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« Reply #3550 on: July 04, 2016, 03:09:30 AM »
I definitely identify with the reluctance to put away clothes.

Over the weekend I was staring down two baskets of ironing, with another load of washing on the line, and our sole, small wardrobe is full.

I believe in decluttering over storage solutions, but I think I'm going to have to rearrange things and come up with a better solution.

My decluttering progress for the evening: 10 seconds spent decluttering the freezer. Not food - I check that regularly. But my freezer door was full of ice-packs. Two medicinal gel ice-packs and five (!) cold bricks for the Esky. I don't remember when I last used any of them. One medicinal ice-pack and three cold bricks came out, and two ziplock bags of pumpkin soup went in.

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« Reply #3551 on: July 04, 2016, 03:21:27 AM »
I definitely identify with the reluctance to put away clothes.

Over the weekend I was staring down two baskets of ironing, with another load of washing on the line, and our sole, small wardrobe is full.

I believe in decluttering over storage solutions, but I think I'm going to have to rearrange things and come up with a better solution.


I agree decluttering > storage solutions. Like you (I think) I'm happy my level of stuff and the choices it affords me, but the place I am keeping it doesn't work for me. As long as you are not creating more storage space to accumulate more, I think reworking it so the space is more in line with your priorities is a good thing. I really don't know how I can go about doing it in my space, but yes, a better solution is necessary.

Pairing down really is leading to living life with 'less resistance'. I owe Marie Kondo a lot!

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« Reply #3552 on: July 04, 2016, 04:32:34 AM »
I definitely identify with the reluctance to put away clothes.

Over the weekend I was staring down two baskets of ironing, with another load of washing on the line, and our sole, small wardrobe is full.

I believe in decluttering over storage solutions, but I think I'm going to have to rearrange things and come up with a better solution.


I agree decluttering > storage solutions. Like you (I think) I'm happy my level of stuff and the choices it affords me, but the place I am keeping it doesn't work for me. As long as you are not creating more storage space to accumulate more, I think reworking it so the space is more in line with your priorities is a good thing. I really don't know how I can go about doing it in my space, but yes, a better solution is necessary.

Pairing down really is leading to living life with 'less resistance'. I owe Marie Kondo a lot!

My husband's clothes are the main cause of the frustration. He travels overseas for work, so he has a whole drawer full of cold weather gear he wears a few times a year. He has a couple of suits for the handful of occasions that require one. He is given branded/promo merchandise through work which isn't even remotely what I would buy for him (most recently an expensive white Gore-Tex jacket).

I've culled my wardrobe, I'm successfully creating a capsule wardrobe, and I still can't enjoy the fruits of my labour because I share the space with things like 25-30 baseball caps.

Apologies for the rant.

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« Reply #3553 on: July 04, 2016, 08:23:11 AM »

My husband's clothes are the main cause of the frustration. He travels overseas for work, so he has a whole drawer full of cold weather gear he wears a few times a year. He has a couple of suits for the handful of occasions that require one. He is given branded/promo merchandise through work which isn't even remotely what I would buy for him (most recently an expensive white Gore-Tex jacket).

I've culled my wardrobe, I'm successfully creating a capsule wardrobe, and I still can't enjoy the fruits of my labour because I share the space with things like 25-30 baseball caps.

Apologies for the rant.
I had the same issue (except mine never got rid of anything, so he had shirts that were clearly way out of style).  I have seen so many couples where the husband uses more of the clothes space than the wife.  Where did this myth come from that women have masses of stuff and men have so little?
Years ago when I decluttered, I put tape on the bars right in the middle, and told him this half is yours, that half is mine - because otherwise his stuff would have moved into all the nice space I had cleared.  Maybe if you claim half, and he has to figure out what to do with his?  Things he uses rarely don't deserve prime storage space.  Those of us in variable climates know all about shifting the warm weather clothes and the cold weather clothes twice a year.  I don't need easy access to my -30C coat and boots right now, when the high is 28C  ;-)  He doesn't need easy access to the cold weather gear and the suits, as long as they are stored someplace that will keep them in good shape. I can't help with the baseball caps, I had to live with 15-20 visors (golfers love them, I hate them because the top of my head is not protected from the sun).
I don't know if that was any help, but know you have my sympathy.  ;-)

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« Reply #3554 on: July 04, 2016, 03:21:24 PM »
Got rid of 2 blouses, 3 pairs of shorts, 14 t-shirts, 6 books, and a couple other odds and ends today.

Oh, and I broke a plate (and threw it away) a few days ago.  Does that count as decluttering?  :)

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« Reply #3555 on: July 04, 2016, 07:30:58 PM »

My husband's clothes are the main cause of the frustration. He travels overseas for work, so he has a whole drawer full of cold weather gear he wears a few times a year. He has a couple of suits for the handful of occasions that require one. He is given branded/promo merchandise through work which isn't even remotely what I would buy for him (most recently an expensive white Gore-Tex jacket).

I've culled my wardrobe, I'm successfully creating a capsule wardrobe, and I still can't enjoy the fruits of my labour because I share the space with things like 25-30 baseball caps.

Apologies for the rant.
I had the same issue (except mine never got rid of anything, so he had shirts that were clearly way out of style).  I have seen so many couples where the husband uses more of the clothes space than the wife.  Where did this myth come from that women have masses of stuff and men have so little?
Years ago when I decluttered, I put tape on the bars right in the middle, and told him this half is yours, that half is mine - because otherwise his stuff would have moved into all the nice space I had cleared.  Maybe if you claim half, and he has to figure out what to do with his?  Things he uses rarely don't deserve prime storage space.  Those of us in variable climates know all about shifting the warm weather clothes and the cold weather clothes twice a year.  I don't need easy access to my -30C coat and boots right now, when the high is 28C  ;-)  He doesn't need easy access to the cold weather gear and the suits, as long as they are stored someplace that will keep them in good shape. I can't help with the baseball caps, I had to live with 15-20 visors (golfers love them, I hate them because the top of my head is not protected from the sun).
I don't know if that was any help, but know you have my sympathy.  ;-)

Thank you, that has given me a few things to think about. :)

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« Reply #3556 on: July 05, 2016, 03:31:46 AM »
I'm another woman whose husband has significantly more clothes.

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« Reply #3557 on: July 05, 2016, 04:03:00 AM »
My husband had ... odd clothing habits.

Shopping has always been his mum's favourite - and really only - hobby. But while she would always hunt out bargains for herself, buying expensive pieces on sale, when it came to buying clothes for her sons she was just cheap.

He had some godawful clothes when we met. And it took me until after we were married to get her to stop buying him cheap and nasty clothes.

They were also weird about socks. She didn't believe in her sons and husband owning their own socks; they all had to share. So the socks lived in plastic tubs in the lounge room. The sock collection was pretty pathetic. Occasionally someone would get new socks for Christmas and the boys would fight over them. (I say boys - this was still happening when my husband and his brother were in their 20s. And my FiL was in his 50s and still trying to snaffle the "good socks" from his sons! >.<)

We got married. I bought him socks. He wore the socks, I washed them, folded them, put them in his drawer. When the socks wore out, we bought new ones. Fairly simple process. It blew his mind that socks could be so simple.

So that's a litmus test for me. I don't need anything in my life that is going to suck up so much emotional energy as three grown men fighting over socks.

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« Reply #3558 on: July 05, 2016, 06:54:15 AM »
I'm another woman whose husband has significantly more clothes.

Me too- way more clothes.  Though I mostly buy them... it's just easier to find good stuff, inexpensively for him.

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« Reply #3559 on: July 05, 2016, 07:22:09 AM »
I'm another woman whose husband has significantly more clothes.

Me too- way more clothes.  Though I mostly buy them... it's just easier to find good stuff, inexpensively for him.

I have had to break myself of this habit.  I find nice stuff, cheap, for him all the time.  But then It is my fault if he has too much clothing, because I KNOW when I buy it that he will never get rid of it.  So I had to really just stop buying him clothing unless it was to replace really ratty work clothes basically.  That I will insist on throwing away.

When we met the man owned green jeans (and not the trendy hipster kind!) and hot pink gym shorts, because his mother had bought them, and so he had them.  He had never worn them, but it never occurred to him to just TOSS THEM. 

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« Reply #3560 on: July 05, 2016, 09:02:08 AM »
I'm another woman whose husband has significantly more clothes.

Me too- way more clothes.  Though I mostly buy them... it's just easier to find good stuff, inexpensively for him.
I wish I was the only person buying my husband's clothes.  He buys things in bulk and holds on to the older items.

This weekend, we went through his closet and got rid of a LOT of stuff.  I'm SO excited.  I need to drop them off at the Salvation Army next weekend.

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« Reply #3561 on: July 05, 2016, 12:35:13 PM »
I'm moving in 38 days and have already begun the decluttering, which is surprising to me since we just moved last year and I decluttered then. And a year before that and ditto. We're actually moving to a larger home with one walk-in closet in the master, so Current and I will be sharing a closet instead of each having our own. The last few posts have been helpful in that we'll each probably take a side, and if one can't fit all their stuff in their half of the closet, out it goes!

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« Reply #3562 on: July 06, 2016, 03:31:08 AM »
I'm another woman whose husband has significantly more clothes.

Same here. :D I bought some space saving coat hangers recently for him and he has twice as many clothes as I do.

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« Reply #3563 on: July 07, 2016, 04:08:13 AM »
Oh my God I had such an epic fail today.

Called up a charity to take away my furniture. They sent a truck around this morning to pick up a lounge, recliner, dining table and chairs, and a mattress.

- Lounge and recliner were "too faded" (bullshit)
- Dining table would not fit through the door... I politely asked them how do you think I got it in the door in the first place?
- They won't take the mattress (fair enough, nobody will want a 15 year old mattress, even if it looks ok)
- Since they didn't take the table, they left the chairs and said "book us again when you disassemble the table"

Bugger

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« Reply #3564 on: July 07, 2016, 04:19:09 AM »
Oh Marty998 that's so annoying! Hope you sort out a new solution if you're unwilling to work with them again.

I got rid of a pair of shoes. I was keeping them because black formal shoes are always useful, right? Except I had a formal event recently to which I wore a black dress, and the shoes looked ridiculous. Since these things only come up about twice a year anyway, and the one time I had the chance to wear them I rejected them, into the donate box they go.

But I also bought a new pair of trousers, so I don't feel virtuous at all today.

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« Reply #3565 on: July 07, 2016, 05:27:54 AM »
Oh my God I had such an epic fail today.

Called up a charity to take away my furniture. They sent a truck around this morning to pick up a lounge, recliner, dining table and chairs, and a mattress.

- Lounge and recliner were "too faded" (bullshit)
- Dining table would not fit through the door... I politely asked them how do you think I got it in the door in the first place?
- They won't take the mattress (fair enough, nobody will want a 15 year old mattress, even if it looks ok)
- Since they didn't take the table, they left the chairs and said "book us again when you disassemble the table"

Bugger

Hang in there.

It is worth buying back that space in your apartment.

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« Reply #3566 on: July 07, 2016, 06:51:51 AM »
Marty998, that is so disheartening. When my Grandma was moving, they didn't even show up! We offloaded most of her things onto Gumtree for free instead.

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« Reply #3567 on: July 07, 2016, 12:55:45 PM »
I have a little card that says "5 things or 5 minutes" and when I see it I go around and do that.  I either get rid of five things - even if they are five pieces of scrap paper! - or I spend five minutes tidying up.

Yesterday I got rid of 2 shirts that definitely no longer spark joy, a bra that is too big and when I wear it has weird pouchy wrinkles because of that, a bracelet that had gotten too stretched out (elastic) but from which someone might still like the beads, and a little pcoket book of Pema Chodron.

Since I moved into my new little living space, I tend to think I only have the things I really need.  But when I find that card and look around, it feels so good to be able to look for five little things.  :)

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« Reply #3568 on: July 07, 2016, 12:59:32 PM »
I have a little card that says "5 things or 5 minutes" and when I see it I go around and do that.  I either get rid of five things - even if they are five pieces of scrap paper! - or I spend five minutes tidying up.

What a wonderful little card! Where did you get this lovely idea?
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« Reply #3569 on: July 07, 2016, 01:27:18 PM »
I imagine that I read it in a feng shui de-cluttering book.  I've read about ten of them in the last few years, and imagine it came from one of them.  :)

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« Reply #3570 on: July 07, 2016, 03:26:28 PM »
Hmm feng shui de-cluttering books sound like a neat genre. I just made myself a "5 Things or 5 Minutes" post-it. At some point I'll have to make a pretty card :)

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« Reply #3571 on: July 07, 2016, 03:35:38 PM »
I was looking at my closet last night and realized that, even after packing only what I thought I'd need when I moved cross country (via airline with checked luggage), the majority of clothing occupying my closet never gets worn.

It might be time for another round of clothing disposal!

It's amazing with clothes.  I did KonMari my closet before moving, and was sure I was down to just the joy stuff.  Then looked yesterday and realized I still had two shirts I was keeping for poor reasons.  Again and again with the letting go! :)

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« Reply #3572 on: July 07, 2016, 03:38:17 PM »
Hmm feng shui de-cluttering books sound like a neat genre. I just made myself a "5 Things or 5 Minutes" post-it. At some point I'll have to make a pretty card :)

Some of them were really well written, and some weren't.  They all came from the library, so that's okay. 

And I was just thinking that putting it on a post it would be a great way for me to see the reminder in places that stuff accumulates.  Inside a closet door, bathroom cupboard, kitchen junk drawer.....

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« Reply #3573 on: July 08, 2016, 08:27:14 AM »
We're moving soon and my boyfriend suggested going through Every item this weekend to see what we can get rid of. As a minimalist I'm extremely excited about this. I hate lugging stuff that never gets used around with every move.

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« Reply #3574 on: July 08, 2016, 10:17:26 AM »
I've been doing really well clearing out but now I'm at my childhood home facing a big struggle. Just found my college, school and undergrad projects and a lot of old notes and cards. This is hard!

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« Reply #3575 on: July 08, 2016, 11:27:32 AM »
My planned hiking trip this weekend got cancelled so I think I will spend the weekend doing another purge of my closet and house in general.  I've been at it for a while but it's amazing how many things I decided to keep over the last year that I now realize I don't need at all...

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« Reply #3576 on: July 08, 2016, 11:56:15 AM »
I've been doing really well clearing out but now I'm at my childhood home facing a big struggle. Just found my college, school and undergrad projects and a lot of old notes and cards. This is hard!

Have you missed ANY of them? If not, clear sign that you don't actually need them anymore.

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« Reply #3577 on: July 08, 2016, 03:10:59 PM »
I've been doing really well clearing out but now I'm at my childhood home facing a big struggle. Just found my college, school and undergrad projects and a lot of old notes and cards. This is hard!

Have you missed ANY of them? If not, clear sign that you don't actually need them anymore.

If there is anything precious there, e.g. if you want to save the handwriting of a grandparent who has passed away, you could photograph or scan them for posterity.

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« Reply #3578 on: July 08, 2016, 08:15:45 PM »
I've been doing really well clearing out but now I'm at my childhood home facing a big struggle. Just found my college, school and undergrad projects and a lot of old notes and cards. This is hard!

Oh, Fig!  I recently moved and had to figure out what to do with my college papers.  I only went to college at the age of 37, and I'm 44 now.  Those papers were SO HARD for me to get rid of.

I had to really sit and think about why.

And for me it was that these papers were proof to me that I was smart.  I got excellent marks, and had wonderful comments written on my projects by the profs.  So I held those and read those comments out loud to myself and patted my own back lots.  And then I took a pic with my phone of any of the comments from the profs that I just couldn't part with. 

Then I held those papers to my heart and tried to just imagine all that goodness going right into my skin.  Deep, deep.  So that I wouldn't need the actual papers to prove it to me, anymore, but would have it inside me, carried around inside.

It was still hard!  And I did keep one essay that was particularly pleasing to me.  :)

What do those papers represent for you?  What is it that makes you want to hold on to them? 
I ask that from a curious and very open space - I think those papers have value for us and it's worth thinking about it!

Is it possible to allow yourself to keep one thing that sums that up for you?  Or even two or three things?


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« Reply #3579 on: July 09, 2016, 01:22:01 AM »
An opportunity has suddenly presented itself and we might be moving, very soon.

We are still deciding, but while we talk and ponder, I went into full decluttering mode today.

Friends have offered to help us move but I'm intensely uncomfortable with people knowing I have possessions. I mean, obviously they know I own things, but I'm known as the decluttering, anti-stuff girl. My skin crawls at the idea of people helping us move and being ... disappointed in me?

Anyway, I started a new tally (whiteboard marker on a mirror) and I'm down 57 things for the day.

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« Reply #3580 on: July 09, 2016, 01:23:50 AM »
Also, while surveying cupboards ahead of possible move, I realised I have 11 guest towels. We have guests frequently, at the moment we're in the middle of a stretch of having visitors three times in four weeks.

But we've never had 11 extra people stay in our two-bedroom apartment. That seems unlikely.

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« Reply #3581 on: July 09, 2016, 02:06:09 AM »
An opportunity has suddenly presented itself and we might be moving, very soon.

We are still deciding, but while we talk and ponder, I went into full decluttering mode today.

Friends have offered to help us move but I'm intensely uncomfortable with people knowing I have possessions. I mean, obviously they know I own things, but I'm known as the decluttering, anti-stuff girl. My skin crawls at the idea of people helping us move and being ... disappointed in me?

Anyway, I started a new tally (whiteboard marker on a mirror) and I'm down 57 things for the day.
I like opportunities presenting themselves, I see it as payback from the universe for all the rest of the crap.

Feeling uncomfortable about other people knowing details about your possessions is entirely natural: people who have been burgled often say that knowing someone has gone through their belongings is worse than the loss of some of those belongings.  I guess that professional movers can tell some good stories about people's belongings, but at least that is one step removed from the personal.

Regardless, I hope that the decluttering you are doing is for you, not for what other people might think of you as that seems a way to possible future regret.

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« Reply #3582 on: July 09, 2016, 02:16:55 AM »
getting rid of things due to social pressure may backfire.  You are you and it is ok to have some things.  You get to decide.  Maybe this is great motivation but be careful you don't go too far when you aren't personally ready for it.

If that makes sense?

An opportunity has suddenly presented itself and we might be moving, very soon.

We are still deciding, but while we talk and ponder, I went into full decluttering mode today.

Friends have offered to help us move but I'm intensely uncomfortable with people knowing I have possessions. I mean, obviously they know I own things, but I'm known as the decluttering, anti-stuff girl. My skin crawls at the idea of people helping us move and being ... disappointed in me?

Anyway, I started a new tally (whiteboard marker on a mirror) and I'm down 57 things for the day.

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« Reply #3583 on: July 09, 2016, 04:02:46 AM »
Friends have offered to help us move but I'm intensely uncomfortable with people knowing I have possessions. I mean, obviously they know I own things, but I'm known as the decluttering, anti-stuff girl. My skin crawls at the idea of people helping us move and being ... disappointed in me?

Anyway, I started a new tally (whiteboard marker on a mirror) and I'm down 57 things for the day.

Having to move ALL your stuff is always the moment you fully realize how much stuff you really own. (The last 2 times I moved it really appalled me)

But don't get demotivated by it, just keep calm. Moving can be a nice opportunity to declutter, but it might be wise to wait a little so you can find out what fits for your new place.

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« Reply #3584 on: July 09, 2016, 07:33:45 AM »
I've been doing really well clearing out but now I'm at my childhood home facing a big struggle. Just found my college, school and undergrad projects and a lot of old notes and cards. This is hard!
Oh yes.  I still have the box of index cards all my references were written on for my thesis.  I graduated in '75.  I think I have gotten rid of most of my old school stuff - being retired from teaching has ended that "But I could use this in class" feeling.  As in, I did use the index cards, just to show the students that the mechanics of research are so much easier now, but that they still have to think!
I used to shred so much, but I just bought (yes, spent money) a little metal fire pit thing, and I think a lot of paper will get burned now. 

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« Reply #3585 on: July 09, 2016, 05:38:26 PM »
We got rid of four grocery bags of clothes this weekend. There are some small kitchen appliances I want to get rid of. I don't feel like dealing with the hassle to sell them, but they are things that should be sold instead of just donated.

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« Reply #3586 on: July 09, 2016, 07:52:38 PM »
Friends have offered to help us move but I'm intensely uncomfortable with people knowing I have possessions. I mean, obviously they know I own things, but I'm known as the decluttering, anti-stuff girl. My skin crawls at the idea of people helping us move and being ... disappointed in me?

Anyway, I started a new tally (whiteboard marker on a mirror) and I'm down 57 things for the day.

Having to move ALL your stuff is always the moment you fully realize how much stuff you really own. (The last 2 times I moved it really appalled me)

But don't get demotivated by it, just keep calm. Moving can be a nice opportunity to declutter, but it might be wise to wait a little so you can find out what fits for your new place.

Thank you. A few people have now commented on me feeling compelled to declutter for the wrong reasons.

I'm not tossing anything I'm not happy to relinquish. But when I consider the volume of what is left by category... I could get rid of one or two books but there is still a whole bookshelf there.

I should probably just trust that my friends who have offered to help move won't judge me.

And moving is definitely a great motivator.

We've been in our current place five years. I've decluttered a lot in that time, but we've also acquired a couple of large pieces of furniture during our time here, which are going to be absolute bastards to move.

We've talked more and I think it's happening. I'm trying to look at the many, many benefits of the new place instead of looking at all the work I've just signed myself up for.

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« Reply #3587 on: July 10, 2016, 11:55:29 AM »
I've been doing really well clearing out but now I'm at my childhood home facing a big struggle. Just found my college, school and undergrad projects and a lot of old notes and cards. This is hard!

Oh, Fig!  I recently moved and had to figure out what to do with my college papers.  I only went to college at the age of 37, and I'm 44 now.  Those papers were SO HARD for me to get rid of.

I had to really sit and think about why.

And for me it was that these papers were proof to me that I was smart.  I got excellent marks, and had wonderful comments written on my projects by the profs.  So I held those and read those comments out loud to myself and patted my own back lots.  And then I took a pic with my phone of any of the comments from the profs that I just couldn't part with. 

Then I held those papers to my heart and tried to just imagine all that goodness going right into my skin.  Deep, deep.  So that I wouldn't need the actual papers to prove it to me, anymore, but would have it inside me, carried around inside.

It was still hard!  And I did keep one essay that was particularly pleasing to me.  :)

What do those papers represent for you?  What is it that makes you want to hold on to them? 
I ask that from a curious and very open space - I think those papers have value for us and it's worth thinking about it!

Is it possible to allow yourself to keep one thing that sums that up for you?  Or even two or three things?

Thanks to everyone for your comments on this. I knew the papers were there but I didn't realise how much there was. When I first looked at them, I had to go away and mull things over.

For the college papers, they were indeed proof that I was smart (and I'm glad you found such a wonderful way to work through yours, annieme). For various reasons, things don't come as easily to me now, so they had value for that reason. I've cleared out the notes but kept the essays, for now. I will probably let those go soon too, maybe after scanning a few. However, they were also evidence of myself as a thinking and especially a creative person. It struck me very strongly that creativity is lacking from my life, which I need to think about some more.

The other papers - cards and letters - are not things I've forgotten and I'll be keeping many, at least for a while. I will be doing a sift though, when I visit again, because at least some can go. I'm trying hard to remember who the Patricia and John were who sent me a good luck card in 1999 :)

Overall though - I've reduced the volume of stuff by almost half, which feels pretty good. Thanks for your suggestions!

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« Reply #3588 on: July 10, 2016, 01:52:11 PM »
...However, they were also evidence of myself as a thinking and especially a creative person. It struck me very strongly that creativity is lacking from my life, which I need to think about some more.
I very much understand this!  And how wonderful that you could see that something you would like more of in your life right now is that creativity!  :)
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Overall though - I've reduced the volume of stuff by almost half, which feels pretty good. Thanks for your suggestions!

That's awesome!  Quite a step!

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« Reply #3589 on: July 11, 2016, 11:01:48 AM »
My planned hiking trip this weekend got cancelled so I think I will spend the weekend doing another purge of my closet and house in general.  I've been at it for a while but it's amazing how many things I decided to keep over the last year that I now realize I don't need at all...

Didn't really do anything other than putting away a couple of items clothing for donation...  I seem to have lost any real motivation for decluttering at this point - I got rid of all the low hanging fruit and now I'm in a holding patter until my daughter graduates next spring because I'm thinking it doesn't make sense to get rid of things that she will want for her own place. 

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« Reply #3590 on: July 11, 2016, 11:07:26 AM »
Finally letting go of a beautiful, soft, cozy blue wool sweater. Le sigh.

I love that sweater but it does NOT fit.
It is too big.  To be clear, just because it doesn't fall off doesn't mean it fits   :)
Ridiculously too big, and when I wear it that bothers me.

It is hard to let go of something beautiful!
That has so many pleasing qualities woven into one garment.

But when I see how it looks on me, I just don't feel good.  It's boxy and floppy.

(Ha! I only *thought* I was ready to let it go.  Apparently over more re-think before committing it to donation box.)

Reasons I love it include:
Colour
Soft wool that isn't itchy
nice neckline

Reasons to let it go:
It doesn't fit
SIL gave it to me, and that rel'shp is over so I'd like to let go of the reminder
It is bulky and doesn't fit under my down jacket or raincoat.
It is bulky and doesn't store well in my sweater drawer

Phew!  Got it!  Time to send it on to someone else who will love it  :)




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Re: Getting rid of stuff / Clearing out clutter!
« Reply #3591 on: July 11, 2016, 01:48:01 PM »
We're moving soon and my boyfriend suggested going through Every item this weekend to see what we can get rid of. As a minimalist I'm extremely excited about this.

SO JEALOUS

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« Reply #3592 on: July 11, 2016, 04:08:19 PM »
We're moving soon and my boyfriend suggested going through Every item this weekend to see what we can get rid of. As a minimalist I'm extremely excited about this.

SO JEALOUS

Seconded!

Also (most likely) moving later this month. I'm decluttering my things and mutual things, but it would be a huge help if he could cull a few books and magazines.

I feel like I'm permanently decluttering at the moment. Just constantly on guard against the number of things coming into the house. My husband travels for work, so there is just an influx of business/first class airline goodies, itineraries, event programs, USB sticks...

Every time he comes home I have to sort through 15 or 20 things and decide, keep or toss or donate.

I've asked him to at least toss in his hotel anything that doesn't need to come home. That will help the process.

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« Reply #3593 on: July 11, 2016, 07:02:22 PM »
Pulled out two giant boxes of DH's figurines that he hasn't touched in years. There's paint and god knows what in there. They take to 1/4 of the floor space in our crafty room, so now they're out of the cupboard, they need to be sorted ASAP. I'm hoping most of the bulk is crap he doesn't want and poor organisation so we can fit it into one shelf of the new shelving ...

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« Reply #3594 on: July 12, 2016, 05:40:52 AM »
Anyone else watch Insight on hoarding and minimalism tonight?

I watched it while adding printed Taste.com.au recipes to my online Taste.com.au account. This will let me toss two small folders.

(I have my favourites hand-written in a recipe book, but most of the Taste.com.au recipes were saved for 'some day'.)

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Re: Getting rid of stuff / Clearing out clutter!
« Reply #3595 on: July 12, 2016, 08:04:34 AM »
I never know what to do about art supplies, I'm in the process of redecorating and decluttering my room and I came across all my art materials that I really love but they overwhelm me. The thing is, I know I will use the supplies but they take up so much space! And through the decluttering process I find old objects that I can turn into new art projects. Any suggestions on what I should do? I really want the serenity of a clear space but my creativity is important too.

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« Reply #3596 on: July 12, 2016, 08:35:19 AM »
Is it too late to join in? DH and I are moving in less than a month! Although we're essentially doubling our square footage (970 to 1899!), I would still like to make the move easier, and use it as an opportunity to clear things out that we don't need anymore!

The funny thing is, I think I need to go through our clothes, but we're going to have a walk in closet... it's going to look comically empty! But that's no reason to keep clothes that are unloved and unworn. I'll just have to get comfortable with white space!

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« Reply #3597 on: July 12, 2016, 08:45:23 AM »
Anyone else watch Insight on hoarding and minimalism tonight?
Nope, but I'll be checking out tomorrow if I can watch it online.

I never know what to do about art supplies, I'm in the process of redecorating and decluttering my room and I came across all my art materials that I really love but they overwhelm me. The thing is, I know I will use the supplies but they take up so much space! And through the decluttering process I find old objects that I can turn into new art projects. Any suggestions on what I should do? I really want the serenity of a clear space but my creativity is important too.
I have done it by working out the categories of things in my craft space:
Tools = actual told and stuff I replace if it runs out, eg paint, brushes, stamps, punches, white card, sewing machine

Projects = all the items specific to a particular project get boxes up together. That way I can see how far I'm through, what i need to finish it etc.

Supplies = this is my "useful one day" pile. It should be as small as possible, because it should be sorted into new projects to be used up as I go.

Hope that helps :) the idea of "modules" also helped me sort my supplies by different kind of crafting activity.

Is it too late to join in? DH and I are moving in less than a month! Although we're essentially doubling our square footage (970 to 1899!), I would still like to make the move easier, and use it as an opportunity to clear things out that we don't need anymore!

The funny thing is, I think I need to go through our clothes, but we're going to have a walk in closet... it's going to look comically empty! But that's no reason to keep clothes that are unloved and unworn. I'll just have to get comfortable with white space!
This is a rolling thread, never too late to join :)

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« Reply #3598 on: July 12, 2016, 10:52:06 AM »
Thanks @anatidaev, I really like this idea of categorising. I agree about the modules too, I just need to find a home for each different project! Thanks again :)

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« Reply #3599 on: July 12, 2016, 10:54:55 AM »
Listed an unused TV stand and microwave on CL. If I do't get bites in 1 week, They'll go to Buy Nothing Project, then goodwill if no interest there.

Slow, but starting. Dreading old papers!