery ;)
I love that you quoted Gail--she is amazing.

 Sparkly Life for the win! (while appreciating all the sparkly jewels we already have?) :)
I actually pulled out a pair of dangly earrings from India and wore them for our Valentines Day ramen lunch. ha.
Drama at unexpected moments is way more exciting!
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: Serendip on February 14, 2018, 04:30:50 PM
I could have written this! Always on the hunt for good online art workshops.

Good idea!
I am giving up art workshops for the year.
Even though I studied arts and have taken many workshops--I always feel compelled to learn something new (even when I am not practicing half the things I would like to practice)

And books..no buying books (the library and our personal library will have to suffice)


Glad to have people who understand WootWoot!
I just recycled the beautiful booklets sent to me by one of my favorite schools about upcoming spring courses. It feels SO good to slowly begin looking at what I have half-finished and decide whether I want to move forward with things.

A friend is joining an arts-community which focuses on helping female artists develop the business side of their art practice and she invited me to come. It's expensive to join but seems very productive.
 I said no and that this year is for developing the skills I already have but sometimes neglect.
So yesterday I went upstairs, did some drawing, did some stitching and made some plans for a larger sculptural work I'd like to attempt this year. Feeling inspired!
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: lifejoy on February 14, 2018, 09:04:38 PM
Nice going, Serendip!

The group mentality is helping. I’m home alone because DH is at work and I’m browsing jewellery because I want to feel loved. I miss him and I want to fill the void with diamonds.

Not going to, though! I’ve tried that, and it doesn’t work.

As George Carlin says, "Trying to be happy by accumulating possessions is like trying to satisfy hunger by taping sandwiches all over your body".

Yup!
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: Serendip on February 15, 2018, 11:21:27 AM
Nice going, Serendip!

The group mentality is helping. Iím home alone because DH is at work and Iím browsing jewellery because I want to feel loved. I miss him and I want to fill the void with diamonds.

Not going to, though! Iíve tried that, and it doesnít work.

As George Carlin says, "Trying to be happy by accumulating possessions is like trying to satisfy hunger by taping sandwiches all over your body".

Yup!

The image of taped sandwiches is a good one...just replace that with any of our collective 'pins' and you get a pretty funny visualisation of our material selves trying to cover our emotional selves with 'stuff'  :)
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: formerlydivorcedmom on February 15, 2018, 01:54:57 PM

DH gave me $100 to buy lingerie or nightgown. I told him Iím not buying clothes so he can buy me something or keep the money. Sweet thought, he finds it hard to shop for me (understandably!) but I am resisting the urge to show for wearable clothes.
...
Iím still debating the walking shoes. Will probably buy some.

Can you use the $100 for the walking shoes?

He wants you to have something, and you need shoes for your health.  Think of it as a gift AND as a medical necessity.  Then it's okay.  Right?  (or am I just a bad influence?)
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: Tris Prior on February 15, 2018, 02:35:32 PM

And I love you for reminding me that the month is half over. This has been a hard one for me. I have noticed that my triggers are when I feel tired and insecure. As a new Mom, this happens often. Shopping to the rescue! Not.

February has been tough for sure! I now know my spending triggers are: not being able to leave the house due to horrible weather, loneliness (because no one else wants to leave the house either due to horrible weather), feeling unattractive (because due to horrible weather my hair and skin are dry and gross and I have to run around looking like the Michelin man due to the need for so many layers - sensing a theme here? ;) ), and dieting (no weather tie-in here, I'm just freaking starving all the time and since I cannot eat or drink anything I like, I feel deprived).
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: lifejoy on February 15, 2018, 03:44:33 PM

DH gave me $100 to buy lingerie or nightgown. I told him I’m not buying clothes so he can buy me something or keep the money. Sweet thought, he finds it hard to shop for me (understandably!) but I am resisting the urge to show for wearable clothes.
...
I’m still debating the walking shoes. Will probably buy some.

Can you use the $100 for the walking shoes?

He wants you to have something, and you need shoes for your health.  Think of it as a gift AND as a medical necessity.  Then it's okay.  Right?  (or am I just a bad influence?)

Haha I like the way you think!

What I did was told him to buy me pretty pjs but that I would not be shopping for them. I don’t want to get back into that habit of shopping. And I’m wearing nursing tops and pj pants to bed, not gonna lie it would be nice to wear something prettier some days.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: CrustyBadger on February 15, 2018, 05:07:57 PM
Lifejoy I also think you should use the $100 on some comfortable walking shoes. IT would give you more energy for all your life's (ahem) passions.   I'm not sure if that's what your husband had in mind as he seemed to be thinking "lingerie" but that's my opinion!  (-:
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: lifejoy on February 15, 2018, 07:36:45 PM
Lifejoy I also think you should use the $100 on some comfortable walking shoes. IT would give you more energy for all your life's (ahem) passions.   I'm not sure if that's what your husband had in mind as he seemed to be thinking "lingerie" but that's my opinion!  (-:

I think that’s a great suggestion but I’m afraid our dynamic is such that I think it’s best I don’t ask for a different gift. I don’t want to hurt his feelings, and it will be great for me to have pajamas! We chose something useful for daily wear instead of special-occasion wear ;)

I’m just pleased I didn’t take it as an opportunity to shop my face off :)

I bet I can get walking shoes for under $100! Good challenge for me. Or maybe they can be my mother’s day gift... hmmmm
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: mspym on February 16, 2018, 12:27:46 AM
Went into the fabric shop today as I've been trying to get pics of clothes/material I like as part of figuring out my style, no problem, I wasn't tempted - I was HORRIFIED that people would pay NINETEEN WHOLE AUSTRALIAN DOLLARS for a pattern which was a tube of material sewn along a side to form the body. What's next? A pattern for making a sarong?

I actually ended up on the Simplicity website and downloaded the (FREE!) instructions which confirmed my suspicion - one length of cloth, and two partial seams and some hemming. So I am going to do this with some of my spare fabric and if it doesn't work out, well I haven't cut into the cloth and can just re-use it.
Title: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: lifejoy on February 16, 2018, 12:37:13 AM
Went into the fabric shop today as I've been trying to get pics of clothes/material I like as part of figuring out my style, no problem, I wasn't tempted - I was HORRIFIED that people would pay NINETEEN WHOLE AUSTRALIAN DOLLARS for a pattern which was a tube of material sewn along a side to form the body. What's next? A pattern for making a sarong?

I actually ended up on the Simplicity website and downloaded the (FREE!) instructions which confirmed my suspicion - one length of cloth, and two partial seams and some hemming. So I am going to do this with some of my spare fabric and if it doesn't work out, well I haven't cut into the cloth and can just re-use it.

I think that’s badass that you stared your gazingus pin in the face and resisted sinking any money into it, and still get to enjoy it! Way to go!
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: mspym on February 16, 2018, 03:11:28 AM
If anyone is the tiniest bit crafty, and likes draped tops, look up Simplicity 8452. You can practically make it from the cover image, and the instructions bear this out. There are some nice reviews for it as well from people who have made it. (NINETEEN DOLLARS! how could you sleep at night charging that much?)
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: Laura33 on February 16, 2018, 02:16:05 PM
You guys are awesome!  I am so impressed by the folks staring temptation in the face and walking away!

Hit a watershed moment here:  just today I used up the last of my decaf loose tea.  So, yay.  But then I realized:  what do I do when I need decaf tea?  This isn't an immediate issue, because I usually make "DIY" decaf by re-using the regular tea a couple of times, and I have some bags of decaf I can still drink.  But I do like to have some loose-leaf decaf around for days like today, when I want to make a whole pot in the afternoon and leaves from yesterday are all used-up (because, grr, I forgot and let them steep for like 20 minutes when I got distracted by work).  So I am going to have to figure out what that means for my challenge. 

I think I am going to come up with specific categories of tea that I want to have around, and when I run out of any specific category, I am allowed to buy one new one (given that the idea is to use up what I have, not deprive myself of teas for a year).  But that is a slippery slope, because I have various flavors/varieties of tea, and I don't want to define the categories so narrowly that the exception swallows the rule.*  So I am going to need to think this over and figure out what is reasonable (vs. what my tea-craving brain is telling me to do) -- I think I will need to keep the categories very broad for now (maybe green/black/decaf), and then once everything is appropriately used up, I can re-think what categories I want to keep stocked long-term.

*E.g., I like jasmine and peach flavors, in both green and white forms, along with plain green tea.  I have very little of the former and a metric shit-ton of the latter, because usually I'm going for jasmine or peach over plain green.  So it would be easy to define each of those as a separate category, and restock when I run out of, say, green jasmine.  But that would enable me to continue to avoid ever drinking the plain green tea ("oops, out of green jasmine, don't want plain green, so better get some more!"), which would defeat the entire purpose of this effort!
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: MaybeBabyMustache on February 16, 2018, 02:35:16 PM
Used up a gift card. (Gift cards are my gazingus pin, particularly when they are "on sale" and "a great deal".) It's nice to toss it & use up the extra space in my purse.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: mspym on February 16, 2018, 03:14:48 PM
@Laura33 definitely sounds like broad decaf/green/black categories would be the way to go. Is plain green tea ever your first choice? Would you be better off drinking your current backlog and not restocking?

I have started thinking of tea the way I am going through my wardrobe and comparing to my actual lifestyle, i.e. if 40% of my life is at work, is 40% of my wardrobe workclothes, why is my wardrobe 30% party frocks when that makes up 10% of my time etc?

I am not allowed to buy any more ginger or licorice herbal teas until I have used up all my current stock. In fact the only one I am allowed to buy right now is the best sleepytime tea I have ever drunk, and that's only because we used up the last of it two days ago. [Pukka Night Time tea, for those who *are* allowed tea purchases]
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: formerlydivorcedmom on February 16, 2018, 03:36:48 PM
The best part of this exercise is realizing what we actually value and miss.

I'm amazed that after 7 weeks I don't feel like I'm missing out anything because I haven't blown $50 or more on books.

I hope you tea lovers can find the right balance for you.

(And good work, @MaybeBabyMustache , for using up a gift card!)
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: mspym on February 16, 2018, 03:48:03 PM
The best part of this exercise is realizing what we actually value and miss.

I'm amazed that after 7 weeks I don't feel like I'm missing out anything because I haven't blown $50 or more on books.

I hope you tea lovers can find the right balance for you.

(And good work, @MaybeBabyMustache , for using up a gift card!)

That is great stuff! I haven't declared a moratorium on books but have finally been making progress through my TBR pile, instead of it getting bigger and bigger. Turns out all those books I was saving up are pretty good reads, who would have thought it?

This is a really good challenge and is making me reexamine a lot of unexpected areas in my consumption patterns and my values. STARS ALL ROUND.
Title: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: lifejoy on February 16, 2018, 03:50:14 PM
I love reading all these insights!

I bought some dye ($7) because instead of coveting a new house sweater, I am going to dye the one I love to wear (but have always hated the colour of). I’m not very crafty so this is out of my comfort zone, but an awesome way to appreciate the wardrobe I already have!
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: Rosy on February 16, 2018, 05:02:28 PM
You guys are awesome!  I am so impressed by the folks staring temptation in the face and walking away!

Hit a watershed moment here:  just today I used up the last of my decaf loose tea.  So, yay.  But then I realized:  what do I do when I need decaf tea?  This isn't an immediate issue, because I usually make "DIY" decaf by re-using the regular tea a couple of times, and I have some bags of decaf I can still drink.  But I do like to have some loose-leaf decaf around for days like today, when I want to make a whole pot in the afternoon and leaves from yesterday are all used-up (because, grr, I forgot and let them steep for like 20 minutes when I got distracted by work).  So I am going to have to figure out what that means for my challenge. 

I think I am going to come up with specific categories of tea that I want to have around, and when I run out of any specific category, I am allowed to buy one new one (given that the idea is to use up what I have, not deprive myself of teas for a year).  But that is a slippery slope, because I have various flavors/varieties of tea, and I don't want to define the categories so narrowly that the exception swallows the rule.*  So I am going to need to think this over and figure out what is reasonable (vs. what my tea-craving brain is telling me to do) -- I think I will need to keep the categories very broad for now (maybe green/black/decaf), and then once everything is appropriately used up, I can re-think what categories I want to keep stocked long-term.

*E.g., I like jasmine and peach flavors, in both green and white forms, along with plain green tea.  I have very little of the former and a metric shit-ton of the latter, because usually I'm going for jasmine or peach over plain green.  So it would be easy to define each of those as a separate category, and restock when I run out of, say, green jasmine.  But that would enable me to continue to avoid ever drinking the plain green tea ("oops, out of green jasmine, don't want plain green, so better get some more!"), which would defeat the entire purpose of this effort!

I'm totally fascinated - following the ongoing tea struggles and considerations, who knew such a tea quagmire existed?:) Perhaps you could come up with seven categories? One for each day of the week? So you always have choices and don't have to drink the same tea twice in a week?
If that is too limiting you could pick an extra one that fits into each category - giving you 14 days of different teas.

My tea experience is limited, I like the one in the pretty dragon tin, because it gives me energy, it's called Dragonwell Fancy Green. I like strong dark tea from Turkey and Earl Grey (although I don't do tea for breakfast) and the kind that looks like a rose and it floats and makes a lovely green or white? tea. I'd like to try a good jasmine tea, but the only jasmine tea I've ever had is the one served by our favorite Thai restaurant.

I also like herbal teas and make a few concoctions from my own organic garden, but find it difficult to find really good herb tea in the states, especially if you like a blend of different herbs.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: Laura33 on February 17, 2018, 09:20:59 AM
@mspym - yes, I think that is the lesson.  My stock of green came from when I first discovered I liked some green teas and kept buying different varieties at the Asian market to try to figure out what I did/didnít like (before I realized that most plain greens are in the ďnot so much/maybe every once in a whileĒ category).  And sometimes I go through phases where I want one thing and then get sick of it (e.g., roiboos).  So, basically, the same unconscious/unthinking way I accumulated all of those partially-used cosmetics that I am also using up.  😉
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: Tris Prior on February 17, 2018, 10:03:30 AM
You guys, we went grocery shopping last night and I was in the coffee/tea aisle buying coffee filters and I was sooooooo close to cracking. I am down to 2 flavors of tea, one of which I'm not wild about (I can only steep it for a bit; it goes from decent to waaaaaay too intense quickly so if I'm not paying attention, it gets gross.).

I was about to take a box of lemon ginger (one of my favorites) off the shelf when Boyfriend - who does not know about this challenge other than a casual "I really shouldn't buy more tea until I drink what I have" comment - said, "didn't you just say the other day that you're really sick of tea?" I agreed, pointed out that I drink tea when I want wine or junk food so I do need to have some on hand, but did move on without buying it! Because that was enough of a reminder about this challenge.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: Poundwise on February 17, 2018, 07:40:55 PM
*E.g., I like jasmine and peach flavors, in both green and white forms, along with plain green tea.  I have very little of the former and a metric shit-ton of the latter, because usually I'm going for jasmine or peach over plain green.  So it would be easy to define each of those as a separate category, and restock when I run out of, say, green jasmine.  But that would enable me to continue to avoid ever drinking the plain green tea ("oops, out of green jasmine, don't want plain green, so better get some more!"), which would defeat the entire purpose of this effort!

Is it possible that you could flavor your plain green tea somehow to make it more pleasurable to drink?  Like make a mix with some other tea, or add a fruit syrup?
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: CrustyBadger on February 18, 2018, 06:14:17 AM
Green tea cookies?  Green tea cakes?
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: Jim Fiction on February 18, 2018, 03:34:31 PM
For me this is easily beer.

I've always been a collector. If you can name it, I probably collected it as a kid/adolescent/young adult/twenty-something. I've gotten a lot better at this, a large part of which was finding this site and embracing many of the ideas of MMM. I sometimes joke to myself that I collect money now.

Lately, I've gotten into "collecting" beer. Now I don't retain the cans/bottles or anything like that, but I've gotten very into trying new beers as often as possible. I've been a big fan of craft beer pretty much since I started drinking beer. Budweiser and the like never really did much for me outside of getting me drunk. As I got less and less into wanted to get drunk, I gravitated more towards craft and local beer. It has become a fun hobby of mine, I enjoy going to a beer fest or two throughout the year and rarely buy the same beer twice, opting instead to try something different which normally equated to a new 4 or 6 pack every other week or two, with an occasional trip to a brewery for a growler fill.

Within the last 6 months or so, my beer enthusiasm has begun to morph into more of a collection. Attempting to try or "collect" as many different beers as I can. In part this is due to an app called untappd, in which you log the beers you have tried, earn lame badges and get to comment and "toast" beers that your friends have tried. Additionally, my best friend is big into it as well and its given us another hobby to bond over and talk about. But now I find myself buying way more than I should, and feeling compelled to run off to one of my favorite brewery the moment they release a new brew, worried that if I don't try it now I might lose my chance forever. It directly mirrors the mentality I had previously when I was collecting records, or pez dispensers or beanie babies, or whatever else I used to collect. I check the facebook pages or local breweries every day, I look through my untappd list and admire how many different beers I have tried from a particular brewery and lament the fact that I never kept track of the such things before I found out this app existed.

While I don't want to give up beer entirely, I do know that I need to trim back. My short-term plan is to take a month off from buying beer, then re-evaluate after that.

Best of luck to everyone else in their efforts!
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: Rosy on February 20, 2018, 07:35:43 AM
Update:
almost two months in - have resulted in freeing up $200 in my upcoming March budget! Better yet, if I stay on course it will help me save up that extra $1K I discovered I need for my trip by June.
I'm not looking at jewelry
I'm not buying jewelry
I am not lying awake at night - thinking about all the jewelry I will buy as soon as this challenge is over.

... regardless, I know temptation can still strike at a weak, unguarded moment ...

@Jim Fiction - the first month is the hardest:)
I guess I am a beer snob, I'll be happy to try something new, but I am firmly in the stout, dark slightly sweet beer camp, although I'll go for a good Pilsner or May Doppelbock in the summertime.
There is a craft brewery downtown St. Petersburg (well, there are several:) but this one has one called "1516" brewed in accordance with the German Reinheitsgebot - it is da bomb:) Smooth and surprisingly light tasting for a dark beer.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: I'm a red panda on February 20, 2018, 08:41:26 AM
Just "skipped" my Julep nail polish box for the month. Even though the colors in it were amazing.
I need to email and cancel, but I feel bad- because I kind of cheated to get an awesome gift with purchase (in December), and am canceling right away...
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: Inkedup on February 20, 2018, 11:39:13 AM
Beer is definitely a gazingus pin! The upside to drinking down the tea stash is that it's killing my appetite for alcohol.

The other day I practiced not-buying: allowed myself to look, filled up a shopping cart, thought about how amazing it all would taste, and then exited the site. Walking away was much easier than anticipated. And it felt insanely empowering.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: lifejoy on February 20, 2018, 01:39:47 PM
Just "skipped" my Julep nail polish box for the month. Even though the colors in it were amazing.
I need to email and cancel, but I feel bad- because I kind of cheated to get an awesome gift with purchase (in December), and am canceling right away...

Omg don’t feel bad AT ALL! Emphasis on gift WITH PURCHASE. They got your money ;)
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: lifejoy on February 20, 2018, 01:40:38 PM
Beer is definitely a gazingus pin! The upside to drinking down the tea stash is that it's killing my appetite for alcohol.

The other day I practiced not-buying: allowed myself to look, filled up a shopping cart, thought about how amazing it all would taste, and then exited the site. Walking away was much easier than anticipated. And it felt insanely empowering.

That is REALLY cool and not at all easy to do!
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: lifejoy on February 20, 2018, 01:42:25 PM
@Rosy - and no more lying awake in bed, thinking of that jewellery piece you saw and want to buy but shouldn’t but, you know you shouldn’t, but omg do you ever want to and if you just bought it you’d be able to get rid of this niggling feeling of need...

I find that not shopping for jewellery is keeping me from seeing those pieces I just HAVE to HAVE.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: lifejoy on February 20, 2018, 01:44:27 PM
For me this is easily beer.

I've always been a collector. If you can name it, I probably collected it as a kid/adolescent/young adult/twenty-something. I've gotten a lot better at this, a large part of which was finding this site and embracing many of the ideas of MMM. I sometimes joke to myself that I collect money now.

Lately, I've gotten into "collecting" beer. Now I don't retain the cans/bottles or anything like that, but I've gotten very into trying new beers as often as possible. I've been a big fan of craft beer pretty much since I started drinking beer. Budweiser and the like never really did much for me outside of getting me drunk. As I got less and less into wanted to get drunk, I gravitated more towards craft and local beer. It has become a fun hobby of mine, I enjoy going to a beer fest or two throughout the year and rarely buy the same beer twice, opting instead to try something different which normally equated to a new 4 or 6 pack every other week or two, with an occasional trip to a brewery for a growler fill.

Within the last 6 months or so, my beer enthusiasm has begun to morph into more of a collection. Attempting to try or "collect" as many different beers as I can. In part this is due to an app called untappd, in which you log the beers you have tried, earn lame badges and get to comment and "toast" beers that your friends have tried. Additionally, my best friend is big into it as well and its given us another hobby to bond over and talk about. But now I find myself buying way more than I should, and feeling compelled to run off to one of my favorite brewery the moment they release a new brew, worried that if I don't try it now I might lose my chance forever. It directly mirrors the mentality I had previously when I was collecting records, or pez dispensers or beanie babies, or whatever else I used to collect. I check the facebook pages or local breweries every day, I look through my untappd list and admire how many different beers I have tried from a particular brewery and lament the fact that I never kept track of the such things before I found out this app existed.

While I don't want to give up beer entirely, I do know that I need to trim back. My short-term plan is to take a month off from buying beer, then re-evaluate after that.

Best of luck to everyone else in their efforts!

Join us! We give out gold stars ;)

Well, stars, at least. I’m staying away from gold, myself. Lol

And if you download Tapatalk you can easily have us on your phone...

So when will your month begin? Sounds like you have a bad case or FOMO! (Fear of missing out).
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: Rosy on February 20, 2018, 06:01:17 PM
@Rosy - and no more lying awake in bed, thinking of that jewellery piece you saw and want to buy but shouldnít but, you know you shouldnít, but omg do you ever want to and if you just bought it youíd be able to get rid of this niggling feeling of need...

I find that not shopping for jewellery is keeping me from seeing those pieces I just HAVE to HAVE.

@lifejoy - I was just kidding:) - the ultimate goal for me is to let go - for good! So I'm glad that I'm not dreaming up a list of jewelry I denied myself this year - only to buy it next year.
I am not going through all this pain this year only to start up again next year.

 
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: gaja on February 21, 2018, 03:23:33 PM
No news are good news from my side. I have actively not bought notebooks several times since New Years, and even avoided bringing free notebooks home. On the other side, forgotten notebooks have popped up throughout the house, so the stash is even bigger than I thought.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: Mezzie on February 21, 2018, 03:31:19 PM
I didn't buy some really beautiful hand-carved classic games. I'm pretty proud of myself.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: diapasoun on February 21, 2018, 04:35:01 PM
Just checking in. I've been holding steady and not bought any books so far this year. It's been surprisingly easy, most likely because when I've thought "oh gosh I want to read that NOW," I've often found it at the library! So I haven't felt somehow deprived of books in any way. I've ever managed to let go of a few books to new homes.

I'm working now on running down my home book collection. So far this year this year I've only read 2/9 books that are mine (likely finishing 3/10 soon) -- so I think I need to prioritize a few books from my collection on my TBR.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: lifejoy on February 21, 2018, 04:37:36 PM
@Rosy - and no more lying awake in bed, thinking of that jewellery piece you saw and want to buy but shouldn’t but, you know you shouldn’t, but omg do you ever want to and if you just bought it you’d be able to get rid of this niggling feeling of need...

I find that not shopping for jewellery is keeping me from seeing those pieces I just HAVE to HAVE.

@lifejoy - I was just kidding:) - the ultimate goal for me is to let go - for good! So I'm glad that I'm not dreaming up a list of jewelry I denied myself this year - only to buy it next year.
I am not going through all this pain this year only to start up again next year.

Uhh same here *shifty eyes*

Ok maybe not. I am definitely currently planning to buy lots of gazingus pins next year. Hmmm maybe a flaw to my plan!
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: CrustyBadger on February 21, 2018, 05:44:10 PM
Hi, Jim Fiction!  Sounds like you have identified a gazingus pin for sure in craft beers!  Good luck cutting back on those.

@Rosy that's amazing that you have freed up $200 for next month already!  Good for you!

I am going strong with no junk food at work from the vending machine.  I estimate I have freed up somewhere between $20 and $40 per month on this bad habit, possibly even more.  I do occasionally find myself craving a cold Coke around 3 PM every day but it is very easy to just tell myself no.

After reading these threads, I think it might be time to buy some tea... and possibly sip it evenings, in place of certain other beverages?   Hmmmm.... this might not so much be a gazingus pin, as a different type of habit I have let myself get into.  But it might be a good idea for me health and sleepwise.   
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: Poundwise on February 22, 2018, 05:49:43 AM
Great going everybody!! And thanks so much for the encouragement, lifejoy-- it really helps!

I racked my brains and I cannot think of a single craft purchase, conscious or unconscious, since I last wrote in.  I was sorely tempted last weekend, because we want to have a movie night for an upcoming birthday party, and we want to make a projector screen instead of buying one.  No solution yet... think I may have some blackout cloth in my stash, but it is probably not big enough.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: I'm a red panda on February 22, 2018, 06:30:05 AM
I'm still doing good on the no fabric, no nail polish- though man it has been hard!

I will say I picked up a bad habit early this year of going to Hardees for breakfast ($1.79 a morning) but it turns out it was a "special" price. I went in yesterday and it was over $4! I actually got to the window asked the guy if the price was correct, and told him never mind to cancel my order.  That's an insane amount of money to spend on breakfast at a drive through.  Habit broken.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: PingMe97 on February 22, 2018, 06:55:52 AM
New Here but I will jump in.

Cameras and lenses were my addiction. I would buy latest and greatest get bored and then sell it off at few hundred dollars loss swearing not to do it again. But it will repeat every few weeks and it’s largely the reason for my financial mess (refer my journal thread).

But no more. I will not buy any camera or a lens for rat of 2018 and will be using only iPhone camera
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: RetiredAt63 on February 22, 2018, 07:24:35 AM
I'm still working on WIPs and have not even looked at yarn or fibre.  I get emails from KnitPicks and WEBS, and I just delete them.  I skipped 2 spin-ins where there would have been fibre for sale.  Avoidance works.   ;-)

I don't have a ban on needles, though, because sometimes a project needs a size I don't have.  I am working on a toque and I want to move down a needle size for the ribbing - after looking through all my needles I don't have the size I need, and will buy some, but if I had had the ones I need on another project I would have managed to use them and not buy new.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: Rosy on February 22, 2018, 08:54:35 AM
@Rosy - and no more lying awake in bed, thinking of that jewellery piece you saw and want to buy but shouldnít but, you know you shouldnít, but omg do you ever want to and if you just bought it youíd be able to get rid of this niggling feeling of need...

I find that not shopping for jewellery is keeping me from seeing those pieces I just HAVE to HAVE.

@lifejoy - I was just kidding:) - the ultimate goal for me is to let go - for good! So I'm glad that I'm not dreaming up a list of jewelry I denied myself this year - only to buy it next year.
I am not going through all this pain this year only to start up again next year.

Uhh same here *shifty eyes*

Ok maybe not. I am definitely currently planning to buy lots of gazingus pins next year. Hmmm maybe a flaw to my plan!

@lifejoy - Please tell me you are not thinking of sabotaging yourself? Been there, done that you know:) Yes, definitely consider ruminating over that teeny tiny flaw in your plan:)
Maybe you could come up with a comprise, a spending cap or limit your acquisition to particular events or holidays? It is difficult, I thought I was in control once before, but we have a way of fooling ourselves:)
Kudos for being honest with yourself!

@CrustyBadger - thank you, I'm thrilled to see a monetary impact.
It is hard to resist snack attacks and while I hardly drink any sodas, I do have a penchant for those little glass bottles of coke that you can still find in six packs. I buy one every six months:)
Lately, I've had some sweets in the evening and the chocolate I received for Valentine's Day is not helping. I used to have a rule of no snacks after six or seven in the evening - may have to implement that again. 
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: Serendip on February 22, 2018, 09:02:52 AM
*shifty eyes* : such a descriptive term for this thread..ha

I found myself almost buying a book..but found it online via a borrowing site,
 found myself dreaming of a yoga retreat somewhere warm..so I deleted the email,
a new artist with beautiful work was added to our art gallery shop...so I pointedly avoided going in

*dodging temptation...we are getting goood at this!
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: lifejoy on February 22, 2018, 09:26:40 AM
@Rosy - I’m fully committed to abstaining for 2018, but I have no problem with releasing the floodgates in 2019. I might have to really assess if that’s in keeping with my goals. I find myself finding it easier to say no to many little jewellery and clothing purchases, knowing that I can go on a major spree with all my saved “fun money” in 2019. But that’s not really going to help me long term :/
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: lifejoy on February 22, 2018, 09:27:19 AM
New Here but I will jump in.

Cameras and lenses were my addiction. I would buy latest and greatest get bored and then sell it off at few hundred dollars loss swearing not to do it again. But it will repeat every few weeks and it’s largely the reason for my financial mess (refer my journal thread).

But no more. I will not buy any camera or a lens for rat of 2018 and will be using only iPhone camera

Welcome! Did you buy any in January? Wondering if I owe you a star...
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: PingMe97 on February 22, 2018, 10:21:21 AM
No I did not. In fact whatever I had bought in Jan, I returned literally everything for full refund reducing CC debt by  ~$6000


Welcome! Did you buy any in January? Wondering if I owe you a star...
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: mspym on February 23, 2018, 02:49:14 AM
@PingMe97 that's EXCELLENT, keep up the good work.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: I'm a red panda on February 23, 2018, 05:25:23 AM
If anyone is the tiniest bit crafty, and likes draped tops, look up Simplicity 8452. You can practically make it from the cover image, and the instructions bear this out. There are some nice reviews for it as well from people who have made it. (NINETEEN DOLLARS! how could you sleep at night charging that much?)
Do you actually have to pay the price on patterns? The stores here always have them half off, and often have them for 99 cents or 1.99. I didn't know anyone sold them face value. Thats insane.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: lifejoy on February 23, 2018, 06:39:31 AM
@PingMe97 that's EXCELLENT, keep up the good work.

+1 Bravo!!! Next time I’m at a computer, you’ll be getting a star! Woot woot!

Yesterday I was feeling WEAK. Sad, tired, stressed. Self-esteem looooow. Cuddle time with DH and sushi and early to bed seemed to cure what ails me.

Made it through! Almost 2/12 months! And given that in halfway through a move AND breastfeeding, I have a ton of clothes that I haven’t worn for... a very long time, and now that baby isn’t eating every second of every day (and I’ve lost weight) I think I can start wearing more of my old clothes and that will feel awesome :)

Also I have two clothing swaps coming up. For me, the challenge is not to spend rather than not to accumulate so clothing swaps are A-ok! I have one in April and one in June. Hooray! Can’t wait.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: Rosy on February 23, 2018, 06:54:14 AM
You are doing great, @lifejoy ... and thanks for all the positive reinforcement:), it is appreciated. I hope everyone else is hanging in there too.
Just a few more days gang ... our second month - gold star - is almost within reach, we can do this!
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: MaybeBabyMustache on February 23, 2018, 07:52:24 AM
Working through my existing gift card stash & spent 2 gift cards yesterday on a few things we needed. My son also spent his birthday gift card, which means 3 less things to carry around in my wallet.

I have a gift card worth $15 that i'd like to sell, but I'm having a hard time finding a place to sell. Local FB group turned up no interest. My group is way less active than it was a year ago, sadly.

In other news, not my gazingus pin, but I did also commit to not buying more tea until I worked through my stash. Have finished 4/5 boxes of clearance teas (purchased for less than $1/each). Liked the first two, hate the last box I'm working through. After that, I have two boxes of decaf green tea + some loose leaf tea. Looking forward to one day actually spending the money to buying a box that I will fully enjoy! :-)
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: PingMe97 on February 23, 2018, 09:06:53 AM
Have $50 Bestbuy Reward Card, very tempted to use it to buy kindle or Alexa. I donít need either and I know itís just a gadget lust...

Put it in cart and went up to payment quite few times :-) but in the end have not bought it till now. Help me avoid the purchase. If I carry through end of Feb it would be two months without any unnecessary purchase.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: frontstepdesign on February 23, 2018, 01:09:30 PM
Could tuition be a Gazingus Pin?

I'm torn on this (more in my journal), because on one hand, what I finish training on, I rarely regret.  On the other...I tend to sign up for more than I can do at one time.  So it's kind of like whoever's tea...it's generally a good idea, but buying more than one can consume...   seems to be YES, but I just found another whole course that looks SO HELPFUL, and of course they're running a limited time deal, and I'm already getting a lot out of the free material...

learn all the things!
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: formerlydivorcedmom on February 23, 2018, 02:11:36 PM
I think the key for all of us is mindfulness.  If taking classes is just a habit, and you sign up for all the classes because reasons, then yes, it definitely could be a gazingus pin.

Whereas if you are taking classes because they meet a specific goal (to get a degree, to learn a foreign language, to get a certification in something), then that is likely more mindful and not a gazingus pin.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: frontstepdesign on February 23, 2018, 02:51:13 PM
I think the key for all of us is mindfulness.  If taking classes is just a habit, and you sign up for all the classes because reasons, then yes, it definitely could be a gazingus pin.

Whereas if you are taking classes because they meet a specific goal (to get a degree, to learn a foreign language, to get a certification in something), then that is likely more mindful and not a gazingus pin.

Ah, so helpful!  My list is definitely components of a larger goal, and perhaps if I can keep an eye on estimated completion, I can keep this activity on this side of the line.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: mspym on February 23, 2018, 03:52:17 PM
If anyone is the tiniest bit crafty, and likes draped tops, look up Simplicity 8452. You can practically make it from the cover image, and the instructions bear this out. There are some nice reviews for it as well from people who have made it. (NINETEEN DOLLARS! how could you sleep at night charging that much?)
Do you actually have to pay the price on patterns? The stores here always have them half off, and often have them for 99 cents or 1.99. I didn't know anyone sold them face value. Thats insane.

This is because you are Not In Australia*. It is bonkers here, and I assume we are subsidising a lot of the 99 cent patterns in the States.

I have bought a LOT of patterns from op shops because I can pick someone else's never realised fantasy pattern for 25 cents instead of paying the envelope price.

*It was a Christmas miracle when my Spotlight membership meant I could buy a lot of the patterns for $5 each instead of $18. Even with the discount though, Vogue patterns were still ~$15
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: MaybeBabyMustache on February 23, 2018, 05:40:07 PM
Have $50 Bestbuy Reward Card, very tempted to use it to buy kindle or Alexa. I donít need either and I know itís just a gadget lust...

Put it in cart and went up to payment quite few times :-) but in the end have not bought it till now. Help me avoid the purchase. If I carry through end of Feb it would be two months without any unnecessary purchase.

Stay strong! February is almost over, & you want to keep your positive momentum going. The time delay will also give you time to really evaluate your purchase & whether it's worth it.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: Rosy on February 24, 2018, 06:35:05 AM
The Kindle really isn't necessary, you can get the free version from Amazon plus you can get the library apps for free too.
Wait - who knows what cool gadget they will come out with next year?:) and you may have more gc's to spend by then too.
One year of restraint - you can do it:)
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: Rosy on February 24, 2018, 07:04:59 AM
Working through my existing gift card stash & spent 2 gift cards yesterday on a few things we needed. My son also spent his birthday gift card, which means 3 less things to carry around in my wallet.

I have a gift card worth $15 that i'd like to sell, but I'm having a hard time finding a place to sell. Local FB group turned up no interest. My group is way less active than it was a year ago, sadly.

In other news, not my gazingus pin, but I did also commit to not buying more tea until I worked through my stash. Have finished 4/5 boxes of clearance teas (purchased for less than $1/each). Liked the first two, hate the last box I'm working through. After that, I have two boxes of decaf green tea + some loose leaf tea. Looking forward to one day actually spending the money to buying a box that I will fully enjoy! :-)
@MaybeBabyMustache
Never thought of gift cards as a gazingus pin. I am not sure why it would be?, you are not buying them yourself, are you?
I have a stash of HD and Lowe's cards for the spring gardening that I ogle with glee while I plan my garden. All the other cards I use for fun or when the budget is too tight that month.
That's nothing to feel guilty about and if you decide you don't want the gc you can sell it if you prefer cash or give it away - so I am slightly confused about why this would be a gazingus pin?

LOL about the tea - looking forward to one day actually spending the money to buying a box that I will fully enjoy:)
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: MaybeBabyMustache on February 24, 2018, 07:57:55 AM
@Rosy - I explained when I first posted. I'm always buying gift cards as "a bargain" and "to save money" when they are slightly on sale or offered with a discount/reward of some sort. And then, they sit in my wallet for 3 years saving up space, and eventually forcing me to spend money at Subway, when we may or may not have ever eaten lunch there had I not purchased said gift card. I've done it in the past because I felt like I was saving money, and it became clear that it's not much of a money saver. So, my goal for 2018 is to only buy those which I will immediately use. We also have Home Depot gift cards, because we are working on our house. And a few others.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: lifejoy on February 24, 2018, 08:22:51 AM
 Just curious - which of you hope to maintain your willpower forever, and who among us (me with the *shifty eyes* again!) is planning to buy TONS of gazingus pins in 2019?

I’m kind of analyzing how stupid it is for me to stop for a year so I can go crazy next year :/
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: Serendip on February 24, 2018, 08:39:48 AM
@lifejoy :)

I am definitely planning on this being a longer-term approach.
The no-buying ban is one year but I hope it will show me how I really don't 'need' the things I convince myself I NEED.

Not hoping to rely on willpower, since that is limited. They say repetition builds habit, so I suppose I am hoping to build long-term mindfulness through this practice if that makes sense?

 It's definitely helping to have this gauntlet as well as my 'no-shopping' experiment with my SO..I've seen appealing courses & books & earrings and they all fire up the reward centre in my brain...
I get activated, don't act on it and then move on. 

Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: Rosy on February 24, 2018, 08:47:37 AM
Got it @MaybeBabyMustache
Hearing it in this context makes a difference (and I do remember now reading your first post). Yes, it is certainly a much better strategy to reduce your gc purchases to imminent need/want, otherwise, it only reduces your available cash at hand - which then limits your choices.

I suppose this is another example of mindful acquisition, because it really does save you money.
Yet, if you save say five or ten bucks, but lock up $50 or $100 in cash repeatedly it is no longer such a good idea? Pure math says it is a good thing - but your actual behavior patterns show it to be detrimental to your budget - interesting:)
Just ruminating - so many of our financial choices can unwittingly turn into a money trap.

The only gc buying we ever do is take advantage if one of the credit card rewards gc's goes on special or our favorite restaurant runs a promo. Saves maybe $40 a year, but hey, these things add up.





Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: Rosy on February 24, 2018, 08:59:30 AM
Just curious - which of you hope to maintain your willpower forever, and who among us (me with the *shifty eyes* again!) is planning to buy TONS of gazingus pins in 2019?

Iím kind of analyzing how stupid it is for me to stop for a year so I can go crazy next year :/

Basically, I hope to have strengthened my willpower enough to resist ongoing temptation. I stopped once for about eight months and then slowly revved up to a roar - I.will.not.repeat.that.outcome.
I had allowed myself certain expenditures and then made the stupid mistake of using monthly payments for purchases (at zero interest, but still).

So this time, I will allow for jewelry gifts, but all my own purchases have to be paid in full on the spot. If you can't pay for it without impacting your goals, you can't afford it!
No hiding behind monthly payments!
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: MaybeBabyMustache on February 24, 2018, 09:52:21 AM
Just curious - which of you hope to maintain your willpower forever, and who among us (me with the *shifty eyes* again!) is planning to buy TONS of gazingus pins in 2019?

Iím kind of analyzing how stupid it is for me to stop for a year so I can go crazy next year :/

I'm not planning to unleash the beast again in 2019. I'm hoping to learn better tools to optimize, and when "a bargain" is truly a bargain. I've had this problem with other things as well: clothes, toiletries, etc. And then you move &  discover that you have 32 bottles of shampoo because they were "a great deal". I love deals, & I will certainly look to optimize our cash flow. But, I'm really looking to build better habits & mindfulness. If I'm being mindful, I'd ask myself why I'm buying a discounted gift card to a clothing store, when in reality, I'm trying to reduce my clothing shopping, and that locks me into one store which may not have what I need.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: MaybeBabyMustache on February 24, 2018, 09:55:25 AM
Got it @MaybeBabyMustache
Hearing it in this context makes a difference (and I do remember now reading your first post). Yes, it is certainly a much better strategy to reduce your gc purchases to imminent need/want, otherwise, it only reduces your available cash at hand - which then limits your choices.

I suppose this is another example of mindful acquisition, because it really does save you money.
Yet, if you save say five or ten bucks, but lock up $50 or $100 in cash repeatedly it is no longer such a good idea? Pure math says it is a good thing - but your actual behavior patterns show it to be detrimental to your budget - interesting:)
Just ruminating - so many of our financial choices can unwittingly turn into a money trap.

The only gc buying we ever do is take advantage if one of the credit card rewards gc's goes on special or our favorite restaurant runs a promo. Saves maybe $40 a year, but hey, these things add up.

Yup. There are plenty of ways it works for us, but I need to be more mindful vs just getting the quick thrill of a bargain that will result in spending that wouldn't have otherwise happened. It's worked so far. And, the getting rid of gift cards is simply enjoyable at this point, because I carry them around in my bag & there are a ton of them taking up space, as well as mental energy (don't forget to use that X gift card!)
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: lifejoy on February 24, 2018, 12:39:28 PM
Got it @MaybeBabyMustache
Hearing it in this context makes a difference (and I do remember now reading your first post). Yes, it is certainly a much better strategy to reduce your gc purchases to imminent need/want, otherwise, it only reduces your available cash at hand - which then limits your choices.

I suppose this is another example of mindful acquisition, because it really does save you money.
Yet, if you save say five or ten bucks, but lock up $50 or $100 in cash repeatedly it is no longer such a good idea? Pure math says it is a good thing - but your actual behavior patterns show it to be detrimental to your budget - interesting:)
Just ruminating - so many of our financial choices can unwittingly turn into a money trap.

The only gc buying we ever do is take advantage if one of the credit card rewards gc's goes on special or our favorite restaurant runs a promo. Saves maybe $40 a year, but hey, these things add up.

Yup. There are plenty of ways it works for us, but I need to be more mindful vs just getting the quick thrill of a bargain that will result in spending that wouldn't have otherwise happened. It's worked so far. And, the getting rid of gift cards is simply enjoyable at this point, because I carry them around in my bag &amp; there are a ton of them taking up space, as well as mental energy (don't forget to use that X gift card!)

Plus if you lose your wallet! That would be a problem!
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: Tris Prior on February 24, 2018, 01:06:31 PM
I figure that after this challenge I might go to a one-in-one-out policy. If I buy new socks or tights, a pair that I don't wear any more or is worn out or doesn't fit or starts doing that thing where the tights keep slowly creeping down your bum and legs as the day goes on, gets tossed (because I don't think you can donate socks? Maybe to a shelter? They won't want tights, though, I don't think). If I finish one box of tea I can buy another. That seems more reasonable to me.

(Though this doesn't mean "I just bought 10 things at Sock Dreams so now I'm going to toss out 10 that I already have!" Moderation would be good here, I think. I will never need 10 new footwear items at once.)

I am down to 1 box of tea, in a flavor I don't really like. Nghhhhhhhhh. :(
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: Laura33 on February 24, 2018, 01:58:24 PM
Just curious - which of you hope to maintain your willpower forever, and who among us (me with the *shifty eyes* again!) is planning to buy TONS of gazingus pins in 2019?

Iím kind of analyzing how stupid it is for me to stop for a year so I can go crazy next year :/

In the middle.  I need a better habit of buying teas that I will drink, rather than buying tons of different varieties just because they sound cool and then not drinking them and letting them clutter up my pantry. 

TBH, I am starting to feel the pinch a bit - I have gotten to the point where I realized I have to start alternating teas I donít like so much in with the ones I love, or Iím going to drink all the delicious ones first and end up with a month or two of ďmehĒ teas.  And the little gremlin in my head is saying, goddammit, you make money, you can buy some damn tea!  But I just need to rein the gremlin in, because the whole point is to stop being so wasteful - life isnít getting exactly what you want, the minute you want it, and itís not healthy to fall into that expectation.  My days of meh teas are my penance for my excess in years past.  But like any penance, it chafes!
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: Tris Prior on February 24, 2018, 04:14:21 PM

TBH, I am starting to feel the pinch a bit - I have gotten to the point where I realized I have to start alternating teas I donít like so much in with the ones I love, or Iím going to drink all the delicious ones first and end up with a month or two of ďmehĒ teas. 

Welcome to my current life! I rationed out the teas I love, and ran out anyway. Blah.
 
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: lifejoy on February 24, 2018, 04:18:05 PM
Just curious - which of you hope to maintain your willpower forever, and who among us (me with the *shifty eyes* again!) is planning to buy TONS of gazingus pins in 2019?

I’m kind of analyzing how stupid it is for me to stop for a year so I can go crazy next year :/

In the middle.  I need a better habit of buying teas that I will drink, rather than buying tons of different varieties just because they sound cool and then not drinking them and letting them clutter up my pantry. 

TBH, I am starting to feel the pinch a bit - I have gotten to the point where I realized I have to start alternating teas I don’t like so much in with the ones I love, or I’m going to drink all the delicious ones first and end up with a month or two of “meh” teas.  And the little gremlin in my head is saying, goddammit, you make money, you can buy some damn tea!  But I just need to rein the gremlin in, because the whole point is to stop being so wasteful - life isn’t getting exactly what you want, the minute you want it, and it’s not healthy to fall into that expectation.  My days of meh teas are my penance for my excess in years past.  But like any penance, it chafes!

Well said.

I bet the days you have “good” teas are extra delightful!
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: mspym on February 24, 2018, 04:29:37 PM
In the middle.  I need a better habit of buying teas that I will drink, rather than buying tons of different varieties just because they sound cool and then not drinking them and letting them clutter up my pantry. 

TBH, I am starting to feel the pinch a bit - I have gotten to the point where I realized I have to start alternating teas I donít like so much in with the ones I love, or Iím going to drink all the delicious ones first and end up with a month or two of ďmehĒ teas.  And the little gremlin in my head is saying, goddammit, you make money, you can buy some damn tea!  But I just need to rein the gremlin in, because the whole point is to stop being so wasteful - life isnít getting exactly what you want, the minute you want it, and itís not healthy to fall into that expectation.  My days of meh teas are my penance for my excess in years past.  But like any penance, it chafes!

It's like eating something you are not mad for- don't leave it all to the end, or the meal will end in sadness
:)

I like the idea of alternating the favourites and not-so-favoured. I wonder though if you only drank the not-favourites would you start appreciating them more? Like when you cut out sugar and suddenly fruit starts blowing your mind?
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: Tris Prior on February 24, 2018, 04:44:49 PM

I like the idea of alternating the favourites and not-so-favoured. I wonder though if you only drank the not-favourites would you start appreciating them more? Like when you cut out sugar and suddenly fruit starts blowing your mind?

In my experience, no. I'm drinking so much tea these days as a substitute for what I really want - baked goods, wine, cheese, pasta, bread, food in general (am dieting via counting calories). Subbing good tea for what I really wanted to be eating and drinking was somewhat helpful to my mental state, and I did find myself really enjoying my favorites. Having to sub tea I don't like SUCKS and reminds me that tea isn't what I really want in the first place.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: HappierAtHome on February 24, 2018, 05:02:51 PM
Just curious - which of you hope to maintain your willpower forever, and who among us (me with the *shifty eyes* again!) is planning to buy TONS of gazingus pins in 2019?

Iím kind of analyzing how stupid it is for me to stop for a year so I can go crazy next year :/

I'm hoping to be more MINDFUL going forward after this challenge. Tupperware is my listed gazingus pin, and I do want to be more selective in 2019+ with that, and definitely but less than I have in the past.

I didn't list clothes as a gazingus pin, but I'm not buying any clothes whatsoever in 2018 (separate challenge). The interesting thing is that I had already been a wardrobe minimalist for several years, so not buying anything in 2018 almost certainly means that I'll be scraping by towards the end of the year as items fail, and I will be buying several items in January 2019.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: lifejoy on February 24, 2018, 05:09:28 PM
I’m selling some jewellery, which is a win for me :)
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: Inkedup on February 24, 2018, 06:28:15 PM
Just curious - which of you hope to maintain your willpower forever, and who among us (me with the *shifty eyes* again!) is planning to buy TONS of gazingus pins in 2019?

Iím kind of analyzing how stupid it is for me to stop for a year so I can go crazy next year :/

Planning to be reasonable in 2019. There's no need to return to stockpiling mode, and space is finite anyway. I have so much tea that it feels like a relief to settle in to enjoy it and reign in the impulse to consider what to buy next. When I consider the current stash, I ask myself which teas I feel meh about and which ones I love enough to re-buy and have only a handful in the latter category. That's pretty revealing.

Thanks for the positive reinforcement and feedback!
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: diapasoun on February 24, 2018, 07:17:33 PM
@lifejoy I don't know if I'll do a hard cut in 2019 like I'm doing this year. Part of that depends on how many of my books I read this year. What I think my eventual goal needs to be is to read down my book collection - to always be at some percentage read (say, 90% of the collection). Not gonna lie, that's going to take a while! I'm helping right now by not adding to the collection, but I met too work at it from the other direction, too.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: horsepoor on February 24, 2018, 09:33:20 PM
Quote from: HappierAtHome

I'm hoping to be more MINDFUL going forward after this challenge. Tupperware is my listed gazingus pin, and I do want to be more selective in 2019+ with that, and definitely but less than I have in the past.

This for me.  I suppose I want a sort of capsule wardrobe for my horse stuff.  This year will help me crystallize the items I really want to have, and not buy stuff I won't put to good use.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: chaskavitch on February 25, 2018, 06:52:32 AM
Just curious - which of you hope to maintain your willpower forever, and who among us (me with the *shifty eyes* again!) is planning to buy TONS of gazingus pins in 2019?

Iím kind of analyzing how stupid it is for me to stop for a year so I can go crazy next year :/

I'm hoping to be more MINDFUL going forward after this challenge. Tupperware is my listed gazingus pin, and I do want to be more selective in 2019+ with that, and definitely but less than I have in the past.

I didn't list clothes as a gazingus pin, but I'm not buying any clothes whatsoever in 2018 (separate challenge). The interesting thing is that I had already been a wardrobe minimalist for several years, so not buying anything in 2018 almost certainly means that I'll be scraping by towards the end of the year as items fail, and I will be buying several items in January 2019.

This is what I'm going for with clothes, too.  Now that I've started looking at what I ACTUALLY wear, it's a very small portion of my winter wardrobe.  I probably don't wear half of my sweaters, for work or at home.  I'm assuming summer will be the same.  What I'm struggling with is that it's a lot of different clothes than I wore last winter - I'm really hoping my tastes aren't that variable all the time and I'm just honing in on what I like?  Maybe?
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: Jim Fiction on February 25, 2018, 07:12:15 AM
Join us! We give out gold stars ;)

Well, stars, at least. Iím staying away from gold, myself. Lol

And if you download Tapatalk you can easily have us on your phone...

So when will your month begin? Sounds like you have a bad case or FOMO! (Fear of missing out).

Hi lifejoy!

The FOMO is definitely strong with me! Realizing this is a good start, next is taking steps to work on the problem.

The official start will be March 1st. I will go a full month without purchasing or drinking any beer. I may leave myself one cheat day - we have a work happy hour coming on 3/15 (I'm a tax accountant and its one of our deadlines). Those drinks will be work provided, so at least I won't be spending my own money!

I've unofficially started - one of my favorite local breweries released a new, tasty-looking DIPA yesterday and despite the intense pull to head there to try it after I left work I came directly home instead. Baby steps!
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: I'm a red panda on February 25, 2018, 07:23:54 AM
If anyone is the tiniest bit crafty, and likes draped tops, look up Simplicity 8452. You can practically make it from the cover image, and the instructions bear this out. There are some nice reviews for it as well from people who have made it. (NINETEEN DOLLARS! how could you sleep at night charging that much?)
Do you actually have to pay the price on patterns? The stores here always have them half off, and often have them for 99 cents or 1.99. I didn't know anyone sold them face value. Thats insane.

This is because you are Not In Australia*. It is bonkers here, and I assume we are subsidising a lot of the 99 cent patterns in the States.

I have bought a LOT of patterns from op shops because I can pick someone else's never realised fantasy pattern for 25 cents instead of paying the envelope price.

*It was a Christmas miracle when my Spotlight membership meant I could buy a lot of the patterns for $5 each instead of $18. Even with the discount though, Vogue patterns were still ~$15
I suspect it is similar to our drug prices. We are told we bear the r&d cost.

Vogue is always more expensive here.

Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: lifejoy on February 25, 2018, 08:06:52 AM
Join us! We give out gold stars ;)

Well, stars, at least. I’m staying away from gold, myself. Lol

And if you download Tapatalk you can easily have us on your phone...

So when will your month begin? Sounds like you have a bad case or FOMO! (Fear of missing out).

Hi lifejoy!

The FOMO is definitely strong with me! Realizing this is a good start, next is taking steps to work on the problem.

The official start will be March 1st. I will go a full month without purchasing or drinking any beer. I may leave myself one cheat day - we have a work happy hour coming on 3/15 (I'm a tax accountant and its one of our deadlines). Those drinks will be work provided, so at least I won't be spending my own money!

I've unofficially started - one of my favorite local breweries released a new, tasty-looking DIPA yesterday and despite the intense pull to head there to try it after I left work I came directly home instead. Baby steps!

Woohoo! Way to prep for March!!!
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: Jim Fiction on February 25, 2018, 08:13:44 AM
Update:
almost two months in - have resulted in freeing up $200 in my upcoming March budget! Better yet, if I stay on course it will help me save up that extra $1K I discovered I need for my trip by June.
I'm not looking at jewelry
I'm not buying jewelry
I am not lying awake at night - thinking about all the jewelry I will buy as soon as this challenge is over.

... regardless, I know temptation can still strike at a weak, unguarded moment ...

@Jim Fiction - the first month is the hardest:)
I guess I am a beer snob, I'll be happy to try something new, but I am firmly in the stout, dark slightly sweet beer camp, although I'll go for a good Pilsner or May Doppelbock in the summertime.
There is a craft brewery downtown St. Petersburg (well, there are several:) but this one has one called "1516" brewed in accordance with the German Reinheitsgebot - it is da bomb:) Smooth and surprisingly light tasting for a dark beer.

Hi Rosy! Thank you for the encouragement. At heart I'm a hop-head and thus a big IPA fan, but I enjoy most varieties as long as they're done well. For example ,I've enjoyed some tremendous porters and stouts the last few months (they're "in-season" here in CT due to the cold weather). Probably the best thing I've had over the last few months was actually a scotch ale from a local spot (Relic Brewing). I'm sort of a beer snob in that I go for local stuff over anything else, but I don't dedicate myself too heavily a particular style, though IPAs/DIPAs are my favorite style and the most popular in this region and breweries are constantly putting out new beers in this vein so there is always something new to try.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: Rosy on February 25, 2018, 09:16:50 AM
@lifejoy I don't know if I'll do a hard cut in 2019 like I'm doing this year. Part of that depends on how many of my books I read this year. What I think my eventual goal needs to be is to read down my book collection - to always be at some percentage read (say, 90% of the collection). Not gonna lie, that's going to take a while! I'm helping right now by not adding to the collection, but I met too work at it from the other direction, too.

Not exactly to your point, but now that I am no longer buying jewelry, my book buying has suddenly reached "stack" proportion. Books will always be a weakness of mine, but it is a habit that I thought I had under control.
I'm not adding it as a gazingus pin, because it is not anywhere near that level, but now there will be a max budget for books going forward.

It is so strange to me - in the past I never had unread books in the house, because who buys books and then doesn't read them? When I struggled with at least putting a damper on my jewelry spending last year, I started buying books, but I kept up with reading them and then donated them.
Unless they qualified for one book in - another book out, within my mini-collections on various subjects.

This year, I bought both new books and used books and I find I don't like seeing stacks of them - it makes me antsy.
In the past, I would have been happy just to look at my book acquisitions, but I graduated to curating with strict requirements.

So I am back to mindfulness - which takes commitment and mental effort. I don't envy you the pain of deciding how to deal with your book collection and your book acquisitions going forward. You can do it over time and with a long look at what you value in your life.
It literally hurt letting go - people with no affinity for books cannot possibly understand what they mean to a bibliophile.

Books will always be important to me, but these days I can curate, let go or update. It is such a hard-won victory that just the thought of backsliding raises my anxiety level. 
Letting go of a jewelry gazingus pin may be hard, but nothing compared to the deep-rooted emotional upheaval I felt about reducing down to three bookshelves.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: CrustyBadger on February 26, 2018, 05:29:08 PM
I have failed this month -- no star for me! 

I have had some very troubling times this past week, and a bad weekend.   Went to work today without a proper breakfast or lunch and feeling emotionally overwhelmed.  At the first break  I thought, "What would really pick me up would be a nice jolt of cheesy salty oil crackers!"  AKA Doritos.   I'll be honest, they didn't solve any of my problems, but I did feel good eating them, even though I knew it meant no stars for me.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: diapasoun on February 26, 2018, 05:58:57 PM
@lifejoy I don't know if I'll do a hard cut in 2019 like I'm doing this year. Part of that depends on how many of my books I read this year. What I think my eventual goal needs to be is to read down my book collection - to always be at some percentage read (say, 90% of the collection). Not gonna lie, that's going to take a while! I'm helping right now by not adding to the collection, but I met too work at it from the other direction, too.
[snip't]

So I am back to mindfulness - which takes commitment and mental effort. I don't envy you the pain of deciding how to deal with your book collection and your book acquisitions going forward. You can do it over time and with a long look at what you value in your life.
It literally hurt letting go - people with no affinity for books cannot possibly understand what they mean to a bibliophile.

Books will always be important to me, but these days I can curate, let go or update. It is such a hard-won victory that just the thought of backsliding raises my anxiety level. 
Letting go of a jewelry gazingus pin may be hard, but nothing compared to the deep-rooted emotional upheaval I felt about reducing down to three bookshelves.

Books, and my personal library, are absolutely a deep-seated THING for me. It's changed and it's generally become healthy for me over the years, although I couldn't do what some friends have done, and reduce my library to a single shelf that never gets any larger. I appreciate having a personal library waaaay too much, for reasons that could probably extend to a multi-thousand-word screed.

That being said, I've got a few strategies I want to rely on in the future:

1. Get rid of any book that I read and just didn't enjoy much. This is a small but non-zero part of my collection, and these books should absolutely go out into the world and find owners who will appreciate them more. I currently have a stack of five or six books  that I'm going to take to my local bookshop for re-sale, or plonk into a nearby Little Free Library. This will increase as I...

2. Read all of the books in my collection. This is going to sound a little woo, but I feel like when I buy a book and never read it, I'm disrespecting the book. Like I said above, I'd like to get to at least a 90% read rate, preferably higher.

3. Even after this gauntlet is over, I want to continue using the library as my primary way of experiencing new books, instead of buying them from the store. I'm doing really well on the need to purchase new books; it doesn't itch at me. That means that I should prioritize using my library, which (a) supports the library, (b) saves me money, and (c) means I avoid the whole Book Collecting thing generally.

If I do all these, I'll get to a point where I have a collection that FITS me. It will be a collection of books I've read and loved, and which I actively want in my home. That sounds like how I want my life to be.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: lifejoy on February 26, 2018, 10:24:49 PM
I have failed this month -- no star for me! 

I have had some very troubling times this past week, and a bad weekend.   Went to work today without a proper breakfast or lunch and feeling emotionally overwhelmed.  At the first break  I thought, "What would really pick me up would be a nice jolt of cheesy salty oil crackers!"  AKA Doritos.   I'll be honest, they didn't solve any of my problems, but I did feel good eating them, even though I knew it meant no stars for me.

Hey, so sorry to hear you’re having a rough time. I think you’ve been doing a great job overall and I hope you’re feeling ok to get back on the bandwagon :)

We’ll be here, cheering you on!

Many years ago, my counsellor told me: doing a thing once, or twice, or a few times, does not make you A Person Who Does That Forever. Each day we are born again. Every day is a new day. You can choose to be whoever you want to be &lt;3

Maybe instead of a star, you get hearts &lt;3 &lt;3 &lt;3

Hang in there.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: formerlydivorcedmom on February 27, 2018, 08:49:37 AM
That being said, I've got a few strategies I want to rely on in the future:

1. Get rid of any book that I read and just didn't enjoy much. This is a small but non-zero part of my collection, and these books should absolutely go out into the world and find owners who will appreciate them more. I currently have a stack of five or six books  that I'm going to take to my local bookshop for re-sale, or plonk into a nearby Little Free Library. This will increase as I...

2. Read all of the books in my collection. This is going to sound a little woo, but I feel like when I buy a book and never read it, I'm disrespecting the book. Like I said above, I'd like to get to at least a 90% read rate, preferably higher.

3. Even after this gauntlet is over, I want to continue using the library as my primary way of experiencing new books, instead of buying them from the store. I'm doing really well on the need to purchase new books; it doesn't itch at me. That means that I should prioritize using my library, which (a) supports the library, (b) saves me money, and (c) means I avoid the whole Book Collecting thing generally.

If I do all these, I'll get to a point where I have a collection that FITS me. It will be a collection of books I've read and loved, and which I actively want in my home. That sounds like how I want my life to be.

I struggle with the "Get rid of books I didn't enjoy all that much" when they were written by one of my favorite authors.   I like the idea of having a collection of all of their works...but, honestly, I'll never read that particular book again unless I choose to hate-read it (which I do occasionally).

I did go through my TBR pile and give away a lot of books that I know I will never read.  Most of those were given to me, and after looking at them for a few years, I know I won't ever pick them up on my own.

My goal is to get my books-for-pleasure down to 3 bookcases, and my research books (I write Wikipedia articles and do genealogy) to fit on another 2-3 shelves (half a bookcase).
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: Poundwise on February 27, 2018, 09:17:32 AM
@CrustyBadger Don't beat yourself up about the lapse. You didn't eat, you needed some energy to get you through the day.  However you have done so well throughout so you still are a winner for the month!

I'm pleased to say that I don't think I've made any craft purchases since that unconscious one. I had to swallow the $7 grommet purchase, because I'm afraid to step into Jo-Ann to return it.  But I stood strong in terms of not going to buy blackout cloth for our projector screen. Instead I burrowed into my fabric stash and it turned out that I have enough blackout cloth already!  So the challenge has saved me money and stopped me from adding to clutter!

I do confess that hobby spending this month is not zero.  I started an aquarium as a birthday present for one of my kids, and though I got the big tank for free and still had many supplies left over from our last fish, we did splash out on a new filter, bubbler, and some other supplies.  I'm not going to feel too guilty as we would have spent money on something for him, though I am a little worried that the aquarium will be a money pit.  Beats a video game, though.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: Tris Prior on February 27, 2018, 09:24:15 AM
It doesn't count if someone gifts you a gazingus pin, right?

I got a care package in the mail yesterday that included a pair of socks that say "I am a delicate fucking flower." I laughed hysterically.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: zeli2033 on February 27, 2018, 09:24:32 AM
3. Even after this gauntlet is over, I want to continue using the library as my primary way of experiencing new books, instead of buying them from the store. I'm doing really well on the need to purchase new books; it doesn't itch at me. That means that I should prioritize using my library, which (a) supports the library, (b) saves me money, and (c) means I avoid the whole Book Collecting thing generally.

If I do all these, I'll get to a point where I have a collection that FITS me. It will be a collection of books I've read and loved, and which I actively want in my home. That sounds like how I want my life to be.

+100 - this right here. In all honesty, I should have quoted all 3 strategies diapasoun shared but Iíve gone to far now on the tiny phone screen and have to stick to this :) i also love the part I bolded for emphasis. Thereís something really amazing about actively pursuing a life you want when that involves consuming less and intentionally using what you already have that continues to bring value to your life.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: lifejoy on February 27, 2018, 09:27:08 AM
It doesn't count if someone gifts you a gazingus pin, right?

I got a care package in the mail yesterday that included a pair of socks that say "I am a delicate fucking flower." I laughed hysterically.

1. I want those socks!!

2. For me, part of what’s amazing about this challenge is that when or if I get gifted a gazingus pin, it will feel AMAZING instead of “oh, I just bought five of these today. Here is another one. Cool.”

So I think that’s great!!
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: lifejoy on February 27, 2018, 09:28:27 AM
Cool post about consuming less: http://www.freetopursue.com/blog/2018/1/28/more-is-less
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: Rosy on February 27, 2018, 12:50:12 PM
@diapasoun
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If I do all these, I'll get to a point where I have a collection that FITS me. It will be a collection of books I've read and loved, and which I actively want in my home. That sounds like how I want my life to be.

Yes, that is it in a nutshell!:), brilliant!  ... and it is where I am at present.

Books do not really fit in the consuma sucka mold. Far from it, we use them to better ourselves, open and mold our minds and study a myriad of subjects. Libraries are a wonderful public service, but they are not the be all and end all. Perhaps they are for mainstream literature or romance novels, but books go past entertainment and education.

I grew up in a household where I had access to books and to a nearby library. No one ever told me about certain subjects not fit for children, I read whatever interested me, a lot I didn't understand and when I discovered my local library had young adult books it was a revelation. My summers consisted of riding my bike to the pool and reading my books in the shady area under trees. It was a huge outdoor facility with lots of grass and trees, three different pool areas, a kiosk and an outdoor cafe.
Even buying the annual pass for the pool entrance was an expenditure planned for in advance. A couple times a week I might have enough money to buy a coke or an ice cream cone there - doesn't mix well with reading:)
   
Anyway, I have a small collection of books that I re-read every few years. I love it when I discover that my perception has changed. It is amazing to me when I suddenly see certain passages in a different light. It shows me that I have grown wiser as a person, more forgiving or sometimes less forgiving, depending:).
Maybe I see clearer now what shattering consequences certain actions and behaviors can have?
I have one book about poetry that makes me cry every time I read it:) How I came by it or why I love it so much is a mystery to me - I'm not "into" poetry as such, but I do appreciate the work of certain authors, from the old Persians to Morrison - if it touches the soul it is good and will resonate for another thousand years - powerful stuff those books.

@formerlydivorcedmom - somewhere along the line - I decided that my time was too precious to waste on finishing reading a book that I clearly found less than, and I am certainly not using my precious bookshelf space for a book that I do not like. Even our favorite authors sometimes miss the mark - it happens.

Once I let go of two romance book collections by favorite authors - I never looked back. Unless I am about to read it, you will not find a single romance book in my house anymore.
These days, I regularly cull my books - sometimes I lose interest in a particular subject, so I let go of my mini-library of art books. I've had books about my favorite painters since I was nine years old - no more. For whatever reason, I do not need them anymore.
Besides, one needs to leave room for new passions:), right?

Next on my list for a cull is my cookbook collection - that is not too hard, I'll keep my favorites and three that I hardly use, but love dearly and one amazing thrift shop find. A very old German Christmas cookie baking book - elevated my cooking baking to stellar - no lie. Best macaroons and best vanilla, sugar, butter cookie recipes ever.

So yeah, books do not compare to a gazingus pin like jewelry buying, but nevertheless, mindfulness in acquisition and culling principles are a necessity lest one lose control of one's possessions:)

Sorry, I'll shut up about books now. Ahem, I will be ready for my second extra sparkly gold star tomorrow ...:)
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: diapasoun on February 28, 2018, 11:22:29 AM
I love all the love for books on this thread. :) And glad that other folks have found strategies for their book acquisition tendencies, too.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: DTaggart on February 28, 2018, 02:06:23 PM
Checking in to claim my star for the month of February! No outdoor or fitness gear purchases for me.

I FIREd at the start of the month and I have to say my "aspirational" purchasing tendencies have all but disappeared. While working I would often feel frustrated that I couldn't be out hiking or playing outside and would buy stuff to compensate. Now when I find myself thinking "Gee it's a nice day, it would be nice to do an outdoor thing," I just get up and go do an outdoor thing!

I've been out for longer hikes at least twice a week, training up for some backpacking trips I have planned this summer. I load up my big pack with extra weight (extra water bottles and a small dumbell) and stagger my way up a mountain. I've been able to go running around my neighborhood somewhat consistently, as of yesterday I'm up to 4 miles. We've been taking the dog out for walks everyday too - he's up to 2 miles at a stretch. Even if we don't get out to one of the "hiking" areas, just walking around our neighborhood scratches the "go outside and play" itch.

I went on my first overnight backpacking trip a few weeks ago and finally got to put my backpacking gear to a real test. I admit I have identified several items I want to buy, but I feel more like they are legitimate needs at this point then wants. The weather was REALLY windy and I had some issues getting my stove to boil water so I think a windscreen is in order (I actually had to eat my dehydrated chicken and veggies while they were still a bit crunchy since it was taking so long to boil water). I've also been considering buying an inflatable pillow and after my trip I'm more inclined to get this item - my original plan was to use a stuff sack full of clothes as a pillow but I was wearing all my clothes because it was so cold. I tried using my backpack as a pillow but it wasn't comfortable at all.

Also, for a trip coming up in June I'm pretty sure I'm going to need to get a real rain cover, as well as a duffel bag to transport my backpack in since we'll be flying (a lot of people recommend this when checking your backpack as baggage since the straps and buckles can get caught on the conveyors and wreck your pack).

I've spent a lot of time trying to figure out if I'm just rationalizing getting these items, but I don' feel like they are the mindless aspirational purchases I've been trying to avoid. Having been on the trip without the stove windscreen and pillow and realizing that having them would have made a meaningful improvement, I feel comfortable that those would be bought for an actual purpose rather than just making me feel a certain way. Ditto for the rain cover for my pack. The duffel bag bugs me a little since I feel like it's not something I will use regularly, but I don't want to risk my pack getting f'ed up.

My plan though is to wait for my birthday in May and ask for some of these things as gifts. The duffel bag I will look for in thrift stores or on ebay, and hopefully get that used fairly cheap. I also have a few things I don't use that I will try to sell on eBay or Craigslist and can use the money towards the new items, so I'll at least end up with a net zero increase in "stuff" :) I'm also not running out and buying any of these things on a whim, but holding off until closer to the trip to make sure I still think they're necessary.

As to lifejoy's question about what I expect for my habits after 2018 is over: My goal is just to be more mindful of my purchases. I don't want to buy things as a lame substitute for actually doing the things I enjoy, and I don't want to buy things impulsively because they seem like a good idea/useful. I only want to buy things if I legitimately have a need for them and if they fulfill an actual purpose. So, yet another long-sleeved running top (I already have several, and it is rarely cold enough that I need long sleeves) is not a valid purchase. A lightweight frying pan so I can cook pancakes on the trail (I have numerous food options that do not require a frying pan) is not a valid purchase. A pillow so I can get a good night's rest and not end up with a sore neck? Well, I've tried the alternatives and I'm convinced that this is something I will use and get value from - valid purchase.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: RetiredAt63 on February 28, 2018, 05:43:44 PM
Also checking in to report a successful month.  When I went to the local yarn store for needles all I bought was the needles I wanted.  I looked a tiny bit at yarn, but more in a window-shopping mindset than a oooh look at that I want it mindset.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: diapasoun on February 28, 2018, 07:35:58 PM
DTaggart, it seems like you've found a good equilibrium.

I too am here to report a gazingus pin-free month for February. Huzzah!
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: horsepoor on February 28, 2018, 09:21:53 PM
No star for me - but I did just buy the one sheet for my horse, which I've used several times already, and didn't use the "fail" as an excuse to buy other things, so feeling OK with that.

Onward to March!
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: middo on February 28, 2018, 09:56:33 PM
I'm checking in for my star too. No tools in February, and i survived just fine.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: HappierAtHome on February 28, 2018, 10:46:35 PM
I'm due a star too :-)
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: mspym on March 01, 2018, 12:54:31 AM
Reporting in for my star!
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: formerlydivorcedmom on March 01, 2018, 08:14:30 AM
Congratulations on FIREing, @DTaggart !!!  I am envious of your ability to go do outdoors things whenever you want.

Great work to everyone else last month.  I bought the one cookbook, but that was it, so I think I get a gold star as well.

My library is moving this week from a very convenient location next to my daughter's school to a less convenient location across town.  That will present a bigger challenge, but I'm up for it!

For this month, I'm thinking about using my book purchase to get a book for my son.  He's on the list to get it from the library, but it will probably be months before it's his turn.  I hadn't originally intended to keep the kids' books as part of my challenge, but the children seem to think it covers them too.  My son asked me last night for chores so he could earn money for other books he wants.  I don't know, maybe I'll just wait and give him this one for his birthday. 

Next year, I need to make frozen cookie dough my gazingus pin challenge.  I have a weakness for both cookies and cute kids selling stuff for school...which means we have a lot of cookie dough.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: Poundwise on March 01, 2018, 08:18:25 AM
Since I earned a star under false pretenses for January, but stood strong for February, just please leave me as I am, lifejoy! 

Good work, everyone who earned a star-- and also for everyone who resisted even a single temptation throughout the month!  Perfection is good, but better is best!
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: Rosy on March 01, 2018, 08:43:03 AM
Yay - one more extra sparkly star for me, please:)

Only one occasion of intense temptation - saved by the universe aka computer glitch.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: Tris Prior on March 01, 2018, 08:47:22 AM
Reporting in to claim my gold star for February!
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: zeli2033 on March 01, 2018, 08:51:43 AM
STAR PLEASE!!!!!!!
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: I'm a red panda on March 01, 2018, 08:52:12 AM
I get a star for February.
My favorite nail polish brand just released their spring collection....OMG so much pretty; I am resisting.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: Serendip on March 01, 2018, 02:41:32 PM
One star for me please.

Holding strong on the art workshops..even though I read about many appealing ones. I definitely get mental stimulation from them so am working out ways to keep myself motivated in other ways..

Also @lifejoy , I think you have me doubled up on the list if you could remove the first one (initially my username was astak) thank you!
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: MaybeBabyMustache on March 01, 2018, 09:02:19 PM
One star for me please.

Holding strong on the art workshops..even though I read about many appealing ones. I definitely get mental stimulation from them so am working out ways to keep myself motivated in other ways..

Also @MaybeBabyMustache, I think you have me doubled up on the list if you could remove the first one (initially my username was astak) thank you!

I think you're looking for @lifejoy :-)
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: Serendip on March 02, 2018, 12:32:22 AM
One star for me please.

Holding strong on the art workshops..even though I read about many appealing ones. I definitely get mental stimulation from them so am working out ways to keep myself motivated in other ways..

Also @MaybeBabyMustache, I think you have me doubled up on the list if you could remove the first one (initially my username was astak) thank you!

I think you're looking for @lifejoy :-)

oops, you are correct :) thanks!
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: CrustyBadger on March 02, 2018, 07:09:48 AM
I have failed this month -- no star for me! 

I have had some very troubling times this past week, and a bad weekend.   Went to work today without a proper breakfast or lunch and feeling emotionally overwhelmed.  At the first break  I thought, "What would really pick me up would be a nice jolt of cheesy salty oil crackers!"  AKA Doritos.   I'll be honest, they didn't solve any of my problems, but I did feel good eating them, even though I knew it meant no stars for me.

Gosh, no star for me this month and I"m OK with that -- but geez, I should have realized I caved on Feb 26th -- only two days till the end of the month!   Maybe that would have held me out longer!!

Anyhow, I am on track to try again in March!
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: Laura33 on March 02, 2018, 12:14:49 PM
I got a care package in the mail yesterday that included a pair of socks that say "I am a delicate fucking flower." I laughed hysterically.

I totally want those socks!!

One of the guys at my gym -- total badass -- has a t-shirt with pink writing/drawing that says "I'm a unicorn, damn it!"  I love him.  :-)

And a gold star for me too -- no tea purchases, despite walking by several tempting displays in the grocery store!  I actually really feel like I earned this one; the first month felt really good to clear out a bunch of partially-drunk boxes, and I almost felt guilty accepting a star for it.  But this month, man, drinking the "meh" teas really started to grate.  But I did it!  And the good news is if I keep it up, I may have only another month or two before I clear out everything else and get to buy some replacements, so there's an incentive -- I mean, if I can't hold out for 3-4 months, that is total wuss-level.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: Inkedup on March 02, 2018, 06:30:55 PM
Checking in to report that no tea or coffee purchases were made during the month of February! Drinking down the stash continues...
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: Duchess on March 03, 2018, 11:04:35 AM
Can I claim my gold star for February please?

Definitely didnít buy any clothing for my little one although was tempted a couple of times.

Iím finding it difficult to draw clear boundaries around buying snacks while out and about. Iíve avoided making unnecessary purchases in this category while on my own but weíve made some unplanned food purchases as a family. It doesnít seem fair to force this challenge on my husband though. The meals out were further compounded by being away on holiday (i.e., vacation) last week.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: lifejoy on March 04, 2018, 04:12:52 PM
Stars will be added ASAP!

In the meantime, I did NOT go into the jewellery store that had signs that said: SALE! Up to 80% off! Everything must go!

Gah. I’m staying strong!(https://uploads.tapatalk-cdn.com/20180304/7570db92d6a0e427aae4a80d42fa324a.jpg)
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: lifejoy on March 04, 2018, 09:23:15 PM
Bravo, Duchess! I only have junk food/sweets/eating out written for you. Should I be adding “kids clothes” or something?

Inkedup - curious: how much do you think you used to spend on tea each month, prior to this challenge? And yay, star!

Laura33 - any plans to find cheaper tea options for when you are allowed to purchase? (Warning: not trying to make you start shopping now!)

I think you tea people are proof that every dollar counts and adds up. My major pin being jewellery makes tea seem CHEAP but I know it’s just an illusion! ;) Great job for making it through the month, Laura!

CrustyBadger - it is in some ways harder to keep going after a misstep than when you’re totally cold turkey. I’m really impressed by you and could totally see you making it the rest of the year!

Serendip - changed! And here I thought you had a twin ;) Great job on February! Sounds like you faced a lot of temptation and held strong!

Iowajes - you are the bomb!!! If you’re anything like me, willpower + motherhood is a big LOL sometimes... SO HARD!!! (Iowajes and I both have babies.)

Zeli - books are the best and you are even better!! Way to go!

Tris - have you counted how many socks you own? Great job on resisting socks AND tea!

Rosy - I can’t tell you how much I appreciate you being in this challenge. We could have our very own thread: jewellery addicts anonymous. You did so well this month! And fate helped! I’m so impressed that you’re meeting your savings goals.

Poundwise - lol whoops. I shall exchange your January star for a February one :)
That ok with you?
And perhaps I should give people stars ahead of time... it sucks to lose something that you feel is already yours! Haha jk! But great job!

Formerly divorced Mom - no candles, either? Way to go!! As for buying cookie dough.. it’s not smart but sometimes I give the kids money and tell them to keep their hot dogs / cookies / chocolates / whatever. I’m spendy though... love throwing away my money to deserving kids haha

I think it’s really cool that your son has joined the challenge, without you even making him! Maybe you could make it very easy for him to earn the money? Lots of little job options? So cool. Part of what motivates me is my long-term goal of being a good role model for my daughter. My mom loves deals and shopping and I have memories of “Can we GO now???!” And I don’t want babyjoy to see my life as very consumerist and superficial. (No shade on my mom - she’s great! But is a bit addicted to shopping like 90% of the western world...)

Mspym - great going :)

Happierathome - I know you well enough that I’m not surprised you got a star! Is willpower easy-ish for you, or is there a struggle? How’s it going for you?

Middo - I’m so impressed. Tools are far easier to rationalize than another diamond ring! Ha!!

Horsepoor - I think while it doesn’t mean a star for February, I think it is a win for Mustachian living: you made a very conscious purchase and limited yourself from frivolous spending. Go, you!!

Diapasoun - woohoo! Great job! I wonder if you could get your book club titles far enough in advance that you could put holds on the books with plenty of time to spare?

RetiredAt63 - way to go! And I’m laughing because I’m still picturing a gazingus pin of edible fibre. Oops. Yarn etc! My mistake ;)
And great job!

DTaggart - congrats on FIRE and February! It’s really interesting to hear about how it’s affected your purchases. Lifestyle change can do that. I find I care less about superficial purchases now that I’m on maternity leave. No point in buying expensive and nice things to wear while I’m a poop slave ;)


Whew. I think that was everyone? Let me know if I missed you! Stop waiting to hear from a few people... come out, come out, wherever you are!

Update from me: I’m selling a ring and have had a few bites but haven’t been able to meet prospective buyers because: BABY. I’m ok with that. I think I will try again to sell the ring in a few months when it’s (hopefully) easier to leave baby with a sitter. Sigh. Sucks to miss out on a potential $1400 though...

Clothes I’m doing fine with. I crave new nursing tops because I’m wearing the same five 24/7 but babyjoy is nursing less often so I think I can wear my normal clothes more often and it’ll be less of a big deal. Cool. And I have two clothing swaps come up, so that will help. AND I’m really enjoying having a real true capsule wardrobe and how easy, simple, and clean it is. Yep.

Ok goodnight!





Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: diapasoun on March 05, 2018, 07:30:43 AM
@lifejoy We send out the titles for our book club about a month in advance, which is plenty of time for holds to come in... provided the book is in the system. One of the books this month is not. :( So, I'll have to use the book club clause for the first time.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: formerlydivorcedmom on March 05, 2018, 08:48:17 AM
@lifejoy , way to go for not stopping at the jewelry store! 

Formerly divorced Mom - no candles, either? Way to go!! As for buying cookie dough.. itís not smart but sometimes I give the kids money and tell them to keep their hot dogs / cookies / chocolates / whatever. Iím spendy though... love throwing away my money to deserving kids haha

I think itís really cool that your son has joined the challenge, without you even making him! Maybe you could make it very easy for him to earn the money? Lots of little job options? So cool. Part of what motivates me is my long-term goal of being a good role model for my daughter. My mom loves deals and shopping and I have memories of ďCan we GO now???!Ē And I donít want babyjoy to see my life as very consumerist and superficial. (No shade on my mom - sheís great! But is a bit addicted to shopping like 90% of the western world...)


I didn't buy any candles either.    Cub Scouts is great at letting people pay for popcorn and send it to troops overseas; I wonder if the cookie dough people do the same thing?

My son gets a regular allowance for inside chores, and I'm paying him to do yard work.  I broke my foot and can't do it, so he gets money based on how much he chooses to do - weeding, planting, putting out mulch (which is uberfun, because you get to be dirty!).

I have been pondering the comments on this thread about books and why we keep them, so last night I made yet another pass through one of my bookshelves.  I put 12 books in the Goodwill box, and set aside another 30 that I enjoy but that I never think about when I'm ready to reread an old favorite.  I'll give myself one month - any of those 30 that aren't read in that time go in the box, and of any that I do read, I can only keep a max of 5, IF I truly think I'll proactively reread it again.  Next month I'll work on the next bookshelf.  This is going to keep me busy for most of the year.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: lifejoy on March 05, 2018, 07:34:21 PM
@lifejoy We send out the titles for our book club about a month in advance, which is plenty of time for holds to come in... provided the book is in the system. One of the books this month is not. :( So, I'll have to use the book club clause for the first time.

I was in a book club that was devout about library usage and not buying books. Any chance you could borrow the book from a keen reader that is planning on buying?
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: lifejoy on March 05, 2018, 07:35:34 PM
@lifejoy , way to go for not stopping at the jewelry store! 

Formerly divorced Mom - no candles, either? Way to go!! As for buying cookie dough.. it’s not smart but sometimes I give the kids money and tell them to keep their hot dogs / cookies / chocolates / whatever. I’m spendy though... love throwing away my money to deserving kids haha

I think it’s really cool that your son has joined the challenge, without you even making him! Maybe you could make it very easy for him to earn the money? Lots of little job options? So cool. Part of what motivates me is my long-term goal of being a good role model for my daughter. My mom loves deals and shopping and I have memories of “Can we GO now???!” And I don’t want babyjoy to see my life as very consumerist and superficial. (No shade on my mom - she’s great! But is a bit addicted to shopping like 90% of the western world...)


I didn't buy any candles either.    Cub Scouts is great at letting people pay for popcorn and send it to troops overseas; I wonder if the cookie dough people do the same thing?

My son gets a regular allowance for inside chores, and I'm paying him to do yard work.  I broke my foot and can't do it, so he gets money based on how much he chooses to do - weeding, planting, putting out mulch (which is uberfun, because you get to be dirty!).

I have been pondering the comments on this thread about books and why we keep them, so last night I made yet another pass through one of my bookshelves.  I put 12 books in the Goodwill box, and set aside another 30 that I enjoy but that I never think about when I'm ready to reread an old favorite.  I'll give myself one month - any of those 30 that aren't read in that time go in the box, and of any that I do read, I can only keep a max of 5, IF I truly think I'll proactively reread it again.  Next month I'll work on the next bookshelf.  This is going to keep me busy for most of the year.

I do something similar with my books. It is my reality check!

And thanks for the props :)
I am getting better at this!
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: diapasoun on March 05, 2018, 08:14:35 PM
@lifejoy We send out the titles for our book club about a month in advance, which is plenty of time for holds to come in... provided the book is in the system. One of the books this month is not. :( So, I'll have to use the book club clause for the first time.

I was in a book club that was devout about library usage and not buying books. Any chance you could borrow the book from a keen reader that is planning on buying?

Unfortunately very unlikely. :( The club is small. There are two folks besides me who attend pretty much every month. One does almost exclusively ebooks (and is likely to ebook this one, since her bookshelf is currently full and she's not highly invested in this one). The other lives about 30 miles from us, and 60 miles round trip is not cost effective when I can get the paperback used. I'd rather enact the book club clause and spend less overall.

I do have time, so I'm not rushing out to get the book in case something pops up.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: lifejoy on March 05, 2018, 08:36:03 PM
@lifejoy We send out the titles for our book club about a month in advance, which is plenty of time for holds to come in... provided the book is in the system. One of the books this month is not. :( So, I'll have to use the book club clause for the first time.

I was in a book club that was devout about library usage and not buying books. Any chance you could borrow the book from a keen reader that is planning on buying?

Unfortunately very unlikely. :( The club is small. There are two folks besides me who attend pretty much every month. One does almost exclusively ebooks (and is likely to ebook this one, since her bookshelf is currently full and she's not highly invested in this one). The other lives about 30 miles from us, and 60 miles round trip is not cost effective when I can get the paperback used. I'd rather enact the book club clause and spend less overall.

I do have time, so I'm not rushing out to get the book in case something pops up.

Oh! Buying a used paperback is pretty darn legit. Props! Just trying to help you think out all the potential options, but I can see you’ve been there and done that!
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: Rosy on March 06, 2018, 06:30:20 AM
Yay - we are all moving in the right direction, star or no star!:)

Just want to say that I'm pretty impressed with horsepoor even though officially it was a star-less month for her in Feb.

@lifejoy - oh wow - you really did not even enter that 80% off store closing?:) I'm not sure I could have resisted. HIGH FIVE! Good luck with the ring sale, may I ask what venue you are using?

@formerlydivorcedmom - I like that you are re-thinking your book stash. Again, this comes down to not just mindful acquisition, but also re-thinking mindless possession. Once it lives in my house for three weeks I don't really "see" things anymore.
Re-evaluating and de-cluttering is an ongoing battle.
FWIW - I'll be tackling at least one of my bookshelves this month.

Update: No serious temptations - yet. Not sure if that is really due to changing habits or because I've had one money set down after another since Mar 1.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: Laura33 on March 06, 2018, 06:31:17 AM
Laura33 - any plans to find cheaper tea options for when you are allowed to purchase? (Warning: not trying to make you start shopping now!)

Yeah, I have to admit, my first thought was, "oooohhh, good idea, let me see what's out there!"  :-)  Yeah, no, not yet.  :-)

Seriously, I haven't thought that far ahead.  I am just tired of being surrounded by the mental clutter of stuff I don't really like; it means every time I open the cabinet, I think, "oh, yeah, I gotta drink that one of these days" instead of "which deliciousness shall I enjoy today?"  So right now, I just want fewer -- I want a simplified cabinet and to break myself of the habit of just picking up whatever looks good as a treat.

The reality is that most of my tea isn't too expensive -- we're talking Tazo-level for everyday, not froofy fancy stuff.*  So maybe the answer is going to be to have my basic categories of everyday drinking teas, and then have one slot for froofy teas; that way I can still try something new/different/fancy, but just one at a time, and I need to drink it all before trying something else.  But it's still more about self-control than money.

PS -- Awesome job walking away from that sale!!

*Don't get me wrong -- I love froofy fancy teas.  I'm just too cheap to drink them every day, especially given how much I drink. :-)  And on the flip side, I'm not willing to go cheaper -- believe me when I say that I have tried every cheap brand of tea in the grocery store, and Tazo is about the level that brings me daily happiness.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: chaskavitch on March 06, 2018, 06:53:37 AM
Yay, I got to go to my clothes swap!  I came home with less than half of what I brought - two pairs of pants (one of which is green); two pairs of shorts, because I currently have one pair that fits; three shirts, one of which is BROWN, so I don't know how that'll go; and one pair of lularoe leggings for my sister :)  I'm already wearing one of the shirts I got to work, and it's both comfortable and flattering, so I'm for sure happy with at least one of my finds.

Alas, no stars for me for February. I bought two cookies for myself at Sprouts last week because they opened a new little gourmet "buy it by the lb" cookie stand thing.  I ended up getting them for free, because the cashier couldn't figure out how to code it, but I still intended to purchase them :(  Carmelita bars are just so good!
Title: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: lifejoy on March 06, 2018, 08:43:06 AM
@rosy - having the most luck with Facebook marketplace, interestingly enough. I’ve had bites but I’ve been unable to meet buyers due to baby (and the fact that I listed the ring in a major city I live 1 hour away from... knowing that I would get more bites there, and we pass through that city frequently). Oh well. Maybe I’ll try to sell it when babyjoy can be babysat more easily.

Laura33 - I have only bought tazo with a coupon, because it’s too expensive for me (because I had to save money for DIAMONDS lol) Thanks for the props

Yeah tazo seems to be a good mix between quality and affordability. Next time someone gifts you a Starbucks gift card, maybe save it up for when you need to buy your next box of tea? Maybe the Starbucks would sell you a box

Chaskavitch - coooool! Sounds like you did well at the clothing swap! Also, that is very honourable to admit you intended to buy your free cookies!
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: Laura33 on March 06, 2018, 09:26:47 AM
Laura33 - I have only bought tazo with a coupon, because itís too expensive for me . . . . Next time someone gifts you a Starbucks gift card, maybe save it up for when you need to buy your next box of tea? Maybe the Starbucks would sell you a box

Alas, Starbucks no longer sells Tazo.  But I figured out it costs me about 70 cents a day for 1-2 pots, and it's the only non-alcoholic thing I drink, so I give myself a pass on that little splurge.  ;-)  [To be more precise, I tell myself I'm still doing better than DH, who insists on getting 2-3 Diet Pepsis from the vending machine at work for $1 a pop!]

IDK, maybe when I'm FIRE and "on a fixed income" (and don't have free tea at work any more!) I'll care more.  Or, you know, maybe not.  ;-)
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: diapasoun on March 06, 2018, 09:34:01 AM
@lifejoy We send out the titles for our book club about a month in advance, which is plenty of time for holds to come in... provided the book is in the system. One of the books this month is not. :( So, I'll have to use the book club clause for the first time.

I was in a book club that was devout about library usage and not buying books. Any chance you could borrow the book from a keen reader that is planning on buying?

Unfortunately very unlikely. :( The club is small. There are two folks besides me who attend pretty much every month. One does almost exclusively ebooks (and is likely to ebook this one, since her bookshelf is currently full and she's not highly invested in this one). The other lives about 30 miles from us, and 60 miles round trip is not cost effective when I can get the paperback used. I'd rather enact the book club clause and spend less overall.

I do have time, so I'm not rushing out to get the book in case something pops up.

Oh! Buying a used paperback is pretty darn legit. Props! Just trying to help you think out all the potential options, but I can see youíve been there and done that!

Haha I appreciate it! One needs many angles, and I had forgotten to think through whether I could borrow it from someone this month (I've done it before with other books).
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: RetiredAt63 on March 06, 2018, 10:55:08 AM
March has been a high fibre exposure month - and I am holding firm. 
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: vertkurt on March 06, 2018, 11:02:17 AM
Watches are my pins. I just don't know why, but I'm always looking at watches to buy even though I have 5 already and can only wear one at a time.

Holding strong...not a single watch purchase this year. Been resisting all the new micro brand releases!
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: lifejoy on March 06, 2018, 04:32:49 PM
Laura33 - I have only bought tazo with a coupon, because it’s too expensive for me . . . . Next time someone gifts you a Starbucks gift card, maybe save it up for when you need to buy your next box of tea? Maybe the Starbucks would sell you a box

Alas, Starbucks no longer sells Tazo.  But I figured out it costs me about 70 cents a day for 1-2 pots, and it's the only non-alcoholic thing I drink, so I give myself a pass on that little splurge.  ;-)  [To be more precise, I tell myself I'm still doing better than DH, who insists on getting 2-3 Diet Pepsis from the vending machine at work for $1 a pop!]

IDK, maybe when I'm FIRE and "on a fixed income" (and don't have free tea at work any more!) I'll care more.  Or, you know, maybe not.  ;-)

Tea is much cheaper than pop, and diamonds, and books even! I’d say you’re doing just fine!! ;)

I gotta always ask the tough questions though :D
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: lifejoy on March 06, 2018, 04:33:24 PM
March has been a high fibre exposure month - and I am holding firm.

Yesssss!!!!!! Good job.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: lifejoy on March 06, 2018, 04:34:37 PM
Watches are my pins. I just don't know why, but I'm always looking at watches to buy even though I have 5 already and can only wear one at a time.

Holding strong...not a single watch purchase this year. Been resisting all the new micro brand releases!

Oh snap. Do you hang out on watchuseek? If you don’t... I would say don’t start until 2019 ;)

And I’ll give you a star once I get to a computer!!
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: HappierAtHome on March 06, 2018, 04:40:01 PM
March has been a high fibre exposure month - and I am holding firm.

I had to read this a few times; the use of "fibre" and "firm" in the same sentence suggested a completely different topic of discussion.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: lifejoy on March 06, 2018, 05:13:52 PM
March has been a high fibre exposure month - and I am holding firm.

I had to read this a few times; the use of "fibre" and "firm" in the same sentence suggested a completely different topic of discussion.

Hahaha I’m glad I’m not the only one that had that thought!
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: HappierAtHome on March 06, 2018, 05:14:55 PM
March has been a high fibre exposure month - and I am holding firm.

I had to read this a few times; the use of "fibre" and "firm" in the same sentence suggested a completely different topic of discussion.

Hahaha Iím glad Iím not the only one that had that thought!

Maybe it's related to being in the "feeding baby solids" stage of parenting :-P
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: Inkedup on March 06, 2018, 05:17:08 PM
Lifejoy: The amount I spent on tea varied, but my average would be anywhere from $30-50 per month. The teas I drink seem expensive but average out to less than $1 per serving when you consider how much leaf you get per quarter pound, etc. All of what I drink comes from China and are plain tea leaves. I simply can't stand teas that have been sprayed with flavoring, artificial or otherwise, and contain fruity or flowery bits. And most of what you get in supermarkets is either flavored or stale.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: middo on March 06, 2018, 07:12:38 PM
I received a catalog through the mail a couple of days ago from "hardware warehouse".  Tool drool time.  But I was good, and threw it away.  After looking at it with my son who agreed with me that we could spend so much money on tools that wouldn't be used very often at all.

This afternoon I have to visit the hardware for a sprinkler after I mowed the top off one on the weekend.  No tools.  No tools.  No tools.  Repeat after me, no tools...
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: lifejoy on March 06, 2018, 07:54:53 PM
I received a catalog through the mail a couple of days ago from "hardware warehouse".  Tool drool time.  But I was good, and threw it away.  After looking at it with my son who agreed with me that we could spend so much money on tools that wouldn't be used very often at all.

This afternoon I have to visit the hardware for a sprinkler after I mowed the top off one on the weekend.  No tools.  No tools.  No tools.  Repeat after me, no tools...

It’ll be worth it to resist! You got this :)
We’re all rooting for you.
Title: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: lifejoy on March 06, 2018, 10:15:20 PM
For the tea and coffee drinkers: https://books.google.ca/books?id=vF_2AwAAQBAJ&amp;pg=PA45&amp;lpg=PA45&amp;dq=coffee+meditation+you+are.+not+your+pain&amp;source=bl&amp;ots=PWo7HM_Mud&amp;sig=_kD7-LnuCY84yqO59OEMgA_TCsQ&amp;hl=en&amp;sa=X&amp;ved=2ahUKEwjttPT9udnZAhUF7GMKHcG_DVgQ6AEwDHoECAQQAQ#v=onepage&amp;q=coffee%20meditation%20you%20are.%20not%20your%20pain&amp;f=false

(Coffee meditation)
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: Rosy on March 13, 2018, 06:21:20 PM
I am not going to look - no-no and NO!
Got three e-mails for TV shows with my favorite designers and I know they are doing a gemstone event. I am not going to tune in, because I don't want to be tempted.

This has been a real up and down month for me emotionally and financially - so I am not exposing myself to temptation for buying jewelry. In two more days it is halftime again, Mar 15 - small victories.
We can do this! 
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: formerlydivorcedmom on March 14, 2018, 08:03:18 AM
Be strong everyone...we are 11 weeks into the year, which means we are 20% done.

We can do it!
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: I'm a red panda on March 14, 2018, 08:18:29 AM
Emailed Julep to cancel nail polish box instead of just "skipping" it every month.  :)
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: Rosy on March 14, 2018, 09:04:48 AM
Emailed Julep to cancel nail polish box instead of just "skipping" it every month.  :)

Yay @iowajes !!! Victory:) Yes, that makes a great deal of sense, you will not be torturing yourself any longer.

Inspired me to opt out of all future e-mails for upcoming jewelry shows - I don't need the distraction, aggravation or temptation. 
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: Serendip on March 14, 2018, 10:15:22 AM
I bought 2 books (ebooks, not the physical version) not too upset since I couldn't access them otherwise and
 -1st one was about a medical condition
 -2nd one was about possible treatment for said medical condition
:)
I will be able to write off the expense but need to share in terms of accountability..I don't want to get back into the habit even though I normally buy physical books, not the kindle versions.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: lifejoy on March 15, 2018, 03:07:44 AM
Be strong everyone...we are 11 weeks into the year, which means we are 20% done.

We can do it!

Oh wow! What a great number to see! That really helps, thanks!

I’ve been shopping for jewellery a LOT lately... I think it’s due to stress or boredom or something (definitely not due to a need for jewellery!) so it’s nice to know I’ve already lasted 20%!!

Only 291 days to go... it’s almost been 100 days!
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: lifejoy on March 15, 2018, 03:08:54 AM
Emailed Julep to cancel nail polish box instead of just "skipping" it every month.  :)

Yay @iowajes !!! Victory:) Yes, that makes a great deal of sense, you will not be torturing yourself any longer.

Inspired me to opt out of all future e-mails for upcoming jewelry shows - I don't need the distraction, aggravation or temptation.

Good going, iowajes! I need to do this... trouble is, I’m following so many yummy bling accounts on Instagram.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: lifejoy on March 15, 2018, 03:10:59 AM
I bought 2 books (ebooks, not the physical version) not too upset since I couldn't access them otherwise and
 -1st one was about a medical condition
 -2nd one was about possible treatment for said medical condition
:)
I will be able to write off the expense but need to share in terms of accountability..I don't want to get back into the habit even though I normally buy physical books, not the kindle versions.

Those sound like legit books! And how very accountable of you!

Does this mean I should confess I want to get a friend a piece of jewellery for her bridal shower? SIGH. A big part of my goal is because I don’t want to own more bling for me, but I never meant to cut down on the bling for others...

I’m undecided on whether or not this challenge affects or counts for gifting. I dunno...
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: diapasoun on March 15, 2018, 09:50:19 AM
I had to use my book club clause this month -- I couldn't find a copy of the book for our speculative fiction club anywhere, and my friends are all using Kindle for this, so I grabbed a copy from the bookshop. Luckily, I also had a gift card from Christmas and used that for it, so it did not come out of my salaried wages. ;)

Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: formerlydivorcedmom on March 15, 2018, 10:35:04 AM
Only 291 days to go... itís almost been 100 days!

In the US,kids (oh who are we kidding) parents are expected to do elaborate craft projects to celebrate the 100th day of school.  As a new mom, maybe we ought to have you practice by doing one for the 100th day of our challenge ;)

M oldest and I spent hours attaching 100 Cheerios or 100 stickers or 100 toothpicks to stuff.

When youngest kid got to 1st grade he firmly declined to participate in or associate with any craft project that had to be done at home, so I finally got out of it.  Little man and I were born without the craft gene.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: lifejoy on March 15, 2018, 03:47:26 PM
Only 291 days to go... it’s almost been 100 days!

In the US,kids (oh who are we kidding) parents are expected to do elaborate craft projects to celebrate the 100th day of school.  As a new mom, maybe we ought to have you practice by doing one for the 100th day of our challenge ;)

M oldest and I spent hours attaching 100 Cheerios or 100 stickers or 100 toothpicks to stuff.

When youngest kid got to 1st grade he firmly declined to participate in or associate with any craft project that had to be done at home, so I finally got out of it.  Little man and I were born without the craft gene.

LOL can I make it out of diamonds?? Or can it be like in AA and I get a medallion for making it that far? ;)

Haha I am soooo not a crafter.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: Poundwise on March 15, 2018, 09:03:11 PM
But I am!  Went into the craft store this week and got items for one of my kids' crafts for school. But nothing for me.  Does that count?
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: Serendip on March 15, 2018, 09:16:22 PM

LOL can I make it out of diamonds?? Or can it be like in AA and I get a medallion for making it that far? ;)

Haha I am soooo not a crafter.

Ha, @lifejoy you are doing a FANTASTIC job of slowing your gem-stone aquisition.
And 100 days of anything is fantastic, so congrats to all the rest of you as well :)
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: lifejoy on March 15, 2018, 11:48:23 PM

LOL can I make it out of diamonds?? Or can it be like in AA and I get a medallion for making it that far? ;)

Haha I am soooo not a crafter.

Ha, @lifejoy you are doing a FANTASTIC job of slowing your gem-stone aquisition.
And 100 days of anything is fantastic, so congrats to all the rest of you as well :)

Thanks :)

I’ve been feeling so tempted lately. But I keep imagining how good I’ll feel, knowing I’ve gone a year!
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: RetiredAt63 on March 16, 2018, 07:42:47 AM
I was gifted a small bag of Shetland wool (raw, needs washing) at an event (wasn't expecting freebies at it).  Sort of a trial sample, and I have never spun Shetland.  But I didn't buy it!  This may count against me.    ;-(

For those who understand jewellery but not fibre, Shetland wool can be spun very fine and soft - they knit "Wedding ring shawls" out of this.  The shawl is so fine and light-weight that a whole shawl can go through a wedding ring.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: I'm a red panda on March 16, 2018, 07:58:32 AM
Shetland wool is a nice treat to spin!  I love it.  (I gave away my spinning wheel and all my spindles. I was a crappy spinner and prefered to let other people do it.)

I don't think a gift can count against you.  Though I suppose the question is why are you doing the challenge: is it about money or about hoarding?

Could you give away a similar quantity of another fiber?
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: lifejoy on March 16, 2018, 11:32:49 AM
RetiredAt63 - you certainly put it into words I can understand!

For me, gifts or freebies 100% don’t count! Because the challenge for me is to not spend money in these areas. It makes unexpected gifts or freebies extra special and I appreciate them more.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: Rosy on March 16, 2018, 05:08:00 PM

LOL can I make it out of diamonds?? Or can it be like in AA and I get a medallion for making it that far? ;)

Haha I am soooo not a crafter.

Ha, @lifejoy you are doing a FANTASTIC job of slowing your gem-stone aquisition.
And 100 days of anything is fantastic, so congrats to all the rest of you as well :)

Thanks :)

Iíve been feeling so tempted lately. But I keep imagining how good Iíll feel, knowing Iíve gone a year!

@lifejoy - baby steps, don't think about the entire year. Only 15 more days left in this month!
You can do this - one day at a time - 15 more days to go until the next extra shiny, extra sparkly star just for lifejoy!:)

@RetiredAt63 - gifts and freebies don't count - you get a free pass:) Shetland wool is a very fine thing - enjoy your free gift and honor the sheep by making something beautiful..
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: RetiredAt63 on March 16, 2018, 05:56:42 PM

@RetiredAt63 - gifts and freebies don't count - you get a free pass:) Shetland wool is a very fine thing - enjoy your free gift and honor the sheep by making something beautiful..

Whew!    ;-)
Title: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: lifejoy on March 16, 2018, 07:38:01 PM
Thanks Rosy!

I’m just finding I need a new outlet. Instead of feel bad, buy jewellery or clothes- I need a new habit. Like, feel bad —&gt; go walk in nature.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: chaskavitch on March 18, 2018, 06:54:22 AM
I still haven't bought any clothes for myself, so yay!  However, I did buy our kid a bunch of clothes at Walmart last week, mostly because his long-sleeve shirts are all 3/4 length shirts now. And then, after I'd taken the tags off and thrown them in with a load of wash, I found FIVE MORE 2T SHIRTS, all long-sleeved, upstairs in my "this is still too big" bin.  Yeah, they're not too big anymore, because I forgot about them.  /sigh.

And THEN I finally got the book Overdressed from the library, and now I feel absolutely awful about all of my clothing purchases. Everything I own was made in Cambodia or Vietnam or China by people who make like $5 a month, and they're all made partially of plastic.  Gah.  On the bright side, at least half of my clothes are second hand, but it's still ridiculous.

My plan was already to ask for nice replacement clothes for birthday and Christmas presents, once things start to break, but now it's definitely a stronger commitment to buy from Patagonia or the Made in the USA Carhartt line.  I never in a million years thought I'd say I wanted "made in the USA" things, but not supporting sweat shops seems like a good reason.  Patagonia is also trying to ensure good working conditions in their production facilities around the world, and they've got a great repair/replacement support system.  There's actually a page on their website on how to re-treat or repair all of the clothes they sell, which I thought was neat.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: Hula Hoop on March 18, 2018, 08:28:22 AM
That's interesting, chaskavitch.  I feel kind of bad about buying cheapo clothes at H&M too.  Any other clothing brands which don't use sweatshops you can recommend? 
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: chaskavitch on March 18, 2018, 08:38:22 AM
That's interesting, chaskavitch.  I feel kind of bad about buying cheapo clothes at H&M too.  Any other clothing brands which don't use sweatshops you can recommend?

I haven't done a lot of research into it yet.  Patagonia is mentioned in the book as doing more work than "required" to ensure their sources are ethical, and I've always liked their business model and products.  My husband asked me to look into Carhartt, because he really likes their workwear. 

I'm sure there are a number of little artisan or local places that at least construct their clothing in the US.  If I find any other bigger brands when I look into it, I'll update here :)

I've also been more interested in sustainability overall in the last few months - less plastic use, better energy and water use, more gardening, getting local and more ethically raised meat, getting more chickens so we don't need to buy as many eggs - so this interest in sustainable clothing consumption is really just an expansion of my recent trains of thought.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: Serendip on March 18, 2018, 11:49:30 AM
That's interesting, chaskavitch.  I feel kind of bad about buying cheapo clothes at H&M too.  Any other clothing brands which don't use sweatshops you can recommend?

I haven't done a lot of research into it yet.  Patagonia is mentioned in the book as doing more work than "required" to ensure their sources are ethical, and I've always liked their business model and products.  My husband asked me to look into Carhartt, because he really likes their workwear. 

I'm sure there are a number of little artisan or local places that at least construct their clothing in the US.  If I find any other bigger brands when I look into it, I'll update here :)

I've also been more interested in sustainability overall in the last few months - less plastic use, better energy and water use, more gardening, getting local and more ethically raised meat, getting more chickens so we don't need to buy as many eggs - so this interest in sustainable clothing consumption is really just an expansion of my recent trains of thought.

@Hula Hoop & @chaskavitch
Here is one website you can explore a bit..they have a list under Resources (I believe) about some top retailers and whether they are complying or transparent with working conditions for garment workers. http://fashionrevolution.org/about/

After years of watching this type of issue, I honestly feel that brands who are doing something about addressing these issues will be vocal (in their marketing) as they realize it's a growing concern.
2nd hand is great since textile dye-waste is also a massive environmental concern.

Patagonia is one well-known brand (pricey but will last ages). In Canada we have Mountain Equipment Co-op (which carries Prana, Arcteryx, etc)
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: Hula Hoop on March 18, 2018, 03:56:16 PM
That's interesting, chaskavitch.  I feel kind of bad about buying cheapo clothes at H&M too.  Any other clothing brands which don't use sweatshops you can recommend?

I haven't done a lot of research into it yet.  Patagonia is mentioned in the book as doing more work than "required" to ensure their sources are ethical, and I've always liked their business model and products.  My husband asked me to look into Carhartt, because he really likes their workwear. 

I'm sure there are a number of little artisan or local places that at least construct their clothing in the US.  If I find any other bigger brands when I look into it, I'll update here :)

I've also been more interested in sustainability overall in the last few months - less plastic use, better energy and water use, more gardening, getting local and more ethically raised meat, getting more chickens so we don't need to buy as many eggs - so this interest in sustainable clothing consumption is really just an expansion of my recent trains of thought.

@Hula Hoop & @chaskavitch
Here is one website you can explore a bit..they have a list under Resources (I believe) about some top retailers and whether they are complying or transparent with working conditions for garment workers. http://fashionrevolution.org/about/

After years of watching this type of issue, I honestly feel that brands who are doing something about addressing these issues will be vocal (in their marketing) as they realize it's a growing concern.
2nd hand is great since textile dye-waste is also a massive environmental concern.

Patagonia is one well-known brand (pricey but will last ages). In Canada we have Mountain Equipment Co-op (which carries Prana, Arcteryx, etc)

Thanks for that.  I was really surprised to see that H&M, Uniqlo and other budget brands that are often considered 'fast fashion' actually do really well in the transparency index.  And some expensive luxury brands like Hermes and Fendi are ranked really low.  Food for thought.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: MaybeBabyMustache on March 19, 2018, 07:19:41 AM
I've bought no new gift cards & haven't violated my goals, but Mother's & Father's Day are coming up, which are always hard. I did pass on restaurant gift cards that were discounted yesterday, knowing that I don't want to go out to eat more often with an "excuse" due to the gift card. :-) I have also used 3 gift cards that have been lingering in my purse, reducing clutter!
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: Serendip on March 19, 2018, 07:28:32 AM

Thanks for that.  I was really surprised to see that H&M, Uniqlo and other budget brands that are often considered 'fast fashion' actually do really well in the transparency index.  And some expensive luxury brands like Hermes and Fendi are ranked really low.  Food for thought.

Yes, sometimes public pressure has helped increase the transparency for the well-known brands.

There are, of course, other factors like you said,  that a lot of cheaper clothing isn't well made (not long-lasting at all) and composed of synthetic fibers (won't degrade), so it ends up in landfills even when donated to charities.
Textile waste is currently one of the biggest contributors to garbage heaps and some poorer countries are even trying to outlaw the dumping of N.American clothing into their economy since it ruins the local economy for tailors/sewers. An interesting issue to pay attention to that's for sure :)

Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: formerlydivorcedmom on March 19, 2018, 08:13:10 AM
I bought my one book for March.  It was a new release by one of my favorite authors that I had preordered months ago.

I have to finish my library books before I will allow myself to read it.  One and a half to go.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: Laura33 on March 19, 2018, 11:03:23 AM
I am now at the boring stage of the challenge, just trudging through most of the "meh" teas, interspersed with the periodic treat from one of the remaining ones I really like.  To whomever suggested mixing some of the plain teas in with the flavored ones, thanks!  One of the problems I have with my two remaining flavored ones is that they are too much, so I mixed in some dregs of some plain green/white teas, and not only did I get rid of a couple more bags, but the tea now tastes more like tea instead of overwhelming fruit.

I will say, though, I have caught myself in what I can only call a semi-cheat:  I found myself filling up the strainer to the very top to try to work through the remaining stuff more quickly!  Of course, that was largely irrelevant, because I re-steep each pot several times for my decaf tea, and of course more tea in the pot = shorter brewing time each time = more pots until the flavor runs out.  ;-)  So at least my bad intentions didn't actually help me cheat.  I just want to know what this part of my brain is that thinks up these things without me even realizing it until I'm doing it the second or third time!
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: middo on March 19, 2018, 07:42:10 PM
Still no tools!  I feel that I am doing well, but we are starting to enter the cooler months when we can do more outside here.  Tool use picks up, and tool desire picks up.  I'm going to be strong.  I have every tool I need.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: vertkurt on March 20, 2018, 01:05:40 PM
Watches are my pins. I just don't know why, but I'm always looking at watches to buy even though I have 5 already and can only wear one at a time.

Holding strong...not a single watch purchase this year. Been resisting all the new micro brand releases!

Oh snap. Do you hang out on watchuseek? If you donít... I would say donít start until 2019 ;)

And Iíll give you a star once I get to a computer!!

Too late! I'm already a long time lurker on that website!
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: Tris Prior on March 21, 2018, 08:21:35 AM
ATTENTION:

I am down to ONE tea bag. According to the rules I set, I can't buy more tea until I drink what I've got. Thanks to it still being Ass Cold out, I will most likely drink that tonight and will then be totally out.

So - time to replenish. I am not totally giving up tea as it's my healthy substitute for what I really want to be eating/drinking (wine, sweets, cheese, other junk food). Just have to figure out how to replenish in a non-gazingus-pin manner. For starters, I need to stop buying new varieties simply because I'm bored with what I've got (and really don't want tea anyway but instead want wine and junk); that leads to a package of tea I don't like and have to force myself to choke down. Which, y'know, runs counter to the whole point of trying to convince myself I'm having a treat.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: lifejoy on March 21, 2018, 09:38:19 AM
Watches are my pins. I just don't know why, but I'm always looking at watches to buy even though I have 5 already and can only wear one at a time.

Holding strong...not a single watch purchase this year. Been resisting all the new micro brand releases!

Oh snap. Do you hang out on watchuseek? If you donít... I would say donít start until 2019 ;)

And Iíll give you a star once I get to a computer!!

Too late! I'm already a long time lurker on that website!

WUS was a major reason I suddenly needed watches... my husband really benefitted from my obsession! I no longer cruise on WUS because of too much temptation.

Yesterday I was at a thrift shop and an $8 gold seiko caught my eye. DID NOT BUY. I feel like watches are half jewellery and half "clothing" so they would count as a gazingus pin for me. I held strong!

Also... my husband is crazy, and he's going on a trip to a big city today and feels badly about leaving me home with baby all day even though he's on holiday. He'll be having brunch and dinner with friends, going to art galleries and beaches. Anyways - he says to me: "Want me to buy you a diamond when I'm in town? Something from Tiffany's??"

I say.... "NOOoooooooOOOOooo.... you can just get me a chocolate from Purdy's or something." ACK! What strong will. What torturous temptation. Especially since if DH used his fun money it would not totally be me cheating... but I will admit, he already bought me an ultrasonic cleaner with his fun money (even though I insisted he should wait until 2019) so I'm trying to be really really good.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: RetiredAt63 on March 21, 2018, 10:10:21 AM

I say.... "NOOoooooooOOOOooo.... you can just get me a chocolate from Purdy's or something." ACK! What strong will. What torturous temptation. Especially since if DH used his fun money it would not totally be me cheating... but I will admit, he already bought me an ultrasonic cleaner with his fun money (even though I insisted he should wait until 2019) so I'm trying to be really really good.

You are being REALLY REALLY GOOD!!!

Can I divert you with jewellery advice assistance?  I would like to occasionally wear a ring, but I have short stubby fingers.  Short enough that I can barely span the octave on a piano.  And chubby.  What styles of rings look good on fingers like that?  I know none of my rings look good right now because they are a bit tight and they look like they are going to cut off the circulation for that finger.  But stone shape?

There is no rush, I am trying to gradually (sensibly) lose weight to be kinder to my knees and more active this summer.  And that will mean thinner fingers.  But even when I had thin fingers, rings never looked all that great because of the short part.  Help?
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: lifejoy on March 21, 2018, 11:59:22 AM

I say.... "NOOoooooooOOOOooo.... you can just get me a chocolate from Purdy's or something." ACK! What strong will. What torturous temptation. Especially since if DH used his fun money it would not totally be me cheating... but I will admit, he already bought me an ultrasonic cleaner with his fun money (even though I insisted he should wait until 2019) so I'm trying to be really really good.

You are being REALLY REALLY GOOD!!!

Can I divert you with jewellery advice assistance?  I would like to occasionally wear a ring, but I have short stubby fingers.  Short enough that I can barely span the octave on a piano.  And chubby.  What styles of rings look good on fingers like that?  I know none of my rings look good right now because they are a bit tight and they look like they are going to cut off the circulation for that finger.  But stone shape?

There is no rush, I am trying to gradually (sensibly) lose weight to be kinder to my knees and more active this summer.  And that will mean thinner fingers.  But even when I had thin fingers, rings never looked all that great because of the short part.  Help?

Hi!!!

Oh yes, I can DEFINITELY help you :D

I will PM you so this doesn’t turn into a shopping thread, but this site is cool for seeing what certain styles look like on different finger sizes: https://mysparkly.com/
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: formerlydivorcedmom on March 21, 2018, 12:21:16 PM
My husband has never randomly offered to buy me jewelry. :(

He does buy me gift cards to the bookstore....but I think maybe I'm missing out here!

Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: ohsnap on March 21, 2018, 03:14:45 PM
Oh my I need this challenge.  My gazingus pins are running related (and in my defense, I typically run 5 days a week).  I can't resist sale shoes, or a new pair of sunglasses in another color.  I literally have 8 pairs of running shoes, and I rotate them and use them under different conditions - but they probably have enough collective tread on them to last well over a year.

As for the sunglasses...they are only sold at certain specialty retailers, and when we travel out of state I literally search to see if there's a retailer in that city so I can bring home a "souvenir".  Ugh.  So I am posting here to be accountable.  I should probably tell my husband about my resolve so he won't enable me. ("sure honey we can stop at that running store...")
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: Rosy on March 21, 2018, 03:54:52 PM
Welcome to the club, @ohsnap - we are happy to have you join in this challenge with us:). Looks like you'll fit right in with the sport/shoe/runner addicts,  but you are the first with a sunglass fetish. Although, living in Florida I can totally relate, there are some super cool styles around.

Update - not caving so far, but what a terribly long month this appears to be.
Spending more time spring gardening and other diversions are helping me stay on track.

Meanwhile, the payments for jewelry bought in the past are slowly dropping off. I'll be done with all but one in May. ~ 75 more days to a clean slate - YAY.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: Laura33 on March 22, 2018, 08:24:57 AM
Congrats @Tris Prior!  I think we have our first official winner on the thread!

Please post how you decide to address future tea purchases -- I am perhaps a month or so out myself and need to come up with a plan to counteract my "oh doesn't that look delicious think I'll treat myself" instinct.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: Tris Prior on March 22, 2018, 08:47:55 AM
That's a good question, Laura33. My plan for now is to buy no more than 3 flavors (I feel like that's the minimum variety I need so that I don't feel even more resentful that I'm drinking tea instead of wine), and to only buy flavors I've had before and know I like (to avoid a repeat of the disaster of choking down cup after cup of that awful Sugar Cookie tea I bought a while ago).

Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: lifejoy on March 22, 2018, 05:04:43 PM
My husband has never randomly offered to buy me jewelry. :(

He does buy me gift cards to the bookstore....but I think maybe I'm missing out here!

Omg before my self-imposed challenge he has NEVER offered and I have always asked!!! Maybe he’s offering because he knows my resolve is strong? Gah.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: ohsnap on March 23, 2018, 02:11:45 PM
Update for me:  I decided to tell my husband of my resolve so that I'd be more accountable.  He was pretty happy.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: formerlydivorcedmom on March 23, 2018, 04:02:58 PM
One of the ways I justified to myself that I could still buy a few books a year is that the library doesn't tend to get a lot of the romances that I love.  Most of those books don't come out in hardcover, so the libraries don't always get them.

I had pre-ordered a new release for this month and was so excited to get my paperback.  I went to the library today...and they have 2 hardcover copies of the book in the new releases section.   Apparently it came out in hardcover at the same time.

This book I would have bought anyway because it's part of a series that I adore, but now I'm going to have to rethink my book-buying habits even more.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: lifejoy on March 23, 2018, 06:05:44 PM
One of the ways I justified to myself that I could still buy a few books a year is that the library doesn't tend to get a lot of the romances that I love.  Most of those books don't come out in hardcover, so the libraries don't always get them.

I had pre-ordered a new release for this month and was so excited to get my paperback.  I went to the library today...and they have 2 hardcover copies of the book in the new releases section.   Apparently it came out in hardcover at the same time.

This book I would have bought anyway because it's part of a series that I adore, but now I'm going to have to rethink my book-buying habits even more.

Libraries are often very receptive to purchase requests from their patrons! Another thing to think about :)
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: Rosy on March 25, 2018, 08:36:19 AM
One of the ways I justified to myself that I could still buy a few books a year is that the library doesn't tend to get a lot of the romances that I love.  Most of those books don't come out in hardcover, so the libraries don't always get them.

I had pre-ordered a new release for this month and was so excited to get my paperback.  I went to the library today...and they have 2 hardcover copies of the book in the new releases section.   Apparently it came out in hardcover at the same time.

This book I would have bought anyway because it's part of a series that I adore, but now I'm going to have to rethink my book-buying habits even more.

Oh no!:) more romance book temptation:) I had convinced myself that my local library NEVER gets any new romance books - they all seem to be at a minimum five to eight years old, most are from the nineties. 
Not that I care when it was written, but it would be nice to be able to read all of your favorite author's books in real time - not twenty years down the road.
I've been keeping my new romance book buying to about four-five books a year - like when I travel or was sick or wanted to treat myself.

I am sticking to my plan of reading 25 money/finance/economic books this year so this leaves considerably less time to read romances, but addicts always find time for reading somehow:).

Full disclosure, I spent close to $100 on books this year already, on a wide range of topics, haven't read any of them yet - unusual for me. Normally, I spend between $50 and $200 total annually, depending on whether I received gift cards or not.
For now, I'm good with reading down my stack of books from the library, the second-hand store, and B&N. 

I think it is a good exercise to reflect on your spending and set limits, but $200 max a year does not put me in gazingus pin territory since I can easily handle it out of my monthly discretionary funds.
The enjoyment I get from reading, the educational value and the leisurely afternoon spent sipping a fancy coffee while selecting my purchases is just one of the things that makes life worth living - other people may choose to camp out in the wilderness instead - the horror:)
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: chaskavitch on March 25, 2018, 01:00:46 PM
I just made it through Target without any clothes for myself or anyone else, and without buying any Easter candy.  Whew!

My library seems to get a number of romance novels fairly quickly after they're released.  I never thought about what that says about the demographics of my city :)  I'm struggling to get through my stack of books now (all of which I want to read) because all I want to do in my free time is re-watch Doctor Who now that I found it on Amazon prime.  Good thing they're all moderately low on other people's lists of must-read books, so I can renew them for another three weeks :) 
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: HappierAtHome on March 26, 2018, 12:23:38 AM
Looking forward to my March star!!
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: formerlydivorcedmom on March 26, 2018, 08:18:11 AM
One of the ways I justified to myself that I could still buy a few books a year is that the library doesn't tend to get a lot of the romances that I love.  Most of those books don't come out in hardcover, so the libraries don't always get them.

I had pre-ordered a new release for this month and was so excited to get my paperback.  I went to the library today...and they have 2 hardcover copies of the book in the new releases section.   Apparently it came out in hardcover at the same time.

This book I would have bought anyway because it's part of a series that I adore, but now I'm going to have to rethink my book-buying habits even more.

Oh no!:) more romance book temptation:) I had convinced myself that my local library NEVER gets any new romance books - they all seem to be at a minimum five to eight years old, most are from the nineties. 
Not that I care when it was written, but it would be nice to be able to read all of your favorite author's books in real time - not twenty years down the road.
I've been keeping my new romance book buying to about four-five books a year - like when I travel or was sick or wanted to treat myself.

I am sticking to my plan of reading 25 money/finance/economic books this year so this leaves considerably less time to read romances, but addicts always find time for reading somehow:).

Full disclosure, I spent close to $100 on books this year already, on a wide range of topics, haven't read any of them yet - unusual for me. Normally, I spend between $50 and $200 total annually, depending on whether I received gift cards or not.
For now, I'm good with reading down my stack of books from the library, the second-hand store, and B&N. 

I think it is a good exercise to reflect on your spending and set limits, but $200 max a year does not put me in gazingus pin territory since I can easily handle it out of my monthly discretionary funds.
The enjoyment I get from reading, the educational value and the leisurely afternoon spent sipping a fancy coffee while selecting my purchases is just one of the things that makes life worth living - other people may choose to camp out in the wilderness instead - the horror:)

My goal is 50 nonfiction books for the year.  I've read 45 books total already this year - 27 are romances.  They're like candy. Or crack.

I can well afford to toss a few books in my cart every week, and I do think I need to spend some money supporting my favorite authors, if only to convince them to keep writing!  My goal for this year is to be more mindful about my book lust in general.  If my TBR stack is so high I can't even remember what's in it (and therefore buy it again.  And again.), then I have a problem.  If I'm keeping dozens of books not because I want to read them again but because I'm too emotional to give them up...I have a problem.

<waves>My name is FDM and I have a book addiction.

This weekend I may have broken my goal for this month.  I gave oldest kid $10 for her book fair (I always give them book fair money with the caveat that it must be spent on books) and bought the youngest kid the first Wings of Fire book.  He's been really upset that he's been on the waiting list at the library for two months and probably has another two months to go before it's his turn.  I felt sorry for him...and a friend dragged me with her to B&N and I have an inability to leave that store without buying SOMETHING.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: I'm a red panda on March 26, 2018, 09:21:27 AM


I think it is a good exercise to reflect on your spending and set limits, but $200 max a year does not put me in gazingus pin territory since I can easily handle it out of my monthly discretionary funds.

It's a personal challenege so obviously you set your own parameters, but I don't think ability to afford has anything to do with what a gazingus pin is, as defined in the first group.

If it did, I could buy hundreds of nail polishes or yards of fabric every month.  The issue is habitual buying of things you don't really need.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: lifejoy on March 26, 2018, 03:23:00 PM
I’ve been feeling weak lately. I’m struggling to remember the reasons of why I’m doing this :/

Monkey brain says: why not just spend ALL THE MONEY on ALL THE THINGS
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: diapasoun on March 26, 2018, 04:55:02 PM
Iíve been feeling weak lately. Iím struggling to remember the reasons of why Iím doing this :/

Monkey brain says: why not just spend ALL THE MONEY on ALL THE THINGS

What are the big goals you have for your money?

Early retirement, where you have the time to luxuriate in bed in the morning and have a slow cup of coffee/tea in your bedroom? The ability to go for a run, or to paint, or to do what most fulfills you, day in and day out?

Waving kids off to college, happy and healthy, knowing that you're setting them up for an easier life with fewer/no student loans?

A trip to Asia?

Funding a scholarship at your alma mater?

What do you most deeply wish you had the money for? Because that's why you're resisting monkey brain.

(I have literally taken a post it, written a reason to not spend on it, and stuck the post-it on my debit card before.)
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: HappierAtHome on March 26, 2018, 05:08:30 PM
Iíve been feeling weak lately. Iím struggling to remember the reasons of why Iím doing this :/

Monkey brain says: why not just spend ALL THE MONEY on ALL THE THINGS

Can you remember a time you bought ALL THE THINGS and then felt crappy about it afterwards?
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: lifejoy on March 26, 2018, 07:33:44 PM
Diapasoun and happierathome - thank you. This really helped.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: CrustyBadger on March 26, 2018, 07:39:04 PM
You are exercising your frugal muscles.  Just like when you work out (I imagine.. I don't work out LOL) when your muscles are at their most tired you get the biggest benefit from exercising them.   When you are having a moment of weakness, and then persevere and remain frugal and don't buy... that builds your strength even more than when it is easy.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: lifejoy on March 26, 2018, 08:36:31 PM
Ok. My goals:

-stop buying stuff I really really don’t need
-stop buying stuff out of habit
-stop buying stuff when sad/insecure/bored
-stop adding to clutter
-stop web shopping
-stop mindless consumption/acquisition

-gain time
-gain space in my home
-gain mental space
-be a better role model for my daughter
-develop new hobbies
-gain confidence
-be more creative with current wardrobe
-be more environmentally-friendly by consuming less and reusing more

Thanks for helping me think about this stuff.

And happierathome, YES I have bought stuff and regretted it SO MANY TIMES, ESPECIALLY with clothing and jewellery. They are very much aspirational purchases for me, and the reality rarely meets the illusion/delusion. So yeah. Staying strong!

Also, I went out to go buy some walking shoes. Major win: I’m in the shop and my mom says, “Oh, I have some just like that! Do you want mine? I never wear them.” SCORE!!!!! So, so far this year, I’ve only bought sunglasses (to replace my only pair that broke) and a bridesmaid dress (mandatory). Doing well!!!

I want to buy the bride a piece of jewellery as a bridal shower gift/keepsake. I know she would appreciate that, but I worry that it’s me cheating or projecting. I’m thinking on it.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: middo on March 26, 2018, 11:03:50 PM
Web shopping is an interesting thing.  You can get such good bargains, but often you buy something you don't really need.  I used to do the "put it in the basket for later", but I would eventually buy it anyway.  I gave up internet shopping and internet browsing about 8 months ago, and the account with our debit card on it has grown and grown.  Do I miss the things I used to buy?  No.  Did i really need them?  No.  Was I feeling short of money because I was emptying an account whenever I had the cash?  Yes. 

The biggest change is that I no longer even think of browsing for things.  We occasionally buy items that are not available locally (and no, Amazon is not really an option here), but it is not a go-to.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: Poundwise on March 27, 2018, 07:50:56 AM
I want to buy the bride a piece of jewellery as a bridal shower gift/keepsake. I know she would appreciate that, but I worry that itís me cheating or projecting. Iím thinking on it.

What kind of gift would you get her if you didn't buy her jewelry?  Would you consider giving away a piece from your own collection instead of buying?

I would come up with a dollar amount that you feel you ought to spend on the wedding gift, and if buying jewelry fits into that amount, then just go ahead and do it.  However, if you feel comfortable giving away a piece that you already own that you think she would appreciate, and that would be at that value or greater-- why not do that, and put the savings towards your big goal?
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: lifejoy on March 27, 2018, 08:27:29 AM
I want to buy the bride a piece of jewellery as a bridal shower gift/keepsake. I know she would appreciate that, but I worry that it’s me cheating or projecting. I’m thinking on it.

What kind of gift would you get her if you didn't buy her jewelry?  Would you consider giving away a piece from your own collection instead of buying?

I would come up with a dollar amount that you feel you ought to spend on the wedding gift, and if buying jewelry fits into that amount, then just go ahead and do it.  However, if you feel comfortable giving away a piece that you already own that you think she would appreciate, and that would be at that value or greater-- why not do that, and put the savings towards your big goal?

I will think on this. Unfortunately I don’t own anything like I’m thinking of gifting, but I’m going to make certain!

I want to get her a bracelet from Tiffany’s, (she threw me a Breakfast at Tiffany’s bridal shower, so it’s a nice tie-in), but my other ideas are a nice pitcher for entertaining or a basket of date gift cards / wine / etc.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: lifejoy on March 27, 2018, 10:09:45 AM
PS - So what do you all think? If you wanted to buy your gazingus pin as a gift for a friend, would that be cheating?
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: Serendip on March 27, 2018, 10:15:02 AM
@lifejoy  Cheating? Well...I don't know..
              I know that I am trying not to buy books for others as well this year * I love finding books that I think someone would love* but I am also trying to reprogram my impulse to shop/to buy (for so many of those reasons you have listed above lifejoy!)
Sometimes the person will love the gift, but perhaps I am also adding to their clutter, or list of to-dos (ie..read this book!)
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: Rosy on March 27, 2018, 02:06:12 PM


I think it is a good exercise to reflect on your spending and set limits, but $200 max a year does not put me in gazingus pin territory since I can easily handle it out of my monthly discretionary funds.

It's a personal challenege so obviously you set your own parameters, but I don't think ability to afford has anything to do with what a gazingus pin is, as defined in the first group.

If it did, I could buy hundreds of nail polishes or yards of fabric every month.  The issue is habitual buying of things you don't really need.

@iowajes - yes and no. I do agree with you that habitual buying of things you don't really need is an issue and a reason/definition of a gazingus pin. However, for me, books fall into the non-negotiable, this adds value to my life category.

I do exercise control of my impulses along with fiscal responsibility by curbing the book spend, using libraries and asking for gift cards. Books may be considered an indulgence by others if you purchase them outright instead of living with what the library has to offer.
You may call them personal spending "habits", but I disagree.
Books are important to me, they are not a "thing" like nail polish or jewelry.
Just like the occasional big trip or the pleasure I get from designing our big, organic garden, it is intertwined with my core values and way of life.

Books are not necessary for survival, but I'd forego eating for a good book and actually have on rare occasions in the distant past. That alone shows where my values lie, even though I am a foodie, I'd still choose a book.
Notwithstanding the ultimate pleasure of sippin' something or the double indulgence of eating chocolate while reading:)

I view my jewelry and gemstone addiction as a serious gazingus pin. I do not like that it has become a habit that is hard to kick for good. It was beginning to actually cause financial damage, which is completely unacceptable. The jewelry and gemstones do add great enjoyment to my life and even add monetary value, but if this particular buying habit goes unchecked, it can cause trouble since my financial resources are limited.
In truth, I have enough, still, it is proving hard to abstain from "habitual" buying and acquisition. I've actually never before had a true buying addiction like this one and I am rather unhappy with myself over it. It is hard to admit, but I am still tempted, although not as much.   
 
So you see I agree with your analysis that affordability is not the absolute measure or even a reason (although in my case it was part of the reason) for a gazingus pin.
But controlling your spending habits is the ultimate reason - I am in agreement there .

I want to severely limit, if not eliminate entirely, my jewelry/gemstone addiction, but I do not in the least feel that buying the occasional book rates as a gazingus pin in any way.
To the contrary, I would consider it a good habit:)

Sure, I'd prefer not to have to spend a dime on books, but that is not realistic or even desirable, given that without authors who can actually earn a living from their writing, the library would not have any books either.
I'd support an author any day before I would support a merchant. You buy a book - you buy an idea, entertainment, escape from reality, knowledge or an education.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: middo on March 27, 2018, 07:14:08 PM
PS - So what do you all think? If you wanted to buy your gazingus pin as a gift for a friend, would that be cheating?

No.  If I was to buy a present for my son for his birthday, and he wanted some tools, I would see that as a good decision on his behalf.  Most quality tools last a long time and are pay back their value in savings over getting someone else in to do the work.

Jewelry?  I don't know if it ticks all of the boxes above.  But if it is something that you would feel great about giving, and something that means a lot to both of you, and she would keep and wear and get great enjoyment out of it, then that ultimately is what money is for (aside from keeping us alive).  If you are not fully convinced that she will love the present, then maybe reconsider it. 
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: lifejoy on March 27, 2018, 08:05:02 PM
PS - So what do you all think? If you wanted to buy your gazingus pin as a gift for a friend, would that be cheating?

No.  If I was to buy a present for my son for his birthday, and he wanted some tools, I would see that as a good decision on his behalf.  Most quality tools last a long time and are pay back their value in savings over getting someone else in to do the work.

Jewelry?  I don't know if it ticks all of the boxes above.  But if it is something that you would feel great about giving, and something that means a lot to both of you, and she would keep and wear and get great enjoyment out of it, then that ultimately is what money is for (aside from keeping us alive).  If you are not fully convinced that she will love the present, then maybe reconsider it.

Cool. I have some time. I’m going to dig deep and be honest with myself about whether this gift would be more satisfying to me or for her. I also have a pearl necklace I never wear, which could be an option (as suggested above).
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: I'm a red panda on March 28, 2018, 06:31:31 AM


I think it is a good exercise to reflect on your spending and set limits, but $200 max a year does not put me in gazingus pin territory since I can easily handle it out of my monthly discretionary funds.

It's a personal challenege so obviously you set your own parameters, but I don't think ability to afford has anything to do with what a gazingus pin is, as defined in the first group.

If it did, I could buy hundreds of nail polishes or yards of fabric every month.  The issue is habitual buying of things you don't really need.

@iowajes - yes and no. I do agree with you that habitual buying of things you don't really need is an issue and a reason/definition of a gazingus pin. However, for me, books fall into the non-negotiable, this adds value to my life category.

I do exercise control of my impulses along with fiscal responsibility by curbing the book spend, using libraries and asking for gift cards. Books may be considered an indulgence by others if you purchase them outright instead of living with what the library has to offer.
You may call them personal spending "habits", but I disagree.
Books are important to me, they are not a "thing" like nail polish or jewelry.
Just like the occasional big trip or the pleasure I get from designing our big, organic garden, it is intertwined with my core values and way of life.

Books are not necessary for survival, but I'd forego eating for a good book and actually have on rare occasions in the distant past. That alone shows where my values lie, even though I am a foodie, I'd still choose a book.
Notwithstanding the ultimate pleasure of sippin' something or the double indulgence of eating chocolate while reading:)

I view my jewelry and gemstone addiction as a serious gazingus pin. I do not like that it has become a habit that is hard to kick for good. It was beginning to actually cause financial damage, which is completely unacceptable. The jewelry and gemstones do add great enjoyment to my life and even add monetary value, but if this particular buying habit goes unchecked, it can cause trouble since my financial resources are limited.
In truth, I have enough, still, it is proving hard to abstain from "habitual" buying and acquisition. I've actually never before had a true buying addiction like this one and I am rather unhappy with myself over it. It is hard to admit, but I am still tempted, although not as much.   
 
So you see I agree with your analysis that affordability is not the absolute measure or even a reason (although in my case it was part of the reason) for a gazingus pin.
But controlling your spending habits is the ultimate reason - I am in agreement there .

I want to severely limit, if not eliminate entirely, my jewelry/gemstone addiction, but I do not in the least feel that buying the occasional book rates as a gazingus pin in any way.
To the contrary, I would consider it a good habit:)

Sure, I'd prefer not to have to spend a dime on books, but that is not realistic or even desirable, given that without authors who can actually earn a living from their writing, the library would not have any books either.
I'd support an author any day before I would support a merchant. You buy a book - you buy an idea, entertainment, escape from reality, knowledge or an education.

But being able to -afford- something has nothing to do with whether it is a gazingus pin or not.

It is "the non-essential that you keep on buying even though you donít need it, you already have some, and itís just not necessary! Itís your kryponite, your habit, your addiction. Your collection. Your irrational obsession."

If you think books are essential, you need them and they are necessary- then it isn't a gazingus pin at all.  That they fit your budget doesn't matter. All my gazingus pins fit my budget (and also are a huge part of my stress relief, and therapist prescribed mental health care; though using, not buying...)  But just because I can afford more doesn't mean I need more.  What makes them not a gazingus pin is that to you they are necessary purchases.  Not that you are spending only $200 on them.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: repman on March 28, 2018, 06:50:17 AM
no more buying of:
- coffee, sweets, chocolate
- books: I have first to read all the old ones

cheers
repman
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: Rosy on March 29, 2018, 06:38:39 AM


I think it is a good exercise to reflect on your spending and set limits, but $200 max a year does not put me in gazingus pin territory since I can easily handle it out of my monthly discretionary funds.

It's a personal challenege so obviously you set your own parameters, but I don't think ability to afford has anything to do with what a gazingus pin is, as defined in the first group.

If it did, I could buy hundreds of nail polishes or yards of fabric every month.  The issue is habitual buying of things you don't really need.

@iowajes - yes and no. I do agree with you that habitual buying of things you don't really need is an issue and a reason/definition of a gazingus pin. However, for me, books fall into the non-negotiable, this adds value to my life category.

I do exercise control of my impulses along with fiscal responsibility by curbing the book spend, using libraries and asking for gift cards. Books may be considered an indulgence by others if you purchase them outright instead of living with what the library has to offer.
You may call them personal spending "habits", but I disagree.
Books are important to me, they are not a "thing" like nail polish or jewelry.
Just like the occasional big trip or the pleasure I get from designing our big, organic garden, it is intertwined with my core values and way of life.

Books are not necessary for survival, but I'd forego eating for a good book and actually have on rare occasions in the distant past. That alone shows where my values lie, even though I am a foodie, I'd still choose a book.
Notwithstanding the ultimate pleasure of sippin' something or the double indulgence of eating chocolate while reading:)

I view my jewelry and gemstone addiction as a serious gazingus pin. I do not like that it has become a habit that is hard to kick for good. It was beginning to actually cause financial damage, which is completely unacceptable. The jewelry and gemstones do add great enjoyment to my life and even add monetary value, but if this particular buying habit goes unchecked, it can cause trouble since my financial resources are limited.
In truth, I have enough, still, it is proving hard to abstain from "habitual" buying and acquisition. I've actually never before had a true buying addiction like this one and I am rather unhappy with myself over it. It is hard to admit, but I am still tempted, although not as much.   
 
So you see I agree with your analysis that affordability is not the absolute measure or even a reason (although in my case it was part of the reason) for a gazingus pin.
But controlling your spending habits is the ultimate reason - I am in agreement there .

I want to severely limit, if not eliminate entirely, my jewelry/gemstone addiction, but I do not in the least feel that buying the occasional book rates as a gazingus pin in any way.
To the contrary, I would consider it a good habit:)

Sure, I'd prefer not to have to spend a dime on books, but that is not realistic or even desirable, given that without authors who can actually earn a living from their writing, the library would not have any books either.
I'd support an author any day before I would support a merchant. You buy a book - you buy an idea, entertainment, escape from reality, knowledge or an education.

But being able to -afford- something has nothing to do with whether it is a gazingus pin or not.

It is "the non-essential that you keep on buying even though you donít need it, you already have some, and itís just not necessary! Itís your kryponite, your habit, your addiction. Your collection. Your irrational obsession."

If you think books are essential, you need them and they are necessary- then it isn't a gazingus pin at all.  That they fit your budget doesn't matter. All my gazingus pins fit my budget (and also are a huge part of my stress relief, and therapist prescribed mental health care; though using, not buying...)  But just because I can afford more doesn't mean I need more.  What makes them not a gazingus pin is that to you they are necessary purchases.  Not that you are spending only $200 on them.

@iowajes - agreed:) - whew.

@lifejoy - I'm wondering why this month still seemed so tough for you? Is there some trigger point that you haven't admitted to yourself?
 You are not your jewelry:)? - true, but then, "who are you without your jewelry?"

Update: Looking forward to gold star #3 - extra sparkly, please:) I've only been mildly tempted this month to buy jewelry. In two months I will be totally free of jewelry payments too. I could pay it off now, but I want to remind myself of past transgressions:)
 
Three more days ...
 
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: I'm a red panda on March 29, 2018, 06:43:51 AM
I'm getting a gold star this month too :)
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: diapasoun on March 29, 2018, 08:16:50 AM
I should also be getting a gold star this month -- I had to buy a book for book club, but since that's a Licensed Out for this gazingus pin, I feel perfectly fine about it. It's the first time I've had to use the out this year, too. And both of next month's books are available via our library....
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: middo on March 29, 2018, 07:03:35 PM
Still no tool purchases for me!  I would like a third gold star too.  I'm actually quite impressed with myself.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: lifejoy on March 30, 2018, 03:54:52 PM
Yay! Can’t wait to give out stars :)

This month was particularly hard for me because my ever-lovin’ husband kept offering to buy me a piece of jewellery! (Which he normally never does, haha oh man).

But I stayed strong. Thanks for the help, everyone!

One of my cardigans has a hole (oops) but I have a clothing swap coming up in two weeks. Hopefully I’ll replenish then.

My mom’s walking shoes don’t work for me. Too bad! I am going to buy some good support shoes, but I’m counting it as an athletic/health purchase instead of fashion. My sport is walking! I wouldn’t consider cleats a wardrobe purchase. So yeah.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: CrustyBadger on March 30, 2018, 04:11:29 PM
I had ONE slip up again this month (early in the month) so no gold star for me again.

But....

I've only had two slip ups in two months.   So I can confidently say I am developing strong new habits against snacking from the vending machine at work.  And April will be a new month (and short one because the first week is Spring Break for us!!)
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: RetiredAt63 on March 30, 2018, 05:12:30 PM
My momís walking shoes donít work for me. Too bad! I am going to buy some good support shoes, but Iím counting it as an athletic/health purchase instead of fashion. My sport is walking! I wouldnít consider cleats a wardrobe purchase. So yeah.
I think this is perfectly legit.  My coffee out dosn't go in my food budget, it goes in my socializing budget, because I only get coffee out when I am meeting friends.

I too have been "good" this month, gold star worthy.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: Poundwise on March 30, 2018, 07:37:01 PM
Not sure if I qualify for a star... I bought some craft supplies for my son's project, and we used most of it up although some was left over (i.e. we needed only one out of the two packages of safety pins).  But I did not buy any craft supplies for myself.

OTOH, I have been spending money this month on what seems to be my new hobby... fish.

So crafts is a continuing gazingus pin, but I do go through these fads as well.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: Inkedup on March 30, 2018, 08:19:17 PM
Continuing to drink down the stash...daily...without making too much of a dent.

Good grief, I have a lot of tea. I'm down to using my last bag of coffee, though.

No purchases this month. I'll take a gold star for March :)
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: mspym on March 31, 2018, 12:20:38 AM
aw yiss gold star for March.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: lifejoy on March 31, 2018, 07:14:58 AM
Haha you tea drinkers are a good influence on me! I nearly bought a few boxes of Tazo tea (it was on sale!) but then I thought, hmm, don’t I have a full drawer of tea at home? Lots to drink up before I have these new flavours!

Yay for less clutter. Yay for focusing on what you already have.

In other news, since I’m not buying clothing or jewellery I have to confess I’ve been buying HOUSEWARES. Thrifted tea cups, platters, and a mirror (it’s gorgeous). In general, the overall spend is less than what I would normal spend on jewellery and clothes. But the habit of “needing” to buy and collect is still present. I’m going to tackle this impulse for April.

Anyone else finding that they’re replacing gazingus pin spending with some other category?
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: Laura33 on March 31, 2018, 12:47:45 PM
Anyone else finding that theyíre replacing gazingus pin spending with some other category?

YES!  I am dying on my grocery challenge, because that desire to treat myself is still there, so instead of teas, I am heading down to the local pizza-and-ice-cream shop.  All things considered, not sure thatís really a win.  😉

But at least I get a gold star here - zero teas this month!  And the best part is that as of yesterday, I got all of my canisters of tea into a single row in my cabinet, instead of 2-3 deep, and I have cleared out about half of what was in the open shelving.  I would guess I am at most one more month from completion, which would be awesome.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: Inkedup on March 31, 2018, 02:07:03 PM
Anyone else finding that theyíre replacing gazingus pin spending with some other category?

Yes :( Sigh.

Stationery is another gazingus pin, as are books. Although I have been doing well with abstaining from book buying, the notebooks are a different story. I like to take notes when I read history books, so one interest definitely feeds the other. While I have purchased fewer items overall this year, I have admittedly accumulated far more than I need.

Shall I focus on the fact that I'm still doing better than I otherwise would have during my out of control, accumulation years?
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: Inkedup on March 31, 2018, 02:08:51 PM
Anyone else finding that theyíre replacing gazingus pin spending with some other category?

And the best part is that as of yesterday, I got all of my canisters of tea into a single row in my cabinet, instead of 2-3 deep, and I have cleared out about half of what was in the open shelving.  I would guess I am at most one more month from completion, which would be awesome.

Great work, Laura33! That's amazing progress.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: RetiredAt63 on March 31, 2018, 02:11:08 PM
Try decluttering your house to get it ready to paint and sell.  That has drowned any desire I have to buy anything (except maybe alcohol, but I am holding steady there too).  Except if my shredder dies it will definitely need to be replaced.  The blue bags and blue bags of shredded paper I have put out for recycling, sigh.  And today I just filled another one.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: mspym on March 31, 2018, 03:10:32 PM
Anyone else finding that theyíre replacing gazingus pin spending with some other category?

YES!  I am dying on my grocery challenge, because that desire to treat myself is still there, so instead of teas, I am heading down to the local pizza-and-ice-cream shop.  All things considered, not sure thatís really a win.  😉

But at least I get a gold star here - zero teas this month!  And the best part is that as of yesterday, I got all of my canisters of tea into a single row in my cabinet, instead of 2-3 deep, and I have cleared out about half of what was in the open shelving.  I would guess I am at most one more month from completion, which would be awesome.

That is really awesome, Laura. I've been barrelling through my tea stash as it's my alcohol substitute but there's definitely one Less Favoured Tea in my collection that is a bit of an act of will to drink, although I am learning to appreciate it.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: diapasoun on March 31, 2018, 06:50:11 PM
Anyone else finding that theyíre replacing gazingus pin spending with some other category?

I'm getting a lot more books out of the library - so I'm still not reading down my own library nearly as much as I'd like. It scratches the itch for New, and for particular books, quite well and for free - and I read every library book. So, not really a gazingus pin, but still an "accumulation" in some ways.

Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: lifejoy on April 01, 2018, 05:19:22 AM
Try decluttering your house to get it ready to paint and sell.  That has drowned any desire I have to buy anything (except maybe alcohol, but I am holding steady there too).  Except if my shredder dies it will definitely need to be replaced.  The blue bags and blue bags of shredded paper I have put out for recycling, sigh.  And today I just filled another one.

Oh man, such a good point! I have moved 5 times in 7 years, and I have one or two more moves in my near future. I’ve got to remember how much I end up hating the majority of my possessions when I have to move all of them!!
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: lifejoy on April 01, 2018, 05:22:54 AM
Confession: I tried to buy a pair of shoes. Comfy shoes for walking, but not “walking shoes”. Just as fate intervened for Rosy, it did for me, too! Order could not be completed because they went out of stock!

Erm... I also had ordered some shoes on amazon (free shipping, free returns!) and they were on SALE but I have just cancelled that order even before it shipped.

It’s important that I didn’t manage to buy these shoes because they were more for fashion than function. I can survive the next 9 months with my athletic walking shoes, and the fashion shoes I already own.

Anyways I find this hard but you guys are great for me to have in mind when I need to steel my resolve!
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: lifejoy on April 01, 2018, 05:51:50 AM
Well, I spoke too soon! Too bad about April because I just bought a diamond tshirt, which means I didn’t make it for BOTH of my gazingus pins this month... it was on sale for $999 so I couldn’t resist!!!! Sounds crazy, I know, but it’s designer. So yeah. (https://uploads.tapatalk-cdn.com/20180401/bdb657e17743d69864abf32bf21abff7.jpg)Psyched about my purchase so I guess I don’t really mind.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: HappierAtHome on April 01, 2018, 06:14:48 AM
Good one :-P
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: zeli2033 on April 01, 2018, 08:39:29 AM
Checking in to officially claim my star for March! No books bought - woohooo! I love the library.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: RetiredAt63 on April 01, 2018, 08:54:17 AM
Well, I spoke too soon! Too bad about April because I just bought a diamond tshirt, which means I didnít make it for BOTH of my gazingus pins this month... it was on sale for $999 so I couldnít resist!!!! Sounds crazy, I know, but itís designer. So yeah. (https://uploads.tapatalk-cdn.com/20180401/bdb657e17743d69864abf32bf21abff7.jpg)Psyched about my purchase so I guess I donít really mind.

You ARE having fun today, eh?    ;-)
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: lifejoy on April 01, 2018, 08:55:00 AM
Good one :-P

Haha thanks ;)
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: Well Respected Man on April 01, 2018, 07:46:27 PM
I hate the very idea of gazingus pins, so I applaud all of you who are making the effort not to acquire any more. There are shiploads of containers of gazingus pins arriving daily at a port near you, and it is all BS busywork. Why don't we all switch to virtual gazingus pins, where people pretend to make things, and other people pretend to buy them, and everyone still gets to eat.

Regarding the Tiffany jewelry dilemma, I think a Tiffany gift is about as gazingus-y as it gets. Literally the color of the bag or box is cause to charge 2-3x a comparable jewelry gazingus or 100-500x a comparable functional item*. Give a functional or consumable gift, not a gazingus.

* I have a Tiffany keyring, which cost who the hell knows how much, but it's solid silver and from Tiffany, so I'm guessing it cost 100-500x what a regular loop of steel would cost. The damn gazingus has a ball screwed onto one end so that you can modify your mix of keys, and the ball works itself loose every so often, so that you risk losing your keys.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: lifejoy on April 01, 2018, 11:41:31 PM
I hate the very idea of gazingus pins, so I applaud all of you who are making the effort not to acquire any more. There are shiploads of containers of gazingus pins arriving daily at a port near you, and it is all BS busywork. Why don't we all switch to virtual gazingus pins, where people pretend to make things, and other people pretend to buy them, and everyone still gets to eat.

Regarding the Tiffany jewelry dilemma, I think a Tiffany gift is about as gazingus-y as it gets. Literally the color of the bag or box is cause to charge 2-3x a comparable jewelry gazingus or 100-500x a comparable functional item*. Give a functional or consumable gift, not a gazingus.

* I have a Tiffany keyring, which cost who the hell knows how much, but it's solid silver and from Tiffany, so I'm guessing it cost 100-500x what a regular loop of steel would cost. The damn gazingus has a ball screwed onto one end so that you can modify your mix of keys, and the ball works itself loose every so often, so that you risk losing your keys.

Well.... yeah, I pretty much agree, but I also believe that usually the purpose is a gift is to give something you think the other person would would really enjoy. And she totally would. So yeah.... dilemma.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: lifejoy on April 01, 2018, 11:42:37 PM
PS but if I had a tiffany key ring I might feel the same way as you ;)

Are you going to join us? Do you buy any gazingus pins these days?
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: formerlydivorcedmom on April 02, 2018, 07:48:19 AM
I totally failed in March.  I was at the grocery store, saw another new release by another favorite author, and into my cart it went.

Apparently I used up all my willpower earlier in the month and should not have attempted to walk down the book aisle.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: I'm a red panda on April 02, 2018, 07:58:43 AM
I get my gold star for march :)

(For the record- I have a Tiffany bracelet. Not the one from Legally Blonde, but a similar one- as that was SO popular when I was in college and my husband gave me it. I wore it always in college and never wear silver now. He was broke in college, so I can't imagine what he went without to get me this! He hasn't bought me a piece of jewelry since we got married so I guess now we are even for it.)
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: Well Respected Man on April 02, 2018, 08:04:26 AM
PS but if I had a tiffany key ring I might feel the same way as you ;)

Are you going to join us? Do you buy any gazingus pins these days?
OK, since you were so gracious about my not very nice post, I'll join. I don't really buy much besides food and alcohol these days, so I'll go with no Doritos or other fancy chips, and no expensive craft beer.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: lifejoy on April 02, 2018, 08:45:30 AM
PS but if I had a tiffany key ring I might feel the same way as you ;)

Are you going to join us? Do you buy any gazingus pins these days?
OK, since you were so gracious about my not very nice post, I'll join. I don't really buy much besides food and alcohol these days, so I'll go with no Doritos or other fancy chips, and no expensive craft beer.

Very cool! And welcome! Haha and I’m not afraid of a facepunch (when warranted) every now and again, so don’t sweat it.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: Serendip on April 02, 2018, 09:51:13 AM
No gold star for me in March (for my earlier e-book purchases)..however I am happy to say I have resisted all art courses & even one yoga retreat which I almost sold myself on (it's right after my birthday and run by a friend!)
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: Poundwise on April 02, 2018, 10:30:29 AM
Well, I spoke too soon! Too bad about April because I just bought a diamond tshirt, which means I didnít make it for BOTH of my gazingus pins this month... it was on sale for $999 so I couldnít resist!!!!

Ha, you fooled me until I saw the price! And for a moment I had serious doubts about your taste!

Is the jewelry you want to buy your friend over budget? How does it stack up to value of the pearl necklace you never wear? Is she the kind of person who would find it tacky if you gift her a vintage (preowned) Tiffany item rather than a brand-new-in-box item?

Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: lifejoy on April 02, 2018, 01:12:28 PM
Well, I spoke too soon! Too bad about April because I just bought a diamond tshirt, which means I didn’t make it for BOTH of my gazingus pins this month... it was on sale for $999 so I couldn’t resist!!!!

Ha, you fooled me until I saw the price! And for a moment I had serious doubts about your taste!

Is the jewelry you want to buy your friend over budget? How does it stack up to value of the pearl necklace you never wear? Is she the kind of person who would find it tacky if you gift her a vintage (preowned) Tiffany item rather than a brand-new-in-box item?

Hehe ;)

Yes, probably about $100 more than I want to spend.

The value is similar to the pearl necklace but I feel weird about regifting. I feel like I would have to buy something else if I went with that. Maybe a jewellery box to go with it? I’m not sure.

I think she’d be fine with vintage/preowned! I looked into it a bit. Trouble is, a lot of Tiffany stuff holds its value and the resale doesn’t have the kind of amazing deals that would make it worth it for me.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: MaybeBabyMustache on April 05, 2018, 07:57:37 AM
I'm planning to buy more gift cards tomorrow - $300 in Home Depot gift cards will yield $60 in grocery store gift cards. We are in the middle of numerous home projects, so the $300 will be used quickly, and having gift cards won't impact the total amount we'd spend. (As it might with say, a clothing store). Otherwise, have continued to work down our stash of gift cards & ensure I'm not buying even when tempted, unless the gift card will offset planned spending.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: formerlydivorcedmom on April 05, 2018, 08:23:12 AM
I thought of you last night, @MaybeBabyMustache  - I was helping my 8-year-old declutter his room, and I found half a dozen (unused) gift cards tucked into various drawers.

I'm glad you've got a handle on your gift cards now.  Now I have to figure out how to help the kid get a handle on his.

After the kids went to bed, I sat in my personal library and looked at all my lovely gazingus pins.  [Yes, I actually have a room dedicated to my gazingus pins.  It's half the reason I bought this house - a lovely open loft area between the kids' rooms that fits 6 bookshelves and two nice armchairs.  All for MEEEEEEE and my preciouses, bwahahaha.]   Part of this challenge, for me, is finding more of an emotional balance with books.    Not just being more intentional with what I buy, but being more intentional with what I keep.

I've done MAJOR book decluttering in the last year (I got rid of about 25% of my collection).  However, I still have hundreds of books (possibly more than a thousand).  It make me anxious to think about getting rid of more (red flag)...yet at the same time I want to give away All The Things because I'm so tired of stuff. 

I'm quite jealous of all of you with perishable gazingus pins.  You are using up your tea and your gift cards.  For the others who, like me, have gazingus pins that translate into stuff, are you planning to pare your collections this year?
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: diapasoun on April 05, 2018, 09:14:34 AM
I'm quite jealous of all of you with perishable gazingus pins.  You are using up your tea and your gift cards.  For the others who, like me, have gazingus pins that translate into stuff, are you planning to pare your collections this year?

I'm with you: I need to get rid of books, especially because my shelves are overflowing!

I do have a small set of books that I know I don't want, and can either put in one of our Little Free Libraries, or sell to our local shop. Most of them are ones I've inherited from friends, and although they look fun they're just not high up enough on my TBR that I'll get to them this year -- or likely even next year. It doesn't make sense to me to keep books around so that I can read them in five years, especially when I'll probably be moving before then AND these are the sorts of books you can easily find in libraries.

I just need to sit down and do the cull.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: formerlydivorcedmom on April 05, 2018, 01:42:38 PM
I'm quite jealous of all of you with perishable gazingus pins.  You are using up your tea and your gift cards.  For the others who, like me, have gazingus pins that translate into stuff, are you planning to pare your collections this year?

I'm with you: I need to get rid of books, especially because my shelves are overflowing!

I do have a small set of books that I know I don't want, and can either put in one of our Little Free Libraries, or sell to our local shop. Most of them are ones I've inherited from friends, and although they look fun they're just not high up enough on my TBR that I'll get to them this year -- or likely even next year. It doesn't make sense to me to keep books around so that I can read them in five years, especially when I'll probably be moving before then AND these are the sorts of books you can easily find in libraries.

I just need to sit down and do the cull.

Those were the easy ones for me to get rid of (mostly).  Last night's anxiety - I have ALL the Janet Evanovich books and ALL of the J.D. Robb "In Death" series and ALL of the Agatha Christie mysteries.  So does my library.  Occasionally I reread them.  I'm hoping in a few years the kids will want to read them.  But do I really need to keep them?  And if I get rid of them, well, now I have a giant empty space in my bookshelves!
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: diapasoun on April 05, 2018, 02:00:35 PM
I'm quite jealous of all of you with perishable gazingus pins.  You are using up your tea and your gift cards.  For the others who, like me, have gazingus pins that translate into stuff, are you planning to pare your collections this year?

I'm with you: I need to get rid of books, especially because my shelves are overflowing!

I do have a small set of books that I know I don't want, and can either put in one of our Little Free Libraries, or sell to our local shop. Most of them are ones I've inherited from friends, and although they look fun they're just not high up enough on my TBR that I'll get to them this year -- or likely even next year. It doesn't make sense to me to keep books around so that I can read them in five years, especially when I'll probably be moving before then AND these are the sorts of books you can easily find in libraries.

I just need to sit down and do the cull.

Those were the easy ones for me to get rid of (mostly).  Last night's anxiety - I have ALL the Janet Evanovich books and ALL of the J.D. Robb "In Death" series and ALL of the Agatha Christie mysteries.  So does my library.  Occasionally I reread them.  I'm hoping in a few years the kids will want to read them.  But do I really need to keep them?  And if I get rid of them, well, now I have a giant empty space in my bookshelves!

Ohhh that one's hard. Very few of my most precious books are easily found in libraries -- they're either too niche, or in the case of a few, too likely to be stolen (see: the Sandman comics series).

How do you feel when you look at those books? Do you feel happy and joyful? Do you feel weighed down?
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: formerlydivorcedmom on April 05, 2018, 03:22:43 PM
I'm quite jealous of all of you with perishable gazingus pins.  You are using up your tea and your gift cards.  For the others who, like me, have gazingus pins that translate into stuff, are you planning to pare your collections this year?

I'm with you: I need to get rid of books, especially because my shelves are overflowing!

I do have a small set of books that I know I don't want, and can either put in one of our Little Free Libraries, or sell to our local shop. Most of them are ones I've inherited from friends, and although they look fun they're just not high up enough on my TBR that I'll get to them this year -- or likely even next year. It doesn't make sense to me to keep books around so that I can read them in five years, especially when I'll probably be moving before then AND these are the sorts of books you can easily find in libraries.

I just need to sit down and do the cull.

Those were the easy ones for me to get rid of (mostly).  Last night's anxiety - I have ALL the Janet Evanovich books and ALL of the J.D. Robb "In Death" series and ALL of the Agatha Christie mysteries.  So does my library.  Occasionally I reread them.  I'm hoping in a few years the kids will want to read them.  But do I really need to keep them?  And if I get rid of them, well, now I have a giant empty space in my bookshelves!

Ohhh that one's hard. Very few of my most precious books are easily found in libraries -- they're either too niche, or in the case of a few, too likely to be stolen (see: the Sandman comics series).

How do you feel when you look at those books? Do you feel happy and joyful? Do you feel weighed down?

Both :(  I might take one or all of these series and hide them in the closet for a month.  I did that with a set of romance books last month;  30 days later it was a lot easier to decide which ones should go and which ones should stay.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: diapasoun on April 05, 2018, 03:28:26 PM
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Those were the easy ones for me to get rid of (mostly).  Last night's anxiety - I have ALL the Janet Evanovich books and ALL of the J.D. Robb "In Death" series and ALL of the Agatha Christie mysteries.  So does my library.  Occasionally I reread them.  I'm hoping in a few years the kids will want to read them.  But do I really need to keep them?  And if I get rid of them, well, now I have a giant empty space in my bookshelves!

Ohhh that one's hard. Very few of my most precious books are easily found in libraries -- they're either too niche, or in the case of a few, too likely to be stolen (see: the Sandman comics series).

How do you feel when you look at those books? Do you feel happy and joyful? Do you feel weighed down?

Both :(  I might take one or all of these series and hide them in the closet for a month.  I did that with a set of romance books last month;  30 days later it was a lot easier to decide which ones should go and which ones should stay.

That's a great way of deciding about it. The distance helps.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: mspym on April 06, 2018, 02:41:46 AM
I am going through the books now. One of my big gazingus pins was manga - I estimate I spent ~10k on it over 4 years or so, and it would have been higher if I hadn't split up series buying with a friend. Now I am going in the opposite direction and looking to shed the majority of my collection. I have the weight and obligation of I should find someone who will appreciate them sitting on my shoulders, when actually I should just get them out of my life. Sadly my niece would lovelovelove most of them but she is living on a bus and has No Space!

At least with the Kdrama/Jdrama, it was all files so I could delete them and that was it.

Question to the group: I don't know if this was a gazingus pin so open to losing my star if you reckon it was. When I left my last job, work gave me some giftcards to the local craft store, with a 12 month expiry. I used the cards yesterday to buy various bobbins/patterns/bias tape/material that I wanted - which IS a direct violation of my pin [material/patterns] BUT if I had stuck to the zero exceptions then they would have expired before the challenge was up AND I carefully stayed in the total envelope of the cards, rather than spend any of my own money PLUS now I have absolutely no excuses - any future purchases are 100% gazingus pin that's for sure. Judgement?
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: lifejoy on April 06, 2018, 08:45:12 AM
Mspym - if someone gave me a gift card to Tiffany’s that expired this year, well, I’m not an idiot - of course I’d spend it!

In your case I think it’s really great that you stayed under the coat of the gift card. Whether or not it counts as “cheating” - that’s up to you. Did it feel like giving in to a gazingus pin addiction? Did it feel like falling off the wagon? Or did it feel like a random and necessarily blip on an otherwise successful journey?

FormerlydivorcedMom - I am trying to downsize my gazingus pin collections. Clothes I am finding easier. I have a clothing swap coming up. Jewellery I go back and forth. The cheap stuff I can part with unless it’s tied to an emotional event. The good stuff- I largely have a hard time parting with it. I’ve been trying to sell a ring and have had some bites, and I just haven’t been able to meet with the buyers (#babylife) so it hasn’t sold yet. I just got another bite... but recently I had decided to keep it. But maybe I should sell. Gah!

I could part with the jewellery more easily, except I always think “omg family heirloom!”. Plus I’ve gotten such deals, I could never buy them again for the price I originally got them for.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: formerlydivorcedmom on April 06, 2018, 11:14:10 AM
I could part with the jewellery more easily, except I always think ďomg family heirloom!Ē. Plus Iíve gotten such deals, I could never buy them again for the price I originally got them for.

Are they family heirlooms that were passed down to you, or future family heirlooms that you want to pass down to your children?

A few years before my grandmother died, she called all of us into her room, laid out all her nice jewelry, and told us to each pick one item*.  Everything else, she sold or gave away to friends.  I was grateful, because it meant that we didn't have to deal with it all later, when sentiment would make it harder to make decisions.   I don't own a lot of expensive jewelry - it doesn't fit my lifestyle much - and I wouldn't have had a clue what to do with all of hers.

As for the buying it again...would you want to?  It's a sunk cost right now, and it really doesn't matter if you *could* buy it again at that price if you *wouldn't* buy it again.

*She was closest to my sister and I, so we were each given an extra sentimental piece of relatively cheap jewelry - my sister got Mamaw's rosary, and I received a cloisonne' necklace that my grandfather gave to her when they were dating.   I value (and wear) that necklace much more than the diamond tennis bracelet.

Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: mspym on April 06, 2018, 03:39:48 PM
Mspym - if someone gave me a gift card to Tiffany’s that expired this year, well, I’m not an idiot - of course I’d spend it!

In your case I think it’s really great that you stayed under the coat of the gift card. Whether or not it counts as “cheating” - that’s up to you. Did it feel like giving in to a gazingus pin addiction? Did it feel like falling off the wagon? Or did it feel like a random and necessarily blip on an otherwise successful journey?

It felt a bit like a lucky escape- I left ~80 cents unspent rather than risk going over. And now the card is gone and I don't have any excuse to be tempted. But yes, I would have felt like a bit of a chump if I had let a business keep $100 of my friends money and not got any of the promised goods in exchange!

FormerlydivorcedMom - I am trying to downsize my gazingus pin collections. Clothes I am finding easier. I have a clothing swap coming up. Jewellery I go back and forth. The cheap stuff I can part with unless it’s tied to an emotional event. The good stuff- I largely have a hard time parting with it. I’ve been trying to sell a ring and have had some bites, and I just haven’t been able to meet with the buyers (#babylife) so it hasn’t sold yet. I just got another bite... but recently I had decided to keep it. But maybe I should sell. Gah!

I could part with the jewellery more easily, except I always think “omg family heirloom!”. Plus I’ve gotten such deals, I could never buy them again for the price I originally got them for.

This is how I feel about some of my books/vintage frocks, but I have been having a quiet word with myself- Am I ever going to read/wear it again? Would I buy it again now? Do I know someone who would enjoy it as much as I did? Remember how AWESOME it felt to find something AMAZING at a bargain price? Well, why not let someone else have that feeling too? [that last one gets me to donating most times]

I do have the benefit of all my decisions being on the small potatoes side of the financial scale - I am not losing big money on letting things go. The money is already spent, and it bought me the use and enjoyment of the thing for as long as I had it. Now I just need to change from buying things for my ideal self to buying things for my actual self. : /
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: lifejoy on April 06, 2018, 04:23:04 PM
I could part with the jewellery more easily, except I always think “omg family heirloom!”. Plus I’ve gotten such deals, I could never buy them again for the price I originally got them for.

Are they family heirlooms that were passed down to you, or future family heirlooms that you want to pass down to your children?

A few years before my grandmother died, she called all of us into her room, laid out all her nice jewelry, and told us to each pick one item*.  Everything else, she sold or gave away to friends.  I was grateful, because it meant that we didn't have to deal with it all later, when sentiment would make it harder to make decisions.   I don't own a lot of expensive jewelry - it doesn't fit my lifestyle much - and I wouldn't have had a clue what to do with all of hers.

As for the buying it again...would you want to?  It's a sunk cost right now, and it really doesn't matter if you *could* buy it again at that price if you *wouldn't* buy it again.

*She was closest to my sister and I, so we were each given an extra sentimental piece of relatively cheap jewelry - my sister got Mamaw's rosary, and I received a cloisonne' necklace that my grandfather gave to her when they were dating.   I value (and wear) that necklace much more than the diamond tennis bracelet.

Both - some jewellery belonging to my mom and grandparents and great grandparents (not much!) and some is mine which even if I never wear it, I reckon I can have fun giving it away one day.

Oh man I love cloissone. What a beautiful story. My gramma gave me a gold filled (“cheaper”) heart locket bracelet that my grampa had given her. It’s engraved and everything. One of my most prized possessions!

As for whether or not I’d buy my own items again.... if I saw them for such a deal, I’d find it hard to resist!!! It’s more like, if you saw a car or a book or a boatload of tea for an incredibly discounted price... would you want to buy it??? Whatever it is you like to buy, if you saw a helluva deal you’d probably want to buy it. My trick needs to be: stop looking!!!
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: lifejoy on April 06, 2018, 04:23:54 PM
PS - did I catch everyone up on stars? Let me know if Iíve missed you! ✮✮✮✮✮✮✮✮✮✮✮
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: Rosy on April 07, 2018, 09:47:15 AM
I thought of you last night, @MaybeBabyMustache  - I was helping my 8-year-old declutter his room, and I found half a dozen (unused) gift cards tucked into various drawers.

I'm glad you've got a handle on your gift cards now.  Now I have to figure out how to help the kid get a handle on his.

After the kids went to bed, I sat in my personal library and looked at all my lovely gazingus pins.  [Yes, I actually have a room dedicated to my gazingus pins.  It's half the reason I bought this house - a lovely open loft area between the kids' rooms that fits 6 bookshelves and two nice armchairs.  All for MEEEEEEE and my preciouses, bwahahaha.]   Part of this challenge, for me, is finding more of an emotional balance with books.    Not just being more intentional with what I buy, but being more intentional with what I keep.

I've done MAJOR book decluttering in the last year (I got rid of about 25% of my collection).  However, I still have hundreds of books (possibly more than a thousand).  It make me anxious to think about getting rid of more (red flag)...yet at the same time I want to give away All The Things because I'm so tired of stuff. 

I'm quite jealous of all of you with perishable gazingus pins.  You are using up your tea and your gift cards.  For the others who, like me, have gazingus pins that translate into stuff, are you planning to pare your collections this year?

LOL @formerlydivorcedmom you are me about eight years ago:) In a sense, I still have that room but I reduced the number of bookshelves as well as the size of bookshelves. It was tough, but once I had a system I could live with it suddenly all worked very well.

In the past eight years, I've gradually let go of some of my book collection when I realized that I lost interest in that subject, which in turn made rooms for books on new subjects of interest.

Feng Shui teaches that one always needs to leave space for new things to come into our lives. I think that is profound and brilliant:)
Besides, I like breathing space and being a bibliophile could easily lead to rooms crammed full of books. I do love that idea on some level:), but in the end, I decided to control that impulse, if for no other reason than that I am not the only one living in that house.

On the gift cards - I carry all my gift cards in my purse in a see through plastic envelope, sorted by restaurant/dept store/home improvement/specialty store. That way I know what I have and I can always use them.
I've never purchased any for myself except for ordering a rewards gift card for Xmas or talking Mr. R. into giving up his rewards as a Valentine's present for me - yeah, I'm like that:).

Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: Laura33 on April 07, 2018, 11:57:54 AM
PS - did I catch everyone up on stars? Let me know if Iíve missed you! ✮✮✮✮✮✮✮✮✮✮✮

Where's the post with the stars?  As I am currently working my way through the "meh" teas, I want to gaze upon the wonder of my stars!!!
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: lifejoy on April 07, 2018, 12:50:19 PM
PS - did I catch everyone up on stars? Let me know if I’ve missed you!

Where's the post with the stars?  As I am currently working my way through the "meh" teas, I want to gaze upon the wonder of my stars!!!

Page 1! Original OP post :)
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: Rosy on April 07, 2018, 12:55:50 PM
@lifejoy I'm with you all the way on the conflicting emotions about missing out on great jewelry deals. Maybe you could try a different perspective to help you stay strong and succeed in this challenge - like, pulling the mama card...
Do you want to be the lady with the most beautiful diamond collection or the lady who teaches baby joy about finances, core values and what really matters in life?
Doesn't mean you can't own an awesome diamond collection, but it does mean impulse control and believe me I know how hard that is.

It's all about choices and different perspectives. I think what has helped me the most with resisting the "deal of a lifetime" temptation is that I have set other priorities. Clear goals that are important and enticing to me. The longer I'm resisting impulse buying the more I can see the direct impact on my finances.
That, in turn, re-affirms my goal of re-directing my money to one of my core values, i.e. travel and a true financial need, a solid financial base for retirement that I'd like to cement further.

Temptation lurks everywhere and it is a good thing we committed to a full year, because I don't think three months is enough to keep me from going rogue once again.
In that vein, it has been six months since I ordered jewelry from one channel and four months since I ordered jewelry from the other jewelry channel. I looked it up this morning. I nearly caved and picked up a ring on clearance:(

I'll look more seriously into selling once I get back from my trip in September, maybe close to the holidays is a better time to sell gemstones and jewelry anyway.
It's not like I'll never buy another thing, but I am not even thinking about making a list of what I might buy once this challenge is over.

 
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: RetiredAt63 on April 07, 2018, 03:16:49 PM
PS - did I catch everyone up on stars? Let me know if Iíve missed you! ✮✮✮✮✮✮✮✮✮✮✮

I just checked, I have 2, so that is January and February.  Except for the fibre gift, I  also made it through March.  Whew! 

Pretty stars.  😊
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: lifejoy on April 07, 2018, 07:53:46 PM
PS - did I catch everyone up on stars? Let me know if I’ve missed you!

I just checked, I have 2, so that is January and February.  Except for the fibre gift, I  also made it through March.  Whew! 

Pretty stars. 

Sorry I missed you!! Will add tonight :)

(Tapatalk doesn’t let me so I’ll use my laptop later)
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: chaskavitch on April 08, 2018, 06:41:04 AM
PS - did I catch everyone up on stars? Let me know if Iíve missed you!

Ooh, me!  I haven't bought any clothes at all this year still.  I'm doing much better about chocolate at the store, or at least I was until last week when I went and was bombarded with Easter sales :(  No star for April.  It was a terrible idea, too, because I ate the ENTIRE bag of Cadbury mini eggs all at once instead of portioning it out and then felt so awful.  That's 1200 calories that's basically straight sugar.  Ugh.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: Laura33 on April 09, 2018, 07:35:08 AM
Yeah, I also seem to have only two stars, but I've made it three months!!! 

@lifejoy:  Just a little perspective to follow Rosy's thoughts on how to resist temptation.  Last year, I bought myself a StupidCar.  I have wanted it for 20+ years, but I could never justify it.*  And then I realized that we were FI and we had college covered, and we were going to keep working for 6-8 more years anyway, so I bought it.  And the one thing I can tell you is that I enjoy that car so much more because I waited for it.  There is no guilt at all;** I didn't blow money on "stuff" before we both our own future and the kids taken care of, so the purchase did not interfere in any way with our other plans -- basically, I didn't put my own frivolous wants ahead of the big-picture things that were more important to me.  I am free just to enjoy it, without feeling like I am a bad person for wanting it.  Which is really a new thing for me.  And totally fucking awesome.

I don't know if that helps or not, but I hope that knowing that the enjoyment factor is exponentially higher when you wait until you see all your ducks lined up in a row may provide a little extra fuel.

*Because it is really massively stupid.  And there's barely room for kids in the back seat, much less carseats.

**I believe that guilt is what happens when your actions are inconsistent with your values.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: lifejoy on April 09, 2018, 08:10:08 AM
Yeah, I also seem to have only two stars, but I've made it three months!!! 

@lifejoy:  Just a little perspective to follow Rosy's thoughts on how to resist temptation.  Last year, I bought myself a StupidCar.  I have wanted it for 20+ years, but I could never justify it.*  And then I realized that we were FI and we had college covered, and we were going to keep working for 6-8 more years anyway, so I bought it.  And the one thing I can tell you is that I enjoy that car so much more because I waited for it.  There is no guilt at all;** I didn't blow money on "stuff" before we both our own future and the kids taken care of, so the purchase did not interfere in any way with our other plans -- basically, I didn't put my own frivolous wants ahead of the big-picture things that were more important to me.  I am free just to enjoy it, without feeling like I am a bad person for wanting it.  Which is really a new thing for me.  And totally fucking awesome.

I don't know if that helps or not, but I hope that knowing that the enjoyment factor is exponentially higher when you wait until you see all your ducks lined up in a row may provide a little extra fuel.

*Because it is really massively stupid.  And there's barely room for kids in the back seat, much less carseats.

**I believe that guilt is what happens when your actions are inconsistent with your values.

Laura I really, really like your thoughts and I am going to sit with them!

Also I think star #2 is really small and not showing up for people. Are you on a computer or your phone?(https://uploads.tapatalk-cdn.com/20180409/f4ca24fd6e18376281a81251bebecc24.jpg)
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: Serendip on April 09, 2018, 09:13:28 AM
Ah yes, there is another teeny star in there, thanks for highlighting the little one @lifejoy --I was going to say I should have 2 by now too

Going through receipts for taxes is showing me how outrageous some of my spending was last year (art workshops--thousands in fees & supplies).

Now, if I had the money for it that is fine, but I don't and am a fairly low earner in these circles (with minimum retirement savings and currently almost no EF).

But that is changing and I am glad I have recommitted myself to wiser, long-term choices even as summer art workshops beckon. :)
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: Rosy on April 09, 2018, 10:00:24 AM
Yeah, I also seem to have only two stars, but I've made it three months!!! 

@lifejoy:  Just a little perspective to follow Rosy's thoughts on how to resist temptation.  Last year, I bought myself a StupidCar.  I have wanted it for 20+ years, but I could never justify it.*  And then I realized that we were FI and we had college covered, and we were going to keep working for 6-8 more years anyway, so I bought it.  And the one thing I can tell you is that I enjoy that car so much more because I waited for it.  There is no guilt at all;** I didn't blow money on "stuff" before we both our own future and the kids taken care of, so the purchase did not interfere in any way with our other plans -- basically, I didn't put my own frivolous wants ahead of the big-picture things that were more important to me.  I am free just to enjoy it, without feeling like I am a bad person for wanting it.  Which is really a new thing for me.  And totally fucking awesome.

I don't know if that helps or not, but I hope that knowing that the enjoyment factor is exponentially higher when you wait until you see all your ducks lined up in a row may provide a little extra fuel.

*Because it is really massively stupid.  And there's barely room for kids in the back seat, much less carseats.

**I believe that guilt is what happens when your actions are inconsistent with your values.

@Laura33 - I agree 100%. Regretfully, I am the poster child of what not to do when it comes to getting the car you always wanted, especially since it will be my last car purchase ever.

I'd been saving up for two years and had the money to finally let go of my lil ole red 1998. I looked and looked and found the car I really wanted, it was $2000 more than I'd decided on - arbitrarily. I could make the extra $2K happen. I decided not to and instead went another $3K lower than what I'd saved up already.
I came across the deal of a lifetime.

I've regretted it ever since!
I am now the sort of proud owner of a really nice car, 2014 with only 16K miles on it when I bought it, with all the techie stuff I wanted, good gas mileage etc.
I feel like I cheated myself out of the joy of owning the car I wanted and cheated myself out of the reward of my savings - why did I not use them to please myself and allow myself the joy of paying cash for a car I really wanted?

As it happened I ended up buying a second car for a family member a couple of weeks later, I don't feel bad about that at all. I was glad I was in a position to do that. Had I bought the car I wanted, I would not have been able to help. So there is that.

Still, I'm seriously considering trading in my "last new car" that I purchased last August and get the one I really want. Financially speaking probably a really bad idea since I am now still paying for the second car.
But dammit this has been hands down one of the worst decisions I've ever made and I hate having to live with it.

*** REGRET is what happens when you ignore the wishes of your heart that were within your grasp and power to satisfy.

BTW - only twenty more days until star #4 - we can do this!
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: lifejoy on April 09, 2018, 11:21:36 AM
@Rosy - only 20 more days?? Ok, I can do that. Making it 1/4 of the year is going to feel good!

I’m glad you reminded me of how close I am... last night I was thinking that I could blow this month, and spend a lot of money on clothing and jewellery (like A LOT) and it would help me last again until the rest of the year ;) SNEAKY!

But I’m going to stay strong. I have a clothing swap in 5 days, so that should help. And when I was jonesing for a brooch, I remembered I actually have one! Even better, it’s inherited from my gramma that I was bffs with. This challenge made me stop and think about what I already own. That was good!
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: lifejoy on April 09, 2018, 11:22:47 AM
If the 2nd star is too teeny tiny I am swap it out, but I’d rather not because I’m hoping to find a different star for each month of the year... anyways let me know what you think! (Not only is it pretty to have variety, it helps me see to whom I have already allotted a star for a given month).
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: formerlydivorcedmom on April 09, 2018, 11:36:26 AM
I'm not really motivated by cheap - I'm not going to buy a ton more books just because they are 5/$1 instead of $7 each.....my weakness is whether they look interesting.  If they look like something I might enjoy, I want to buy them.  If I'm bored, I buy a book.  If I'm sick, I buy a book.  If my kids are driving me crazy, I buy a book.  If I suddenly decide it might be interesting to learn about Tudor England because I saw a display at Half-Priced books, I buy books.

Finding a balance is HARD.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: Duchess on April 09, 2018, 01:47:15 PM
PS - did I catch everyone up on stars? Let me know if Iíve missed you! ✮✮✮✮✮✮✮✮✮✮✮

Totally late checking in for my March star please. I seem to have turned a corner with my gazingus pin of snacks/junk food while out and about. My husband and I  did the Whole30 elimination diet in the run up to Easter. We felt so fantastic on it that we havenít wanted to re-introduce any processed foods back into our diets.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: mspym on April 10, 2018, 03:09:55 AM
Awesome work @Duchess!

Meanwhile I am using up some of my bias binding stash to hem my shorts shorter. [The top of them was just right but they go all the way to my knees because I am short.]
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: Rosy on April 11, 2018, 09:54:55 AM
I'm not really motivated by cheap - I'm not going to buy a ton more books just because they are 5/$1 instead of $7 each.....my weakness is whether they look interesting.  If they look like something I might enjoy, I want to buy them.  If I'm bored, I buy a book.  If I'm sick, I buy a book.  If my kids are driving me crazy, I buy a book.  If I suddenly decide it might be interesting to learn about Tudor England because I saw a display at Half-Priced books, I buy books.

Finding a balance is HARD.

That's actually an incredibly odd thought, to buy a book because it is cheap? I buy books, because I either want to escape RL or I am interested in a topic or want to expand my knowledge.
Price only interferes if it is a really expensive book, so I might consider the used version instead.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: formerlydivorcedmom on April 11, 2018, 11:47:36 AM
I'm not really motivated by cheap - I'm not going to buy a ton more books just because they are 5/$1 instead of $7 each.....my weakness is whether they look interesting.  If they look like something I might enjoy, I want to buy them.  If I'm bored, I buy a book.  If I'm sick, I buy a book.  If my kids are driving me crazy, I buy a book.  If I suddenly decide it might be interesting to learn about Tudor England because I saw a display at Half-Priced books, I buy books.

Finding a balance is HARD.

That's actually an incredibly odd thought, to buy a book because it is cheap? I buy books, because I either want to escape RL or I am interested in a topic or want to expand my knowledge.
Price only interferes if it is a really expensive book, so I might consider the used version instead.

I know several people who go to library book sales, etc, and buy dozens of books just because they are 10 or 25 cents each.  They probably have an aspiration to one day read them, but for the most part, they don't.  I think it's odd, too.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: middo on April 11, 2018, 07:18:25 PM
I'm not really motivated by cheap - I'm not going to buy a ton more books just because they are 5/$1 instead of $7 each.....my weakness is whether they look interesting.  If they look like something I might enjoy, I want to buy them.  If I'm bored, I buy a book.  If I'm sick, I buy a book.  If my kids are driving me crazy, I buy a book.  If I suddenly decide it might be interesting to learn about Tudor England because I saw a display at Half-Priced books, I buy books.

Finding a balance is HARD.

That's actually an incredibly odd thought, to buy a book because it is cheap? I buy books, because I either want to escape RL or I am interested in a topic or want to expand my knowledge.
Price only interferes if it is a really expensive book, so I might consider the used version instead.

I know several people who go to library book sales, etc, and buy dozens of books just because they are 10 or 25 cents each.  They probably have an aspiration to one day read them, but for the most part, they don't.  I think it's odd, too.

My wife.  She is slowly curing herself of "saving" books that libraries are throwing out.  I have recently told her I am no loger building book cases, so every book that enters the house requires at least one to go out at the same time.  She can understand the logic, but still struggles with the "loss of knowledge".
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: middo on April 11, 2018, 07:24:16 PM
On my own gazingus pin, I threw out an old and no longer working drop saw today.  I bought it from work second hand a few years ago, as I was doing some metal work at the time, and it did make the job quicker.  When the tool stopped working last year I thought about replacing it, with a "later" attitude.  But really, I have been able to use my angle grinder for anything I would have used it for, and it was big and heavy.  So out it went today, without a replacement.

We are also moving interstate, and I am having lots of thoughts about appropriate tools to bring with us.  We will eventually be moving back to the farm, so it is a one to two year move.  How much do I need?  What to leave behind?  I am determined to not buy any more tools, so I need to choose wisely.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: Rosy on April 13, 2018, 12:09:56 PM
My jewelry addiction is calling...
Well, hell, I am catching myself having a sneak peek at all the jewelry channels, every one of them - no, no and NO!
Really, how bad would it be if I spent just fifty bucks on jewelry, I could pay it off monthly, interest-free, interest free is good, right??
Not going there - it is Pandora's box:) ...

What I really want right now is a thousand dollars to just blow with no rhyme or reason - oh, I am so not mustachian material!
Creampuff! Creampuff!

OK then, breathe Rosy - by tomorrow you'll feel better and stronger about it all ... oh, and do you know that I don't own a single emerald?

Since rationale is failing me, stronger measures are called for, I need an ice cream intervention along with a nice cappuccino  ... it is too lovely a day to waste on TV anyway.
My garden Gazebo, ice cream and cappuccino to the rescue - pfft, emeralds ...

17 more days to our next gold star .....
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: lifejoy on April 13, 2018, 12:36:26 PM
My jewelry addiction is calling...
Well, hell, I am catching myself having a sneak peek at all the jewelry channels, every one of them - no, no and NO!
Really, how bad would it be if I spent just fifty bucks on jewelry, I could pay it off monthly, interest-free, interest free is good, right??
Not going there - it is Pandora's box:) ...

What I really want right now is a thousand dollars to just blow with no rhyme or reason - oh, I am so not mustachian material!
Creampuff! Creampuff!

OK then, breathe Rosy - by tomorrow you'll feel better and stronger about it all ... oh, and do you know that I don't own a single emerald?

Since rationale is failing me, stronger measures are called for, I need an ice cream intervention along with a nice cappuccino  ... it is too lovely a day to waste on TV anyway.
My garden Gazebo, ice cream and cappuccino to the rescue - pfft, emeralds ...

17 more days to our next gold star .....

Sounds like Pandora’s jewelry box alright!!

Stay strong. Jewelry is sooooo not a need, and you have such good financial goals to meet.

Also I’m pretty sure they’re going to be selling emeralds next year ;)
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: diapasoun on April 13, 2018, 10:04:10 PM
Think of the beautiful jewelry you already have - sitting there, waiting for your attention, hoping to be worn!  That's already a wondrous bounty.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: lifejoy on April 14, 2018, 04:22:40 AM
Think of the beautiful jewelry you already have - sitting there, waiting for your attention, hoping to be worn!  That's already a wondrous bounty.

Yes! And I have heard you can only wear so much at one time (don’t ask me how I know this lol!)

Also think of people on the world that have so little... having buckets of jewellery seems a little... excessive or unnecessary, no?
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: lifejoy on April 15, 2018, 04:50:06 AM
You guys- at the clothing swap I went to, I got two pairs of shoes that could work for the wedding I’m going to! I’m a bridesmaid so this is a must!

My only exception to my challenge this year has been the bridesmaid dress (had to buy!) and I was going to make an exception for the shoes... but now I don’t have to! :D

I am committed to finding or borrowing a coverup/topper for the wedding, and not buying one. Hooray!
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: Rosy on April 16, 2018, 09:12:45 AM
You guys- at the clothing swap I went to, I got two pairs of shoes that could work for the wedding Iím going to! Iím a bridesmaid so this is a must!

My only exception to my challenge this year has been the bridesmaid dress (had to buy!) and I was going to make an exception for the shoes... but now I donít have to! :D

I am committed to finding or borrowing a coverup/topper for the wedding, and not buying one. Hooray!

lifejoy you are so brave for tackling two gazingus pins at once.

Cover ups are notoriously difficult - at least for me. I have a holiday dress that I'd like a nice jacket for - five years later I still haven't found anything suitable. A shawl/wrap would work, but I am short with wide shoulders and wear a size 14 - so unfortunately, I tend to look short and dumpy instead of elegant and feminine with a pretty shawl draped around my shoulders. Ugh!

This year, if the dress still fits I may cave and have a jacket made - if it no longer fits I'm donating it instead.

On the jewelry front - I'm hanging in there, for now anyway.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: Poundwise on April 16, 2018, 04:11:16 PM
Quote
Cover ups are notoriously difficult - at least for me. I have a holiday dress that I'd like a nice jacket for - five years later I still haven't found anything suitable. A shawl/wrap would work, but I am short with wide shoulders and wear a size 14 - so unfortunately, I tend to look short and dumpy instead of elegant and feminine with a pretty shawl draped around my shoulders. Ugh!

How about a long narrow scarf, looped around your neck and then with the ends flowing straight down in front or back to create a vertical line?  Won't cover your shoulders, but would provide a little warmth? Or a long jacket almost the same length as your dress?

I'm happy to say that I have made no craft purchases this month. And yet, I bought more stuff for my son's aquarium and more plants for the garden. I need to work on hobbies using materials I already have on hand! I may need to change my focus to reflect that...  at least until I have used up/decluttered a certain amount of supplies, say the equivalent of a closet.

Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: Rosy on April 17, 2018, 08:23:30 AM
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Cover ups are notoriously difficult - at least for me. I have a holiday dress that I'd like a nice jacket for - five years later I still haven't found anything suitable. A shawl/wrap would work, but I am short with wide shoulders and wear a size 14 - so unfortunately, I tend to look short and dumpy instead of elegant and feminine with a pretty shawl draped around my shoulders. Ugh!

How about a long narrow scarf, looped around your neck and then with the ends flowing straight down in front or back to create a vertical line?  Won't cover your shoulders, but would provide a little warmth? Or a long jacket almost the same length as your dress?

I'm happy to say that I have made no craft purchases this month. And yet, I bought more stuff for my son's aquarium and more plants for the garden. I need to work on hobbies using materials I already have on hand! I may need to change my focus to reflect that...  at least until I have used up/decluttered a certain amount of supplies, say the equivalent of a closet.

Yes, it is all about that vertical line, but I really don't do well with scarves either (I either step on them - don't ask me how:) or I'm constantly messing with them and they never look like they should. I do own several, big and small but I rarely wear them. I should stop buying them altogether, but it is hard to resist a beautiful scarf/shawl - I love the patterns and the materials and the colors ...

I really need a jacket for lightweight warmth - amazing how the parties always seem to be on a cold day and the next day it is back to eighty in sunny Florida. Nothing like a cold wind blowing from the ocean and you stand on an ice cold terrace watching the sunset with your Margarita:)
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: Rosy on April 17, 2018, 08:49:43 AM
Oh and I blew it - @lifejoy -  no gold star for me this month.
It's gem week and I ordered a Tsavorite piece last night. Favorite designer, lovely jewelry, deal of a lifetime...
I mildly regret it, but I am not returning it unless I don't like it once it arrives.

I refuse to beat myself up over it, I knew going into this challenge that it would be an extremely difficult challenge to complete totally unscathed.
It has actually been six months since I ordered anything from this channel.

Sux to admit it, but I failed this month - resuming challenge for May to Dec 2018. Chagrin ...
Title: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: lifejoy on April 17, 2018, 08:55:23 AM
Oh and I blew it - @lifejoy -  no gold star for me this month.
It's gem week and I ordered a Tsavorite piece last night. Favorite designer, lovely jewelry, deal of a lifetime...
I mildly regret it, but I am not returning it unless I don't like it once it arrives.

I refuse to beat myself up over it, I knew going into this challenge that it would be an extremely difficult challenge to complete totally unscathed.
It has actually been six months since I ordered anything from this channel.

Sux to admit it, but I failed this month - resuming challenge for May to Dec 2018. Chagrin ...

See how you feel when it arrives! I assume you are American and returns are easy

&lt;3

If at first we don’t succeed, try, try again!

Edited to add: just curious- did buying it “scratch an itch” or “fill a void”? Or did it make you feel happy?
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: RetiredAt63 on April 17, 2018, 09:28:59 AM
I really need a jacket for lightweight warmth - amazing how the parties always seem to be on a cold day and the next day it is back to eighty in sunny Florida. Nothing like a cold wind blowing from the ocean and you stand on an ice cold terrace watching the sunset with your Margarita:)
 
Are any of the scarves/shawls suitable for turning into a shrug?
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: Rosy on April 17, 2018, 10:14:31 AM
I really need a jacket for lightweight warmth - amazing how the parties always seem to be on a cold day and the next day it is back to eighty in sunny Florida. Nothing like a cold wind blowing from the ocean and you stand on an ice cold terrace watching the sunset with your Margarita:)
 
Are any of the scarves/shawls suitable for turning into a shrug?

I hadn't thought of that - excellent idea!!! Possibly one of them - yay! If not, I can get a fabulous one for under ten bucks from a dealer on base.
THANK YOU - you just solved my problem:)
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: Rosy on April 17, 2018, 11:42:47 AM
Oh and I blew it - @lifejoy -  no gold star for me this month.
It's gem week and I ordered a Tsavorite piece last night. Favorite designer, lovely jewelry, deal of a lifetime...
I mildly regret it, but I am not returning it unless I don't like it once it arrives.

I refuse to beat myself up over it, I knew going into this challenge that it would be an extremely difficult challenge to complete totally unscathed.
It has actually been six months since I ordered anything from this channel.

Sux to admit it, but I failed this month - resuming challenge for May to Dec 2018. Chagrin ...

See how you feel when it arrives! I assume you are American and returns are easy

&lt;3

If at first we donít succeed, try, try again!

Edited to add: just curious- did buying it ďscratch an itchĒ or ďfill a voidĒ? Or did it make you feel happy?

Hmm, good question. The short answer is that I feel deep satisfaction - it felt right.
Upon reflection, I'd say you could call this a planned purchase. It was a deliberate action, rather than an emotional snap decision. It just made sense to me to veer off the no gazingus pin path this one time - I don't really feel tempted to buy any other jewelry.

I feel deep satisfaction because it is a stone I've wanted for years and thought I'd never own. Certainly normally out of my price range.
This one has it all, color and carat at a killer price. Of course, I am excited to see it in person.

I don't have any buyer's remorse, but I will return it immediately if it is not what I wanted.

Now I wonder if psychologically speaking this means I am deceiving myself and I'm making excuses for my undisciplined behavior or that I showed good judgement and flexibility:) in recognizing that veering off the path can be a good thing.

What do you think?, or does this automatically mean any failure is a failure and nothing but a failure and lack of discipline? Shouldn't we always consider our actions instead of blindly following a given path?

I think of this challenge as a way to learn to control impulse buying - you have to keep saying NO and that builds a new habit. I never thought much about what might be an exception to the rule. I didn't officially have a planned purchase either.
Nevertheless, I guess for me this is an exception.
It is actually a planned purchase, it was not an impulsive, oh look shiny, wouldn't that look cute, sort of purchase.
It feels right and I am fine with it.

So what do you say?



Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: lifejoy on April 17, 2018, 12:22:24 PM
I think... if an action makes you (overall) happy and not sad, then it’s not a bad thing!

For me, this challenge started because of mindless spending and I was buying stuff that was NOT making me happy. So I think it all depends on what your original goals were :)
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: diapasoun on April 17, 2018, 12:27:40 PM
I think that whether or not a purchase like the one that @Rosy made is "right" or "safe" or "dangerous" or the like depends on so many individual factors -- in particular, why and how something is a gazingus pin. What need is the gazingus pin satisfying?

For me with books: It's a gazingus pin because I love reading and I love how books make me feel -- but some of those feelings stem from a place of anxiety that I want to work on. Books and reading are both very wrapped up with identity for me in some weirdly complex ways. I'm a reader, and I'm from a rural lower-middle/lower class family, and reading (and by extension books) have long been an escape and a lifeline for me, but also a signal. We Read. We're Educated. We have Books In The House. We value Knowledge more than Looks. Etc etc. I feel uncomfortable with that right now, and so while most of the no gazingus pin challenge has been practical and about not spending money when I have plenty available to read already, it's also been making me examine my relationship to books as physical objects more. I want to take time to keep examining that, without the mental clutter of acquisition.

So, for me right now, purchasing books not only skews that "read" percentage of my collection, but it interferes with a long slow process in thinking about how books relate to a bunch of things in my life. Dis-recommended!


Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: QuillScroll on April 17, 2018, 01:28:12 PM
My gazingus pin(s) are a number of things -
books
jewelry
home decoration items



Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: Well Respected Man on April 18, 2018, 06:21:29 AM
Welp, I ordered two expensive beers while I was out over the weekend, so no star for me. It was definitely an autopilot move, where I asked the waitress for the craft beer list and ordered one without thinking about it. I'll have to focus next time I go there.

I also realized I have a gift certificate for a brew your own beer place, but the amount is not enough to cover the price of brewing a batch plus buying bottles. I have 12 bottles, but would need to buy 12 more, so total cost for two cases of 22 oz. bottles would be about $35. That's well below $1/alcohol unit, so I will probably do it. I could also bring a friend and have him buy the other 12 bottles.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: zeli2033 on April 18, 2018, 07:39:46 AM
So I hit a bump this month. I bought two books, one for professional learning which Iím hoping to get reimbursed for from my work in which case I wonít count it against me this month. But the other one...I bought with the intention of reading and returning after discussing it at a book club (I know, shameful). But the book was amazing and I canít inagine taking it back. Plus I got it for half off since I used a gift card I had left over...

A little stumble in the grand scheme of things but no star this month. Now I just have to Keep it from turning  into a free for all for the rest of April.
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: lifejoy on April 18, 2018, 07:45:01 AM
So I hit a bump this month. I bought two books, one for professional learning which I’m hoping to get reimbursed for from my work in which case I won’t count it against me this month. But the other one...I bought with the intention of reading and returning after discussing it at a book club (I know, shameful). But the book was amazing and I can’t inagine taking it back. Plus I got it for half off since I used a gift card I had left over...

A little stumble in the grand scheme of things but no star this month. Now I just have to Keep it from turning  into a free for all for the rest of April.

Ok now I’m dying to know the book!

Also it seems like this fourth month is really hard for a lot of us! I’m struggling, too!
Title: Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
Post by: zeli2033 on April 18, 2018, 08:08:19 AM
So I hit a bump this month. I bought two books, one for professional learning which Iím hoping to get reimbursed for from my work in which case I wonít count it against me this month. But the other one...I bought with the intention of reading and returning after discussing it at a book club (I know, shameful). But the book was amazing and I canít inagine taking it back. Plus I got it for half off since I used a gift card I had left over...

A little stumble in the grand scheme of things but no star this month. Now I