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Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
« Reply #1050 on: September 19, 2018, 11:21:18 AM »
I was wondering where you were, Rosy! Welcome back. :D

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Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
« Reply #1051 on: September 19, 2018, 07:29:25 PM »
Wow, I just realized that it's been a month since my massive Chinatown tea splurge, and I am happy to report continuing satisfaction with my new choices and almost zero urge to buy more tea.*  My biggest regret at this point is that I am getting so many brewings out of the tea that I have to use boring tea bags (instead of the good stuff) like 2 days out of 3 so I get my caffeine hit!

I think my giant pile o'tea had been bugging me because it was largely "meh" stuff that had piled up + "special" stuff that I didn't drink because I didn't want to run out of.  Now I have cleared out the meh stuff and broken the wall that kept me from enjoying the special stuff, and in some strange way it feels like that emotional power it had over me is gone -- even though I never realized it was there in the first place.  If that makes any sense at all.  It was like I was hemmed in by thinking "I am so wasteful not drinking that meh tea" and "oh, that's good stuff, I can't have that, it's just Tuesday, and there is nothing worthy of it," and I didn't even realize I was thinking all those things until I had to make myself drink the stuff.  And once I realized those thoughts, I was able to call bullshit on them and just enjoy my damn tea.

I also think I am truly enjoying my plenty because I had so many months of semi-deprivation -- not that it was actually a hardship or anything :-), just that I could not have whatever I wanted the second I wanted it, so I re-set my hedonic treadmill a bit.  So my new plan, as of now, is to basically do what I just did by accident:  periodic splurges, followed by periods in which I focus on using up what I splurged on.  I feel like that makes me happier.

*I still get a twinge, which feels almost like a reflex; but as soon as I remember my deliciousness at home, I go, "oh, yeah, right," and walk away without a second thought.  I have bought more tea bags, because I completely ran out, but those were never the gazingus pin.

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Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
« Reply #1052 on: September 19, 2018, 07:31:26 PM »
This month I had a co-worker who sews ask me if I wanted to go to the Good Fabric store on their half-price day and it was so easy to say no, I have enough fabric. And I do!

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« Reply #1053 on: September 20, 2018, 11:54:29 AM »
...... I didn't even realize I was thinking all those things until I had to make myself drink the stuff.  And once I realized those thoughts, I was able to call bullshit on them and just enjoy my damn tea.

..... So my new plan, as of now, is to basically do what I just did by accident:  periodic splurges, followed by periods in which I focus on using up what I splurged on.  I feel like that makes me happier.

The tea saga continues:) ..... and the revelations just keep coming:)
It works just like that with my jewelry buying - periodic splurges, wait - I quit, didn't I?

Saw all the jewelry channels in the TV guide are having some sort of bonanza. I did not click and look, although I was tempted. I'm just telling myself I can do 102 more days until the end of the year 2018.

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Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
« Reply #1054 on: September 21, 2018, 06:18:27 AM »
Wow, I just realized that it's been a month since my massive Chinatown tea splurge, and I am happy to report continuing satisfaction with my new choices and almost zero urge to buy more tea.*  My biggest regret at this point is that I am getting so many brewings out of the tea that I have to use boring tea bags (instead of the good stuff) like 2 days out of 3 so I get my caffeine hit!

I think my giant pile o'tea had been bugging me because it was largely "meh" stuff that had piled up + "special" stuff that I didn't drink because I didn't want to run out of.  Now I have cleared out the meh stuff and broken the wall that kept me from enjoying the special stuff, and in some strange way it feels like that emotional power it had over me is gone -- even though I never realized it was there in the first place.  If that makes any sense at all.  It was like I was hemmed in by thinking "I am so wasteful not drinking that meh tea" and "oh, that's good stuff, I can't have that, it's just Tuesday, and there is nothing worthy of it," and I didn't even realize I was thinking all those things until I had to make myself drink the stuff.  And once I realized those thoughts, I was able to call bullshit on them and just enjoy my damn tea.

I also think I am truly enjoying my plenty because I had so many months of semi-deprivation -- not that it was actually a hardship or anything :-), just that I could not have whatever I wanted the second I wanted it, so I re-set my hedonic treadmill a bit.  So my new plan, as of now, is to basically do what I just did by accident:  periodic splurges, followed by periods in which I focus on using up what I splurged on.  I feel like that makes me happier.

*I still get a twinge, which feels almost like a reflex; but as soon as I remember my deliciousness at home, I go, "oh, yeah, right," and walk away without a second thought.  I have bought more tea bags, because I completely ran out, but those were never the gazingus pin.

Laura33, can you enlighten me on your special teas? I was a late bloomer to coffee and still only drink one strong French roasted coffee in the morning. I was brought up on Lipton tea but not a big tea drinker either. I do when I feel sick or my sinuses are stuffed up and it really helps. I bought some ginger tea, however it has sugar in it and normally I use Splenda so even though it is delicious, I cringe to drink it due to the sugar. Once in a while I indulge. I am always looking for a new low cal beverage that is tasty. I especially love a spicy hot ginger. What are you drinking and what makes it so tasty to you? The spiciness, the sweetness, the aroma? Thanks!

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Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
« Reply #1055 on: September 21, 2018, 09:13:23 AM »
Good job everybody!

I just caught up on some of the recent reflections and it was quite inspiring.

@Rosy & @wenchsenior --there were so many interesting take-aways in your exchange.  And I do think a financial counsellor would be a fascinating career...my bookkeeper and I have talked about how being an accountant can be an intimate position--in a way similar to being a house-cleaner (but, of course with a different power balance).
I guess, instead of  observing someone's mess/way of living/compulsive-ness and cleaning up what they can, the accountant has to face the often difficult realities of someone's financial choices and help them take responsibility as well.

 But at least it's not their problem if someone has landed themselves in a difficult position, just often emotionally challenging since people are distraught..
(She also did reflect that her job is a WHOLE lot easier when people are already working on their relationship with money and being somewhat responsible!)

I haven't signed up for a single art workshop this year and NO BOOks either (okay, there were two e-books at one point but I'm not concerned about those), and my partner published a book so I bought one for my parents :)  These were not part of my gazingus-pin challenge.

Stars for the year!  Wuhoo!

I do think taking a complete break from shopping this year has helped reset my relationship to consumption and spending.

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« Reply #1056 on: September 21, 2018, 01:36:19 PM »
@Roadrunner53:  First, I love a very clean plain black tea -- no sugar, no lemon, no milk.  Tazo Awake is good; sun tea is even better, is rounder and fruitier with less of the bitter undertone.  Don't like bitter.  So that is my standard bag o' tea.

The teas that I tend to be attracted to are Chinese, and they are usually green- or white-tea based.  I like particular aromas/flavors that are noticeable but light enough they don't overwhelm the tea.  My go-tos are jasmine and peach (both of which can be done with either green or white, and even black) -- but the peach has to be fresh peach, not that heavy/sweet/cinnamony/fall spice kind of peach.  I also enjoy just a pure, high-quality, high-altitude green tea -- the one I got is almost as bright and light colored as early spring leaves, and it avoids the bitter or weedy flavor you get in some of the other greens.  My new favorite, which I had never had before, is a very light oolong tea with ginseng in it -- the ginseng creates a round, almost sweet taste, but also has like almost a slightly numbing/buzzy/coating feel in the mouth (really don't know how to describe it, as you can tell).  Oh, and the guilty pleasure is a coconut red tea (red tea is what the Chinese call what we call black tea) -- it tastes round and full and rich and almost sweet, even with no sugar added.  The guy was totally laughing at me (because I asked to try it right after he had given us samples of that super-high-quality green tea), but I bought it anyway.  :-)

The other key is using the right temperature water, and the right steeping time.  Even the best teas get bitter if you use water that is too hot or steep for too long.  I actually splurged a few years ago and got one of those electric kettles that you can set for all the different temperatures for the specific kind of tea.

Really, the reason the trip was so good was because I got to sit there in the shop for an hour and try all of these various teas, so I knew that I loved all of the ones that I bought.  That's really the only way to figure out your own tastes.  I think I built up my giant stash of old teas because I kept trying things from different stores and not liking them, and then I'd end up with all of the leftovers.  So this cost me a lot more all at once, but it probably saved money over the long term.  Or at least that's my story, and I'm sticking to it. ;-)

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Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
« Reply #1057 on: September 22, 2018, 05:00:06 AM »
Laura33, great explanation of the different teas! It seems a whole world I have never been introduced to. I have never been to a tea shop to experiment. I will have to try to find one. You know your teas! Thanks!

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Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
« Reply #1058 on: October 01, 2018, 11:46:17 AM »
Claiming my virtual star for no books purchased in September - woohoo! 75% of the way there!

How’d everyone else do?

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« Reply #1059 on: October 01, 2018, 11:57:22 AM »
Also claiming my star for no books bought.

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Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
« Reply #1060 on: October 02, 2018, 09:11:36 AM »
Drove by Staples, was tempted, but did NOT go in and buy new fun pens.  Still holding strong.

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Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
« Reply #1061 on: October 03, 2018, 08:02:02 AM »
Congrats everyone! You are all an inspiration.

Joining for the last 90 days.  My Gazingus pin is good deals: "free" with rebate items at Menards, name brand cloths at 90% off retail, 180 ct Puffs tissues for 91 cents, family size Doritos for $1, last years Christmas wrapping paper for 90% off, running shoes for $20, big box with 50 metal pens for $5, new 12" triply all-clad pan for $40, cat hammock for $5 ...

What was once a virtue has become a vice. After downsizing the house and a very modest attempt at dejunking, we are still left with a 1000 sf of our basement that is basically clutter.  Some of it should be sold or donated, but much of it could be handled by working through our 5+ year supply of various good deals.

E-baying my old prized finds seems too daunting, but not buying more should save time. So for the rest of the year I can only buy:
Perishable food (expiration within 3 months)
Christmas/birthday gifts for nieces, nephews, parents, and cat
Gas
oil filter
tools for projects to be completed within 30 days (after trying to borrow them)

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Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
« Reply #1062 on: October 03, 2018, 08:11:08 AM »
Went to Target yesterday to pick up an online order of Decaf Chai concentrate and a blanket for our bed.  Browsed the maternity section, but DID NOT buy anything.  Whew.  I might need a pair of leggings in a month or two, but I'll live with stretching out my lularoe leggings for a while longer.

I bought zero clothes in September, so star for me! I did get some free ones from my SIL, who was downsizing to move.  I like her style, but thinking about it now, the volume of her discarded clothes that I've dug through in the last year or so is probably more than half as large as my whole wardrobe.  I wonder if that will change now that she's out of grad school and has a real job, and won't have her mom to go shopping with and buy her clothes.  She's overall a fairly thoughtful person with her money, but I think she doesn't fully realize how much her mom spends on her.

My Gazingus pin is good deals: "free" with rebate items at Menards, name brand cloths at 90% off retail, 180 ct Puffs tissues for 91 cents, family size Doritos for $1, last years Christmas wrapping paper for 90% off, running shoes for $20, big box with 50 metal pens for $5, new 12" triply all-clad pan for $40, cat hammock for $5 ...

What was once a virtue has become a vice.

Good luck!  It's hard to turn down good deals, especially when they're things that you might possibly conceive of using someday :)

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Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
« Reply #1063 on: October 03, 2018, 06:54:34 PM »
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MustacheAnxiety (love that name:) - Wow an entire basement full to sort through, that is daunting.

Bargain hunting is fun but quickly becomes addictive and like you said it will take over your house if you let it. Kudos for recognizing and dealing with it!

There is a fine line between hoarding and stocking up on a good deal for groceries or household items. It took several discussions with Mr. R. to convince him that really, all I wanted was to buy three months worth of supplies - since we have space and it is not going back on sale for another three months, saving us a fair amount of money.
Targeted shopping - some of our favorites only go on sale every 7 to 10 weeks - worth it to wait for BOGO and be ready with a few coupons on top of that.

I'm not a hoarder, but I admit I become anxious when I used up X and don't have a replacement in the pantry. I always have back-up, and I'm good about checking our hurricane supplies. I seriously think that Mr. R. would be fine with having nothing but tomorrow nights dinner in the cupboard. 

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Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
« Reply #1064 on: October 04, 2018, 08:16:16 AM »
I've been resisting socks/tights even though it's Halloween season and getting colder out.

I did buy some pumpkin spice tea at Trader Joe's the other day - in my defense, I was down to 2 teabags total in the house (2 bags, not 2 boxes!) and I'm sick with a cold.

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Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
« Reply #1065 on: October 04, 2018, 09:14:58 AM »
@MustacheAnxiety - my gazingus pin is similar. I have done a good job of getting rid of shopping & toiletry bargains, because once I started tracking a few years ago, it was clear I'd overall increased my spending, and now had a house full of crap I had to move & didn't need anytime soon. I do still struggle with gift cards (bought with an incentive/discount).

My goal for 2018 (and beyond) is to only buy gift cards that I have a reasonably immediate use for. I've done "okay" with this in 2018, but have had a couple of fails.

Welcome & good luck!

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Re: No Gazingus Pins for 2018!
« Reply #1066 on: October 05, 2018, 07:50:40 AM »
Thanks for the welcome and empathy chaskavitch, Rosy, and MaybeBabyMustache.  This year will just be turning off the fire hose of new stuff. Maybe next year I will be brave enough to join or start a decluttering challenge.